CreateDebate / Renald's Waterfall

The conversational web needs to unify channels

Tue, 09 Dec 2008 07:17:53 -0600

With the popularity of IM still rising and the complications of an flooded email inbox, the need for new applications assisting us in dealing with the overload of information is growing. I think time management is an old paradigm and needs to make place for focus management. To me this means limiting interruptions, sharing multiple instances of presence for different roles. 'Old' single channel software might be upgraded but still deals with to many backward integration issues. New platforms will provide solutions to really integrating our most wanted communication channels.

Spore is a danger for creationism.

Thu, 11 Sep 2008 02:55:58 -0500

When you believe God (or any other entity) is responsible for creating universe, heaven and earth, and you feel that an unsupportive concept like evolution might rumble a fundamental criteria for your belief system, how solid is your own perception and representation of the creationist viewpoint? Maybe the single focussed lense towards one viewpoint left out to many options for enhancing the favored one.

Do you prefer honesty or harmony in a relationship?

Wed, 23 Jul 2008 04:24:43 -0500

Honesty might be your starting point, an agreement between two partners. Harmony is not something you can initially agree upon. It needs to grow, it's a goal. Honesty is one of the criteria that leads to harmony.

Do you prefer honesty or harmony in a relationship?

Wed, 23 Jul 2008 04:20:44 -0500

A harmonious relationship can deal with dishonesty, not being honest will never result in harmony between partners.

Do you prefer honesty or harmony in a relationship?

Wed, 23 Jul 2008 04:16:25 -0500

Indeed, what is the point? I think harmony deals with balance in a relationship, honesty is one of the tools to maintain it. Being honest to one another seems to be some kind of an agreement. Stick to it and harmony, the long term results from your efforts, might grow.

Do you prefer honesty or harmony in a relationship?

Tue, 22 Jul 2008 09:02:33 -0500

Telling the truth can also be just a way of getting rid of your own negative feelings and planting a seed of distrust in your partner. The truth is determined by your perspective, which in most cases is a positive intention for yourself.

That's unfair like saying: "Now don't get angry, I have something to tell you...". You might hope the response is in line with your expectations and intentions, but you can not go ahead and mind read on how the actual emotional response is upfront.

"I did not intent to kiss him, it just happened...but it didn't mean anything!!" To you it might not, but it's not up to you to decide how the other responds. Being honest can crumble down a relationship, while your intention might actually be to love your partner until death (and maybe beyond) and share a harmonious life.

Even though honesty might be a noble principle, harmony seems to be a goal or to me a preferred status.

Do you prefer honesty or harmony in a relationship?

Tue, 22 Jul 2008 08:48:42 -0500

So harmony is the end goal, the higher good, right?

Do you prefer honesty or harmony in a relationship?

Tue, 22 Jul 2008 08:47:17 -0500

As I see it you mean that harmony is a goal and honesty a resource.

Do you prefer honesty or harmony in a relationship?

Mon, 21 Jul 2008 14:29:51 -0500

I think its overrated too. It takes more effort to creating and maintaining harmony. Being honest sometimes seems just an easy way out.

Do you prefer honesty or harmony in a relationship?

Mon, 21 Jul 2008 14:27:06 -0500

I think a positive relationship has a certain amount of harmony. Honesty to me is just one of the criteria to develop harmony in a relationship. Honesty to me is something more relevant to specific context. Honesty to me is not the same as lying. Harmony and ill relationship do not mix together, there is already a dis-balance which might be caused by dishonesty. Creating and maintaining harmony might result in a longterm positive relationship, I don't think being honest is the only way to get there.

Do you prefer honesty or harmony in a relationship?

Mon, 21 Jul 2008 14:09:43 -0500

I do agree to some extend that lying might be something like reflecting a false reality (though reality being arbitrary and most of the time a matter of opinion or perspective). I don't agree with your point of withholding information as being dishonest, same as downgrading to me is simply choosing other words to describe something or the situation at hand.

Do you prefer honesty or harmony in a relationship?

Mon, 21 Jul 2008 14:02:48 -0500

Honesty does not equal trust. Some people have a tendency to trust everybody, for example people who trust sales employees based on maybe arbitrair criteria.

Some people start to trust after repetition (amount of exposure to information, experience). Some people start to trust over a period of time, after the idea has solified in their mind. Some people will never trust.

In all the cases they might be confronted with information which might be dishonest from start to finish. I think this is a good trade off from politics.

Is there Really Right and Wrong?

Mon, 21 Jul 2008 13:06:57 -0500

Now there seems to be a difference between good and bad love, right? Or do you suspect there's actually only one kind of love. There's even might be too much good love which might be considered to become bad. It all tends to be to volatile to me to state there is really right or wrong, because it all has a tendency to be determined by a specific point of view. I don't support the idea that right or wrong exist as is. There just might be a specific bandwith on the continuum that most of us recognize as right or wrong, but that's never a fixed point.

Do you prefer honesty or harmony in a relationship?

Mon, 21 Jul 2008 12:55:40 -0500

Do you consider not telling on the same level as lying?

I think being honest is something different then lying. Keeping information to yourself is not lying, downgrading true feelings is not lying.

Do you prefer honesty or harmony in a relationship?

Mon, 21 Jul 2008 05:34:44 -0500

I prefer harmony because it keeps me in a good relationship. Honesty could mean talking about things that might hurt my partner. If I know I don't want that to happen I can say my intentions towards the relationship are positive. If I want to be honest, even though I know it will hurt my partners feelings, I have to second guess my intentions. It simply might be a way of getting out.

Should Homosexuality be diagnosed as a Mental Disease

Mon, 21 Jul 2008 05:06:43 -0500

Thanks for just stating your unknown91 opinion, I think.

Is there Really Right and Wrong?

Mon, 21 Jul 2008 05:01:54 -0500

" ..more absolute right or wrong.." seems to exist on some form of continuum. Observing from an external source only leads to addressing suspected positive or negative emotions from a certain behavior. Observing from an internal source is already a secondhand representation. So there might be tendencies moving towards a side of the continuum, it cannot be determined a as fixed right or wrong. Therefor a real right or wrong does not exist.

Is there Really Right and Wrong?

Sun, 20 Jul 2008 14:46:00 -0500

Objectively there might be more questions than answers about the universe. Therefor it is arbitrair to state that the universe is really just matter and energy. Although we suspect there is no right or wrong in a objective point of view, we cannot prove it until we have answered all possible questions about the universe.

We as humans are influenced constantly by a proces called socialization. The subjective reality is not soully based on the meaning we create ourselves. Chunks of it are synthetic. Right and wrong from a subjective point of view may shift and even become their counterparts as time and ongoing socialization occurs.

Should Homosexuality be diagnosed as a Mental Disease

Sun, 20 Jul 2008 08:11:11 -0500

No, because it's an easy label without any scientific solid base. This label only supports a point of view, not a generic opinion or single truth and therefore can't be used in a correct way.