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Yes, that's fine No, that's to big a gap
Debate Score:84
Arguments:49
Total Votes:117
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 Yes, that's fine (32)
 
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Are people the ages 15 and 19 okay to date?

I met my boyfriend when I was 14 and he was 18, we fell for each other. Started dating when I was 15 and he had just turned 19. Now I'm 17 and he is  21 and we're still dating.

 

We still have people complaing to us that it is wrong and that we shouldn't be dating. So I'm leaving it up to you to decide. XD

Yes, that's fine

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No, that's to big a gap

Side Score: 24
2 points

So long as you're happy, fuck everyone else. People like to piss on your bonfire, they like to put you down for doing the things that make you happy, because they haven't the balls to be themselves. Some 15 year old girls are more mature than some thirty year old hags that I know. Every case is different and the level of maturity should play a big part.

Side: Yes, that's fine
2 points

I think that if the 19 year old is a good person and you don't skip going to school then it shouldn't be a problem

Side: Yes, that's fine
2 points

Ya I think so that if they really like each other then they should.

Side: Yes, that's fine
2 points

im in a situation similar to this im 18 and hes 21; and you know what love knows no bounds no one will care in a few years when youre both in your 20's.

Side: Yes, that's fine
2 points

Another point I'd like to make, if it were a problem why put the age difference in the same school?

If you don't want us dating don't let us interact.

Side: Yes, that's fine
2 points

Of coarse its Fine. You can date who you want regardless of age. If your happy with that person, Fuck what everyone else thinks or says

Side: Yes, that's fine
2 points

As you grow older the difference between your age and those who are acceptable to date expands.

When I was 19 I preferred to not hit on anyone younger then 17, although if they were mature 16 was fine by me.

There are vast differences between 15 and 19 which should be considered and Usually, this is pushing the limits.

However, although it is pushing the limits; I wouldn't say it is beyond them.

if you would of been 14 and him 19 I would say there would of very likely been a issue, although the severity of that issue would disappear as you guys grew older

The power structure which can result between a older teen and a younger teen, especially if their relationship is romantic, is something to watch out for. Most men will tell you a younger women is easier to get then a older one, and its not just because of the fruits age bestows upon people which makes them more attractive to youth but because younger women are easier to play or manipulate, perhaps because they have yet to become jaded or perhaps because their expectations are lower or because their ways of coping is less developed and so its more social etc, whatever the reason there is an imbalance of power which can easily turn destructive, especially when there are certain passions involved.

Side: Yes, that's fine
2 points

Why not? Love is love, and if you think you're fine with it, everyone else should be fine with it too.

Side: Yes, that's fine
2 points

I think a 15 and a 19 year old should be able to date because they are in the same age range and tecnically they are both teens since the legal age of becoming an adult in New York is 21 years old. Whats the use of stopping them when they are still going to do it anyway and in most cases, girls date older guys around that age group.

Side: Yes, that's fine
2 points

Why not relationships should last a life time,and humans dated at an early age biblical times,so why not now.

Side: Yes, that's fine
2 points

ive always been told age is but a number:) so i see it being perfectly fantastical :)

Side: Yes, that's fine

I'm twenty nine, my wife is twenty five, I met her when I was 20, some people thought that that was too young, but she was mature for her age, now we're happily married with two great kids. While I try not to agree with trolls Dan is fairly spot on.

Side: Yes, that's fine
1 point

15 is a great age to start dating in my opinion, because they are getting mature and can handle a lot of things, but they just have to be careful with who they date and what they do.. You never know what they can get up to. That's my say.

Side: Yes, that's fine
1 point

as long as you don't get down and dirty it's fine. I mean when you 20 and he's 24 nobody would care. Honestly if you are a reponsable person and you know what you are doing, then why not.

Side: Yes, that's fine
1 point

Yes, as long as they don't like have sex or anything. I think its ok for their age to date. But they both have to be responcible.! Dur.?? Its like common sense. Haah.! :D

Side: Yes, that's fine
1 point

how else are we supost to learn adn have exsperiance with dating?

Side: Yes, that's fine
0 points

True love does not have an age. Don't consider me a pedophile because i am not but a six or ten year gap does not mean a thing when it comes to true love. For example, a twelve year old and a twenty year old. You might say it is wrong because sex blows off in your mind. But what if true love is involved. Then questions arise to if the girl at that age can really love and if the older man at that age is only interested in sex. When i mean true love, i don't mean sex. Sex is not love and there is no such thing as sexual love in my perspective. If i have a child, i will be cautious of who he/she dates and at what age. But if true love is involved, why fight it? But it is hard to know if the other person is not interested in sex. I believe in all possibilities and i do believe a 12 year old and a 20 year old can have a full love relationship. Does that mean i won't be cautious with my own child? No. If pure fun and love is involved and not sex, im all for it.

Side: Yes, that's fine
4 points

I'm on the fence about that because I have a daughter and don't know if I am okay with her dating at 15 never mind with a 19 year old. I understand that there are great relationships that have started at that age but I'm not convinced that is for everyone.

I guess if I trust my child I would see how it works

Side: No, that's to big a gap
1 point

Hell no! At that age that is not right........................................

Side: No, that's to big a gap
Saurbaby(5579) Disputed
1 point

What's not right?

Because at that point there was no sexual aspect of the relationship. So what's the difference between a 14 year old or 18 year old?

Side: Yes, that's fine
Hellno(17761) Disputed
0 points

Legal and not legal!!! That is the difference and it's a big one!

Side: No, that's to big a gap
1 point

Nope. Paedophilia is wrong.

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Side: No, that's to big a gap
Saurbaby(5579) Disputed
1 point

It was legal the entire time.

Pedophillia is a 36 year old guy hitting on me, it's happened, not someone I went to school with.

Side: Yes, that's fine
cuntyguy2(203) Disputed
1 point

The definition of paedophilia varies from country to country but I'm pretty sure 15 and 19 counts as paedophilia in most countries on earth.

Side: No, that's to big a gap
TheTruth91(69) Disputed
1 point

Pedophila is not wrong because pedophilia is the attraction towards children. It is not the actions against them. However, someone did tell me a book where pedophila meant also meant action. The google dictionary states that pedophilia is just attraction. So i am not sure. But i am going to continue this comment with the belief that pedophilia is the attraction towards children. How is it wrong to be attracted to someone. I think it is should be only a concern, but not anything severe like actually harming a children. child molestation and pedophilia is different things.

Side: Yes, that's fine
0 points

WOW. People on this website actually advocate paedophilia.

You dirty disgusting sodomites.

Side: No, that's to big a gap
Skaruts(195) Disputed
1 point

That's maybe because lots of people, unlike you, have a more accurate understanding on what pedophilia is, and greater understanding of reality. 15 years old is age enough to know what you're doing, and its not a child anymore.

Go check what paedophilia is. Hint: it involves PRE-PUBESCENT CHILDREN. Something a 15 year old is certainly not, at all.

Side: Yes, that's fine

at the age of 14/15 thats terrible and peodophiliac. its not right. however at an older age asyou are now i think its ok

Side: No, that's to big a gap
1 point

I would have to say that it is not okay. At 14 you are not mature enough to be in an adult relationship. Especially not with someone that is the age of a legal adult. Also why would it be okay to date when the guy could get charged with statutory rape? I also do not think that a 14 year old girl and a 19 year old guy would have anything in common besides the obvious. What would be the reason for a 19 year old boy to want to be with someone so young? It seems to me like something is way off here and not right. And by the way if its "true love" or anything of the matter then the boy can wait until she is of legal age, if he wont then it wasn't all it was cracked up to be was it?

Side: No, that's to big a gap
Saurbaby(5579) Disputed
1 point

We, as it turns out, have a lot in common besides "the obvious".

Sex isn't everything that people think about and it's a little degrading of you to think that that was all that could come out of it.

Side: Yes, that's fine
0 points

Are people the ages 15 and 19 okay to date?

Your friend is/was a pedophile...

Side: No, that's to big a gap
ricedaragh(2500) Disputed
2 points

Pedophiles are interested in pre-pubescent children, a lot of girls at 15 are far from that.

Side: Yes, that's fine
christjesus(318) Disputed
0 points

Pedophiles are interested in pre-pubescent children, a lot of girls at 15 are far from that.

Maybe, but she was 15, therefore, the relationship was inappropriate.

Side: No, that's to big a gap