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Yes! Not Really
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Are your parents hypocrites?

Are your parents hypocrites? And I mean more than just a simple "you can't drink alcohol" and then they go and drink basis. I mean on an extremely sensitive or emotional basis.


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Yes yes yes a million times yes!

Here are a few examples:

Exhibit A: My dad has his ear pierced, but I couldn't get one, and when I went out and got one anyways he got super pissed!

Exhibit B: My parents tell me to never hang around drunks, drug addicts, or anyone else who is a bad influence and yet they force be to be around my sister who is a drug addict, drunk, and does many other things that they would consider "inappropriate" if any of my friends did!

Exhibit C: I get my ass whooped if I bring home a "C" and yet my dad failed out of UCSD and took 6 years to get a 4 year degree at SDSU!

My parents piss me off so much because they are such hypocrites! And their excuse? "I don't want you to make the same mistakes I did." Well that's just fine and dandy, but that doesn't apply to 2/3 of the things they do that makes them hypocrites!

353 days ago | Tagged As: Yes!
- iamdavidh(1984) Supported
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A. Should have gotten your nose and lip pierced, that woulda really shown 'em.

B. I actually agree with that one, and they can't exactly not let you hang out with your sis so that's that.

C. You're way too smart to get a C in anything. Not sure that merits an ass whoopin, but there ya go.

Parents are always hypocrites, it's part of the job.

353 days ago | Tagged As: Yes!
- altarion(1848) Supported
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B. My sister is 22 years old, has 2 kids, is married to a dumbass who won't get a decent job, and is on wellfare. All different things that I disagree with but my parents seem to have no problem with. But if my friends do anything that isn't prep-like my parents don't approve.

C. I'm smart but lazy as hell. :P And thanks. XD

353 days ago | Tagged As: Yes!
- Kuklapolitan(4250) Supported
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Oh, my little love...I've been thinking about this all last night and feel remiss in the answer I gave you on the other side, although it is true. All of us have been through this and I mean ALL OF US to some degree. Let me explain those things you find so unfair if I can.

1. There is nothing whatsoever wrong with having your ear pierced, however, your dad is much older than you and is already established in his job or career. His boss or bosses probably do not take offense at that earring but in some places you cannot even get a decent job if you wear one! He's looking out for your best interests on this and is smart enough to know you may regret this later on...not that this is anything like body piercing per se. That's a whole different story. You defied him by doing it anyway thereby insulting him and showing him his words mean nothing because you don't understand why!

2. Your poor sister has gotten herself into a very bad situation and cannot seem to find her way out of it. But she's 22 and now, of age. Your parents can suggest things to her but no longer have that control. They look at her and look at you...what do you think THEY think? NO WAY IS MY SON GOING TO END UP THIS WAY! Yes, they've made mistakes and it's almost always with the first born or last! Hence the I don't want you to make the same mistakes I did. It's not a cop out, it's very real to them. You are a very special boy when it comes to brain power and knowing that, they want you to have the very best. I don't blame them.

3. You probably get your ass whooped because they know you, of all people, can do better...and you should at this time in your schooling. Your Dad knows all to well about failure. He does not want that for you and you don't want that for yourself. This isn't about...well you did it too! They are your parents and are trying to guide YOU and not themselves. If that makes them hypocrites then so be it. Don't you dare follow in their footsteps but one day, when you're older, you'll understand the difference between hypocrisy and guidance.

353 days ago | Tagged As: Not Really
- kamranw(212) Disputed
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A: Parents want their children to learn from their mistakes, not make them again. Also, parents often worry when they see their kids following the same path. Maybe the earring was just that sign.

B: Unfortunately, when it comes to family, all bets are off. They cannot tell you not to hang out with your sister! C'mon!

C: So what your saying is, because he failed in school, you should be allowed to fail as well? He wants you to succeed on the first try unlike himself!

Conclusion, your parents are not hypocrites, they just want you to end up further ahead then them.

107 days ago | Tagged As: Not Really
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Yes, my parents are hypocritical.

My father tells me that I should be honest, but he's very proud of the fact that he lies and gets away with it. He loves to tell the story of how he got his job by lying about graduating from high school. He says that people should try and get along and be nice to each other, but he scares and yells at people. He corrects people on how to do things, but he will not accept criticism.

My mother tells me that I should believe in myself, but she doesn't believe in herself. She tells me that I shouldn't date anyone older than I am, yet she is engaged to a dying man significantly older than herself (and most likely for those reasons). She says that she would do anything for me, but in reality she is unreliable and almost completely absent.

It's extremely depressing to discover hypocrisy, especially in the people who are supposed to be your care-givers, role models and teachers. Sadly most parents are hypocritical.

341 days ago | Tagged As: Yes!
- lawnman(853) Supported
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I prefer to err on the side of compassion toward my parents. "Hypocrisy" is a term that I refuse to impute of my parents. "Inconsistent" is the term I may choose to describe the words and deeds of my parents. And perhaps my ability of discernment and judgment of the words and deeds of my parents are the consequences of my parents attempt to teach me of how to be unlike and better than themselves.

341 days ago | Tagged As: Yes!
- Integrity(31) Disputed
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I think that being honest is being compassionate. Whether or not your ability to evaluate words and actions stems from the parenting you've received, that does not make the label "hypocritical" any more or less true of your parents. We can all understand that walking what you talk is difficult, and we are all susceptible to being hypocritical ourselves, but the only way to rectify it is to recognize it first.

341 days ago | Tagged As: Yes!
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of course ! they swear like i'll get raped if i step foot out of my house, yet when my older sister goes out they don't say SHIT.

352 days ago | Tagged As: Yes!
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Without a doubt. Especially and I mean ESPECIALLY on the subject of doing work around the house. My mother will complain about the house being a mess ( she is now unemployed and for a good reason not for discussion ) and when I arrive at the house ( after school or tennis or before I go into work ) and I have to clean the house up while she sits around and messes the house up. She will ruin a nice and neat counter that I just finished cleaning, track in the house on the freshly clean floors, and what I HATE the most is when she lets the dog outside right after her dumb bath before she is even dry!

My father loves his computer and during the weekend you better believe that he is on that computer doing who the hell knows what. He works 3rd shift every week day and he takes the weekends off NO PROBLEM there it is when it is the weekend ( before or after I go to work ) and he will have been on the computer for a couple hours and when I am on it for about 1 hour and a half he gets antsy and tells me to find something else to do!

352 days ago | Tagged As: sometimes but I get it
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My dad was a very big hypocrite he always used to say to me that porn is very bad and we should not look at it ever no matter what age we are but i caught him on a number of occasions watching it. But my mum is very good when she says something like don't look at porn she would never do it herself she is very good like that.

315 days ago | Tagged As: Yes!
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My mother is slowly becoming more and more of a "Christian" by the month, and quite frankly she's become the last person I would want to grow up to be. Although what I will say first does not concern her with being hypocritical, it will show how it leads up to my life with her now. During middle school, I had told her I was having a hard time...and she yelled at me saying "DO YOU KNOW KIDS IN AFRICA ARE SUFFERING RIGHT NOW? CHEER UP NOW!" Of course, this only life more miserable for me (I knew this already, as she told me many times before, and I was grateful for everything I was given), and she pretty much ignored my pleas and left me to fend for myself in depression, causing me to begin my rise to independence. She forced me through a middle-school christian church,saying it would "be good for me" to go. Now, it wasn't horrible, but most of the kids were not too nice, and I felt left out. I begged her to stop after a group of them made fun of me, and she finally agreed, but of course not without complaining like a bitch and trying to get me to stay in. But no, I wouldn't have it anymore, I stood my ground and she finally listened to me. Now, I was out of it, and could actually have better focus on my homework than having to go to church during the weekdays. Now this is where she turns hypocritical...by the time highschool starts she gives me the "christian" sex talk (no sex before marriage, etc, etc, blah blah) she at first tells me "Oh don't worry if you think girls are hot, its normal" (and i have since late middle school, but I'm not a bad kid, I never disrespect women, and I always try to act polite around them, yes, even my...mom) but later on in the year, she starts freaking out for some reason (I haven't even had a girlfriend yet) and is trying to tell me now that "You can't look at anything sexy! It will corrupt you and ruin your life! No porn! No sexual video games (but for some reason super-violent video games are okay? wow...what a world we live in)! WHY DO YOU HAVE A GIRL'S NUMBER???!?" She would say (the girl was for help during algebra class). Well, of course this all pissed me off because for 1: She would watched movies and shows with sex scenes and sex jokes when my LITTLE BROTHER WAS WATCHING, AT THE FAMILY DINING TABLE (he's a preteen). And she continues her rampage, trying to look "christian" infront of me while seemingly going off on her own when I'm not looking, or at least when she thinks I'm not (My brother also told me he was watching Superbad with Mom while I was in the other room, even if it was only for about thirty minuets, it still proves her hypocrisy). Heck, she wont even let me buy some t-shirts from stores now just because they look so-called "Demonic" (Hot topic...or any other store that isn't f--king quicksilver.) There's more things she's done, but I've already stated enough for now. So I've taken my life into my own hands, ignored her regulations. However I obey my father's, for he is a much more respectable man who actually treats me like I'm a 16 year old who can make my own damn decisions. She says I can't watch something? I immediately go look for a way to watch it somewhere else, just to get back at her for ignoring me when I needed her the most. Am I bad? Do I do drugs? Have sex with random people? Worship satan? Try to punch or kill people? The answer to all of those is no, I never have, and never will. I am a perfectly sane young man (but of course that doesn't mean I don't enjoy sexy things, or thrilling action), while my mother is slowly warped into a world of her own, I can only watch as she becomes worse and worse, lost in delusional thoughts the propagandic christian media is filling her with. Yes. Parents can be hypocrites at times.

227 days ago | Tagged As: Yes!
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Right. as a kid, my parents bought me up in a free spirited home. lots of dancing, love, expression. but at the same time, my dad was abusive towards my mum and would always blame her. as i got older, he started being abusive towards me too, physically and more so mentally. then my parents converted to christianity. by day my dad was sweet, but night he was a drunken, abusive mess. so many times he kicked me out yet when the police came after him he would say that i ran away, and i really think he believes that. he complains that my mum doesn't love him or appreciate his work, but not for one second does he stop to think about how he has treated her and perhaps she is scared to show any emotion because you see, if you try and even lightly talk with him, he will shoot you down, try to prove that you are wrong - even if you agree with what he said! okay, my main uncomfortable situation is that i don't mind that he is a "christian" and he preaches about being "faith based" and NOT religious.. and that totally makes sense to me. but, he also tells me to be open minded and not to judge. and i asked him "but can you really be? " because he can't consider homosexuality, abortions, etc ergo; you can't be open minded. he only wants me to be open minded to the existence of God, nothing else. and i do believe in god, but not in the sense of christianity.. but rather as something that we are all part of. and he knows this, but calls me a witch and threatens to disown me. i don't know what to do.

107 days ago | Tagged As: Yes!
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Main hypocrisy out of their mouth: "You can do whatever you want with the money you earn. As long as you toiled for it and put in the effort, I can't tell you how to spend it."

I then proceed to make a small investment into something that they do not agree with (for the sake of argument, let's assume I bought a video game for my brother). I am then met with "as long as you live under my roof and under my rules you do what I tell to do with your money! He should be focusing on his studies and not games!" etc.

Hypocrisy? Yes, considering that they advocate one thing and then throw it out the window when it no longer is convenient for them.

103 days ago | Tagged As: Yes!
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My dad is such a hypocrite.

1) When I ask him if I can go on the computer, he says sure. Then, behind my back, he tells mom "Dammit, stop letting him on the computer!"

2) He tells me to spend less money when I spend $10 a week while he spends like $200 on lotto.

3) He consistently tells me to never smoke when I grow up and he secretly smokes all day. LOL.

4) He says to watch TV less while he watches TV whenever it's possible, and I don't even watch a lot of TV. 1-2 occasional shows, that's it.

5) He tells mom to not cheat on him (my mom doesn't) while he goes and cheats on mom for so many years.

6) He tells people that being 2-faced is horrible and he's a pure 2-face.

7) He tells people not to be a dick when he is one.

I love my mom - she only does what's best for us. My dad is such a pussy.

39 days ago | Tagged As: Yes!
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my parents are big time hypocrites

when i don't pick up their calls cause i set it on vibrate or silent they get all pissed and when i get home they yell at me like shit and when i call them they don't pick up i get pissed at them and they yell at me for being pissed at them then i tell them that they are hypocrites cause when they call i don't pick they get pissed so when they don't pick up I'll also get pissed and their reply was so...

12 days ago | Tagged As: Yes!
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I make decisions based on what I know is best for me and people around me. I learned that from my parents. They taught me things instead of just telling me what I can't do. So are my parents hypocrites?, no.

Parents who only limit what kids can do without teaching them anything are hypocrites because they are not perfect and did stuff when they were young. But I'm sure most of them have good intentions. Or maybe they don't everyone is different.

353 days ago | Tagged As: Not Really

Lord NO! If there ever was a couple that weren't hypocrites in any way, it was my parents. I'm just like my mom insofar that I tell it the way I see it but she had a softer touch than I do. My dad wasn't around from the age of 15 on, since they finally divorced and that was a very good thing for all of us.

I do know parents that are hypocrites and go by the do as I say, not as I do method and I think it's awful. Mom taught us by example and that is truly the best way. We had our problems as a family but that, fortunately, was not one of them.

It's really difficult when you're growing up to watch your parents do things that you are not allowed to do...but they must parent you and there are many things a kid shouldn't be doing that are OK for a parent to do. If you think about it objectively you would surely agree but it does depend on the method they use and that, someday, you will use to rear your own children. And if you can acquire the wherewithal to take the best and leave the rest, your kids might even be well adjusted!

353 days ago | Tagged As: Not Really
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No, my dad is openly Socialist (what i call him at least) and my mom admits she cares more about which politician will do more for her than the entire country.

Although, my dad voted McCain... mainly because of foreign policy.

my mom voted Obama.

Now, drug use may be different. My mom agrees with me more that pot should be legalized, and she didn't really do that much in her time.

My dad, on the other hand doesn't like to admit that he did, but my mom told me quite a lot about drug use back in the day. and he's against legalizing pot. so he may be a hypocrite there. I never touched the stuff and probably never will (cause i sing) and i still want it to be legalized. but like i said, he's a commie and doesn't believe in individualism.

353 days ago | Tagged As: Not Really
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In times they could be. Implementing all those stupid rules that they also tend to break themselves. As my parents goes, they come to trust me enough for most of the decisions I make. They let me hang out with my buddies and do all those crazy things people my age did. As long as I am not exceeding the limit and hit my boundary. It's also good that you have a constant communication with your mom and dad so they they have an idea about the stupid things going on with you life. Whenever we get a chance to be complete during dinner, we always make it a point where we catch up with what's the latest with every member, whether its a plain new pierced ear and latest project in school.

353 days ago | Tagged As: Not Really
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