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Debate Score:22
Arguments:19
Total Votes:23
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Aren't long engagements totally pointless?

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Side Score: 11
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Side Score: 11
1 point

I think people who get engaged who KNOW they can't get married for awhile is just ridiculous. It's a waste of money at the time to get the ring, and it kind of gets their hopes up for nothing.

Specifically younger people who get engaged is stupid. They just do it so they can call each other finance and fiancée, instead of boyfriend and girlfriend.

Side: yes
Billie(790) Disputed
1 point

Specifically younger people who get engaged is stupid. They just do it so they can call each other finance and fiancée, instead of boyfriend and girlfriend.

Wow, steryotyping much, again. I got engaged young for reasons that had nothing to do with name-calling lol. I loved him, he loved me, I was pregnant so why the hell not get married? That was our reason, and it worked out perfect.

Side: No
Bohemian(3860) Disputed
1 point

I was pregnant so why the hell not get married?

I think for the reason you just mentioned. Rushing into marriage because of a pregnancy is kind of silly but all too common today, and for what? To avoid a ridiculous stigma? Fortunately for you it worked out, but in many cases it doesn't. I think this may be one of the reasons why divorce rates are so high.

Excuse me If this seems judgmental, I don't blame pregnant brides, but our culture which seems to prefer this than mothers who get married after giving birth even if they were in a stable loving relationship the whole time. I might actually start another topic about this.

Side: Yes
Saurbaby(5581) Disputed
1 point

You haven't been married long enough to say that it worked out perfectly.

Side: yes

Yes they are you should have money already saved up for you and the other person to get married. I can understand people waiting long for family to come down but other than that I can't.

Side: yes
1 point

Personally I think that if you are ready to propose to someone then you should be ready to get married soon there after.

Side: yes
casper3912(1581) Disputed
1 point

Why? Could you please expound and show some of your reasoning.

Side: No
2 points

It shows passion tempered by practicality.

Waiting for finances, education or other things to get in order before hand has its benefits but can take time.

Side: No
Saurbaby(5581) Disputed
1 point

That's what dating is for though. You don't need to change that status to prove it any more

Side: yes
casper3912(1581) Disputed
1 point

Dating is a different relationship type.

Expectations are different.

Jumping from dating to marriage in a short time may simply be too large of a jump, engagement is a nice middle ground.

Side: No
1 point

I think the long and 'pointless' waiting period can show how committed the two are to each other. It's the people who only know each other for a couple months and get married that worry me.

Side: No
Saurbaby(5581) Disputed
1 point

That's what dating is for though. You don't need to change that status to prove it any more

Side: yes
Bohemian(3860) Disputed
1 point

That's what dating is for though. You don't need to change that status to prove it any more.

Dating doesn't require the same level of commitment that an engagement does.

Side: No