But 'No Offense'... Really!
Can you just say 'no offense,' and the offense statement will not be offensive?
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Often, when people say no offense after a statement, it actually makes me feel more offended! I think it's most important to think about what you say before it comes out of your mouth, and the most important to try not to hurt others' feelings- how would you feel if you were them? 3
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No offense? There are times when I do not intend to offend someone by my words. There are times when I don't care if someone takes offense to what I am saying. And lastly, there are times when I want someone to be offended by my words. If they can't take a joke, then screw-em, and if they can't take a screwin, then joke-em. Side: Offense is not purposed sometimes
"no offense" is an impossible request. so no, it can never not offend, or even cause the offense. I look at it this way, they wish not to offend. therefore, it is up to me whether I take offense. if one were to say to me "no offense, but I hope you die of cancer." I would find that worthy of offense, regardless of their intention not to offend. if one were to say to me "no offense, but your breath smells like fish sticks." I would appreciate the information, realizing they were bringing a delicate subject to my attention, and I would attempt, without offense, to correct the situation. Generally though, "no offense..." means about the same as "I'm not racist but..." or "I'm not sexist but..." or "I'm not a satanic nazi serial killer but..." inevitably whatever follows likely would have been best left unsaid. Side: Sometimes
It's impossible to preclude offending someone who wants to be offended. And in reply to your question I must assert that you are the judge of whether or not the preface, no offense, is rightly or falsely intended. People can be sincere while at the sometime lacking the words to best explain their thoughts. You must decide if honesty and sincerity are the foundations of the "no offense" preface of the opinion/s of others. Side: Offense is not purposed sometimes
When people are talking to me and they say "no offense" I say "stop" because if they truly don't want to offend me they will stop. Often they ignore my request and tell me anyways. Then, not only am I probably offended by what they said, but I'm also offended at them ignoring my request and thinking they can say "no offense* and say whatever they want. But then it is on me to forgive them. Because forgiveness is important. "no offense" doesn't work Side: it doesnt work
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I'm tired of having to think about others feelings. What about my feelings? Don't they count? If I say no offense and you take offense then that's as far as I'm going to go. I'm sick and tired of people that claim they know my true intentions. Taking offense is so manipulative. It's like saying, "Do it my way or I'll take offense." Yeah, well, you know what... I rather do it my way and not care if you decide to take offense. Side: Really I don't care
Ya! It's like a warning really. "What's I'm about to say will make you want to punch me in the face, but I'm hoping by pre-warning you, you'll maybe understand (or something like that)" Right on. How about the, "look, it's not you, it's me..." Right. Or "I'm not saying this to hurt you, but..." too late, I already know it's going to hurt. Side: Really I don't care
Oh my gosh. You have just managed to stumble upon a pet peeve of mine. This should be fun. :D It is completely ridiculous how some people seem to think that if they say, "No offense!" people are somehow required to not be offended. I've had people say something rude, I would get ticked, and they would say, "I said no offense!" As if I'm not allowed to get offended just because they said that. Side: Still offensive
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