One of my friends is what you would call bisexual. He told me about it a couple years ago and I have seen him with guys and girls over the years. Therefore I must assume he isn't a liar about his sexual preferences. It also should not matter at all, and it harms my friendship with him not even in the least.

Though I am not gay I still have those thoughts. I think it is pretty tough to find someone that is 100% gay straight or bi. Don't judge because chances are you got a bit of gayness in you. (-.(-.-).-)

I agree with Kuklapolitan. I believe people are naturally bisexual, as I think all societies without the taboo practiced it. For most of them, there were no words for sexual orientation; people were just people. Personally I identify as bisexual, leaning towards heterosexual. Most sexual psychologists say true heterosexuality and true homosexuality are rare indeed, as is true bisexuality.

Just keep an open mind, try it if you can. It'll help us deal a tiny bit with overpopulation. ;)

Of course. I myself am what people who just need to give titles to everybody would call bisexual.

I'm sure it's possible, although I don't know anybody who is. The only problem I can see is that fact that most people are either fully interested in one sex or at least have a preference toward one or the other. I don't think there are too many people who are equally interested in men and women, exactly 50% each.

A bi-sexual is a person that sticks his hand down someone's pants and is happy at whatever he finds ;)

IMHO, The problem doesn't lie in the belief of bisexuality.

The problem lies in one's definition/interpretation of bisexuality.

If a common ground cannot be met between two parties on the said definition than an effective discussion cannot take place.

The most common definition is:

1. the ability/desire to have sex with either gender, excluding a relationship

This is based on attraction only.

The least common definition is:

2. the ability/desire to have a relationship with either gender, with sex being just one component of that relationship. This is based on attraction and an emotional bond.

Couple that with the varying degrees of bisexuality as well. Do they lean more towards one, or the other, or is it equal? Both definitions and degrees exist in and out of the bisexual community.

The struggle for some bisexuals is the struggle in defining what bisexuality means for them. Do they side with Def 1 or Def 2? And to what degree?

Our problem is found in the labels themselves be it bisexual, gay or straight. Here's why. When someone asks someone else "Are you gay, straight or bisexual?", they're not asking them about the emotional side of a relationship. What they are really asking is "HOW do you like your sex?" The next time someone asks you about your or someone's sexuality, ask them "What do you mean by gay, straight or bisexual?" After their confused look, you'll see my point. Press them nevertheless. Have them define gay, straight or bisexual. You'll see it more often than not that it will be about the sex rather than the relationship.

You can certainly have an opinion about bisexuality but if you have never experienced it, and not saying you have to go out and try it, then how can you honestly speak for someone who claims to be bisexual? You simply can't. You can only offer and project your own heterosexual experience. Just like someone can't experience heterosexuality if they claim to be gay, lesbian or bisexual.

You'll also find that many bisexuals DO pick a side when it comes to a relationship. They'll find themselves with the same sex or another. The problem there is once a side is chosen, they are immediately placed in the hetero or gay category and the issue of bisexuality, to the people around them is not questioned. (There are also those who engage in relationships with a person of their own sex and that of another. A triangle so to speak.)

The main problem bisexuals face is the presumption that its all about sex and nothing else. It's tough because "sex" is in the word itself. To a degree, the same goes for "gay" and "lesbian". (See above on "HOW do you like your sex?") But, its not so much the case for the term "heterosexual".

The facts are this: gay, straight, bisexual, lesbian relationships all have sexual components to them and for some, its all about sex. We can find examples in every category, gay, straight or lesbian where sexual promiscuity runs amuck. One category does not have the monopoly on that issue.

So what's the answer?

Do away with the labels. Focus on the inidivdual as a person, as an individual, as a human being, NOT AS A CATEGORY. CHARACTER BEFORE CATEGORY.

Ask yourself, "What is this person's character?"

If you put character ahead of category, you'll stand a much better chance of having a relationship with that person, even if its just a friend.

Yes my friend is married (F/M couple) but she likes girls. She also wants/tries to be monogamous. Try to figure that out. I also know a gay guy who doesn't know yet or knows and is trying and failing to hide it. He is in his mid twenties and prefers not to be alone & unsupervised with a woman (it's a nutty church thing). He might like girls too but so repressed that if one kissed him, he'd trip over his bottom jaw.

Bi-sexuality is as real as being straight or gay. My thinking is why is it so hard for people to believe? Why does it have to mean that you are confused about your sexuality? OK their are people who like only men or only women, and there are people who like both. I mean you can love guys until the day but lets say you met Rhianna for instance and liked her. You would not go gay for her you would just like her as well. Like an add-on. Besides some people would rather love a person for who they are and not just for what they have down there.

Well, it can actually exist, but most of the people who claim they're bi are full of shit. so that's why i'm posting on this side.

We first have to realize that theories on homosexuality are still up in the air, so we just have to go with current theories (that actually have some validity to it).

When it comes to relationships, men are 80% physical while women are only 20% physical. Men think on extreme scales of sexuality (which is why 99% of them who claim they're bi are most likely lying and are just gay or attention whores). Women do not think on extreme scales. They are much more Right Brain type people who think more emotionally. Attraction has more to do with emotions and personality, which is why it is far more likely for women to have lesbian experiences and even become bi. I even notice how so many girls i know say that they're "exception" is Angelina Jolie. That they would actually bang her... now, some may only do it depending on the circumstances, but men don't have that exception. Whenever straight men answer a question on homosexual acts, it's "if someone held a gun to your mother's head, who would you bang? Brad Pitt or George Clooney".

i know i didn't bring up the theories on gayness, but that's cause i don't want this to be a debate on how people become gay.

no, i do not support gay or bi people. please do not attack me on that. i do know one who says he is "bi". i did not know what it was, but when i found out from my friends, i said, "i wonder why they can't just pick a side?" i know it exists, but i'm gonna have to side with at least one of pygs arguments, this guy really likes attention. i don't even consider him "bi" to be honest. i don't know how anyone can look at a woman and say "oh, she is pretty!" and then turn around and look at a guy and say the same. its just a fact that guys are not pretty like girls. i believe joe can explain why! go get 'em joe!

i do not agree with kuklapolitan when you say, all people are fundamentally bisexual. i will never like a man or have a threesome. thats supposed to be between a man and a woman.

OK, here's my take on it. I don't understand how someone can look at a woman (a typical woman. Soft, curvy, little hair) and get all hot and bothered and then that same person turns around and looks at a man's hairy ass and says, "Oh, baby!" How does that happen? You either like one over the other or you don't really care for either one.

My personal opinion is that a bisexual person is someone who is lost. It's like saying you're an agnostic. But this doesn't mean it doesn't exist. But it does feel more like a category just put off to the side that some people fall into when they admit they're unsure of them self and don't know everything.

Psychologically, the definition of bisexuality is someone who is EQUALLY sexual with men and women. Which truly, is pretty rare. I mean, if we did a survey and asked bisexuals how many of each sex they've actually slept with, it'd probably lean more in one direction than in the middle.

My issue with bisexualism today is that everyone thinks it makes them cool, so they're saying they are bi or that they want to do this girl or whatever. In high school, it's a pretty low way for a girl to put herself up the ladder by portraying herself as being so sexual active she'd do a girl. And she's getting every single guy excited over it. In other words, it just might be for people with low-self esteem.

I have this biased idea that people that are gay are gay because they couldn't get anywhere with the opposite sex.... and they grew up with no boundaries. For instance, I went to a high school where I'd say at least 80% of my graduating class is non-religious. And we have a ridiculous high gay ratio for any school that I have ever seen. And it's pretty shocking. What was REALLY going through these people's heads when they realized they wanted to be with the same sex all of a sudden? (realizing it 3-5 years after graduation). It might actually even be proof of malfunctioned families, like the cause of most eating disorders. But it's all just MY ideas. On some level, I think it's all saying there's something wrong with humanity. At the same time though, I am absolutely not against homosexuality. They can get married and they can adopt babies if they want. Go for it. But I think bisexuality is a co-pp. And the world will figure it out in future time.

Furthermore, I'm straight, but I'm attracted to some women. (Shannyn Sossamon for the most part). But there's a big difference in what I just said, I'm "attracted" to her, and this does not make me gay or bi in any way whatsoever. So, girls can say they'd bang Angelina Jolie all they want, but it proves nothing.