to be frank, i don't think you can harmonize if you can't be honest. i mean, you don't tell the truth, the other person can't believe everything you say, hence disturbing the harmony. i really think you need one to get the other.

Lying to each other to keep things smooth in a relationship backfires too much. Little lies need larger lies to stay correct, and after a while, people stop trusting each other. A real relationship is based on accepting the people you are, not the fake image you have.

Honesty leads to harmony!

Honesty. If there's anything in a relationship that needs mending, or in other words, something that isn't being said for the sake of harmony it's probably pretty crucial to the relationship or friendship of the two people involved.

If it's detrimental to the relationship, so be it, move on. It's better that those things come out than have two people forcing themselves to live with each other unhappily.

If it isn't detrimental to the relationship, work it out. Both of the people in the relationship and the relationship itself will grow and strengthen.

Relationships are like cars. If you don't maintain them as you should, you will have bigger problems down the road... rather than changing the oil every three thousand miles, you'll be replacing the valves, lifters, push rods, cam bearings, seals, etc.

Harmony is a bad thing anyhow, it does nothing but prolong the inevitable and make people stale. Just deal with your problems, it's not really that difficult and it's definitely not life threatening.

I truly believe that honesty creates harmony in any relationship if both parties are well adjusted. Simply going with the flow in order to avoid conflict or hurting ones feelings can create disharmony and exacerbate conflict. One does not have to be mean or disrespectful when being honest. You've heard the very old and true expression; "It's not what you say but how you say it." Being gentle and courteous can help the other person be more receptive and accepting of what you are saying to them without being defensive and/or offensive in their reactions. Yes, honesty IS the best policy...it instills trust in one another and keeps the relationship harmonious!

I have found that the truth will set you free.

One time this guy was dating this girl but he wanted out and I told him, "The truth will set you free" so the next time she asked him if her pants made her ass look big he said, "No, your fat ass makes your ass look big!" and she dumped him. So you see, it worked!

Here's another bit of Joe Cavalry wisdom ('cause if you read this far...) If you accept someone for who they truly are, then honesty and harmony should follow.

I agree with those who believe that honesty leads to harmony. One can go along to get along in a relationship, but real intimacy and trust are the result of repeated acts of honesty and personal openness. This honesty is different than just being tactful and polite; sometimes your honest opinion is the only thing that matters. You don't have to be rude when you speak truth to your lover and/or friend, just tell them what you think. Sometimes they have no idea what's going on or how others may see them. Let love be the basis for your honesty, and be sure that your friend/lover knows that. Ultimately, honesty is better than an illusion of harmony.

As for me i do not see any difficulties in being honest with your partner and keeping harmony in a relationship.

I mean come on that's a person that u spend so much time with. A person that u're devoted to. And u'll start lying to her?

Or "not tell the truth" which is the same for me.

I don't see anything that is worth not telling.

If there are some problems with you or your partner - it is much easier to solve them together.

I don't take cheating into consideration 'cause well if you cheat - you have no harmony whatsoever. You can either tell or not - the relationship is over anyways.

For the most part, honesty is the best choice, though that is not to say that you should never lie if it is necessary, but for the most part, honesty is the way to go.

Do you prefer honesty vnc

If you cant have an honest relationship whats the point? when something big comes up in the relationship you wont be able to deal with it as well as an honest relationship. fighting is a part of every relationship. it makes you stronger as a couple. if you avoid every argument you might have there's a fair chance you'll break up in the near future. there is this space between you that get bigger with everything you dont say to each other.

Honesty is overrated. Everyone has their secrets and that's cool. Some even have secrets that they will take to their graves. I wouldn't ever patronize my lover to tell me the truth all the time. Harmony is just so much smoother.

I prefer harmony because it keeps me in a good relationship. Honesty could mean talking about things that might hurt my partner. If I know I don't want that to happen I can say my intentions towards the relationship are positive. If I want to be honest, even though I know it will hurt my partners feelings, I have to second guess my intentions. It simply might be a way of getting out.