Does family define or effect who you are?
Do the circumstances effect who you are in an amount that can change your personality? For instance, if you were born in a family which thinks negatively, is it your destiny that you cannot change or can you break free and live a positive life? But what motivates you to do that if there are only struggles around? At the same time, you have your own mind and thoughts so if you realise you want to be happy, can you do that with a bad atmosphere? But what if you don't realise it? Is the chance of living a joyful life taken away from you?
Yes, they do
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No, they don't
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I would argue that your family and the way you are raised is one of the primary influences on who you become as a person and what personality you possess, but it isn't the only factor (experiences through out life and other close associates can have a strong affect as well). In this way it isn't necessarily a foregone conclusion that you will end up just like your family, but it does make it incredibly likely that you will end yo at least partially similar to them Side: Yes, they do
After a 30 year career in psychiatry I have come to believe that we are often defined by the sum of our experiences. If as children we are abused, physically, mentally or emotionally this can have an effect upon us that can last a lifetime. The Royal Commission into Child Abuse in Australia has produced damning evidence of the harm that was caused to so many victims many decades ago and the suffering they continue to experience. Substance abuse and self harm can be signs of early abuse However, in so saying, this is not definitive, and many people who have suffered adversity have succeeded in overcoming their pain and leading productive lives. So I also believe that within us all we have different levels of resilience that helps and allows some to cope where others do not. Side: Yes, they do
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What if suffering from mental or physical abuse is the very thing that teaches you not to be like them? I mean, you know what it feels like and I wouldn't say it feels quite joyful obviously, so you don't really want your kids or others to feel like that, right? So what if this contributes to a a voice in your brain saying "You see? You don't want to make others feel this way because it's not good, you have experienced this, but you can't change that so might as well learn from it, that's the only thing you can actually do, seeing it as beneficial" I'm aware of the fact that not many of those realize this, so that is why, I think we should help them realize that. Side: No, they don't
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What if suffering from mental or physical abuse is the very thing that teaches you not to be like them? I mean, you know what it feels like and I wouldn't say it feels quite joyful obviously, so you don't really want your kids or others to feel like that, right? So what if this contributes to a a voice in your brain saying "You see? You don't want to make others feel this way because it's not good, you have experienced this, but you can't change that so might as well learn from it, that's the only thing you can actually do, seeing it as beneficial" I'm aware of the fact that not many of those realize this, so that is why, I think we should help them realize that. This is, in fact, a case of family defining and effecting who one is- just in the opposite way. Would the individual in question have such strong feelings re: mental and physical abuse had they not endured it themselves? Side: Yes, they do
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Family will have a huge effect on your childhood but when you become an adult, your personality will start shaping your future. My children were raised the same but they have very different personalities. I believe the moral values taught to our kids will last them a lifetime but their personalities much more come from birth. You can be moral extrovert as well as a moral introvert. I believe values are taught and personalities will determine how those values are used. Side: No, they don't
Hi Amarel The only answer I can come up with after a career of working with people with psych/social/mental issues is resilience, how they cope with or in the face of adversity. The factor what makes some people survivors and others victims of the same event. Resilience is such an unknown quantity. Take PTSD for instance, some returned servicemen suffer it and others do not. After a horrific incident where thousands are killed e.g Ache tsunami, a year later some had not been able to get their lives back together and some had already moved on. You can't buy it, you can't make it, you either have it or you don't and that is the rub when faced with adversity. It is no wonder that hundreds of thousands of citizens in the developed world rely on Valium/Diazepam/Anxyolitics to get through their day. Side: No, they don't
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