First impression can be misleading-is it always the case?
Personally I've been misled many times at different situations-kinda got outfoxed;well in my school some close friends on this past Thursday kinda betrayed me -this is exactly what happened:Well I was absent on Tuesday(as I was laid up with fever) and as it happened,our Chems teacher kinda arranged a school assignment the scores of which are to be added to the final term marks;Well when I called upon them to learn about the school's routine and homeworks ,there was not a single mention from any of my pals regarding the assignment and when today I went to school I was left fuming and heads-down to see how badly my trusted friends (who themselves are high-class students)betrayed me and left me in misery.Though it might seem to be an "one-off"incident but I would have to pay hard for it-I would be losing around forty odd marks from the final scores.I had never expected those blokes in whom I trusted so much ever since I shifted school,that they would do this much harm simply due to some kinda intrinsic hostility in the hope of securing the pole position in the academic rankings at the end of the year.
Well I've my own experiences
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Not always.
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I actually think that while your ability to infer and guess based on appearances may be very good, and you may find yourself being correct about the assumptions you make, these are broad expectations, and you never will be able to learn all the nuances and details of a person merely from your first impression with them. I don't think it's wrong to say that a first impression may give you lots of factual information, and I guess it's not even necessarily 'misleading' but I think I have to be on this side because I don't think first impressions are very reliable one way or the other. Side: Well I've my own experiences
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We all put up false personas when we first meet people, we want to be liked or loved so we will change ourselves to fit in, only overtime through experiences and situations do our true colours come out to be seen, we all hold secrets we don't want to show so all impressions are never the true person. Side: Well I've my own experiences
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Keep in mind that people do things that benefit themselves, knowing this can save you a lot of grief. There is always a motive. What that motive is can be difficult to detect. Take dating for example; often it is not love that is desired but financial security, a trophy spouse, to look like the perfect couple, etc. "If it seems too good to be true, it probably is." First impressions often fit into this category. On the other side of the coin; If your first impression is not a favorable one, it probably isn't correct either. First impressions will never give you an accurate account of anybody. Knowing someone their entire life will not give you an accurate account of them either, but it does help to understand them better. “Only one man ever understood me, and he didn't understand me.” ― Georg Wilhelm Friedrich Hegel Side: Well I've my own experiences
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There are many sides to every story and then there are more that may not have even been considered. It is a human frailty to think the worst of people rather than the best. Human animals often create misunderstanding through a lack of objective communication, stereotypes, and conceived ideas on what is actually happening. As a mental health clinician for 30years I have counselled many people who were devastated by imagined situations and the litany of their imagined past experiences had never actually come to fruition. There is a need to deal in facts more than the creation of our suspicious minds and perhaps then human animals will be able to face the world and its challenges with a more positive outlook. Side: Not always.
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Not always. You are very young and have much to learn in regards to emotional and social intelligence. That being said all people have their similarities and differences a person's first impression may be genuine and your classmates may have been so engrossed in their work That it simply slipped their minds to inform you. Whatever the case it isn't wise to accuse someone of something without knowing all of the facts,it also isn't wise to assume they're your friends without knowing them properly. The moral of the story is be careful with those you barely know and that at the end of the day you must watch after yourself. My advice however isn't to be upset with the outcome and realize that they may still be your friend but they may have issues with selfishness,that doesn't mean you have to get revenge or never associate with them however forgive them,move on and realize that you cannot count on them in that particular situation. They may be great friends in other areas. Side: Not always.
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