Spare the rod and you will spoil the child.

der shld not be dat strict parentin or else the children will be frustrated.........

as der is a limit for everything................der is is a limit for strictness also...............

It is better to be strict with child, but not so strict in order not to hurt child's feelings. Baby should be raised in peace and of course love conditions, but it is does not say that you can let them everything that they want, it is unnecessary. So, it would be better to be neutral with your baby and it will be enough.

In my opinion, being strict with your child, is a best way. According to the researches, child from that kind of families have better results in school. Strict parents tend to give chores and have hard-line policies regarding homework, school attendance and activities. Also they demand the best grades from their children, and the children tend to perform extremely well due to those expectations.

form my point of view, i can say that to be strict with your child is the best way to raise your child. why? 1) because your child will know what is bad and what is good, he will not do mistakes. he will be well-mannered. 2) your child will not be discharged and he will do what he want.

so, i think that parents should be strict, but not so really strict, parents should not forget that first of all he is your child.

They should have strict parents because kids need to learn what's wrong and what's right. They need to know that parents have high standards of being good. The kids also need to know that not all the stuff they want they will get. If I have a kid that want a cell phone at age 13 because that person sees other people have I would say no because why would someone get a phone at that age I mean I am getting my phone when I have a job and i can afford the bill.

Strict parenting, but not so strict that it makes your child depressed and dispassionate.

I think strict parents raise better kid, because I have seen many children who have no sense of propriety and manners. But most of strict parents have children who have propriety and menners. Strcit parents mean that parents teach what is right and what is wrong but if parents are not strict children could not know what is right and wrong. So i' think for parents strick is very important thing.

Strict parent is good way to raise children... but of course it should be with love... every parent want to their child great future and try to do all thing which they can...

if children are spoiled, they won't lie without their parent in future like they will depend on their parent... My parents were strict with me at my childhood... and now I thanked my Mom that she brining up me in strict way, if I depend on my Mom in financial situation I am independent.

First of all I don't like the two sides presented here. You can be strict and still spoil your child.

IMO there is no perfect way of raising children because all children are different as are parents as are situations. Some just need more structure, some are more independent, more self assured some need a whole lot of nurturing, focus and attention.

What you do have to do as a caring parent is always give them attention, watch what they do, where they do it and how. Do it in a way that does not hold them back. We need to lead by example, show them how to love, accept love and forgive others. Like another poster said when we make mistakes own up. They don't need to know all the details...but they need to know their parents are not perfect, that falling is growing that you should pick yourself up and keep on living and learning.

It goes without saying that we should provide shelter and nutritious food and a safe enviroment for them to play. Kids need structure. A house can not stand without walls and kids can't become stable without rules. These rules should foster independence because that is a way to teach them how to make decisions. As a parent you might be in total control but allow your child at appropriate times to take the wheel to be in charge. But we always should remember that they are children and not make our expectations to high for them ever to achieve. As I said kids are all different. What works for one might not work with another.

We should be consistent with punishment. If they disobey and break the rules and you say...you're grounded for a week, or you can't do this or play with that....then a week is 7 days...not 5 1/2. Always make something positive. I always turned a discipline into a positive. You might not be able to play with your friends BUT....you can do this or that at home. Or take the time to learn something new. But one thing I did do was to hold them responsible for whatever they did. They owned it and they were the ones to resolve it.

I remember my son and his friend went to another friends house with black magic markers and wrote next to the front door a message for him to come down to play when he got home. Their house was white. I was horrified. I got him the cleaning supplies and he sat there until the marks ALMOST ALL came off. I think he sat there for three hours. I brought him a drink and snack...but told him the job was not done until the marks were off. He then aplogized to both parents. His markers at home were taken away for a time. But he got an education on cleaning supplies and permanent and nonpermanent markers.

Discipline with love.....make appropriate goals and punishments.........always listen and communicate kids need to know the limits and boundaries......try to think positive......be consistent....back your spouse up (discuss behind childs back so if you have disagreements the child won't see).

When I think of discipline I think back to the time my mother came to get me at the outdoor movie theatre. House rule....no outdoor drive ins. We had the backdoor of the van open and we were laying on this shag rug watching a movie, SHAFT as I recall. ( this was the early seventies when shag meant shag carpet..LOL)

My friend came up and told me she thought she saw my mother at concessions. My heart was in my mouth. Yup she was right...here came my mother. She quietly acknowledge my presence without humiliating me too much and told me that I had some unfinished chores I had not done at home. No screaming, yelling, just smiles. It took me a month to the day.....to finish all the chores. I never did it again.

One thing I knew was that my parents had rules and they were to be followed. My curfew in high school as a senior was 11. And when they said be home at 11 it was not 11:15. If I called and gave a good enough excuse....that was ok.

I knew my parents made those rules to protect me....we discussed them many times...both presenting our sides. Not often but a few times I did win.

Better kids are made when parents love them and set rules. They are active participants in EVERY aspect of their childrens lives. You can set rules and still spoil your child.

As my mother said to me....I will be a little shadow behind you and she was until she died a few years ago at 75 years old. I plan to do the same with my kids.

I have yet to encounter a well-behaved, nice, spoiled child, nor have I liked those individuals whom I have encountered as adults and have come of the opinion that they were spoiled in their younger years. Strict parents - as well as the rod - are the key to success in childrearing; my parents were strict, and gave me the belt often, and I am far better for it.

Look at children these days: walking around with their pants hanging at the bottom edge of their buttocks, it is as though they are asking - nay, begging! - to be spanked!

Discipline, as well, teaches those children the ways of the real world. One does not expect to receive perfection, but perfection must be striven for in all ways. I propose a strict, daily regime of trivium-inspired extra-curricular activity after school; I imposed such demands upon myself as a youth and have, as a result, become quite learned in many fields, and I may impose the same if the fates do afford to me a child of my own upon that child, so that he may one day surpass me. Left to his own devices, surely he shall partake of the more prickly aspects of modern society, such as film-watching and video game-playing. I would not allow such modernities in anything above most mild doses, for the path to wisdom is to be found not in the present day, but in the Age of Antiquity!

All of that put aside, it is not the business of government to tell parents that they must, or must not, raise their child in any certain way, nor is it the responsibility of government to weed out parental influence via the school system. Leave child rearing to the child's rearers, and the teaching of the non-politicized fundamentals of knowledge (ABCs, 1,2,3s, 3.141592, etc.) to the teachers.

Okay, I picked strict because I don't think children should be spoiled but I think there should be an in-between. Parents should not be overbearingly strict, yet they should not let their kids run over them and do what they please.

I think that parents should raise their children not so strict and not in spoiling way. Everything have a middle. Strict policy is bad, and spoiling way is bad also.

'Strict' doesn't and shouldn't have the connation of being mean attached to it. I think strict boundaries and guidelines should be used when raising a child, because when on their own, children can become unproductive and passive.

You, as a parent, should be attentive of everything your child does, even if it means being a little overprotective, because it is better to safe than sorry! For example, even though your child would hate for you to be the creepy stalker, remind her or him that parent and should have a mutual loving relationship together. Crash parties if you feel they are innapprpriate for your child. Inflict impartial punishment on your child whenever she or he needs it. For example, hit her or him for insulting or physically hurting. Temporarily disallow your child from her hobbies and interests whenever for doing anything immoral but not hurtful. Prevent your child from purchasing or engaging in any media outlets you may find offensive. You should also constsntly engage in conversations with your child about morals, ethics, and safety for the well being of your family as well as others. Beind lax or liberal to your children does NOT ironically make them happy and well-rounded - they will be what you expect them to be, ungrateful and troublesome. Teach them that they will have to accept involuntary mishaps and have patience in order to obtain what they want. But every now and then reward them for good behavior with something they really want. But you should always try to know about and fix any and all issues they may have. And try to be as friendly to your child as possible.

i think that strict parents raise kids better because if a parent is strick and lays down the rules then later on in life the kids will see that the rules that their parents taught them will help them succed in life!