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Lousy Father Fatherless
Debate Score:223
Arguments:146
Total Votes:283
Ended:02/25/09
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Is it better to have a lousy father or to be fatherless?

Lousy Father

Side Score: 129
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Fatherless

Side Score: 94
5 points

I think it's better to have a lousy father then to be fatherless because, in my opinion, most dads are lousy in some way. For the most part, dads just go to work and then sleep or watch tv for the remainder of the day. My dad, for example, there are times when I hate him and I think he's a lousy father, but when it comes down to it he is my dad and i love him. If I didn't have a father I wouldn't be able to say that and I would probably spend my whole life trying to find out who he is anyways! I rather know who my father is, even if he is lousy, then to not know anything about him at all.

Side: Lousy Father
5 points

Imagine growing up not knowing who your father is. I can't imagine it because no matter how lousy my father is I still go home everyday after baseball practice and know that my father is trying to help my mom pay the bills. I believe that it is better to have a lousy father than to be fatherless because if you grew up without a father then you would be raised by a woman, which there is nothing wrong with that, but if your a boy than you would rather be raised by a mom and a dad. All in all having a father makes you have that comfortable feeling every time you go home.

Side: Lousy Father
4 points

It's better to have a father than to not have one. For example, me. I grew up without a father and if I had a choice of being a billionaire or to have a father growing up, I'd choose to have a father. I'm basically a bastard legally because he isn't even on my birth certificate. No one should grow up without a father because honestly, it messes with them. Kids in school will ask about your dad and you have nothing to say. Whether he is lousy or not, a child should always be in touch with their dad. Even if he isn't with the mother anymore.

Side: Lousy Father
moosh2009(11) Disputed
3 points

Yes it would be difficult to not have a father and you may think about all the things you have missed if you had a father groeing up, but it is also difficult when you have one that doesn't care. That also messes you up as well. I grew up with a crappy dad and I honestly believe I would be better off if I had grown up without one. It hurts you more to know you have a dad that doesn't give a crap what's happening with you and what's going on in your life.

Side: Fatherless
4 points

I think it is better to have lousy father than having no father because anyone is capable to change. By personal experience not every body remains the same. My dad use to be a hard core alcoholic, waking up in the morning and having a drink was a part of his routine. All day every day; but when he was in an accident a hit and run and immediately paralyzed his life changed. My dad has been sober for the first time in 20 years. And now I can actually go visit him and have a decent conversation with him. So I guess from my personal stance I would say that I would rather have a lousy father than no father at all. Because if I were to say I didn’t want a father I would just be speaking out of anger and revenge. Doesn’t matter what people that we love have done to us. We are all forgiving to those who are more important to us than others.

Side: Lousy Father
2 points

Good personal side of the arguement, and yes, anyone is capable of change with a second chance.

Side: Lousy Father
4 points

I believe it is better to have a lousy father than to have none. It is important to have a role model to look up to and without that figure, you might become lost in the world. A lousy father is not that bad because what exactly makes a lousy father, always working and not having time for you. A father that isn't always around is no reason to prefer to have no father. Growing up and seeing the way your father is, makes you want to become like him or gives you the motivation to surpass him and become even better than he is.

Side: Lousy Father
4 points

My parents divorced when I was one, meaning that I never had the chance to live with my father. Still to this day I call my dad and talk to him, I feel that no matter how lousy your father is he is still your father. My father is very lousy he never comes to visit me or never bothers to ask how I’m doing, but at the end of the day all that matters is that I have a father. I still wait for that day to come when my father will have a change of heart and become the father I always wanted him to be. I strongly believe that being able to have a father in general gives you hope for that special day where he will change but if your fatherless than there’s no hope for him to change.

Side: Lousy Father
4 points

Fatherless seems like the easier choice you never know the lousiness or the neglect however there will always be that void. Sooner or later in life you will stop and ask yourself these questions would he have been a good dad? would we have gotten along? why did life taken hime away? Your heart will be in need of something to fill that void and usually it will be anger, anger at losing your father, anger at the world. However having a lousy father is no different you still will ask yourself these question why is he so lousy why cant he be like other fathers? The only diffenrence is how you fill that void, when you know what a bad father looks like and what he has done, you have a chance to corect that void a not becom like him a chance to tear the vicous cycle and be a better father. If you never had a father how would you know what a good or bad one looks like. There is a higher chance a falling victim to that vicious cycle

Side: Lousy Father
3 points

Stating that my father died wen I was 8yrs. old, I would rather have a lousy father then to not have one at all. Without a father you really don't have a man in your life that you can talk to and go to to talk about situations and the care that they give and even the discipline. Even if you don't have a father you look for a mans view point or someone that you can convide in which means you still are searching for a father figure if you don't want one. I would rather have a lousy father that can have help to become a better father and that I can talk to, give me a firm hug when I need one, walk me down the aisle when its time for me to get married, and a father for my boyfreind could meet, so he can tell me if he's right or not even if I don't agree. I'm missing all that and more, I would do anything in the world to have my bestfreind and the one man besides God that I love, back on the earth with me. Therefore I would rather have a lousy father rather than not having one at all.

Side: Lousy Father
2 points

When I think about this scenario, I think of the pros and cons of the whole idea. If you were to have a lousy father, you wouldn’t have that solid man-figure who’d be fearless when the going gets tough to look up to, and that can really eat out of a child or a teen; however old the victim is. Then on the other hand, a child without a father (particularly a male) would be lost in this world, and he wouldn’t have that significant person to talk to and to relate; a person that he’d trust to the very end when others see it differently. Though in the long run, the victim of that situation should get help if it’s really taking a toll on them physically and mentally.

In short, as for my opinion, I say that it’s better to lousy father. You would know that either he’d mistreat you, or that he’s a lazy dead-beat with no job that sleeps in all day, but if the child can use their initiative and some good common sense, then they’d see the wrong path to choose while maturing instead of following their dad’s footsteps. Seeing the negative at times can make out positive in the end, because you don’t want to have to walk the lonely road of life in shame and darkness.

Side: Lousy Father
2 points

I rather have a lousy father than not have one at all, because a father is one of the most wonderful things it could happen to you. At least a lousy father would be there when you need someone. You can count on your father on anything. and i guess lousy fathers are like that because they love their child, and they want their son or doughter to be as perfect as posible.

Side: Lousy Father
2 points

I think it is better to have a lousy father because if you are fatherless you would be wanting to know who your father is. It would hurt me to not know who my father is. I think that as long as your father provides food for you and your family, that shows that he cares for you. I have a father who drinks and when he is drunk that is when he is a lousy father. He chooses his friends before his own family when he is drunk. But when he is not drunk he is a good father. When he is sober he is a good father he does act as a good father. I think that alchohol makes him a lousy father.

Side: Lousy Father
2 points

There is scientific evidence that shows having a mother and a father is the healthiest way for a child to progress physically and mentally.

So a lousy father is better than none.(that is of course assuming that he is not abusive in any way)

Also, people change. Who says that he will be lousy forever. There are family therapy sessions you can attend to help.

Side: Lousy Father
2 points

The shark on Finding Nemo obviously had issues. I mean come on people he never even knew his FATHER!

Just trying to lighten things up, this is a depressing topic.

Side: Lousy Father
2 points

I believe its better to have a lousy father than to be fatherless. I myself know what's its like to not have a father, so to me it would be better to have a lousy father than no father at all. For some people, to have a lousy father is like having no father. But in reality you don't really know how good your father is or how good you really have it until he is gone and never coming back.

Side: Lousy Father
2 points

I think its better to have a lousy father than no father at all. Having a lousy dad means having that second parent in your life that you can tell things to that you may not be able to tell your mom. If you have no father you never get the chance to know who your dad really was or what he was like or even what you had in common with him. A lousy dad may not be the best kind of dad but he's your dad and will love you no matter what. Even if you really don't like him at times, he's your family and you should be thankful for the people that are in your life, especially family.

Side: Lousy Father
2 points

It is better to have a lousy father than to be fatherless because you will have someone there to learn mistakes from and to give you motivation to do better. You’ll never have that question in your mind of what it would’ve been like to have a father.

Side: Lousy Father
2 points

I think it's better to have a lousy father than to be fatherless because, growing up without a father can be hard for some kids. For example, there are some children that need dads to teach them right from wrong, but as long as you have a father no matter how lousy he is, at least you have somebody their to support your decisions and encourage you.

Side: Lousy Father
2 points

I rather have a lousy father then not have a father at all. Having a lousy father you have a father that cares for you and loves you. You can fix if he's lousy you can talk to him and knock some sense into him. I think it would hurt me not knowing who my father is and would want to know who he is. As long as you have a second parent that you can talk to when you can't talk to your mom about. I don't know how it would be if it was only my mom raising me.

Side: Lousy Father
2 points

I think is better to have a lousy father than a fatherless because you can count on your father. No matter what your father is always going to be there for you in the good and bad times. If you don't have a father you don't really know what is right or wrong. If you don't have a father than you don't have nobody to count with or tell him your problems.

Side: Lousy Father
2 points

It's better to have a lousy father for practical reasons. You can blame every mistake you've made on your father. He won't pry into your business and search your room and take your stuff because he doesnt think I need it. He wouldnt care so much that he would get pissed and throw my backpack with my computer in it at a wall putting a hole in it because I didn't clean the sink after breakfast or I forgot my keys. I think it's actually an opinion because that kind of father is still lousy because he'll tell you that he hates you and I ruined his life.

Side: Lousy Father
2 points

A lousy father would be able to teach you more than no one at all. Maybe he will be able to teach what not to be like, how not to act, how not to treat your family. That is better than no teaching at all I think. He could toughen you up. Also you will at least know who he was and never wonder if your father was a saint or lousy, you already know.

Side: Lousy Father
2 points

I think its better to have a lousy father than no father at all. Fathers have a key role in a child's life. Some people are raised without a father, but it is important to have one. To me i think a father brings discipline and understanding in a child's life. A lousy father can teach a child many lessons even if the are constantly doing wrong. A mother is for nurturing and love there for you when no one else is. A mother really can't take the role that a father would in a child's life no matter how hard. If there wasn't a dad i don't think there are going to be many boundaries in that child's life than if there was a "lousy" father..

Side: Lousy Father
2 points

I think that it is better to have a father who is lousy because I consider my father on a low level of lousy, and I think that I'm doing just fine.

I just think thats it better to know that you have a father. I think that not knowing him, or what he looks like would ( to me ) be a insecure topic in my life. So, in my opinion. Just to know he exist would be better to me.

Side: Lousy Father
2 points

I think that it will be better to have an lousy father than no father. A least you have an father. You know who he is and where he is. You will also kinda get an idea on what you going to be when you go up. If he is an lousy father, that will help you not be what he is. You can say that it is motivation that will help you became an better father. Because you don't want to be like your father. You want to better that your father, in-fact that should motivate you to be the greatest father you can be.

Side: Lousy Father
2 points

I try to see things in both ways, but even though sometimes Ill rather have a fatherless father I think having a lousy father would be better for me because in order to grow up and be ready for life you have to learn about life and if you do not have an image or person to look up life could become harder or not good.

Side: Lousy Father
2 points

Fatherless seems like the easier choice you never know the lousiness or the neglect however there will always be that void. Sooner or later in life you will stop and ask yourself these questions would he have been a good dad? would we have gotten along? why did life taken hime away? Your heart will be in need of something to fill that void and usually it will be anger, anger at losing your father, anger at the world. However having a lousy father is no different you still will ask yourself these question why is he so lousy why cant he be like other fathers? The only diffenrence is how you fill that void, when you know what a bad father looks like and what he has done, you have a chance to corect that void a not becom like him a chance to tear the vicous cycle and be a better father. If you never had a father how would you know what a good or bad one looks like. There is a higher chance a falling victim to that vicious cycle

Side: Lousy Father
2 points

Having a Lousy father would be better than being fatherless. If you have a Lousy father you can look at his mistakes, and avoid them. Also being fatherless would be hard on you and your mom. You would have no example or any kind of person to look up to. If you need help, at least you have your father there to lend you a hand, even if he is lousy.

Side: Lousy Father
2 points

In my opinion I think its better to have a lousy father than to be fatherless because when you are raised by your mother in most of the cases you start seeing how your mom struggle in order to pay bills, house rent, food, clothes, and then thats when you start hustling in order to bring some money to the house. In the other hand if you have a father you dont have to worry a lot about those things.That everytime that you come home you know that there would be your father waiting for you ready to listen to your problems or to talk about how was your day or anyting else.In other words you would have a role model.

Side: Lousy Father
1 point

I think that its better to be have a father that is lousy then to not have a father at all. With out a father you would always be asking I wonder what would it would be like if I had a father. I think that the biggest hurt you can have is from someone not being there at all. All do you have one but his kind of lousy you now that he still cares about you because he was their for you when your growing up and not just left you as a bastard child. For my experience I really cant pick a side because i have a father but my father is not lousy. My father is the best all do he dint grow up with his father when he was a little kid that dint stop him from becoming a great father that he is right now.

Side: Lousy Father
1 point

Some people may say that having no father at all is better than having a lousy father. I agree with both of these statements. I think a lousy father could indeed hurt you and make your life hard, but he still stuck around to even be a lousy father. You have to give him some credit there. I also believe that not having a father at all could be a benifit but also a negative thing. You never see a child without a father running wild and saying i dont miss my father, hes never been around so i dont care about him. No, you don't. A child will always ponder the thought of who his dad is, what does he do, and why hes not around, and that could destroy a child's life. Leave them cold hearted and depressed andpissed off at the world. A lousy father is better than one who does not even stick around. so although i agree with both statements. I would much rather have a lousy father than not one at all.

Side: Lousy Father
1 point

I believe that most people look up at their peers and those being their fathers. In my opinion, I think that it doesn’t matter that you are fatherless or have a lousy father. For the most part if you have a lousy father it kind of like not having a father. In some occasions having a lousy father can be ok because you might not feel as lonely or have no one to talk to. Sometimes having a lousy father can help you throughout your life, even if he is strict or you have problems with him. I think that people that grow up without a father grow up missing a big part of their lives. In the end either way it all depends on how you take it and what you decide to do later on.

Side: Lousy Father
1 point

Fathers can sometimes be lousy, but it is through their mistakes that we can learn to become better parents. Dads are meant to be that icon that motivates you to surpass them. You can't have a healthy family without having two parents to guide you in life. No matter what, dads are the people you look up the most, no matter how tall you've grown.

Side: Lousy Father
1 point

“There must always be a struggle between a father and son, while one aims at power and the other at independence.” -Samuel Johnson

In my opinion i would rather have a lousy father than be fatherless. My dad means the world to me and even though sometimes we argue or he gets annoying. I could not live without having him around. Knowing he's there working hard for my family and me to have everything we desire. I would rather have him than not knowing who he was, or not having him around . I love my father very much and yeah he's not perfect but he is the best dad in the world for me.

Side: Lousy Father
1 point

I would have to pick having a lousy father than not having a father at all because, there will be a point where you may need his help. (It may not help but at least you tried.) I know that I have a lousy father, and there are times that he gets me mad, but then again there are times where he does the dumbest things, and makes me laugh. I know that I don't have the father I want, but I still love him no matter how lousy he is.

Side: Lousy Father
1 point

To me it is better to have a lousy father because that is what I have. I wish that I had a better father but I am thankful for the one that I do have. At least you know who he is and have the chance to know him. If you at least have a father he has a chance to change because people change for different reasons and maybe you will be the reason for your dad. Over the years my father has gotten a little better at being a dad but still he is lousy. If your dad was gone and you never got to meet him then you don't know what you could be missing out on "if" he was a good dad.

Side: Lousy Father

I wouldn't live my life right if I never got to meet my father. I wouldn't care if I grew up and had lousy father even if he has no job or life and maybe even an alcohlic. Having a father means alot especially if your boy because most fathers are friends to, so you can talk to them about guy problems and they would understand the situation and with just living with your mother you couldn't because she's a woman and her views are different then a guy. Whether its a good or lousy father they will always be there for you at sometime in life.

Side: Lousy Father
1 point

i believe if you have a lousy father, one of two things could happen depending on yourself and how you view things. First, you could grow up to be no better than him, following his footsteps, making the same mistakes. The second however, is the opposite, you grow up, see his mistakes, learn from them, and you become the better man. I have personally learned that from my brother. I watched him grow up, and i saw all of his mistakes he made when he was younger, smoking, sneaking out, doing drugs, getting arrested for stupid things and more. I made it my personal goal to never do the things he did, to never smoke, do drugs, or get into the trouble like him. So i say it's all depending on your attitude towards it. In the end every kid needs a father, near or far, real or just some type of father figure.

Side: Lousy Father
1 point

I think it is better to have a lousy father than to not have one at all. But I also think it is different for boys and girls. A boy has to have someone they want to grow up and be like or, in some cases, someone they don't want to be like. So for boys if they have a good father then they want to grow up and be like them, but if they have a lousy father they no that the need to work hard not to be like them and try and be better than their father. Girls on the other hand don't look up to their dads the way that guys do. They don't want to grow up and be like their fathers, they want to be independent in most cases and do their own thing.

Side: Lousy Father
1 point

I feel neutral in this argument, but in the end I would probably choose having a lousy father other than having no father at all. There are thousand's of men having a lousy father that have succeeded in life. Succeeded in not being like their father. In a way someone could use their lousy father as an example of what not to be in the future. So either way your father teaches you something, you may not understand it at a young age, but its there. If you had no father, then who would you look up to? Who would you have to set examples? Both bad and good examples. Having a lousy father could teach you what not to be, teach you to become a better man thus a better father. They even made up a bad name for being fatherless!

Side: Lousy Father
1 point

From my view of point I think is better to have a lousy father than none. No matter what he is your father; you wouldn’t be standing here if it wasn’t because of him. The reason why they are lousy is because they want the best for you, and they have probably went through things that you are about to go through they just want to help out. When you’ll need someone you know there is going to be someone there for you. A father is the best thing you can have in the world. Even though a lot of them make mistakes they can change. By blaming stuff on you that you didn't even do.Besides that you should love your dad no matter what through the bad and good times.

Side: Lousy Father
1 point

I would want a lousy father. No matter how lousy he may be he's still alive and is the person who brought you into the world and took care of you when you where a young one. Lousiness isn't as bad as not having a father I mean would you like to think about your father because he's dead. Death takes away lots of things. I mean when your dad is around you think to yourself yea I can live without him but you don't want to be the one that says my father died when everyone else is speaking about how good there father is or how lousy he is.

Side: Lousy Father
1 point

I Believe that its better to have a lously father than no father; because growing up being fatherless would have a major impact on your childhood.Meaning, wondering about who your father was and what he was lousy at or good at. Also growing up without a lously father would mean you cant prove to your father that there is greatness in him; meaning the son he made turns out to become a bright and better person in society.

Side: Lousy Father
1 point

I would much rather have a lousy father that a be fatherless because every dad out there is lousy in their own kind of way. I don't always agree with my dad, we don't always get along, and sometimes, when he gets home from work, he just sits on the couch, watching tv, and waits for my mom to make him food. Thats pretty lousy to me, but at the end of it all, I love him and I don't know what I would do without him. Yeah, he'll get on my nerves sometimes, but he's lived longer than me which makes him wiser in so many different ways.

Side: Lousy Father
1 point

Its better to have a lousy father then not have one at all. Even if you have a lousy father you can still learn from him. You can tell yourself, "I'm not going to be like him, I'm going to be better". Even if you have a lousy father his going to love you no matter what.

Side: Lousy Father

I would have to choose a lousy father. I think having a father figure around even though he might not do much for you or the family is better than none. A father to me plays a huge role in a childs life he keeps thing stable throughout your childhood. My father is pretty lousy but he does support me and helps out sometimes I would rather have a father than none.

Side: Lousy Father
1 point

I am stuck in between, I think that in most ways it is better to have a lousy father than to not have one at all. Fathers have a very big influence on their child's life, and if you don't have one at all, then in most cases kid's suffer because of that, but then again if you have a lousy father they are giving the child a bad influence.

But all together I would say that I would rather have my dad around even if he were lousy.

Side: Lousy Father
1 point

I think it's better to have a lousy father then fatherless, because a father just being in the childs life has a huge impact on the child. Without a father, the child will not feel secure in a certain sense. Of course, mothers give that feeling, but fathers give it in another way. A girl for example, girls who have fathers are less careless then girls without. To me, I see girl's who don't have fathers grow up a hard life. Boys, they probably feel like they have to take on the fatherly responsiblity as they get older. Which shouldn't be the case.

Side: Lousy Father
1 point

Having a father who is lousy is to me by all means better than having no father at all. I mean if you look at life without a father, your mother would have to work two jobs to make ends meet, and you would have no one to help you work, teach you how to fix a car, etc. Having a father who is lousy is better since he will work and help support you and your mother. He may not seem like the father you want but at least sometimes he is there for you and besides, everything he does wrong can be improved by you, making you a better father than he was.

Side: Lousy Father
1 point

I think is better to have a lousy Father than to be Fatherless, maybe having one is not that bad, other than living with the idea you didn't had one or with the doubt of how could it be to have one.

Side: Lousy Father
1 point

Let me shed my two cents on the situation. I would rather have a lousy father that is at least in some way still involved in my life, than be a bastard child with no sense of direction and nobody to call father. I believe if your father is lousy in some things he will shine in others. Nobody is perfect and I believe that there is hope for lousy fathers all over this world. Just because your father is lousy it does not mean that he doesn't love you or care for you. We see that many times in society but in the end a father will be there for you when you really need him. Plus, if you have no father who will you celebrate father's day with?

Side: Lousy Father
1 point

I think that it better to have a lousy father rather than to be fatherless. If you have a father figure at the least you would have some influence in your life. You can use it as a positive and use it as an example for you to be a better father. I believe if your are fatherless you have you mom only to help you, if you have a lousy father you would have two peoples opinions, even though your fathers lousy and sucks he may be able to provide some sort of help to you. I don't know anything about being fatherless or having a lousy father, my dad has always been here for me since I live with him, but if I did not have him I really don't know where i would be.

Side: Lousy Father
1 point

It would be better to have a lousy father than to not a have a father at all. If you were to grow up with out a father you would always have that empty void feeling about it. And if your father is lousy it helps you strive to be better than him. It could also cause you to start being responsible faster because the father isn't taking care of business. Like me and my brother, my father is lousy but I'm still happy i know who he is. Just because i cant imagine wondering about it.

Side: Lousy Father
1 point

I believe that is it better to have a lousy father than it is to be fatherless. I know from personal experience how it is to have a lousy father and no matter how much I dislike him sometimes for the things he does and doesn't do, he is still my dad and when I was younger and needed to be nurtured more so than I do now I needed him in my life. Without him I wouldn't be the person I am today, I wouldn't be able to better myself so that I don't become a lousy parent like he has. If I hadn't had a father at all, how would I know what to look for in a man so that I may find one who will be a worthwhile father to my children?

With out him I might make the decision of marrying or raising my child with someone who isn't going to actually help me raise them. Yes it may be a little harder on the mother having to support one more person, but her child will develop differently than one who lived in a household who had no father. It might shape how they show their emotions. They might be more in touch with some different or less than someone who had a father, even if he was a lousy father.

I always say it is better to have loved and lost, than to have not loved at all. No matter how lousy my father is, I still love him and that will never change.

Side: Lousy Father
1 point

I would rather have a lousy father than being fatherless because I would at least have the tranquility of knowing who my father is than spending my whole life wondering who he was. If I was to grow up fatherless I would grow with an emptiness in me. I would prefer growing up with a lousy father and learn from his mistakes than not having a father at all.

Side: Lousy Father
1 point

I would rather have a lousy father than being fatherless because I would at least have the tranquility of knowing who my father is than spending my whole life wondering who he was. If I was to grow up fatherless I would grow with an emptiness in me. I would prefer growing up with a lousy father and learn from his mistakes than not having a father at all.

Side: Lousy Father
1 point

I think being a lousy father is better because even if your father is a lousy dad at least he is there and you see him on a daily basses even though he is lousy. If he is there it really is a big difference on you life. I no that if you were fatherless it might be different. Especially if your a female, girls need that comfort from her father. Boys also because if you are fatherless and your a guy you are going to be that fatherly comfort because if there not there then the guy might think that they have to take the role of being the man of the house hold. Then a single mother couldn't do it even if they try because some mothers try to be the mother and the father in there child's life. Thats why I say its better for a father to be there even if he is lousy.

Side: Lousy Father
1 point

To my knowledge people are able to change and make themselves better people. I would much rather have the hope that my father could be a good father, than know that I will never meet him. I would be too curious as to what kind of father he could of been.

Side: Lousy Father
1 point

I feel like it's better to have a lousy father than to not have one at all. If someone is bad at something, it means that there's always a possibility that one day they may be good at it. To be fatherless, there's not even a chance of having a good father. So to have a lousy father would be better.

Side: Lousy Father
1 point

I say lousy, if by lousy you mean unemployed, distant, detached, overworked, unavailable, lazy, unintelligent, boring, uneducated, and other non-criminal versions of a bad dad.

However, if pops is a drug dealer, murderer, rapist, etc... Be satisfied with being alive and not knowing the sperm donor.

Side: Lousy Father
1 point

It is better to have a lousy father because; when it comes to a father he is not only a provider but also a protector.

Almost every father is lousy, because they go out and work without giving much time to their children. Some children grow up without a father thinking that they had a father, in any shape or form.

Side: Lousy Father

"Is it better to have a lousy father or to be fatherless?". My support is for "Lousy Father". I chose this answer not because I have a lousy father, but because I believe that not having a father at all is harder on a person than having a lousy father. Someone I know has no father. She has her own family. I know about how she knew my biological mother, grandmother, and the rest of the family on my mother's side. I don't know how it feels to not have a father, but I do know that I will be feeling that my father is giving lousy decisions about certain things. However, this is just my opinion on my father. What matters is that people who have no father feel pain when they think or talk about the matter.

Side: Lousy Father
0 points

I think it would be better to have a lousy father because atleast you have someone there. Just because a father is lousy doesn't mean you can't change that. Maybe you could knock some sense into him and he would come around and be a good father. The fact that you would never even get a chance to know your father makes me believe that having a lousy father is better than no father.

Side: Lousy Father
moosh2009(11) Disputed
2 points

Some people are not capable of change. I know from experience. YOu can try to knock some sense into him, but it doesn't always work. I guess everyone's different. From my experiences I would rather not have a father, but from yours you would want one. Everyone is different, and not everything works for everyone.

Side: Fatherless
hLozano(10) Disputed
1 point

In real life not all people change and I have seen that around family members and friends. With out a father there is always going to be a chance that another male will step into your life and be a fatherly figure to you. They probably wont try to become one but I bet you would follow into their steps and model your self after that person. Now this isnt the case for everyone but more then likely either your mother will find someone new or an uncle can step in to guide you through. That sure beats having a father who doesnt care.

Side: Fatherless
0 points

Even though your father might not be the best or always there for you he is still your father. Every father has a certain connection with there children and thats what shapes and molds a son or daughters character and personality. I believe our parents play a major role in determining who we are even if they are lousy they are still our kin.

Side: Lousy Father
0 points

To have a father is better than to not have one at all. I know that a lousy father is very bad to have and he probaly wont do all the things that a good father would do, but at least yo have that assurance that you have someone that is a father in your life. I beileve that people can change. You can never feel the same way about somebody for your whole life. There will come a time in his life that he will realize that he needs to be there for you. You have no father, then you have no chance of that at all.

Side: Lousy Father
3 points

I believe that every boy looks up to an older man, mostly their fathers. Even though it means not having a father to look up to, I'd rather have no father than to have a lousy father. Life moves on, one might wonder who their father is but I wouldn't want to live in a household with a father who has no job, who sits on the couch all day, who is an alcoholic and one who basically has no life. Being fatherless doesn't mean one can't have someone to look up to, they can have a father figure, such as their uncle, their grandpa or their best friend's father. I'd rather not know who my father is than to be ashamed of him.

Side: Fatherless
2 points

I personally feel that it is better to be fatherless, rather than having a lousy father. I personally know what it is like . My father was very lousy. The last time I saw him was when I was thirteen, and i havn't heard from him since. It doesn't bother me because I don't know him, and because he's not around I am never set up for any disapointment. So I think that to be fatherless is much better.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

I feel that with either case it sucks but fatherless would be better because you could pick a good person to be your father figure. If you have no father then a person can always fill the shoes of that father and can give you some one to look up to. With a lousy father you are stuck with a lousy figure to look up to and it may cause girls to have a higher risk of dating lousy guys and guys have a higher risk of growing up to be a lousy father. Though in a fatherless case you may always wonder about what ifs but at least you have a good person to look up to. Any one can be a father bu not everyone can be a dad!

Side: Fatherless
johlopez2(3) Disputed
0 points

It's never the same. Trust me, I've been through it.

Side: Lousy Father
1 point

I think if he don't want to be in my life why should I be in his. I just wouldn't want a daddy that don't care about me at all. If he was a good a good father and not a lousy one I would've never picked this side. I just think all of these lame old crazy dad's that don't have nothing better to do with their time. They should just pick up the phone and call and see how their child is doing in life. I'm just mad because I didn't have a father figure coming up as a child and it is very hard trying to get threw life without him. I wish him the best of luck with his life because he out of mine for good.

Side: Fatherless
johlopez2(3) Disputed
0 points

That isn't always the case though. They could be looking for you while your sitting there being angry at the fact that you think he isn't even there.

Side: Lousy Father
ambreezy(10) Disputed
0 points

Yes, it is because I don't sit around waiting for him to call me I call him every week he got my number. So if he tried to contact me he would've did it a long time ago. Im not angry that he doesn't call me as long as I got my mama Im good.

Side: Fatherless
kemstephens(9) Disputed
0 points

Man I really feel where you coming from because my daddy is just the same..but just keep your head up and he will come to his right state of mind one day....

Side: Fatherless
1 point

I think it would be better fatherless the reason why is because i have never had a father in my life. I think that if you have a lousy father you will be taught to be lousy just like him. Parents are supposed to be setting examples for their kids, not just be lazy and that type of thing. Whats the point of having a bum for a father your whole life? you are not going to learn anything from him so why keep him? I feel like a mother can raise a son the same as a father can, well at least my mother did.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

In my opinion it is better off to be fatherless because if you have a lousy father that doesn't work or do anything for you then how is that helping you be a better person and make something of yourself? It's not. I never have met my father and that doesn't bother me, yea sometimes I wonder what it would be like to be that "Daddy's little girl", but not having a father has only made a stronger person. I have other men in my family who I would consider to be a father figure to me like for example my grandpa. Having a lousy father might as well be the same as not having one I think.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

As much as it hurts now to have one, I would have to say that I would rather have a lousy dad, instead of no dad at all, but some dads are so lousy that it is just the same as not having a father. Growing up for twelve years barely seeing my dad, having my father break promises consecutively, telling me he loves me, but then turns around and does almost any and everything to make me feel as if he could care less, and above all putting other children before his own. I know my dad cares for me and loves me, but the way he shows it is so hurtful. Some dads use the excuse that they don’t know what to do or they are doing the best they can. Well I say, IF LETTING OR SHOWING YOUR CHILD THAT YOU LOVE THEM EVERY DAY IS HARD, THEN WHY IN THE WORLD DID YOU HELP CONCIEVE ME? If a dad doesn’t have a job, does nothing throughout the day, then why is it so hard for him to pick up a phone call and just say hey I was thinking about you, wanted to check on you, or just wanted to let you know to have a good day? Why can’t he attend one school function or performance you have? Using the excuse, “Oh I don’t have any money, or a ride”, oh it is so unacceptable. If it’s free what’s stopping you? I’m pretty sure someone else is going to see the child perform even the mother. How hard is it to make an attempt to ask for a ride, at least then the child will know you tried. The thing that gets me though, is lousy dads seem think they do nothing wrong, but when another man, or step dad comes into the scene they get upset, because it seems like the child is loving that man even more. Think about it, if this new man is coming, showing love to the child, being there for the child, showing the up most support and respect to the child, then what would you expect? The bible says to love thy enemies, and one of the commandments is to honor thy mother and thy father, but there is also a saying that goes, “It is best to forgive, but that doesn’t me to forget”.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

I have a great father and if I was to have a lousy father I would rather not have one at all. Your father is supposed to be there when you need him and be a role model who teaches you important things. If you have a lousy parent then most likely you will be one too. You can learn more on you own than next to a person that does not teach you anything. In situations like this you are better all by yourself.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

personally i think being fatherless and having a lousy one is the same because i grow up not knowing my father and then he popped up in my life and said he was going to go to the fair or take us out to eat but i learn he is lousy and now i just think its better not to now him and that it would be the same as if he was in my life. he still be lousy and not doing anything for me and my brother.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

I believe growing up knowing you had no one to admire and look up to is better than following the example of a lousy dad. I mean some one who isn't their to show you right from wrong is the same as having a bad father, but at least you don't have a bad influence around you all the time just smoking, drinking, cursing, being lazy, and selfish. I mean people will always wonder about there dad and that he is gone but its better to wonder than be disappointed all the time coming home to a lazy, selfish dad who you aren't sure if he really cares. Life without a father would be the same as having a good one, since you will always find some one to look up to, just like others will help you through life such as the rest of your family.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

I think it is better to be fatherless because a lousy father cannot do anything for the family.Imagine a father who is alcoholic and beats your mother, then you have no meaning of having a father.He creates violance and terror in the house and you alawys feel ashame to call him a father. It is better to be fatherless than to have a father who gives you a hard time.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

When I think of a lousy father, I think of a father that really has no feelings for his child and trully doesnt care about them, I think of a father that puts his own needs before the needs of his child, and spends most of his time neglecting the son because he is off pursing his own goals.

With that in mind I believe that it would be better to not have a father at all than to have a father that acted in this manner simply because I believe there will be nothing good that comes from a relationship like that except negativity and animosity. All the (good times) that a normal father and son would share are instead replaced with regret and anger. It would be better for a persons character development to never have to put up with all those negative situations. Besides that you can't miss what you never had.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

It is better to be fatherless than to have a father because than if you did have the father and he never really did, or help you in any way, you would hate him forever. While being fatherless you have the liberty to think if he was alive he would do this for me, expect this out of me, this would be something he would be proud of, and you might end up doing as you think he wants.

Other wise you might see his face and he might be watching television and you look at him in disgust, ad say thing like you are you my father? What wrong have I done to you that you treat me this way? You are always here and yet you do nothing for anyone but yourself.

It would be better than to be fatherless that way you are able to say this is what he would do for us.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

Take it from someone who has dealt with that type of situation. I have a lousy father and by lousy I mean destructive, ill behaved, reckless, nonchalant, and not in my life. I already live my life as if he were dead and I feel that if someone is not benefiting your personal or mental status and self-progression, then why have them around? I think that if you have a lousy father in your life that you are letting him take a toll on your future in a negative way that I, myself, wouldn't let him get the satisfaction.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

I think it's better to be fatherless because having someone to look up to, I'd rather choose no father than having a uncaring and lousy father there to be a stain in my life. I wouldn't look up to him and he doesn't necessarily have to be the fatherly figure I have to look up to.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

I would rather be fatherless, why would i want a lousy father? Yeah it's hard growing up without a father but that's why we have our mother's. They say we need a father figure to look up to but we really don't. Why would I want to look up to a father that's setting a bad example for me. My mom is a hard working women and if my step dad wasn't in the picture I know she would do anything for me and my sister. So I believe it's a lot better to be fatherless then to have to deal with a lousy father that's just setting a bad example to his kids.

Side: Fatherless

I believe that it would be better to be fatherless than to have a lousy father. A father is someone you look up to; in a girl they ususally marry a man like their father, and in a guy they act like their father. When the example of what the "man of the house" is lousy then one becomes capable of believing it is fine for a man to act that way. On the other hand, when a person's father has passed, they can live their life with him in mind, trying to make him proud. One can also have the opportunity to delevope an even stronger bond between their mother and themself. Sometimes when something is missing in a person's life they want it even more, and perhaps it will only make them become a better father or marry a man who will be a great father.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

Well, this is not an easy question to answer because both are kind of the same to me. But i would have to say fatherless because i'd rather have no man in my life than have somebody that isn't concerned about your life at all. To me that kind of is like being fatherless. I can always find another father figure or not even as much as a father figure, more like a male role model.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

I would rather be fatherless than to have a lousy father. I would want a good role model to look up to and to talk to. Not someone who is never there.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

This is just my opinion, but I think it would be better to be fatherless than to have a lousy father. I mean i was always tought that a true man should be someone respectable, honest, nd hard working, if he's not a that kind of man then he doesn't deserve to be a father in the first place. Besides just because you don't have a father that doesn't mean you can't have aa father figuer in you life.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

In my opinion it is better to be fatherless then to have a lousy father. I say this because if you have a lousy father than you have to deal with him and be ashamed of him. You would have to go day by day and know he is never going to be anything special, especially for you. But if you don’t have a father you can always look up to someone else for that father figure.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

I have to side with being fatherless because if you have a lousy father then he isn't there for you when you need him, so whats the point in him being there? Yes, it sucks not knowing who your father is but life does move on. My dad left my mom before i was born, so I do know what its like to be fatherless and my life has moved along just fine and to me he is dead because he has never been there or even tried to be there. A lousy father would be a bad influence on your life and you would most likely end up being just like him. We already have enough bad influences in our lives, we don't need another one.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

I rather be fatherless then having a lousy father because of this is that I wouldn't want to know how lousy he is and how bad he is of being a father. Being alone with just a mother is fine with me. It's just how I am. I wouldn't want to have a alcohlic father who drinks on the couch all day and curses my mother. It's just plain and simple, I have a good father or don't have a father at all even though he his still in the house, I wouldn't call him my father at all.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

As a young boy you grow hoping and that they have a father figure in there life to be there when he is needed. The last thing they need is someone who lives with you and doesn't do anything to help you learn the ways of life and answer questions you may need to know for life. As a young man it is important that you have someone in your life to support you and push you to be successful in life.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

Being fatherless would ensure that the only heartaches you have from him are his absence, and not knowing what he was like. A lousy father could come in gain your trust, and walk out on you. Some would like to believe that just knowing your father is there is enough. To me having a father who does nothing is in itself an absence because either way he knows nothing about you, and you nothing about him. I would rather him never exist than come in and out of my life.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

Being fatherless would ensure that the only heartaches you have from him are his absence, and not knowing what he was like. A lousy father could come in gain your trust, and walk out on you. Some would like to believe that just knowing your father is there is enough. To me having a father who does nothing is in itself an absence because either way he knows nothing about you, and you nothing about him. I would rather him never exist than come in and out of my life.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

My point of view of the question is very diffcult because I didn't grow up with my pops, and I went through some pretty lousy step dads in my past. So I really wouldn't know, but I think that having a guy in your dads place is still a good thing but at a very young age because there is always family drama when you are growing up. Just don't have a lousy father because they aren't even good enough to be in that spot to teach you how to be an adult yourself, and having a step dad is a little more decent because you wouldn't want your mom to be lonely and it would keep the family a little stable, becacause no family is PERFECT: Yeah I'm not really answering your question, but you know where I'm going with this.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

Being fatherless would ensure that the only heartaches you have from him are his absence, and not knowing what he was like. A lousy father could come in gain your trust, and walk out on you. Some would like to believe that just knowing your father is there is enough. To me having a father who does nothing is in itself an absence because either way he knows nothing about you, and you nothing about him. I would rather him never exist than come in and out of my life.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

Being fatherless would ensure that the only heartaches you have from him are his absence, and not knowing what he was like. A lousy father could come in gain your trust, and walk out on you. Some would like to believe that just knowing your father is there is enough. To me having a father who does nothing is in itself an absence because either way he knows nothing about you, and you nothing about him. I would rather him never exist than come in and out of my life.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

Id rather be fatherless than to have a lousy father. Having a lousy father who tires to tell me what to but doesn't do anything with his life would just make me mad. Id rather be raised by my mother who is caring, loving, and actually does something with her life and works everyday to make money to put food on the table.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

I would rather be father less it might sound bad but I dont want to think of my father as a lousy one. I would love my dad but it just wouldn't be the same if you had a bad father that just keep bringing you problems. You dont have to have a father you can talk to someone else. Maybe its just because I am girl it would be easier for me to talk to my mother.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

I think in any case its better to have no father then to have a lousy father either way you still lose. When you have a father you want him to be the best he can be so you can learn from him as you grow up. If you were to have a lousy father then whats the point of having a father at all if he's just going to be lousy and he wouldn't teach you anything. It's always better to have a respectable father figure in your life then to have a lousy father figure.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

I think in any case its better to have no father then to have a lousy father either way you still lose. When you have a father you want him to be the best he can be so you can learn from him as you grow up. If you were to have a lousy father then whats the point of having a father at all if he's just going to be lousy and he wouldn't teach you anything. It's always better to have a respectable father figure in your life then to have a lousy father figure.

Side: Fatherless

It really sucks not having a man to look up to while your growing up. I believe that being fatherless is better then having a lousy father. The reason I believe this is the best is because you dont want to be looking up to a guy that does nothing in life and its just setting bad examples. Who knows you might grow up following his steps. So being fatherless is better because from day one you start depending on your own with no need of a father being there. And theres always going to be other people by your side helping you get through life.

Side: Fatherless

I personally feel that it is better to be fatherless, rather than having a lousy father. I personally know what it is like . My father was very lousy. The last time I saw him was when I was thirteen, and i havn't heard from him since. It doesn't bother me because I don't know him, and because he's not around I am never set up for any disapointment. So I think that to be fatherless is much better.

Side: Fatherless

Honestly, I'd rather be completely fatherless, not saying that not having is better than having one, albeit a lousy one. However, I do believe that you can grow up completely fatherless and without any major male role model and still be successful. Take myself for example; I lived the first thirteen years of my life without a father or any fatherly interaction, and those were the essential times a kid needed to be around his/her father, I turned out great(Self-opinion). So yes, as opposed to having a lousy father that would rub off on me and mold me into half a man, I would much rather being fatherless.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

A father is someone is always their for you. He's the one that teaches you how to throw a baseball, and comes to all of you baseball games. A father is someone that protects you from all the evils of the world. But if our father is someone that doesn't care about you and spends most of his time in his room, then how can you trust that man to protect you. A lousy father is someone that is someone that you have a hard time trusting. I would rather have no father, then a father that I cant even trust my life with.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

I think it would be better to be fatherless then to have a lousy father in my life, if I had a father and he was lousy then what good is he doing in my life I wouldn’t need him. I would want a father you will take me places, pay attention to me, and not someone who sits around doing nothing.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

This argument could go both ways but I would have to agree with being fatherless because to me a lousy father is a father who is never there when you need him to be there or, he is never there to listen to what you have to say that's why being fatherless is better in my opinion because you can imagine your father to be whatever you want him to be and, it makes you a better person and a better father.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

I would rather not have a father at all then be ashamed of his name because a father is someone you look up to and is someone you want to eventually be. Even without a father you can have someone decent to look up to, and a father figure that cares about you. I would hate to have the name of a man who is considered a parasite to society because people are going to judge you because you have your fathers’ name. Besides why would you desire to have a father that doesn’t care for you in any way? I would rather have a father that died before my birth then have a sperm donor, father that doesn’t care about me.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

I really couldn't say which is worst. Because in a way I have experience both, my father died when I was fourteen. Im not going to lie and say he was father of the year because he was far from it. There was many times were I wonder why did he even have kids. But when a person passes for some reason you begin to see all the good that indivual has done for you. This brief moment of realization didn't hit until I played the best football game of my career. I got home sat in my bed an was about to call him to brag like i usually did after I did good an remmebered he was no longer there. So IM stuck in the middle.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

I believe that every child looks up to their father to be a role model, a mentor, and a guide. Although that might mean that you will not have a father to look up to, I would rather have no father than to have a lousy father. I would not want to live in a house with a father that doesn’t have a job, does nothing to provide for his family, and just sits at home being a bum. Being fatherless doesn’t have to mean that someone can’t take that “father figure” place in your life; you could have an uncle, grandfather, best friend’s dad, or just a close personal friend. I know in my life, I have never had a father. I haven’t seen or heard from my father since I was about 2 years old because he didn’t want me as a baby. It does bother me almost every single day, but I get to thinking that if he didn’t want me in his life, then I don’t know if I would want him in mine. I do have best friend’s dad and uncles that have taken over as a “father figure,” but I think I would be more at peace if it was my own dad. I do believe that I would rather be fatherless than have a lousy dad in my life. I know it is a hard thing to deal with, but I would rather have no father than to have a dad that doesn’t care about anything.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

Right Now, In My opinion to be fatherless. Trust me I Went through it. Sometimes I wish I Had a Lousy Father but Yet Not having A Father is so much better. It's been Eighteen Years since I've seen my Father but if he doesn't care then why should I? If he wanted to be in My life he could've been in my life. But being Fatherless is not bad because I have My Mother and To me that's My Father. I would rather have a Father who want to pay attention to me and actually be supportive of me.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

I think both being fatherless and having lousy father is depressing. But for me i will prefer to be fatherless, because at least you know that being fatherless is a good reason for a father not to be around. It would hurt me the most if i had a lousy father and not to care about me. In this case i am in the middle of this two choices, that is because i have a father but he is not here in this country, i understand him because he left back to our country for a great reason. But i still need him here to support me.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

Having a lousy father does not just leaves bumps, scrapes and scars externally. The damage goes much deeper. During those vital years of childhood having a bad dad isn't something that one forgets easily. Not only does it alter self confidence and self worth, it can covertly brand those bad habits in the mind of the child. The characteristics of an unfit parent are poisonous. I believe that it is better to be fatherless, rather than have a lousy father. Yes, it will take much effort to fill the shoes of the missing party, but it can and should be done.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

Me personaly, I would have to say fatherless. And it is easy for me to say that because i havent had mi father in my life never{none,zero,zip,nodda}. The only person i have had to count on is my mother.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

I believe that it would be better to be fatherless then to have a lousy father that just sits on his butt and does nothing. I mean, I have a father but all he does is go to work, go to the beer store and gets drunk every night of the week accept sunday because thats his day to relax. he thinks that he does every thing, but he does'nt because he's just a lazy good for nothing drunk. He does'nt care if he drinks even though he has diabetes and he also has high blood pressure. he could die at any second, but he doesnt care even when me and my mom tell him to quit. not that many people knows what it feels like to have a worthless father. I do and it sucks, so I would rather be fatherless than have one that doesnt care about anyone but their oun happiness before there family.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

I would support the fact of being fatherless then having a lousy father. Fathers most likely are supposed to be the provider for the household and solve the problems that comes in hand because his like the alpha male but if your lousy then what point is it for you to have around. Kids look towards their father as an example of how to be a man and to have responsibility's over the actions they make. so why not be fatherless when having a lousy father is the same thing.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

I would rather be “fatherless” then having a “lousy father”, because a “father” is supposed to be the man of the house and set a good example so the rest of the family can look up to him. So if I look up at a lousy father I might then be a lousy person, but if I had no father then I’ll set the standards for my own self and step up and be the man of the house especially if I had younger brothers or sisters.

Side: Fatherless

Children have two role models; mom and dad. Parents affect their child's behavior and personality so if that relationship is damaged then the child's character can be damaged as well. I would prefer to be fatherless because the damage of a lousy father would scar my personality far greater than being fatherless.

Side: Lousy Father
0 points

People can say whatever they want, and throw out their opinions, but they will not truly know until they have been through the experience. I believe it is better to be fatherless than to have a lousy father. When you have a lousy father than you are hurt by him. You can not be hurt by something that is not there. You may wish you had a father, but you will be hurt more if you have one that is lousy and hurtful and doesn't care. It will make your life a lot harder. And, usually if you don't have a father than a man in your life will step and up and sort of play the fatherly figure.

Side: Fatherless
1 point

It is a lot better to be fatherless than have a lousy father. If you don't have a father he can't hurt you. Because to have a father who knows where you live and knows your phone number but never calls or comes by has to hurt. For example, my daughter's dad loves her but he acts like he doesn't have the time of day for her. He blows her off as if she is not there. Although you have to ask yourself questions like If he really cared wouldn't he pay attention to her. Wouldn't he acknowledge that she was there every time he saw her.

Side: Fatherless
bethany09(25) Disputed
-1 points

I think that the biggest hurt you can have is from someone not being there at all....

Side: Lousy Father
0 points

I agree with that. You wouldn't want to have that eating you up inside with someone not there to support you.

Side: Lousy Father
tariqsamira(21) Disputed
0 points

Having a dad who doesn't give you the time of day is pretty much not being there at all.

Side: Fatherless
0 points

In my opinion, I believe it is better to be fatherless then to have a lousy father. I wouldnt know how it feel to have a lousy father but I have friends that there fathers are always drunk and never do anything to help them. They sometimes tell me they wish there dad wasn't around. Now if my dad was like that I would think the same because at least by not having a father you wouldnt know how it feels to be dissapointed by a father.

Side: Fatherless
0 points

I think if i had a dad that did nothing for me i wouldnt want him around because odds are you and him arent going to be talking 5 years down the line anyway, so why try and make it work out if you already know what the outcome is.

Side: Fatherless
0 points

I rather be fatherless to be honest with you. You might as well say im fatherless even though I have a father but he wasn't there. Having a lousy father is kind of like you being fatherless. Like really what are they there for if he not doing anything to benefit you but just being mean and hurtful toward you. Being fatherless is better because you wouldn't have some man there treating you wrong and being hurtful to you. Its a shame knowing that you have 4 kids out there but you can never pick up the phone and call to see how your kids doing. Thinking about it really makes me mad because my birthday just passed and he couldn't even call to tell me Happy Birthday. Why have kids if you not going to be there for them. Even though my father isn't there for me I still love him but I rather be fatherless....

Side: Fatherless
0 points

I believe that both are bad but I would rather go fatherless. What is the point of having someone in your life that is lousy? A father should set a good example for their children. If the dad is lousy then he is teaching his kids that it is okay to be that way and not do anything with their life. If I got married and my husband was a lousy father, I would tell him he better step up and be the dad I know he can be or get out the house a never come back.

Side: Fatherless
0 points

Although being fatherless is probably one of the biggest hardships, undesired by all. I would rather be fatherless, than to have to deal with someone who on a daily basis would frustrate me. At least when you have no knowledge of a father, you only ponder on it from time to time. On the other hand, a lousy father would be with you in your thoughts forever.

Side: Fatherless
kenblack(25) Disputed
1 point

i would have to disagree with your statement. frustrating or not your dad will die someday leaving you fatherless anyways so why not be frustrated for the rest of his llife and go through your life they way god planed it, frusterteddadonitism.

Side: Lousy Father
nfreshour09(1) Disputed
0 points

I have a great father and he frustrates me everyday, no matter what your parents are going to frustrate you.

Side: Lousy Father
0 points

It’s somewhat easier to be fatherless rather than have a lousy father.

Eventually one can get used to not having a father around (physically or just spiritually and emotionally). The child may suffer temporarily, but hopefully not for a prolonged period of time since they can eventually learn to become independent and take care of themselves.

A lousy father will not only not benefit, but also hinders the growth of his child, because unlike the absent father, he is around, but gets in the way of what is best for the child.

Side: Fatherless
0 points

I rather be fatherless then have a lousy father. In both cases you really don’t have a father but as a fatherless kid its better because you don’t get judged for your dad’s decisions or actions. Plus you don’t get to look at the disgrace of a so called father every single day of your life till you can’t look at him any longer. Either way you look at it you’re fatherless no matter what.

Side: Fatherless
0 points

As much as it hurts now to have one, I would have to say that I would rather have a lousy dad, instead of no dad at all, but some dads are so lousy that it is just the same as not having a father. Growing up for twelve years barely seeing my dad, having my father break promises consecutively, telling me he loves me, but then turns around and does almost any and everything to make me feel as if he could care less, and above all putting other children before his own. I know my dad cares for me and loves me, but the way he shows it is so hurtful. Some dads use the excuse that they don’t know what to do or they are doing the best they can. Well I say, IF LETTING OR SHOWING YOUR CHILD THAT YOU LOVE THEM EVERY DAY IS HARD, THEN WHY IN THE WORLD DID YOU HELP CONCIEVE ME? If a dad doesn’t have a job, does nothing throughout the day, then why is it so hard for him to pick up a phone call and just say hey I was thinking about you, wanted to check on you, or just wanted to let you know to have a good day? Why can’t he attend one school function or performance you have? Using the excuse, “Oh I don’t have any money, or a ride”, oh it is so unacceptable. If it’s free what’s stopping you? I’m pretty sure someone else is going to see the child perform even the mother. How hard is it to make an attempt to ask for a ride, at least then the child will know you tried. The thing that gets me though, is lousy dads seem think they do nothing wrong, but when another man, or step dad comes into the scene they get upset, because it seems like the child is loving that man even more. Think about it, if this new man is coming, showing love to the child, being there for the child, showing the up most support and respect to the child, then what would you expect? The bible says to love thy enemies, and one of the commandments is to honor thy mother and thy father, but there is also a saying that goes, “It is best to forgive, but that doesn’t me to forget”.

Side: Fatherless
0 points

It's better to be fatherless. Having a lousy father creates a bigger gap in your life than being fatherless. It is a proven fact that if you're a girl, you'll look for someone to be your other half that's similar to your father. Having a lousy father, for a girl, would mean having a lousy boyfriend as well. By having no father you don't have to worry about how terrible they are and all you have to do is ponder how amazing your dad could have been. Wondering what could have been is better than wondering how much better it could be.

Side: Fatherless
0 points

It can be either way, but I think being fatherless is better than having a lousy father because sometimes they get on your nerve and they make you do things you don't wanna do. But hey that's the way fathers' are. You still have other peoples to look up to even though your dad is not around.

I'm used to being alone with my mom without my dad there because he passed away when I was six. So, I really don't have a favorite side.

Side: Fatherless
0 points

I think it is better to be fatherless rather than having a lousy father.Yes, having a father would be great, but one that would care for you, that would demonstrate with actions what he feels for you, and how much he feels that. It is better to be around people who you know love you, than to live your life knowing that there is a dad wondering around without caring of how you're doing. It would hurt much more knowing that your dad is somewhere around this planet, than knowing that u dont have a father period. A father is that one man that cares for you, from day one, until he or you is no longer there

Side: Fatherless
0 points

I thinks its better if you be a fatherless than a lousy father because your lousy father would give you bad influence. Maybe you might follow your father as he is. But if your a fatherless is gonna be ok but not good either because you might not like being a fatherless. As long as you a lousy father or fatherless so they can encourage you to success in life and also help you correct your msitake that you had made.

Side: Fatherless
0 points

Many people struggle with being fatherless. It is a challenge but it allows them to be tough and dependant on themselves. Being fatherless is hard but when it comes down to it, it is better to be fatherless than to have a lousy father. If you had a lousy father, they teach you the wrong things and don't allow you to expand.

Side: Fatherless
0 points

I would rather be fatherless than have a father that is lousy and does absoultly nothing. Most kids look up to their dads, but if they aren't good fathers, then why have them around. It just means that the kid will want to be lousy like his dad. Besides, you can't miss what you never had.

Side: Fatherless
-2 points