Well, shouldn't your wife be the love of your life in the first place? If she is not, then you are not doing anybody any favors by staying with her. If the relationship has reached the point where you are getting (and giving) all the love to someone else, then all you can do is damage control. If you don't tell her and stay with her, one day she will find out and will probably be forever wounded by the deception on top of the cheating. If you tell her she will be hurt, but at least the deception will have stopped, and she will be able to keep her head high.
148 days ago | Tagged As: It's damage controll
People can do whatever they want, and it's none of my business. I thought it was dumb when everyone cared about Clinton, I thought it was dumb with Edwards, I think it's dumb with this rash of Conservative Bible Bashers, even the gay one. I would love for one of these guys to hold a press conference where all they say is "It's none of your business, no questions, peace out." Then leave. For me, if I had 4 young kids, I'd stay with my wife. If I had 4 old kids, or no kids, then I'd think about it. But I'm not him, I don't know his feelings, his home situation, etc, I mean, it's perfectly possible his wife is a complete bore who won't even suck him off on his b-day and only has sex in the dark once a month with the lights off. You can't expect any man to put up with that. But we don't know. And more, we shouldn't know or care.
148 days ago | Tagged As: Sure
Think of it like abortion. You kinda changed your mind. You realize you could have a better life without her so ..... you abort her ass ;) Alternatively, find the love of your life before you get married.
147 days ago | Tagged As: abort her
Well, I think that if your wife isn't the love of your life, then you should'nt be with her and hurt her any further by seeing someone else.
142 days ago | Tagged As: Sure
A man is perfectly entitled to leave his wife for the love of his life- as long as the wife gets custody of the two (or should it be three?) things the husband gave her on the night after they said “I do”.
143 days ago | Tagged As: Hellz no!
I'm not sure why everyone in the US is obsessed with everyone else's romantic life. Do what makes you happy. Life is short; why be with somebody that you no longer want to be with?
147 days ago | Tagged As: Sure
Because you made a commitment to them. If you have taken time and evaluated any problems, then confirmed that they cannot be fixed adequately, go ahead. But life being short isn't an excuse for hurting someone.
146 days ago | Tagged As: Hellz no!
Sure! Love is what life all about! I would leave my wife if I found a sexier girl
148 days ago | Tagged As: Sure
How fickle can you get? When you married your wife she was the love of your life and all you need is a sexier girl to ruin a marriage and allow you an out?
148 days ago | Tagged As: Hellz no!
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I"m not religious so anything I say has no religious grounds on it. But no, I don't think someone should leave their wife for "the love of your life" because it sounds like bullshit. When you decided to marry your life, don't you think SHE was the "love of your life?" Yea. So basically, if you want to leave your wife, whom you made a life-long vow to, for someone else, you're proving you have no sense of loyalty, no sense of commitment, and zero integrity. And why anyone would choose to be with someone who's leaving their spouse, is pretty retarded. Are they really that blinded by the character the person is flashing in front of their face? Like, the fact he'll probably leave you for "the love of his life" in like 10 years? Geez.
148 days ago | Tagged As: Hellz no!
Your bias isn't religion, it's that you're a newly wed. You have just fallen in love with someone, and committed to them. Luckily with the idea that you'll be with him for the rest of your life. Which is great, that's how too go. But some people do the same thing as you, then fall out of love, and back in love again... with someone else. You can't judge others for how they feel.
148 days ago | Tagged As: Sure
What's the point in getting married then if you can't stick by the vows though? Sure, people fall out of love, and I get it, why bother staying with the person if they make you feel like a loser? But still, a vow is a vow. If someone feels like they'll be inclined to want to cut of commitment ties someday, they should just avoid getting married in the first place. It just pretty much starts to put marriage up in the 'joke' category when people divorce for another person so often. And I may be a newlywed, but I'm actually the type that never wanted to get married because I realize at some point, you'll want to move on from the person for something...saner and happier. And I'm well aware I'm going to go through a lot of unhappiness by being married, but I also believe once you truly love someone, you don't really "fall out of love." Someone leaving their spouse for someone else actually made a conscious to subconscious decision of getting involved with another person when they should not have been. In fact, it's unbelievable disrespectful to the marriage, the spouse, the children (if any), and it's selfish. But really, for people to decide to leave their spouse for someone else as much as people have been doing, perhaps the concept of marriage should be rewritten so that everything I say becomes invalid and leaves more rationality for their ridiculous behavior.
148 days ago | Tagged As: Sure
This is true. It's a simple truth of human nature that people change, and there are two people involved in a marriage (directly; children are indirectly involved as well, but that's a separate issue). After 5 years or more, it is entirely possible that you will have changed sufficiently that your interests in a partner no longer coincide with those at the time of your marriage, and your spouse may also have changed so as to no longer be the person you were interested in at that time. If you're lucky, these changes will cancel each-other out (the person your spouse became is the person you're interested in now), but there's no reason to assume that they will, and certainly nothing wrong with admitting that it's happened. You can't judge others for how they feel. Sure you can. You probably shouldn't, but there's nothing that stops you from doing so.
148 days ago | Tagged As: Sure
I have to disagree. That way of thinking isn't just for the newly wed, its's for the people who have integrity, higher morals and a respect for their partner. This isn't just reserved for the newly wed or estatically happy couples. Long marriages have their ups and downs, times of love and times of hate or indifference for the other person. But its a persons sence of decency that stops them from straying, not how in love they are. When some people say their vows, they stand by them.
122 days ago | Tagged As: Hellz no!
I dont think your decision should be taken on the grounds of a bunch of us strangers giving an abstract argument on the issue. You should think long and hard about it before you do anything Also, if this has happened before with you then the answer is definitely NO, You are more likely to learn something sticking it through
148 days ago | Tagged As: Hellz no!
Cheating is never ok. If a relationship isn't working, break up, live with the pain, and move on. Easier said then done, I know, but cheating is just cowardly.
148 days ago | Tagged As: Hellz no!
Im thinking of leaving my wife im so in love with a girl that makes my day complete. How could i possibly do this. I dont want to hurt my family, I want to be with the girl. Its too complicated for me
I have absolutely no problem with divorcing someone, then finding the "love of your life" or whatever. But divorce shouldn't be taken lightly, and leaving specifically for someone is ignoring the commitment you made and any chance of redeeming the relationship.
146 days ago | Tagged As: Hellz no!
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