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 Is it wrong for kids to cuss? (52)

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Is it wrong for kids to cuss?

Okay so i have come up with a question that bothers me.

I am 14 and yet i wanna know if it is wrong to curse?

I mean i don't do it. Even at school.

I am a  follower of christ.

But since church i never cussed.

So what do you think?

Does it really matter?

-Shelby

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6 points

Blah. What makes "shit" worse than "scat", "fuck" worse than "bone", or "copulate", or "screw", or "dammit"? What makes them curses other than the fact that somebody somewhere in some period of time decided that they didn't like the sound of the word.

1 point

They are as much as a word as the word "god" .

They all have meanings behind them and those meanings all vary.

It all depends on the tone applied , and how we apply it to the word we use , and what we use it for or apply it to.

5 points

There are certain things we hope not to hear out of our children's mouths.

For example it would trouble me more to hear my daughter call someone stupid , than it would to hear her exclaim "bullshit!"

A foul mouth by no means requires the use of taboo words. (have you noticed that?)

I think it's important often times to be willing and able to take the tone of the company you are in, and to be respectful of differing culture, etiquette and custom.

2 points

Exactly as you say Atypican , i agree.

It is not ok to call someone stupid.

The same as calling some one a slut etc is not ok.

Name calling is very different to "cuss" words such as "bullshit" etc.

EG; I would take less offence if someone told me i was behaving in a slutty manner , IN FACT I WOULD REVIEW MYSELF.

However if they called me a slut , i would probably throw a few filthy words back at them , and etc.

It is funny but when certain types are in my company or nearby, i will not swear.Its what i call my "nun" switch....

eg The dear little old lady in the church that day , that day that i cracked, She put an instant stop to that tantrum i threw , had me flee in fear more then god himself. No way could i keep cussing at the "gods" with her prescence upon me.She did not deserve it. So i left.

4 points

PS - Sorry COlorMyWorld (for my outbursts)....................

It is nicer that a lady doesnt swear , but sometimes i cant help it.

You are not a silly girl , you can see for yourself the difference between what is right or wrong.

You may grow to be one of those more delightful swearers.

Someone who never swears , then suddenly out of the blue , it will slip.

And the whole room will stop in its tracks.

Those types of of unexpected cusses from the ones that dont generally swear , always brings a giggle to my belly and a satisfactory smile on my face , as it proves they are human.

3 points

Yep. That's why every kid cusses. Makes 'em a badass.

I did it all the time cause it actually is a cool ting to do.

2 points

YES I AGREE , of course to a degree. That is of course if ive managed to understand you correctly.

Basically if a kid is confronted by some other badass kid , and he does not have the ability to defend himself on at least somewhat of an even level , even as such as just using verbal defense , then the kid could be assumed a wuss and therefor render themselves a further target of ridicule and possibly worse........:)

2 points

Maybe. But you don't have to cuss to humiliate someone - like what i do to you somtimes.

Swearing - especially in public is contraversial. Fact of life. Some people think it's stupid and immature, others think that person's got balls. Either way it depends on the individual how they percieve swearing.

3 points

My god..

Okay, Sorry for causing anything Wrong.

It was simply a question, nothing more.

And i like the answers.

I didn't expect to get so many.

But thanks.

And i agree with the bible verses.

It's only Human to sin?

Cursing is a sin but everyone does it.

God wouldn't Damn us to hell for cursing..

And for man if you believe in god and have faith you still are Christan no matter what the sins you have caused.

-My friends mom told me that. so idk.

:]

3 points

No need to apologize. You didn't do anything wrong. It was a good question that has led to a good discussion.

2 points

I have to agree with jessald that it is a good and an honest question.

Cursing puts you in an angry mind set. If you resist cursing you are basically taking control over your anger, which is a good thing. Like the old man used to say, "The main thing is NOT to get excited."

jessald(1915) Disputed
2 points

No, cursing is the result of an angry mind set. It's a way of expressing that anger.

Repressing anger doesn't make it go away, it just makes it build up. Anger is a motivating force for change. It is a powerful tool to be wielded with care. You shouldn't let it control you, but you should use it when appropriate.

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1 point

My mother-in-law believes the same thing.

She believes to repress anger allows deseases or cancers to begin to grow.

This is why she believes i will never get cancer.

Because , even though i react in a whammy , i react in the moment , not the past of the future.

I do not let it fester for months while denying and disputing anyone who questions my mood , only to take them by suprise when i finally crack about something that has passed.

Although many times ,( i must be honest) , i have indeed gone off half-cocked in the heat of the moment , only to regret it later.

I guess its like how Joes' old man said "The main thing is NOT to get excited."

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Well..., if that was the case, I would have erupted a long time ago ;)

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1 point

I agree with Joe.

I myself have an appalling habit of cussing , but i usually only go off like a trooper if i have the shirty .

However , my children , are fully aware that i do not think it is appropriate social behaviour.

I understand that when kids get togeather (they get silly), unheard by their own parent/carer, sometimes just swear to be cool , or tough , or out of emotion .

(my kids are no exception.)

However , my kids will not swear at me , to me , but if they are relaying word for word , what someone has said to them, i can overlook it , if that means repeating a foul word.

My adult son ,like me , he can pull a beauty out in a flash , but he has more control .

Maybe setting myself as an example , taught him that to be dominantly profane is a turn off.

I am far from proud for the filth that comes out of my mouth , i am finding this harder a habit to quit than smoking.

I also have a degree of tourettes so it isnt easy , but im trying , hard .

The times where i am mostly stimulated to swear is when i have been offended by someones actions or words.

Sometimes it is a reflex as in as saying "shit" when i stub my toe.

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2 points

Curses just make you look stupid if you don't know when it's appropriate to use them. Any parent that thinks it's wrong to just curse in general is a pussy, and theyre kid is gonna grow up being a pussy.

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1 point

"Any parent that thinks it's wrong to just curse in general is a pussy,"

oh god help us all.

" and theyre kid is gonna grow up being a pussy."

oh god help us all

"Curses just make you look stupid if you don't know when it's appropriate to use them."

- yes it does. And as i learnt , it can get you into trouble with the law.

But

There is a difference between general cussing and calling people cuss words.

Swearing in general from parents does not cause their children to swear.

Nor does having good non swearing christian folk parents , ensure a child wont swear.

Teaching kids right from wrong is a parents duty .

Every parent will swear in general to a degree.

To say they are a pussy if they dont , just might inspire someone to tell you what a fucking wanker you are.

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JBXXX(53) Disputed
1 point

Thats a nice piece you wrote. Maybe next time you'd like to actually convey some kind of a point rather than just blogging about what you're currently thinking while writing. And I said any parent who thinks its wrong to curse in general, as in cursing is never allowed, is a pussy. I didn't say parents who don't curse are pussies. You're reading comprehension is terrible, learn how to read or shut the fuck up you moron.

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2 points

Cussing is a good way of expressing strong feelings, especially anger. You shouldn't do it too often, but you should do it when it's appropriate.

The reason authorities don't want you to cuss is that cuss words are powerful. They influence people in a way that normal words can't. People like your parents or your preacher don't want you challenging their authority and will do everything they can to keep you weak. And that includes pressuring you not to cuss.

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2 points

There is a very old dictionary which was published over 70 odd years ago. In this dictionary you will find words like "cunt" I LOATHE THIS WORD Ashamably ive let it slip out , and i cringe when i hear it come from me.

I Also am very fortunate to own an original copy of the "ORIGINAL STORIES FROM THE BROTHERS GRIMM"

In this little treasure is the story of what we now call "CINDERELLA"

Though it was originally titled "ASHPUTTEL" , the storyline is mostly the same.

In the part where Ashputel or "cindy" as we now know her , asks her stepmom if she too , may go to the ball , this is what the stepmoms "original" reply was ; " NO NO NO Ashputtel !, You may not go to the ball , you dirty little slut!" or words to that affect.

I have my book in storage but here is a link to this story Ashputtel.

http://www.literaturepage.com/read/grimms-fairy-tales-141.html

The word "poof" is also an old word used to insult a person.

All i am saying , is that i notice some absurd , over-resistance , to the use of less degrading words as either of these three above.

And although most were brought about before you and i were born , why is there so much fuss today about their use ?

Is it perhaps that the person who introduced such words , had them thrown back in his face ?

btw , Shellby you sound just fine the way you are. Be proud of yourself.

Because in reality ,it makes us girls , not sound pretty , EG: just look at me for example , i am not ugly , but i sound putrid when i swear repulsively..and out of place.

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2 points

I think it is wrong. I myself cuss, but i dont say [email protected]%$. I Say f you in a funny way. i dont say thos strong words, only week ones like what the hell and all that stuff, not like b$%%S(&%.i am only 11.

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2 points

The real issue is do we continue to support the idea that there are "bad words".

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1 point

"Okay so i have come up with a question that bothers me. I am 14 and yet i wanna know if it is wrong to curse? I mean i don't do it. Even at school. I am a follower of christ. But since church i never cussed. So what do you think?

Does it really matter?"

Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers Ephesians 4:29

But now ye also put off all these; anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy communication out of your mouth Colossians 3:8

Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man Colossians 4:6

But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment. For by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned Matthew 12:36-37

These are just a few verses among the many dealing with words. The Bible has alot to say on the topic. There are different kinds of judgements of which the Bible covers. However, the Christian will go through what is called "the Bema" or judgement seat of Christ (2 Cor. 5:10). Paul, the apostle said that the judgement will not deal with the individual's salvation. This is the purpose of the trial:

(1) For evaluating the works-2 Cor. 5:10; Matt. 6:1,2; 16:27

(2) Each spoken word-Matt. 12:36

(3) The thoughts of the hearts-1 Cor. 4:5

(4) The secrets-Rom. 2:16; Ecce. 12:14

(5) The hidden things- 1 Cor. 3:12,13

Our words, as Christians, does matter.

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2 points

"But now ye also put off all these; anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy communication out of your mouth"

In other words: Don't challenge us. Do what you're told. Obey.

Religion was such an easy way for the powerful to control the masses.

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Flame(52) Disputed
2 points

I don't think that there are to much of disagreement, only on a few things. Anger is indeed a "powerful tool", in fact, so powerful that we need to guard ourselves from allowing it to control us. On the other hand, repressing it is not healthy. So you have two extremes, one is not expressing it and the other is allowing it to build up in you. I think we can agree that anger is a very strong emotion and therefore, a need to express it wisely. Now, you made a point that I want to touch upon which is:

"The reason authorities don't want you to cuss is that cuss words are powerful. They influence people in a way that normal words can't"

It is true that certain words have great power because it solicit emotion. People will feel that power behind that word. Peter Parker made this statement, "With great power comes with great responsibility", right? Well, the Bible actually states just that. Now, if you notice I made it clear that I quoted "just a few", right? God’s Word contains principles regarding how to handle anger in a godly manner, and how to overcome sinful anger. Just to make it clear, I am not saying that anger is always sin.

An example: If an individual has an issue with with someone, Christ and than the apostle Paul explained in more detail the principles that I think is healthy and practical for a Christian:

1. Go to the person in privacy: Matt. 18:15

2. If the individual will not listen, than the Christian is to take witnesses with them: Matt. 18:16

3. If that person still does not listen to the Christian or the witnesses, than they are to go to the next step which is to bring it to the attention of the Church: Matt. 18:17

4. If that person still refuses to listen to the Christian, witnesses, and the Church, than that individual is regarded as one who is out of fellowship: Matt. 18:17

Now, these are guidelines/principles that Christians are to go by. Of course not all issues are that serious. So, it may just go from point 1 to 2 and just move on. If anything, the article provided actually demonstrates that what the Bible teach is healthy and practical. In addition, businesses apply this concept known as "the Open Door Policy" in order to reduce conflict and reconcile, right? The previous verses that I gave clearly teach that within the guidelines, when confronting the another person, they are to have this kind of attitude and how to express themselves. The one thing that I do not agree is that it is proper for a Christian to use words that are energized, as you acknowledged has power behind it, which adds to the problem rather than solve it. Which Proverbs 15:1 along with the previous verses that I gave teach the Christian:

"A soft answer turns away wrath,But a harsh word stirs up anger"

I really do not see how your statement "In other words: Don't challenge us. Do what you're told. Obey. Religion was such an easy way for the powerful to control" the masses would be an issue.

Supporting Evidence: Controlling anger before it controls you (www.apa.org)
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1 point

Absolutely true................................................................................"god" help us all!

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And yet there are so many valuable lessons there. Don't throw the baby out with the dirty bath water ;)

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dacey(1036) Disputed
1 point

GOD HELP US ....All!

So yes she is 14 AND IMPRESSIONABLE..and she seems like a nice girl , regardless of religion.

Did you see an easy target to thrash with your religious abuse ?, Obviously.

Yeah , do gods work now and ram a guilt trip down her throat.

How noble of you.

Sorry but this is worse than swearing!

She said she goes to church.

I think ( i could be wrong) but maybe she was after some oppinions , not a sermon.

.............................................................................................................................

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2 points

God help us!?

Nay, God help those who believe that God gives a shit about four letter words! My God cares not about the words I use, but rather how I choose to use words. Do you think God wants us to bare false witness without using foul language?

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1 point

so im ten long ago i accidently said a cuss word i was a young age plus will you date me

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1 point

i never ment to do anything bad i am just in a despritely in need of a girlfriend

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1 point

Yes it is wrong to cuss for kids they could get into trouble at school. Also if you are a follower of Christ you should not be swearing it says in Ephesian 4:29 on why not to swear.

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1 point

They can ruin someone's reputation and they may be thought of negatively in the future by others.

I don't like to associate myself with people who swear, and I think that they should be severely punished.

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-1 points

AMERICA! FUCK YEAH!

I think that it's fine. Just not around little people.

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