Is my mom a bad parent, support wise? (Read description)
When I got accepted into the college I wanted to go to for years, it's not a big one but I wanted to go, my mom said "Hm, I didn't think you'd get in"
T_T That's my childhood folks. When I tried drawing when I was younger she said "You know you can't make a living off this, you're not that good"
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Beleive me nobodies parents are perfect, some provide all the love and support a person could desire but are also control freaks. Some provide too much support and dont let thier kids develope, some provide too little. i think its fare to say that not too many people are 100% satified with their parents, but hey there your parents. BTW i do sympathise, it does sound like you've treated fairly badly, im just trying to put things into perspective for you, im not trying to sound like a know it all. Side: No
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My mother is exactly the same way. For her, the cup has always been half empty... I finally understood why she did this. Your mother does not want you to be disappointed. Think of it this way: if she happens to be wrong about you not getting accepted, you will be really happy. If she happens to be right, there will be no surprise. It is a win/win situation. No one gets hurt. She is not trying to discourage you; she is trying to protect you.
Also, my mother's "support" pushed me to prove her wrong. I worked twice as hard to augment my chances of success. Side: No
As a child I grew up getting hit for anything I did even if it was good. I was constantly being put down over other siblings, always made me feel like I was the bastard child of the milk man. I realized later that everything I was told made me stronger and made me want to fight for what I knew myself to be true, that I was awesome, smart, beautiful and didn't need anyone to validate that for me. My mother thought she was doing the right thing and until I was out there I told her other wise. She is much better these days. I don't blame her she tried, she thought she was preparing me for the future of hateful people. I think parents have gone through so much in their own life that they try to spare us from going through it. Side: No
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