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Yes, they should be allowed! No, they should wait.
Debate Score:32
Arguments:23
Total Votes:41
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 Yes, they should be allowed! (17)
 
 No, they should wait. (4)

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Middle school students should not be allowed to date!

Middle-school students, who are typically 12 to 15 years of age, are no longer little children - yet they are not yet adults.  Dating is a common topic of conversation in school halls, on phones, on-line...and at the dinner table.  Some people feel middle school students should not date.  What's YOUR opinion?

Yes, they should be allowed!

Side Score: 26
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No, they should wait.

Side Score: 6
3 points

They should be allowed to date. As long as it remains innocent it's a good way to develop social interaction skills. The only possible harm I can see is becoming sexually active sooner, which could be counter acted if their parents are more vocal on the subject.

Side: Yes, they should be allowed!
2 points

I have contradicting opinions:

I believe that as soon as they are capable of reproduction they should date. However, I also think that it is absurd for them to date if they probably won't marry for another 15 years. I'd say 14 or 15 is a good age.

Side: Yes, they should be allowed!
2 points

i think that they should be allowed to date because if they dont date in middle school and screw it up, then they dont know how to start dating in high school and maybe find the "one"

Side: Yes, they should be allowed!
2 points

i say yes because you would like to have experiance before u start the right thing u know but i think 13 and up but thats me

Side: Yes, they should be allowed!
2 points

they should be allowed to date because they are ready and because they are free to date because all the other people who think that they cant are crazy because you are not ready and you will live alone for the rest of your lives with cats.

Side: Yes, they should be allowed!
2 points

i am personally a middle schooler and i think we should. I think the earlier we date the more "experience" we have and won't screw it up. And to that guy that thinks we have less study time and don't study as much, YOU ARE WRONG about half my grade (6Th grade) does just fine with a boyfriend/ girlfriend but we also study because we have TEACHERS AND PARENTS duh...which will help us with our schoolwork/ homework its not like our parents and or teachers don't care because we have 2 schools right next to each other and it is just fine, we walk every Friday to places because we have a outlet sort of thing which we have our parents pick us up from. My statement to confirm that we should date it that we should odviously tell out parents about our partner...

Side: Yes, they should be allowed!
2 points

Yes! Of course!

Middle school is a tough place, with all the teasing and bullying that happens, and all the adults and parents that just respond with an "Ignore it" or just another "Kids can be cruel" never help. Everyone needs someone to go to when it gets tough. A boyfriend or girlfriend is exactly what people need. Earlier this school year, I was teased and had almost no friends. I was almost hopeless. Then I met a girl. She was the only light in the dark school. It turned out she was actually going through the same thing as me. Every time one of us has a problem, the other one was there. Every time the bullying got to one of us, there was a shoulder to cry on. (Metaphorically, we texted each other). Without her, there would have been a load of trouble getting through. If any parent knew what went on in middle school, they would agree.

In addition to that, there's maturity. Most of the counter-arguments I have seen involve the want for kids to not grow up too fast. Sixth grade is about the time kids hit puberty and begin to gain feelings for others. Isn't that the perfect time to date? When they hit the capability of understanding relationships?

Parents also should be worried about how the kid feels. When I was in seventh grade, my mom was always obsessed with my self-confidence. The teasing would get to me, and I believed them. I tried to change my hair and clothes, and my mom would always give me a talk about how I felt about myself. Wouldn't having someone to have feelings for have fixed that? (It did).

The most important thing to remember that life is short. Most of the advice I'm given involves doing what I want sooner. If you don't take the chances you're given, then you'll never do anything good. You also need to keep in mind that you shouldn't be told around by overprotective parents hiding behind their usernames on websites. If you want to date, go ahead! It's your choice, anyway. You shouldn't let arguments on silly websites push your decisions.

Side: Yes, they should be allowed!
LKing(1) Clarified
1 point

That was very poetic. Props to you................................................................................................................................................

Side: Yes, they should be allowed!
1 point

I think they should because its nothing serious and it doesn't predict their whole life.Just because you date in middle school doesn't automatically mean you're going to drop out, do drugs,

or drink alcohol.

Side: Yes, they should be allowed!
1 point

Whether someone dates or not should depend on cognative capacity. Some are ready to date at 15 and others not so ready.

Side: Yes, they should be allowed!
Atrag(5666) Disputed
1 point

Middle schoolers posted in this debate and managed to say something relevant. You not. This isn't about people over 15, it is about 12 to 15 year olds. What do you have to say about them?

Side: No, they should wait.
Sitar(3680) Disputed
1 point

When I went to middle school I knew an eight grader that was 15. .

Side: Yes, they should be allowed!
1 point

Yeah cause animals do it at that age.............................................................................

Side: Yes, they should be allowed!
1 point

It's a good-weird experience for middle school kids to have, and we mostly do it for fun, so............................................

Side: Yes, they should be allowed!
LKing(1) Clarified
1 point

Hold up, they should be able to date, not have sex. Sex is a healthy experience. However, in adulthood is it a healthy experience. Not as a child. And animals are irrelevant.

Side: Yes, they should be allowed!
1 point

I believe it all depends on maturity. However, I do believe the majority of Middle School students should be allowed to experience different levels of dating. Sexual interactions at this age may be thrown around, being honest it is not that rare as kids are very curious about love. Though, not very serious sexual interaction. Maybe a couple of kisses. (This will mostly be thrown around by young males), but that's normally okay, as long as things don't get very serious. Children are very curious towards the topic of love at this age. And now that someday they will have to make an important choice in marriage, young dating gives you experience in love most of the time. Therefore changing how you view true love. (This can be extremely helpful in young adulthood) The relationship your child is in will gradually improve. Thus making the children feel closer to each other. And who knows? Maybe your child will marry their childhood sweetheart. I'm a major supporter of young love. However, being in a relationship can be very hard. There may be several concerns directed towards the child's significant other. But difficulty will help you prevail in life. And if your child has depression in his/her young years, being in a relationship can be very helpful. It can take your mind off of trauma and past experiences. So that's why I think Middle School students should be allowed in a relationship! Thanks! Have a great day.

Side: Yes, they should be allowed!
1 point

In middle school it is hard not to get a crush! Now if your dating just to mess around that isn’t cool. But if you and your crush both like each other go for it!

Side: Yes, they should be allowed!
0 points

If they get into relationships and start dating, the bond between the two people will gradually increase, and since we're talking about middle school students, we can't assure that they can focus on their studies and get a good grade which is actually the number 1 thing a middle school student should be aiming for, they will focus more on their relationship, finding ways to get closer to each other and ignoring their studies.

Side: No, they should wait.
-1 points

I happen to be in middle school, and my opinion is no.

This is because most kids in middle school will over-react to pretty much anything. I had a friend who broke up with a boyfriend and began cutting herself (she's stopped now) because she thought she loved him. I think this has probably happened to a lot of kids in middle school simply because they don't understand the difference between love and a mere crush.

Side: No, they should wait.
Skipton(7) Disputed
1 point

Most people who cut (my ex used cut so I have some knowledge of the matter) it isn't about a crush. It's usually has something to do with their own insecurities and/or trouble at home. And if you think that by delaying a first crush that they'll be better equiped to handle it, you are mistaken. It'll just make them more emotional and desperate. They have to learn the difference between the two sooner or later, and well frankly sooner is better.

Side: Yes, they should be allowed!
should_they Disputed
1 point

i think that girl is over reacting because absolutely no one in my school has done that or got even close to doing that... even though they might cry her parents should have helped her with it or if she hasn't even told her parents that is her fault

Side: Yes, they should be allowed!