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Debate Score:27
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Pre-marital sex?

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2 points

The answer lies within ones self. Assuming you are a stable person with a healthy mind, then if it feels right for you to do this, it is right, if it doesn't, then it is not right.

My own opinion, (which is my opinion and is only right for me), is that to marry somebody will require a lifetime of being with somebody. This being the case I have to make sure I am with the right person. Part of knowing if I am beforehand will be down to how compatible we are. A important aspect of our compatibility is our sexual relationship. To marry somebody without this knowledge for me disrespects the notion of marriage.

I think people often overlook the importance of sexual compatibility. Whilst I understand and respect people who want to save sex for marriage, I think that the arguments against it are often to do with either religious belief or for reasons which bring into question a persons integrity. For the latter reason I do not see this as relevant, as this is to do with somebody who should not be contemplating marriage anyway.

A difference of opinion is good, but sex is between 2 people, and making sure you are on the same page as your partner goes without question.

To respond to the maturity comment, I can understand the point, but that is 1-dimensional. To be mature is to make a decision based upon sound reasoning. To simply state abstaining as mature completely overlooks the sensible mature factors in making a decision to have sex, which is a more mature approach in many scenarios.

Side: Good
2 points

Considering the sex life of the average long established married couple, pre-marital sex between them is likely going to be as good as it gets.

Which brings up the issue of adultery...

Side: Good
2 points

What about someone who has no desire to marry?

Are they therefor not meant to have sex ever?

:(

Side: Good
1 point

Well there are such things as "toys".

They could get a life time sex partner but who knows where they have been?

Your more likely to get a STD sleeping around than just one partner. (I'm not saying anyone is sleeping around)

Side: fifty fifty
1 point

Either that or they could get the orgasmatron implant and get people to give them

sex-free massage.

http://gizmodo.com/358123/orgasmatron-delivers-instant-orgasms-at- the-touch-of-a-button

As far as sex toys go , how do you know they havent been personsally tested by the shop assistants at the store that sold it to you?

I spose you could always use a condom on it to prevent stds'.

Sleeping around isnt advised ,

but sleeping straight or crooked can be a risk also.

Side: Good

No thanks, I already had some.... Oh... sorry, I thought you were offering.

As with all issues of morality I think it all comes down to the golden rule. If the other person is a consenting adult, if you are respectful of that person, if you do not misrepresent yourself, if you take reasonable precautions to avoid STDs and unwanted pregnancies..... in others words, if you are considerate of your partner and other people who may be effected, then you are behaving morally.

Side: Good
2 points

You wouldn't purchase a car without test driving it, would you? Marriage is the same way - you spend a lot of time and money invested in making a relationship, so there's no reason to ignore such an important part of most healthy relationships. Despite how much the puritan-like predecessors wanted to reject it, sex is an important part of most relationships. As long as you practice safe sex there is no issue with pre-marital sex.

Side: Good
2 points

Considering I'm gay and can't get married in most states for a while... ;]

Side: Good
1 point

OK, seriously now...

We are ready, biologically, to have sex and reproduce at an age not now appropriate, considering the complexity of our society and the need for an extended education to learn how to make a living in it. Adolescence is a creation of advanced cultures like ours, but unfortunately society has not found a good answer for the sexual desires of teens. Especially as these days adolescence is effectively extended into our supposed adulthood, when we do not start to work, but instead go on to advanced studies.

How can someone get married who does not yet support themselves? But then, how can someone be expected to be abstinent from age 12-14 or so until age 18-25?

Sure, abstinence is 100% effective, but most folks are not "effective" in living up to a pledge of abstinence. Studies have shown that those who received an abstinence-only education are just as likely to become sexually active, but less likely to use protection. Absolute insanity!

We need to provide sex education that gives teens information about all the options, including abstinence certainly but also the various forms of birth control.

Accepting the fact that most folks have and will continue to have pre-marital sex, we need to find more effective forms of birth control.

We need to create a healthy culture that allows a healthy and safe expression of our healthy urges to engage in sex.

Side: Good
1 point

As long as bioth partners are old enough to consent, do consent and neither of them is cheating on a third person I don't see anything wrong with it.

Side: Good
3 points

I'm gunnna go ahead and throw this out there; it depends on your religious beliefs. D: [gasp] I know.. religion.

If you don't think it's a sin than there really is no logical reason not too have pre marital sex.

Except maybe bumping your chances of pregnancy from 99% to 100%, unless your dumb enough not to ware a condom. Then the percentage difference would be bigger.

That and STDs.

So that's about it. Other than that It depends on what you believe is morally right.

I think it's wrong. But shut up, I'm not forcing anything on you and I don't care if you have sex.

Side: Bad

i have very mixed views on this subject and it is one which i do wonder about and thonk about often.

my personal belief with sex is that with sex you bind yourself in body and soul to that person, in a similar way you do when your married. its hard to explain but essentially while i dont necessarily believe in no sex before mariage, i believe that sex shouldnt be taken lightly and should be an intimate experience between two people who are ready to move as a couple to this step

ive only but this as bad because out of the two options i think it closer represents my views although not entirely

Side: fifty fifty

Pre-marital sex is easy. You just give in to your animal base instincts.

Abstinence is hard; real hard (and sometimes requires a cold shower ;) but it shows maturity.

There are some serious negative effects to pre-marital sex. Like teen/unwanted pregnancy. Oh sure, you can use birth control, but birth control is not 100% effective. Abstinence is 100% effective. But the bottom line is that if you use birth control you are basically willing to gamble a fetus' life away life just to get your rocks off, just for a moment of pleasure. How mature is that?

http://www.hinduwebsite.com/selfdevt/maturity.asp

Side: Bad
iamdavidh(4856) Disputed
1 point

Going by paragraph:

1. By the same logic marriage itself is only animal base instinct. Unless you believe people would be married even if there were no such thing as sex? Ultimately, procreation is "animal base instinct." There simply is no reason to procreate married or no, without the animal instinct. Denying oneself this for a period of time, or surrounding it by rules does not make it any less animal, even without the actual act of sex, just talking about procreation.

So why then does putting rules around it make it any less animal? I don't think it does. Just puritan fluff it seems to me.

2. Abstinence is only hard with opportunity to start. But pretending one does have opportunity, doing something that is hard, does not make that thing any greater a deed.

ex. If I'm really hungry, it is really hard not to eat a sandwich. I might need a cold shower to distract myself. However, if I'm in good health, and could use a sandwich, wouldn't it be better for me both health wise and psychologically to just eat the dumb sandwich?

Again, I say it is better to eat the sandwich in this situation, easy as it is, and even healthier in many instances.

3. The first half is the only part I'll give you of this arguement. Indeed not having sex gaurantees 100% you will not have a kid unless you believe in immaculate conception I guess. However, telling people not to have sex has never stopped sex 1 from happening, but protection has saved all manner of STD's and unwanted preganancy, so let's stay realistic about how many people would really follow the rules if someone told them not to have sex before marriage.

Side: Good
0 points

Absolutely not! That is a special thing just for marrage. It should be that way and there shouldn't be any question about it. Read your Bible!

Side: Bad
Darkb456(94) Disputed
1 point

ugh, sex predates marriage, look ask any biologist, school teacher, or even the church (they've admitted their creation story and them some are just fables), support your argument, and not everyone is catholic, ask literally anyone.

Side: Good