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No it's not Yes it is
Debate Score:70
Arguments:38
Total Votes:79
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Sex isn't that much of a big deal

There are those that have sex with new partners every weekend, and those that would never have sex until long after marriage, and even then, only for reproductive reasons.

It's a controversial and important topic, but is it really that big of a deal as it's made out to be? It's not uncommon to think that sex, sexuality, and the media are often much closer than you would expect them to be.

No it's not

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Yes it is

Side Score: 27
4 points

Pure sex in itself is unremarkable. It has happened billions of times over thousands of years, and most people in the world will experience it at one point. It is when you start talking about the other connotations, such as pregnancy and rape when it becomes much more serious.

Side: No it's not
2 points

For most people, the first time they start to think about sex is when they are teenagers. In the teen ages, sex seems like a huge deal, especially if you are a teenage virgin. A lot of teenagers lose their virginity out of insecurity, peer pressure and/or hormonal changes, and so on and so forth. However, if they manage to wait until they have really fallen in love, are ready and feel like they are in a safe place, sex is beautiful. I speak out of my own experience. I do believe sex is private and personal; not to be shared with anyone.

Before I had lost my virginity, sex seemed like such a big deal but after the act it really wasn't. I was in love, had been together with the boyfriend for a while, he was in love with me and I felt safe. Despite the nerves, it was an experience I would not have liked to have had any other time or place.

I believe if you have sex with people you genuinely care about it is amazing and really not that much of a big deal.

Side: No it's not
1 point

Well, if by big deal you mean "important or necessary", than no... it's not.

But, it is an act that can greatly be explored for the hell of it. Just like drug use, playing video games, and watching movies (because... I do all those things).

Side: No it's not
1 point

No, it's really not that much of a big deal. Almost everyone does it, with very few exceptions, and it's so natural I don't know why it's made as a taboo to even talk about.

Now, if you're having sex with someone you love for intimacy purposes, it becomes a big deal.

If you're having it to reproduce, it becomes a big deal.

Both in good ways.

But sex itself, it's just not that serious.

Side: No it's not

sex is not a big deal until you have to start taking Viagra to get some, then it becomes a big deal because you have to make sure you have a steady supply ;)

Side: No it's not

Sex is not a big deal until you get horny..., then it becomes a big fucking deal ;-)

Side: No it's not
0 points

It's sex... it is the insertion of an engorged pleasure membrane into, another engorged (but not as much), pleasure membrane. Then friction is created by the use of movement. This stimulates the nerves in both engorged pleasure membranes. This ultimately leads to an intense sensation of pleasure in either one, or both participants... are neither sometimes I guess.

that's it... chill your nips.

Side: No it's not
2 points

Well if you're having sex with new partners every weekend, that's obviously just for the lust. Is that right? I don't think it is. Lust is a horrible thing, and can lead people to do horrible acts, and make bad decisions. Also, there's the chance that you can impregnate multiple people. I'm not saying that these children aren't equally as important as any other child on the planet, but is it really fair for them to be born into the world when there's not the real love between two people? Accidental pregnancy's can lead to skewed lives for children, as the parents might not have the basic relationship beforehand to sustain them. I'm not saying it's the biggest deal ever, but if you think of sex as nothing, then before you know it, we'll be breeding like rabbits.

Side: Yes it is
zombee(1028) Disputed
2 points

Promiscuity is not indiscernable from irresponsibility or uncontrolled reproduction. If someone likes having many partners but is honest and protects themselves, why is that horrible?

Side: No it's not
paulmy(17) Disputed
2 points

We are obviously already breeding like rabbits. If you look at how the world's population is increasing at such a incredible rate.

Side: No it's not
Saurbaby(5590) Disputed
1 point

How is lust horrible? It's giving into pleasure, and pleasure is a good thing.

Also, the when humans were just started that's all we did. Try to produce as much offspring as possible. Because we're animals, and that's what animals do.

You're saying what's natural is wrong.

Those children are fine. I know many products of "loveless" sex, and those people are completely normal and function great.

Sex is nothing. It's just sex. It's natural. Everyone does it.

Feelings change that. But sex is just sex.

Side: No it's not
Srom(12204) Disputed
1 point

How is lust horrible?

Lust is horrible because it says in the Bible that lust is wrong. Here are some Bible verses from my Bible that say lust is wrong.

Colossians 3:5 says "Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity,lust, evil desires and greed,which is idolatry."

That verse means turn away from all that is above and don't come back to it.

Side: Yes it is
iamdavidh(4871) Disputed
1 point

Well if you're having sex with new partners every weekend, that's obviously just for the lust.

Not necessarily. It could be a logical move to find a mate they are compatible with in a short time. After all if someone is no good in bed, why spend months getting to the bedroom just to find out you're not compatible?

Lust is a horrible thing, and can lead people to do horrible acts, and make bad decisions.

Well, sometimes. Lust can also be a wonderful thing leading to love and "happily ever after" or whatever. If you believe you can have love without lust you are in for a horrible time of it in any relationship.

Also, there's the chance that you can impregnate multiple people. I'm not saying that these children aren't equally as important as any other child on the planet, but is it really fair for them to be born into the world when there's not the real love between two people? Accidental pregnancy's can lead to skewed lives for children, as the parents might not have the basic relationship beforehand to sustain them.

Er, that got a little weird. But glad to hear you are pro-birth control.

I'm not saying it's the biggest deal ever, but if you think of sex as nothing, then before you know it, we'll be breeding like rabbits.

People can't breed like rabbits. We don't have litters and human women are pregnant 9 months as opposed to 1 month. If you mean fuck like rabbits. People actually fuck more than rabbits. The only animal more sexual than humans is this type of hermit crab that jerks off several times a day and a handful of primates.

Side: No it's not
2 points

Is the process in which we obtain the most pleasure and we procreate not a big deal? For most it wouldn't be since it is as simple as sticking it in and going at it. But if you think about it, sex is the whole reason we exist. Our father and mother created us through fertilization of the female egg. For animals, they do it for the continuation of their species. For humans and a very small number of animals, we do it for continuation and pleasure. Sex can be found everywhere from major religions to corny commercials for Trojan/Maxum condoms. Everywhere you look you will always see something that pertains to sex. So to say that it isn't a big deal is a mistake. If teenagers went out and had sex without protection, it could potentionally ruin their dreams/goals.

Side: Yes it is
2 points

It is if you make it serious. For me, I see it as serious because it shows that you trust that person to share their body with you; it's one of the most open ways you can be with someone. So, in my opinion, yes, it's serious. But again, that's my opinion on what sex means to me.

Side: Yes it is
1 point

Sex is a huge deal and anyone who says otherwise is lying, diluting themselves, or just simply doesn't know nearly enough about it.

See the dirty little secret about "the dirty little secret" is that it isn't so dirty, it boost moods, relieves stress and helps keeps frustration down. People who have sex on a regular bases tend to have healthier weights and better cardio vascular function as well as better emotional status

Side: Yes it is
1 point

It wouldnt be right to label individuals with multiple partners as "bad" or "sinful" individuals- to do so would depict a degree of intolerance. Sex, itself, however, is a big deal and is something that should be viewed as such even by those considered promiscuous. Sex is both a physical and psychological connection between two individuals. For some, sex is important and a "big deal" because love and spirituality is behind the act. Others view sex as a moral action, something that should be done only between people that love and care about each other. For those that don't hold the same beliefs, sex should be considered a big deal insofar as its consequences. Frequent sex with multiple partners exposes the individual to a wider range of sexually transmitted diseases and other pathogens. Further, even those who practice "safe sex" (condom use, taking "the pill", etc) are at risk of pregnancy. Those who don't believe sex to be much of a big deal often behave accordingly. Multiple partners increases the chances that you will be taken advantage of, that you will take advantage of others, or that you may give or receive unwanted diseases. Whatever the motivation, all individuals should value sex as a very "big deal".

Side: Yes it is