Should teens be made to go to church by their parents/gardians?
No, I believe that teens, age 13 and up are old enough to decide if they want to go to church or not. I think being force to go to to church, and be told to believe something they don't can ruin a teens confidence, not to mention all the lgbt+ teen who are to scared to come out, and what that can do to their confidence.
I agree that teenagers are old enough to know whether they want to go to church. I can speak from the perspective of boys' development and I suppose there is a parallel for girls too. It is natural for boys from age 8, in the company of peers, to begin to look outside of the family to other adults in their lives who can introduce them to new aspects of the world; teachers, youth leaders, older boys, coaches, and such. They nevertheless remain close to their parents and guardians in general. Puberty will see a more radical change from the home to peers and the identity of themselves as separate from the home and loyal to friends. It is the beginning of living their own lives. Traditional churches such a Catholic and Episcopalian will recognize this and allow members to either be confirmed or not. If the churches understand this, how could parents undermine confirmation by forcing a teenager to attend regardless of the adolescent's faith or none?
The argument can certainly be made that religion has been used as a manipulative tool to control the individual, but only if you allow it to. My family happens to be among the more avid churchgoers who follow a more rigorous lifestyle based upon scripture, and this is where their opinions and mine differ. I believe that scripture is more of a set of moral guidelines rather than a factual story, much in the same way that many novels or other writings have a set of values behind them. There is much to be gained from reading the Holy Bible and other forms of religious texts aside from faith. In saying this, I believe that exposing children in moderation can provide them with a moral backbone and a set of values to guide them, aside from the more specific teachings of scripture.
Teens should do as their parents tell them as long as their parents are not telling them to hurt others or to violate the law. If a parent cannot tell a child to go to church and have the child respectfully obey, that parent has done a poor job of raising their child.
Several people here seem to think a teenager should have more or equal authority to their parents when living in their parents house. Are you one of those?
Yes! Yes! Make them suffer! Bwahahahahaha!
Ideally, you want to have your kids educated in such a way that church environment is healthy for them. If it is healthy for them, they aren't going to have problems going to church, they will look forward to it.
Otherwise, if you want your kid to go to church, and they don't want to.. Ya'll have to figure out how to handle that one out yourselves.
Have you noticed that all the anti Christian bigots on this site have chimed in on not telling our children they have to go to church. WHAT A SHOCK!
I wonder if these same bigots have a problem with teens being forced to go to PC schools pushing their humanistic political correct religion?
Kids should always respect their parents and do what they are told (unless of course they have abusive parents).
They are being supported by their parents and until the day they support themselves, they should follow the wishes and rules of their parents.
This type of bigotted thinking only underscores how blind the Godless are to the wonderful family values derived from Church.
Bigots are so totally insecure, they hate seeing Christians having close loving families. It makes them feel badly about their choices in life. They must lash out at Christians and any Church speaking to the importance of family and moral values. So very important in keeping our children from lifetimes of broken homes, drugs, alcohol, promiscuous sex, etc. etc.
Now I want all the bigots on this site to scream out in unison how Christians are not perfect and also have family problems. Yes, no one is perfect, but after living a generation, I see the huge difference in the family structure of Christian families, and the Godless. Absolutely no question about it.
I have a large extended family, and out of the many marriages of siblings, nephews and nieces, there are just a couple divorces. Other than the couple divorces, All of the children are being raised by THEIR mother and father. No one living together out of wed lock. Go figure!
Christianity and Church are wonderful things for our teens to learn from.
I wonder if these same bigots have a problem with teens being forced to go to PC schools I think public schools are full of propaganda. Kids should always respect their parents and do what they are told Kids should always learn critical thinking skills and be taught to think for themselves, not be obedient little slaves who just accept everything their parents believe as absolute fact. They are being supported by their parents and until the day they support themselves, they should follow the wishes and rules of their parents. Whether or not parents are supporting their kids doesn't have anything to do with whether or not their religious beliefs are true, so why should any child be forced to respect or follow their parents beliefs? This type of bigotted thinking only underscores how blind the Godless are to the wonderful family values derived from Church. What values are those? to do and believe whatever your parents say without question? because that's all I'm hearing from you christian bigots. They must lash out at Christians and any Church speaking to the importance of family and moral values. So very important in keeping our children from lifetimes of broken homes, drugs, alcohol, promiscuous sex, etc. etc. I am related to some very religious people and I have seen their kids and the kids of people they know go totally insane and start experimenting with all sorts of shit specifically because they are so sheltered and their parents are so strict and let me tell you, a lot of them would have been better off if they had divorced atheist parents and where allowed to openly smoke marijuana in the house by age 16 like I was.
What you just did was prove your hypocritical bigotted hatred towards Christians.
You would have no problem preaching your philosophy on life to your kids concerning marijuana, divorce, or any other thing you believe in, but when it has to do with Christianity, you are the judgmental bigot that says not to teach our children our Christian values.
You hypocritical fool!
Here''s a newsflash for bigotted hypocrites such as yourself. Christian parents believe what their faith teachers. They know the wonderful values their children will get from Christianity. They love their children and want them to have wonderful fulfilling lives, and when this life is over they want their children to be in Heaven.
What kind of bigotted fool does not get this? Oh, I forget, you are the all knowing bigot who has all the answers to life and judges others on how they raise their children.
Christianity and religion definitely have benefits, but I speak from experience when I say that one is perfectly capable of having a close, loving family when they are, using your derogatory term "Godless." Children shouldn't be forced to go to Church, but they should be educated on all sides of the equation before making up their mind. Religion is just not for some people, and it should be up to a teen whether or not they wish to go to church. Church does have good values for families to benefit from. (most of which, I should add, should just be basic human values)
If they live in my house they will go to church and they will act respectful and attentive during the services.
Yeah, my old man used to say, "while you live in my house" a lot too. It's the argument of a bully. You chose to have kids, not your kids, so why should they suffer because of your lunacy?
Nomenclature, I think you hit the point exactly. Parents who believe that can force their children into "falling in line" with their program and worldview are behaving as bullies and tyrants, as though the children are somehow the property of the parents and not independent human beings that have the desire/need to construct their own framework for their lives. By the time you are a teenage you are entering extremely formative years and going through a process of self-discovery through learning and questioning more about themselves, family, and world they live n and have the right to do this unfettered from the parent/guardians attempt to bully them into obedience and submission.
If you feel your father is a bully, and you don't stand your ground, fight back, or leave, then you are a coward. If you could not be happy under your father's rules, then it's your problem. If you don't know how to deal with your problems, blaming your father sure is not going to help.