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Spanking children after misbehaving

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I don't know about spanking the children but it has done wonders for the wife ;)

Side: For
2 points

Honestly, some children require it. You tell them over and over and over and over and so on, and they still keep doing whatever it is they are told not to. If after all that explaining they still don't listen and don't get it then only one option remains.

Side: For
ricedaragh(2500) Disputed
2 points

This is more a question of the inaction of the parent than the action of the child. It should not get to the point that they've been told more than once or twice.

For example, with my own children, if I've told them twice and they still persist, I give them a count to three, if they stop on one, there is not repercussion, if they stop on two there is a mild punishment, if they let me go to three, there is a severe (in their terms), punishment. I very rarely get to three, and only sometimes get to two.

The point is, that I don't hit them, I never have and neither has my wife and they are very well behaved.

My own upbringing was not so pleasant, my Mother was quite brutal in punishment, and my Father was always working, I've been beaten badly many times once with a frying pan, my sister and brothers all have had the same upbringings and we all have anger issues, I've sought help, thankfully before my children were born, my siblings haven't fared so well.

Side: Against
nummi(1435) Disputed
2 points

Nonviolent means don't always work (as people differ, so do children). The example I had in mind came after some nonviolent punishments and lots and lots of explaining, none of it worked (several days). There was no other option left. Children must learn what is right and what is wrong (simple things) and that they cannot always get what they want. If nothing else works then spanking should do it, if that doesn't work either then... professional help, I guess.

Children learn almost everything from parents... if parents have some idiosyncrasies that aren't exactly "positive" then the children might at one point need some heavier parenting.

But too much physical punishment is wrong. As you say, once grown up, it might result in some issues.

Side: For
2 points

I think you should spank your children when they misbehave because once you spank your kid the kid will realize what they have done is wrong and they will try not to do again.

If you don't spank your kid they will keep doing the same wrong thing over and over until you finally spank the kid.

Side: For
Saurbaby(5579) Disputed
2 points

Spanking is not the only way to punish a child. And there are other ways, that aren't violent, that you can teach a child.

I was spanked, but it led to abuse eventually. All it accomplished was making me scared to do ANYTHING for the majority of my childhood. My brother, on the other hand, came out of it with violent anger issues. He thought that hitting was how you dealt with people doing things wrong. And that is exactly what I think it teaches. He, thankfully, got some help and is doing much better. But it still effects both of us. You won't even realize how much it effects you until you start having close relationships outside of your family, or when you start working in the real world.

Side: Against
Srom(12201) Disputed
2 points

Spanking is not the only way to punish a child. And there are other ways, that aren't violent, that you can teach a child.

That is true but sometimes spanking does work. I was spanked when I was little and it didn't lead to me to abuse and it didn't make me scared. It told me that my parents loved me and they had to discipline me for what I have done. They don't do it to me now, now they just say your grounded.

Even the Bible tell us to spank our children to save us from hell.

Side: For
nummi(1435) Disputed
2 points

Spanking without telling them what for has only negative effect, for both sides. Not to mention it is not always necessary to spank (there are other and better methods that usually work), spanking is the last resort and should be used only when absolutely necessary.

Side: Against
Srom(12201) Disputed
2 points

My parents when I was little told me what I got spanking for and it taught me a huge lesson and now I don't do those kinds of stuff anymore that I used to do.

Yes their are better solutions to discipline your children but I am going to go with God's way of doing it because he told us in His word that parents must spank their kids.

Side: For

JUST SPANK THEM. They need a SPANKING SOME DAY. SPARE THE ROD AND SPOIL THE CHILD

Side: For
1 point

Here is a video about spanking

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Spanking The Rap
Side: For

I am in favor of spanking under certain circumstances, but there is a broad line between a spanking and a beating- not a fine one, and it's important not only to not cross that line, but not to touch it.

A properly delivered spanking causes discomfort, but not pain; only the hand should be used, and not on bare skin.

Discomfort does not engender fear in the child the way that pain does, but still acts as a deterrent to the behaviour and communicates the disapproval- and can be delivered more quickly and effectively than most other forms of punishment. Of course, it must be accompanied with an explanation of specifically what behaviour was unacceptable, as well as why it is unacceptable; alternatives should be offered where applicable as well.

The key thing to remember is not to punish children out of anger; get into that habit and even the intent to cause discomfort will often inflict pain, and it's very likely that escalation will continue.

A properly delivered spanking that causes discomfort and not pain is both more effective and less potentially damaging to the childs psyche than most other forms of punishment, such as isolation (time out).

Side: For
4 points

Live by the sword, die by the sword.

Violence begets violence, children as all humans learn by imitation, if you teach your child that aggression is the way to deal with those that don't do what you want, or do something you don't want, then this is what they'll do.

Violence should not be the accepted reaction, it should only be the last resort of self-defense.

Side: Against
4 points

i totally agree you cannot hit children i anyway then be surprised if they physically abuse their own children

Side: Against
4 points

I'm on this side for one reason. When I was a child spanking eventually turned into abuse. Some people don't have the self-control to stop at just a little. Parents start spanking then one day the child does something that really just pisses them off and go too hard. That's what happened to me, all it accomplished was making me too scared to do anything. And it still effects me to this day. It didn't teach me the difference between right and wrong, all it did was made me scared to do anything.

Though I do think it's okay to kind of slap a little child's hand when they're doing something wrong and are too young to discuss what they did wrong, but I don't think it should be that way for long.

Side: Against
2 points

Spank a children just causes trauma, and trauma is a strong negative factor in the personality formation of the individual. To punish, just deprive the kid of some things that he/she likes to do, like: go out, play with toys, watch TV, etc.

Side: Against
2 points

I have never spanked my daughter, andshe has misbehaved many times.

I think some people start off spanking and then escalate, not to mention that it really doesn't help.

Side: Against
2 points

spanking children is very bad as, after spanking, the child would have fear of the parent. The child would be afraid of asking the most simplest of things, such as ice cream. The parent has to tell the bad about doing that action and say it nicely.

Side: Against

I guess, for me, you have to examine what the desired result of spanking a child is. Most people say it is "to teach them right from wrong." I think the truth, however, is that spanking is the quickest and easiest way to get a child (or pet) to stop doing something you don't want them doing. It is the easy way out. It is lazy. It also does nothing to teach right from wrong.

Physical punishment is one of, if not the most ineffective methods for teaching humans right and wrong (especially children). It may seem effective, particularly with animals and pets, but because humans tend to have a much different thought process than most animals, the result is not ideal.

What inevitably happens, is the child comes away thinking something along the lines of "My parents disapprove of this action. My parents will beat me if they become aware of my performing of this action. If my parents are not aware I have performed this action, then I will not be beaten." There is no concept of right and wrong here, only fear of physical punishment, and ways one can avoid it.

What you want them to be thinking is something more like "I disapprove of this action. It does not matter if my parents (or anyone else) become aware of my performing of this action, because I am aware of my performing of it; and I believe it is wrong."

I feel a child should be taught to think critically from as early an age as possible, and that every attempt to explain the rightness and wrongness of an action should be made. A punishment and reward system may work great with animals, but humans should have a deeper concept of right and wrong. One that relies more on thought, and less on fear.

Side: Against
1 point

You really shouldn't sit there and spank your kid after being bad, plus..isn't this illegal anyhow?

Side: Against
1 point

I have to be honest that spanking children is not good. My parents used to do this alot to me. I understand why but why hurt your own kid? I mean I understand that they need to learn from bad to good but why hurt someone? parents are just tetching them it's good to fight with others which it is not. And they should stop.

Side: Against

Both, it depends on the age of the child and the misbehavior.

Side: Against

Spanking is child abuse and leaves a mental scar that is carried into adulthood.

Side: Against
0 points

when you spank a child you teach them that you are in charge because you are stronger and can hurt them physically not because you are their parent/guardian. They may carry this on to the school yard and could turn on you if they grow to be stronger than you in their teens.

Side: Against