What Is REAL Love?
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Hadrian's theory of love. Typically, when we "fall in love", what we are loving is the feeling we have when with the person. Why? Because we usually don't really know the person well enough yet to truly love them. (Theory void when you fall in love with a long time close friend) So, rather than telling someone "I love you", you can say, "I'm loving the feeling I have when with you". They should still feel flattered by that. In time, after you get to know someone well, you can experience real love for them even after you have realized that they have both positive and negative attributes. True love is having a high regard for someone's well-being, even when you may not like how they behave at times. When experiencing real love, the focus is on your partner's well-being, and not a just a selfish concern with your own satisfaction all of the time. However, when the bad outweighs the good, you can decide that you still love them but can't be with them. Then, leaving them is the most loving thing you can do for you both. Usually, if you are unhappy, they are unhappy. You each deserve to find a happy relationship, and not be trapped in an unsatisfactory one. That's my theory and I'm sticking to it. 1
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Real love is when you look into your lovers eyes and you see perfection. Real love is when your lover means more than yourself. Real love is when you count down the seconds just to get a glance of your lover. Real love is when your heart breaks at the though of going so much as a second without your lover. 1
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I was reminded by this of the love poems of the Sufi mystic Rumi. Although not a direct responce to your post, I hope you will allow me to share this lovely poem I came across. If I were to get married again, I would include this poem in the ceremony. This Marriage May these vows and this marriage be blessed. May it be sweet milk, this marriage, like wine and halvah. May this marriage offer fruit and shade like the date palm. May this marriage be full of laughter, our every day a day in paradise. May this marriage be a sign of compassion, a seal of happiness here and hereafter. May this marriage have a fair face and a good name, an omen as welcomes the moon in a clear blue sky. I am out of words to describe how spirit mingles in this marriage. 1
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Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. Side: ronpaul
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This debate is not complete without also taking this into account: Side: ronpaul
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