What do you regret the most?
A long time ago, when I was a smart ass teen, my father was gaining weight. Thinking it would be funny I went up to give him a hug then went "boing" as if I bounced back from his stomach.
Looking back, his outstretched arms and subsequent look of hurt on his face made me see what a terrible thing that was. He died when I was 16 and I would give anything to take that stupid attempt at a joke back and actually get a hug from him. It may not seem like something big to most people but it was a turning point for me.
At 19 years old, I had the offer from a friend and a few of her friends to be the only guy in sexual fivesome. I was a virgin at the time, not in love with my friend, and religious, so I turned them down.
At the time, I knew it was likely to be a mistake to take them up on it, and I know now, even without the long-lost religion, that it really would have been a mistake.
Not making that mistake is my greatest and saddest regret.
Almost all of my regrets are mistakes I did not make.
The other regrets posted so far are irretrievable, but yours is not.
I have no idea about your age or life situation, but I would be willing to bet it is not too late for you to fix this thing you regret.
Seriously, my friend, if you still feel crushed when you think about it, then it is something you still truly want. Call up a little courage, take the risk, return to your dream, and go fulfill your special purpose.
Regrets should make us smarter and better. In your case that might mean becoming Dr.Atrag. :)
Aw Fact, it's good you were born! I hope you find happiness and as marcus said, faith and fun.
*I mean faith as something that you can believe in that makes you want to be a better person for it. Not saying you're a bad person but we should always strive to be better.....I'm buggering this up, aren't I.....
If I had left my ex sooner I might have met my wife sooner which...
On the other hand, you might have met someone else, and ended up with someone less suited to making you wish for a bigger family.
Our lives are the results of accidents and coincidences and the exact timing required to get to just where we are.
If you are happy and in love, then you probably left your ex at the exact right time.
My schooling was a total mess. I was far beyond my class, and it bored me to tears, so I learned on my own...but that totally spoiled me for school. I never developed study habits, never needing them...so when I went to college, I failed terribly. I was fine until I met calculus, when I would have sworn...and did...that I had the wrong book. I didn't seek help...I ended up throwing it all away.
I did continue to learn on my own, but never got my focus back.
I don't know if this will sound stupid and/or arrogant but I seriously have no regrets.
I've done dumb things, nasty things but I regret none of it as it shaped the amazing human being I am today.
I was a mean person in my past and learned my lessons (and only could have wanted to be this kind a human being if I'd been that mean to begin with).
I can tear apart someone with words and build them up from nothing with words too. To be able to do both to the right type of person is a skill I adore having.
I crush bullies and breed joy in would-be victims again and again and this talent was only gained by being bullied and being a bitter fuck in the first place and learning how to spread joy from all the mistakes.
I've been a cunt and had people be cunts to me which hurt me deep. I learned so much from that I could never ever have learned without it. I love my life and my past is something I have no shame in but due to the urge to remain somewhat anonymous here, Imma stay on the lay low with details.