What is subjectively worse- having your heart broken, or falling out of love?
Just what it says in the tin.
While I welcome all posts, I'm particularly looking for posts from those who:
1) Believe that love is real- as a complex mix of metaphysical emotions, a complex set of chemical exchanges, or some of both.
2) Have experienced both heartbreak, and the process of falling out of love and having to end things with someone.
I would also appreciate if you could note which, both, or none of 2 that apply to you as well.
Edit/Note: I know that these two are not necessarily mutually exclusive. To clarify a little: I'm referring to the reason for the breakup in general; if the other person cheats, etc and breaks your heart and you fall out of love due to that, classify that under heartbreak.
Heartbreak
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Falling out of love
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I have experienced both, as well I may be young, I still have experienced heartbreak and falling out of love. I believe that having your heart broken is worse than falling out of love. The first time I gotten my heart broken I was devastated just because she cheated on me that was one of the worst day of my life. Also, from the present day now if I ever had my heart broken from the girl I am dating now I couldn't believe it could happen. It still would be bad and all if I fell out of love with her but, to me getting my heart broken would be worst for me. Side: Heartbreak
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I've experienced both heartbreak and falling out of love. Of the two, I believe that falling out of love is worse. Heartbreak is generally more shocking and intense, but it tends to dull for the most part, even as it lingers for a while. On the other hand, my experiences with falling out of love have been terrible. It's hard to put into words, but whether it was me changing, her changing, or both of us changing, the experience of it is like watching your most important person slowly fade away. The frustration and stress go off the charts, and there is a whole ton of guilt involved as well. The guilt is the worst of it; whether one breaks things off or is broken up with, there tends to be varying amounts of self-blame and blaming the other party, but ultimately both know who ended things. Side: Falling out of love
I've experienced both heartbreak and falling out of love. Falling out of love is better because you get your heart broken so many times. :) Assuming that that which is more difficult to process is by virtue of that difficulty "worse" is great folly. The guilt is the worst of it; whether one breaks things off or is broken up with, there tends to be varying amounts of self-blame and blaming the other party, but ultimately both know who ended things. I disagree. Often it's not a who that's most appropriate to blame, but a what. IMO "Falling out of love" indicates that the relationship was shallow all along (that's never easy to admit) and never deepened like the ones worth keeping do. BTW I've experienced both. Simple heartbreak is MUCH easier to handle. Side: Heartbreak
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