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 What's your opinion on women who never want to have children? (73)

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What's your opinion on women who never want to have children?

I was discussing this the other day with one of my co-workers. That I may not ever want children, and she said she was sure she never did. We got to talking about the things people say to us when we tell them that. 

 

There's the normal comments such as; 

"Why? You'd make a great mom!"

"Oh, you'll change your mind when you're older"

"You'll end up with the most kids, just you wait."

 

Then there's the downright rude comments;

"You're not fulfilling your debt to society by not having children"

"Women are designed to be nutures, therefore you're unnatural"

You're going to die alone"

"You're selfish, you don't want children because you'd rather be able to go out and get drunk every night rather than be a responsible parent"

 

The comments I've heard, and the ones she told me she's heard, are ABSOLUTELY ridiculous. 

 

So CD, what's you opinion on the matter?

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4 points

Some women aren't fit to be mothers. If you don't want kids, then you shouldn't have them. Kind of like some teachers... if they don't like kids, then they shouldn't be teachers.

2 points

I don't see the problem with it? The world is getting over populated as it is so it's probably a good thing that not all women want kids and it doesn't make life any less fulfilling as long as you don't think it does... besides, I'll always be your baby. ;)

Saurbaby(5581) Clarified
1 point

Which is why I never have to have my own, I've got you. And you're more than enough ;)

I think the people who say these things also have it in their mind that women shouldn't be working.

3 points

I'll never understand what the problem is with women working for some people... I'll happily stay at home if some woman wants to support me. ;)

2 points

I think it's fine if they don't want to have kids. It's all up to the couple if they want it or not.

2 points

Logically I know its fine not to have children and people have lots of different reasons for not doing so... However when I meet a couple in their 40s that still doesn't have children the first thing that I wonder is which one of them is infertile or if they have some sort of genetic condition that they don't want to pass on...

To me to be a parent just seems like such a natural thing. If I don't achieve that in my life I will consider myself a failure.

LibPatriot(328) Clarified
1 point

Our differences aside, you would make a wonderful father and I hope you get that chance. :)

Saurbaby(5581) Clarified
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To me to be a parent just seems like such a natural thing. If I don't achieve that in my life I will consider myself a failure.

And that's probably why I get so many negative comments actually. People have it in their minds that others HAVE to reproduce. We don't, at least not anymore.

2 points

Here is the challenge I see...

0. Some may see your opinion as anger.

1. While you may want or not want children, the bottom line is that you really only need worry about those expensive bills which he may or may not have reimbursed.

Saurbaby(5581) Clarified
2 points

Some may see your opinion as anger.

How so?

Problem is that people DON'T think about the financial side of children. They feel they're supposed to have children, especially before a certain age, or they're doing something wrong.

Anger at their childhood, or the world, and they thus chose not to bring another innocent child into this world to experience it.

Anger at their parents and fear that they will make the same mistakes.

Whatever the reason, people speculate without ever having walked in your shoes ;)

addltd(5144) Clarified
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I was trying to state that if you have made the choice, you are ok because it is your choice...but, other may judge you and say things like oh, she is "choosing" because she...choose from the list (never found the right partner, got too old, could never get pregnant)... and so on. So the financial side is more of a selfish side of the equation...and yes, you are absolutely correct about that!

Eh. They just don't care for giving themselves the responsibility of having a child.

They'd rather do something in their life that is more fulfilling to them than raising a child.

I think some women just have children because they think they are suppose to.

Saurbaby(5581) Clarified
1 point

I agree with the last part completely.

There's a lot of reasons as to why I personally came to this choice, though nothing is set in stone. But it's the fear of responsibility over a child.

Intangible(4934) Clarified
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I feel the same way. I think I will want a child when it's time to carry over my "legacy".

I want to accomplish many things in my life so that I may be an inspiration for my child.

I think a parent that has a lot of experience would be best at raising a child...rather than someone fresh out of college or high school. I want to be able to help my child fulfill their dreams.

Just like having kids there's advantages for also not having kids. For example by not having children your doing the world a favor by decreasing overpopulation (maybe not by much but still) and that's just 1 reason there are other reasons.

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I think a really good reason to not have kids is because they fucking suck and stuff.... just sayin'.

That's my nemesis!!!!! ^.^

This is so true. Why my nephew is currently battling his 2 year old child over his wife's boobies. The child insists on breastfeeding and so he has to time share. It's not dignified for a grown man to have to tell his 2 year old, "They're my boobies!" and having the child retort, "No! Mine!" I tried to help the situation by suggesting he take the right one and the child the left one but they just can't come to a compromise. In the mean time, the child just keeps on sucking more and more every day. ;)

There are more ways of being a mother than just squeezing a baby out of your womb. ;)

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I don't think there's anything wrong with it, we aren't required to have children so I don't see the problem, I don't want children, people always say I'll change my mind but I don't think I will, Im stubborn like that my mum says xD

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Children are a huge responsibility. Those who are not 'fulfilling their debt to society' are people who have children without realising what a responsibility it is.

Your choice. If you wanna be sterilized and whatnot, go for it. I have made that choice to get sterilized too. Pregnancy would suck.

1 point

Everyone has a different outlook on life. I don't appreciate having children or not. As long as they live happily and meaningfully

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I think it is your right to choose. I never want to be a mother. The tubes are coming out. I told my friend that I would jump off a bridge before being a mother. LOL.

Hellno(17753) Disputed
6 points

Well that's a relief... I had nightmares of you and Prodigee spawning some evil, demented child.

LibPatriot(328) Disputed
1 point

You are so funny! Prod's decent enough, but we would not last very long, so why would we have kids? I am not a Satanist, so it would not work. Besides, I AM the demented child. ;)

GuitarGuy(6096) Clarified
1 point

I think she'd much rather be with RandomDude lol...