We all have them, we all have different opinions. I'd like to discuss mine, There was a girl I fell in love with once. We aren't and are together I really don't know how to put it at least not in one sentence. But we were together for a short time and things took off from the very moment we met at least that's what I thought. now she told me that she originally just thought of it as a fling and to be honest I was worried about that so on our second date I held her hand with both of mine while she was laying down on my pool table and I looked into her eyes and asked her if she would consider having a real relationship with me. and she wasn't sure, she didn't know what to think she lives on the other side of the country and she was returning home in two more days. she said she didn't know how'd that work and I said ill make it work, we will. and well we kept on talking and then she went home and a few days later I asked her out and she said yes. we haven't done anything sexual but she was my first kiss, we did run into some problems some of which I know probably seem petty and maybe not even right but at least hear me out. The first thing was she told me too many sexual things she had done with her past boyfriends she just went too far into detail and I asked her more than once not to tell me those things but sometimes it would slip right off her tongue. And for a while I couldn't even look at her right those thoughts of what I actually know still bothers me not as much as it did before though. honestly though if I had done sexual things with other women in my past I would of gotten over that a lot sooner than I did and completely in a way I don't feel I am over it. more to it she told me she wishes she could go back and stop all that from happening and do it with the man she truly loves yet she feels doing those sexual things with those people is what makes her who she is today I couldn't handle hearing that. she said that to me a few times I wish I would of told her I don't want to hear that. it's hard for me to hear that for the same reason I haven't done anything like that I know she loved other men before me and it hurts to know what I do. she asked me to just accept her past like she accepts mine but I don't have a past not with anyone anyway she was my first and she said that soon after she told me a lot of sexual stuff she had done and I just couldn't say yes with that in my mind but I still don't want to. I also had hard time with me always wanting to be faithful to my future wife and i'm with her and she always wasn't the  whole time I wanted to remain a virgin until I met my wife and she told me she was sorry which shocked me because I didn't think anyone could think like that. With everything I went through I was always the one who got hurt and that hurt her she was sacred and asked if I was always gonna be like this and to that I never knew what to say. This is gonna sound weird but because shes been with other men I feel I have to fight more to get her to truly love me so that I'm not just another guy. we are almost complete opposites me and this girl. now we are both in college and before we got in college she said she couldn't handle being in a relationship with me during college. so here we are me and her barley talk and it kills me a little inside everyday.