Man I really feel where you coming from because my daddy is just the same..but just keep your head up and he will come to his right state of mind one day....

I believe that every boy looks up to an older man, mostly their fathers. Even though it means not having a father to look up to, I'd rather have no father than to have a lousy father. Life moves on, one might wonder who their father is but I wouldn't want to live in a household with a father who has no job, who sits on the couch all day, who is an alcoholic and one who basically has no life. Being fatherless doesn't mean one can't have someone to look up to, they can have a father figure, such as their uncle, their grandpa or their best friend's father. I'd rather not know who my father is than to be ashamed of him.

Yes it would be difficult to not have a father and you may think about all the things you have missed if you had a father groeing up, but it is also difficult when you have one that doesn't care. That also messes you up as well. I grew up with a crappy dad and I honestly believe I would be better off if I had grown up without one. It hurts you more to know you have a dad that doesn't give a crap what's happening with you and what's going on in your life.

Some people are not capable of change. I know from experience. YOu can try to knock some sense into him, but it doesn't always work. I guess everyone's different. From my experiences I would rather not have a father, but from yours you would want one. Everyone is different, and not everything works for everyone.

I would rather be “fatherless” then having a “lousy father”, because a “father” is supposed to be the man of the house and set a good example so the rest of the family can look up to him. So if I look up at a lousy father I might then be a lousy person, but if I had no father then I’ll set the standards for my own self and step up and be the man of the house especially if I had younger brothers or sisters.

I would support the fact of being fatherless then having a lousy father. Fathers most likely are supposed to be the provider for the household and solve the problems that comes in hand because his like the alpha male but if your lousy then what point is it for you to have around. Kids look towards their father as an example of how to be a man and to have responsibility's over the actions they make. so why not be fatherless when having a lousy father is the same thing.

I believe that it would be better to be fatherless then to have a lousy father that just sits on his butt and does nothing. I mean, I have a father but all he does is go to work, go to the beer store and gets drunk every night of the week accept sunday because thats his day to relax. he thinks that he does every thing, but he does'nt because he's just a lazy good for nothing drunk. He does'nt care if he drinks even though he has diabetes and he also has high blood pressure. he could die at any second, but he doesnt care even when me and my mom tell him to quit. not that many people knows what it feels like to have a worthless father. I do and it sucks, so I would rather be fatherless than have one that doesnt care about anyone but their oun happiness before there family.

Me personaly, I would have to say fatherless. And it is easy for me to say that because i havent had mi father in my life never{none,zero,zip,nodda}. The only person i have had to count on is my mother.

Having a lousy father does not just leaves bumps, scrapes and scars externally. The damage goes much deeper. During those vital years of childhood having a bad dad isn't something that one forgets easily. Not only does it alter self confidence and self worth, it can covertly brand those bad habits in the mind of the child. The characteristics of an unfit parent are poisonous. I believe that it is better to be fatherless, rather than have a lousy father. Yes, it will take much effort to fill the shoes of the missing party, but it can and should be done.

I think both being fatherless and having lousy father is depressing. But for me i will prefer to be fatherless, because at least you know that being fatherless is a good reason for a father not to be around. It would hurt me the most if i had a lousy father and not to care about me. In this case i am in the middle of this two choices, that is because i have a father but he is not here in this country, i understand him because he left back to our country for a great reason. But i still need him here to support me.

Right Now, In My opinion to be fatherless. Trust me I Went through it. Sometimes I wish I Had a Lousy Father but Yet Not having A Father is so much better. It's been Eighteen Years since I've seen my Father but if he doesn't care then why should I? If he wanted to be in My life he could've been in my life. But being Fatherless is not bad because I have My Mother and To me that's My Father. I would rather have a Father who want to pay attention to me and actually be supportive of me.

I believe that every child looks up to their father to be a role model, a mentor, and a guide. Although that might mean that you will not have a father to look up to, I would rather have no father than to have a lousy father. I would not want to live in a house with a father that doesn’t have a job, does nothing to provide for his family, and just sits at home being a bum. Being fatherless doesn’t have to mean that someone can’t take that “father figure” place in your life; you could have an uncle, grandfather, best friend’s dad, or just a close personal friend. I know in my life, I have never had a father. I haven’t seen or heard from my father since I was about 2 years old because he didn’t want me as a baby. It does bother me almost every single day, but I get to thinking that if he didn’t want me in his life, then I don’t know if I would want him in mine. I do have best friend’s dad and uncles that have taken over as a “father figure,” but I think I would be more at peace if it was my own dad. I do believe that I would rather be fatherless than have a lousy dad in my life. I know it is a hard thing to deal with, but I would rather have no father than to have a dad that doesn’t care about anything.

I really couldn't say which is worst. Because in a way I have experience both, my father died when I was fourteen. Im not going to lie and say he was father of the year because he was far from it. There was many times were I wonder why did he even have kids. But when a person passes for some reason you begin to see all the good that indivual has done for you. This brief moment of realization didn't hit until I played the best football game of my career. I got home sat in my bed an was about to call him to brag like i usually did after I did good an remmebered he was no longer there. So IM stuck in the middle.

I would rather not have a father at all then be ashamed of his name because a father is someone you look up to and is someone you want to eventually be. Even without a father you can have someone decent to look up to, and a father figure that cares about you. I would hate to have the name of a man who is considered a parasite to society because people are going to judge you because you have your fathers’ name. Besides why would you desire to have a father that doesn’t care for you in any way? I would rather have a father that died before my birth then have a sperm donor, father that doesn’t care about me.

This argument could go both ways but I would have to agree with being fatherless because to me a lousy father is a father who is never there when you need him to be there or, he is never there to listen to what you have to say that's why being fatherless is better in my opinion because you can imagine your father to be whatever you want him to be and, it makes you a better person and a better father.

I think it would be better to be fatherless then to have a lousy father in my life, if I had a father and he was lousy then what good is he doing in my life I wouldn’t need him. I would want a father you will take me places, pay attention to me, and not someone who sits around doing nothing.

A father is someone is always their for you. He's the one that teaches you how to throw a baseball, and comes to all of you baseball games. A father is someone that protects you from all the evils of the world. But if our father is someone that doesn't care about you and spends most of his time in his room, then how can you trust that man to protect you. A lousy father is someone that is someone that you have a hard time trusting. I would rather have no father, then a father that I cant even trust my life with.

Honestly, I'd rather be completely fatherless, not saying that not having is better than having one, albeit a lousy one. However, I do believe that you can grow up completely fatherless and without any major male role model and still be successful. Take myself for example; I lived the first thirteen years of my life without a father or any fatherly interaction, and those were the essential times a kid needed to be around his/her father, I turned out great(Self-opinion). So yes, as opposed to having a lousy father that would rub off on me and mold me into half a man, I would much rather being fatherless.

I personally feel that it is better to be fatherless, rather than having a lousy father. I personally know what it is like . My father was very lousy. The last time I saw him was when I was thirteen, and i havn't heard from him since. It doesn't bother me because I don't know him, and because he's not around I am never set up for any disapointment. So I think that to be fatherless is much better.

I personally feel that it is better to be fatherless, rather than having a lousy father. I personally know what it is like . My father was very lousy. The last time I saw him was when I was thirteen, and i havn't heard from him since. It doesn't bother me because I don't know him, and because he's not around I am never set up for any disapointment. So I think that to be fatherless is much better.

It really sucks not having a man to look up to while your growing up. I believe that being fatherless is better then having a lousy father. The reason I believe this is the best is because you dont want to be looking up to a guy that does nothing in life and its just setting bad examples. Who knows you might grow up following his steps. So being fatherless is better because from day one you start depending on your own with no need of a father being there. And theres always going to be other people by your side helping you get through life.

I think in any case its better to have no father then to have a lousy father either way you still lose. When you have a father you want him to be the best he can be so you can learn from him as you grow up. If you were to have a lousy father then whats the point of having a father at all if he's just going to be lousy and he wouldn't teach you anything. It's always better to have a respectable father figure in your life then to have a lousy father figure.

I think in any case its better to have no father then to have a lousy father either way you still lose. When you have a father you want him to be the best he can be so you can learn from him as you grow up. If you were to have a lousy father then whats the point of having a father at all if he's just going to be lousy and he wouldn't teach you anything. It's always better to have a respectable father figure in your life then to have a lousy father figure.

I would rather be father less it might sound bad but I dont want to think of my father as a lousy one. I would love my dad but it just wouldn't be the same if you had a bad father that just keep bringing you problems. You dont have to have a father you can talk to someone else. Maybe its just because I am girl it would be easier for me to talk to my mother.

Id rather be fatherless than to have a lousy father. Having a lousy father who tires to tell me what to but doesn't do anything with his life would just make me mad. Id rather be raised by my mother who is caring, loving, and actually does something with her life and works everyday to make money to put food on the table.

Being fatherless would ensure that the only heartaches you have from him are his absence, and not knowing what he was like. A lousy father could come in gain your trust, and walk out on you. Some would like to believe that just knowing your father is there is enough. To me having a father who does nothing is in itself an absence because either way he knows nothing about you, and you nothing about him. I would rather him never exist than come in and out of my life.

Being fatherless would ensure that the only heartaches you have from him are his absence, and not knowing what he was like. A lousy father could come in gain your trust, and walk out on you. Some would like to believe that just knowing your father is there is enough. To me having a father who does nothing is in itself an absence because either way he knows nothing about you, and you nothing about him. I would rather him never exist than come in and out of my life.

My point of view of the question is very diffcult because I didn't grow up with my pops, and I went through some pretty lousy step dads in my past. So I really wouldn't know, but I think that having a guy in your dads place is still a good thing but at a very young age because there is always family drama when you are growing up. Just don't have a lousy father because they aren't even good enough to be in that spot to teach you how to be an adult yourself, and having a step dad is a little more decent because you wouldn't want your mom to be lonely and it would keep the family a little stable, becacause no family is PERFECT: Yeah I'm not really answering your question, but you know where I'm going with this.

Being fatherless would ensure that the only heartaches you have from him are his absence, and not knowing what he was like. A lousy father could come in gain your trust, and walk out on you. Some would like to believe that just knowing your father is there is enough. To me having a father who does nothing is in itself an absence because either way he knows nothing about you, and you nothing about him. I would rather him never exist than come in and out of my life.

Being fatherless would ensure that the only heartaches you have from him are his absence, and not knowing what he was like. A lousy father could come in gain your trust, and walk out on you. Some would like to believe that just knowing your father is there is enough. To me having a father who does nothing is in itself an absence because either way he knows nothing about you, and you nothing about him. I would rather him never exist than come in and out of my life.

As a young boy you grow hoping and that they have a father figure in there life to be there when he is needed. The last thing they need is someone who lives with you and doesn't do anything to help you learn the ways of life and answer questions you may need to know for life. As a young man it is important that you have someone in your life to support you and push you to be successful in life.

I rather be fatherless then having a lousy father because of this is that I wouldn't want to know how lousy he is and how bad he is of being a father. Being alone with just a mother is fine with me. It's just how I am. I wouldn't want to have a alcohlic father who drinks on the couch all day and curses my mother. It's just plain and simple, I have a good father or don't have a father at all even though he his still in the house, I wouldn't call him my father at all.

I have to side with being fatherless because if you have a lousy father then he isn't there for you when you need him, so whats the point in him being there? Yes, it sucks not knowing who your father is but life does move on. My dad left my mom before i was born, so I do know what its like to be fatherless and my life has moved along just fine and to me he is dead because he has never been there or even tried to be there. A lousy father would be a bad influence on your life and you would most likely end up being just like him. We already have enough bad influences in our lives, we don't need another one.

In my opinion it is better to be fatherless then to have a lousy father. I say this because if you have a lousy father than you have to deal with him and be ashamed of him. You would have to go day by day and know he is never going to be anything special, especially for you. But if you don’t have a father you can always look up to someone else for that father figure.

This is just my opinion, but I think it would be better to be fatherless than to have a lousy father. I mean i was always tought that a true man should be someone respectable, honest, nd hard working, if he's not a that kind of man then he doesn't deserve to be a father in the first place. Besides just because you don't have a father that doesn't mean you can't have aa father figuer in you life.

I would rather be fatherless than to have a lousy father. I would want a good role model to look up to and to talk to. Not someone who is never there.

Well, this is not an easy question to answer because both are kind of the same to me. But i would have to say fatherless because i'd rather have no man in my life than have somebody that isn't concerned about your life at all. To me that kind of is like being fatherless. I can always find another father figure or not even as much as a father figure, more like a male role model.

I believe that it would be better to be fatherless than to have a lousy father. A father is someone you look up to; in a girl they ususally marry a man like their father, and in a guy they act like their father. When the example of what the "man of the house" is lousy then one becomes capable of believing it is fine for a man to act that way. On the other hand, when a person's father has passed, they can live their life with him in mind, trying to make him proud. One can also have the opportunity to delevope an even stronger bond between their mother and themself. Sometimes when something is missing in a person's life they want it even more, and perhaps it will only make them become a better father or marry a man who will be a great father.

I would rather be fatherless, why would i want a lousy father? Yeah it's hard growing up without a father but that's why we have our mother's. They say we need a father figure to look up to but we really don't. Why would I want to look up to a father that's setting a bad example for me. My mom is a hard working women and if my step dad wasn't in the picture I know she would do anything for me and my sister. So I believe it's a lot better to be fatherless then to have to deal with a lousy father that's just setting a bad example to his kids.

I think it's better to be fatherless because having someone to look up to, I'd rather choose no father than having a uncaring and lousy father there to be a stain in my life. I wouldn't look up to him and he doesn't necessarily have to be the fatherly figure I have to look up to.

Take it from someone who has dealt with that type of situation. I have a lousy father and by lousy I mean destructive, ill behaved, reckless, nonchalant, and not in my life. I already live my life as if he were dead and I feel that if someone is not benefiting your personal or mental status and self-progression, then why have them around? I think that if you have a lousy father in your life that you are letting him take a toll on your future in a negative way that I, myself, wouldn't let him get the satisfaction.

It is better to be fatherless than to have a father because than if you did have the father and he never really did, or help you in any way, you would hate him forever. While being fatherless you have the liberty to think if he was alive he would do this for me, expect this out of me, this would be something he would be proud of, and you might end up doing as you think he wants.

Other wise you might see his face and he might be watching television and you look at him in disgust, ad say thing like you are you my father? What wrong have I done to you that you treat me this way? You are always here and yet you do nothing for anyone but yourself.

It would be better than to be fatherless that way you are able to say this is what he would do for us.

When I think of a lousy father, I think of a father that really has no feelings for his child and trully doesnt care about them, I think of a father that puts his own needs before the needs of his child, and spends most of his time neglecting the son because he is off pursing his own goals.

With that in mind I believe that it would be better to not have a father at all than to have a father that acted in this manner simply because I believe there will be nothing good that comes from a relationship like that except negativity and animosity. All the (good times) that a normal father and son would share are instead replaced with regret and anger. It would be better for a persons character development to never have to put up with all those negative situations. Besides that you can't miss what you never had.

I think it is better to be fatherless because a lousy father cannot do anything for the family.Imagine a father who is alcoholic and beats your mother, then you have no meaning of having a father.He creates violance and terror in the house and you alawys feel ashame to call him a father. It is better to be fatherless than to have a father who gives you a hard time.

I believe growing up knowing you had no one to admire and look up to is better than following the example of a lousy dad. I mean some one who isn't their to show you right from wrong is the same as having a bad father, but at least you don't have a bad influence around you all the time just smoking, drinking, cursing, being lazy, and selfish. I mean people will always wonder about there dad and that he is gone but its better to wonder than be disappointed all the time coming home to a lazy, selfish dad who you aren't sure if he really cares. Life without a father would be the same as having a good one, since you will always find some one to look up to, just like others will help you through life such as the rest of your family.

personally i think being fatherless and having a lousy one is the same because i grow up not knowing my father and then he popped up in my life and said he was going to go to the fair or take us out to eat but i learn he is lousy and now i just think its better not to now him and that it would be the same as if he was in my life. he still be lousy and not doing anything for me and my brother.

I have a great father and if I was to have a lousy father I would rather not have one at all. Your father is supposed to be there when you need him and be a role model who teaches you important things. If you have a lousy parent then most likely you will be one too. You can learn more on you own than next to a person that does not teach you anything. In situations like this you are better all by yourself.

As much as it hurts now to have one, I would have to say that I would rather have a lousy dad, instead of no dad at all, but some dads are so lousy that it is just the same as not having a father. Growing up for twelve years barely seeing my dad, having my father break promises consecutively, telling me he loves me, but then turns around and does almost any and everything to make me feel as if he could care less, and above all putting other children before his own. I know my dad cares for me and loves me, but the way he shows it is so hurtful. Some dads use the excuse that they don’t know what to do or they are doing the best they can. Well I say, IF LETTING OR SHOWING YOUR CHILD THAT YOU LOVE THEM EVERY DAY IS HARD, THEN WHY IN THE WORLD DID YOU HELP CONCIEVE ME? If a dad doesn’t have a job, does nothing throughout the day, then why is it so hard for him to pick up a phone call and just say hey I was thinking about you, wanted to check on you, or just wanted to let you know to have a good day? Why can’t he attend one school function or performance you have? Using the excuse, “Oh I don’t have any money, or a ride”, oh it is so unacceptable. If it’s free what’s stopping you? I’m pretty sure someone else is going to see the child perform even the mother. How hard is it to make an attempt to ask for a ride, at least then the child will know you tried. The thing that gets me though, is lousy dads seem think they do nothing wrong, but when another man, or step dad comes into the scene they get upset, because it seems like the child is loving that man even more. Think about it, if this new man is coming, showing love to the child, being there for the child, showing the up most support and respect to the child, then what would you expect? The bible says to love thy enemies, and one of the commandments is to honor thy mother and thy father, but there is also a saying that goes, “It is best to forgive, but that doesn’t me to forget”.

In my opinion it is better off to be fatherless because if you have a lousy father that doesn't work or do anything for you then how is that helping you be a better person and make something of yourself? It's not. I never have met my father and that doesn't bother me, yea sometimes I wonder what it would be like to be that "Daddy's little girl", but not having a father has only made a stronger person. I have other men in my family who I would consider to be a father figure to me like for example my grandpa. Having a lousy father might as well be the same as not having one I think.

I think it would be better fatherless the reason why is because i have never had a father in my life. I think that if you have a lousy father you will be taught to be lousy just like him. Parents are supposed to be setting examples for their kids, not just be lazy and that type of thing. Whats the point of having a bum for a father your whole life? you are not going to learn anything from him so why keep him? I feel like a mother can raise a son the same as a father can, well at least my mother did.

It is a lot better to be fatherless than have a lousy father. If you don't have a father he can't hurt you. Because to have a father who knows where you live and knows your phone number but never calls or comes by has to hurt. For example, my daughter's dad loves her but he acts like he doesn't have the time of day for her. He blows her off as if she is not there. Although you have to ask yourself questions like If he really cared wouldn't he pay attention to her. Wouldn't he acknowledge that she was there every time he saw her.

In real life not all people change and I have seen that around family members and friends. With out a father there is always going to be a chance that another male will step into your life and be a fatherly figure to you. They probably wont try to become one but I bet you would follow into their steps and model your self after that person. Now this isnt the case for everyone but more then likely either your mother will find someone new or an uncle can step in to guide you through. That sure beats having a father who doesnt care.

I think if he don't want to be in my life why should I be in his. I just wouldn't want a daddy that don't care about me at all. If he was a good a good father and not a lousy one I would've never picked this side. I just think all of these lame old crazy dad's that don't have nothing better to do with their time. They should just pick up the phone and call and see how their child is doing in life. I'm just mad because I didn't have a father figure coming up as a child and it is very hard trying to get threw life without him. I wish him the best of luck with his life because he out of mine for good.

I feel that with either case it sucks but fatherless would be better because you could pick a good person to be your father figure. If you have no father then a person can always fill the shoes of that father and can give you some one to look up to. With a lousy father you are stuck with a lousy figure to look up to and it may cause girls to have a higher risk of dating lousy guys and guys have a higher risk of growing up to be a lousy father. Though in a fatherless case you may always wonder about what ifs but at least you have a good person to look up to. Any one can be a father bu not everyone can be a dad!

Having a dad who doesn't give you the time of day is pretty much not being there at all.

I would rather be fatherless than have a father that is lousy and does absoultly nothing. Most kids look up to their dads, but if they aren't good fathers, then why have them around. It just means that the kid will want to be lousy like his dad. Besides, you can't miss what you never had.

Many people struggle with being fatherless. It is a challenge but it allows them to be tough and dependant on themselves. Being fatherless is hard but when it comes down to it, it is better to be fatherless than to have a lousy father. If you had a lousy father, they teach you the wrong things and don't allow you to expand.

I thinks its better if you be a fatherless than a lousy father because your lousy father would give you bad influence. Maybe you might follow your father as he is. But if your a fatherless is gonna be ok but not good either because you might not like being a fatherless. As long as you a lousy father or fatherless so they can encourage you to success in life and also help you correct your msitake that you had made.

I think it is better to be fatherless rather than having a lousy father.Yes, having a father would be great, but one that would care for you, that would demonstrate with actions what he feels for you, and how much he feels that. It is better to be around people who you know love you, than to live your life knowing that there is a dad wondering around without caring of how you're doing. It would hurt much more knowing that your dad is somewhere around this planet, than knowing that u dont have a father period. A father is that one man that cares for you, from day one, until he or you is no longer there

It can be either way, but I think being fatherless is better than having a lousy father because sometimes they get on your nerve and they make you do things you don't wanna do. But hey that's the way fathers' are. You still have other peoples to look up to even though your dad is not around.

I'm used to being alone with my mom without my dad there because he passed away when I was six. So, I really don't have a favorite side.

It's better to be fatherless. Having a lousy father creates a bigger gap in your life than being fatherless. It is a proven fact that if you're a girl, you'll look for someone to be your other half that's similar to your father. Having a lousy father, for a girl, would mean having a lousy boyfriend as well. By having no father you don't have to worry about how terrible they are and all you have to do is ponder how amazing your dad could have been. Wondering what could have been is better than wondering how much better it could be.

As much as it hurts now to have one, I would have to say that I would rather have a lousy dad, instead of no dad at all, but some dads are so lousy that it is just the same as not having a father. Growing up for twelve years barely seeing my dad, having my father break promises consecutively, telling me he loves me, but then turns around and does almost any and everything to make me feel as if he could care less, and above all putting other children before his own. I know my dad cares for me and loves me, but the way he shows it is so hurtful. Some dads use the excuse that they don’t know what to do or they are doing the best they can. Well I say, IF LETTING OR SHOWING YOUR CHILD THAT YOU LOVE THEM EVERY DAY IS HARD, THEN WHY IN THE WORLD DID YOU HELP CONCIEVE ME? If a dad doesn’t have a job, does nothing throughout the day, then why is it so hard for him to pick up a phone call and just say hey I was thinking about you, wanted to check on you, or just wanted to let you know to have a good day? Why can’t he attend one school function or performance you have? Using the excuse, “Oh I don’t have any money, or a ride”, oh it is so unacceptable. If it’s free what’s stopping you? I’m pretty sure someone else is going to see the child perform even the mother. How hard is it to make an attempt to ask for a ride, at least then the child will know you tried. The thing that gets me though, is lousy dads seem think they do nothing wrong, but when another man, or step dad comes into the scene they get upset, because it seems like the child is loving that man even more. Think about it, if this new man is coming, showing love to the child, being there for the child, showing the up most support and respect to the child, then what would you expect? The bible says to love thy enemies, and one of the commandments is to honor thy mother and thy father, but there is also a saying that goes, “It is best to forgive, but that doesn’t me to forget”.

I rather be fatherless then have a lousy father. In both cases you really don’t have a father but as a fatherless kid its better because you don’t get judged for your dad’s decisions or actions. Plus you don’t get to look at the disgrace of a so called father every single day of your life till you can’t look at him any longer. Either way you look at it you’re fatherless no matter what.

It’s somewhat easier to be fatherless rather than have a lousy father.

Eventually one can get used to not having a father around (physically or just spiritually and emotionally). The child may suffer temporarily, but hopefully not for a prolonged period of time since they can eventually learn to become independent and take care of themselves.

A lousy father will not only not benefit, but also hinders the growth of his child, because unlike the absent father, he is around, but gets in the way of what is best for the child.

Although being fatherless is probably one of the biggest hardships, undesired by all. I would rather be fatherless, than to have to deal with someone who on a daily basis would frustrate me. At least when you have no knowledge of a father, you only ponder on it from time to time. On the other hand, a lousy father would be with you in your thoughts forever.

Yes, it is because I don't sit around waiting for him to call me I call him every week he got my number. So if he tried to contact me he would've did it a long time ago. Im not angry that he doesn't call me as long as I got my mama Im good.

I believe that both are bad but I would rather go fatherless. What is the point of having someone in your life that is lousy? A father should set a good example for their children. If the dad is lousy then he is teaching his kids that it is okay to be that way and not do anything with their life. If I got married and my husband was a lousy father, I would tell him he better step up and be the dad I know he can be or get out the house a never come back.

I rather be fatherless to be honest with you. You might as well say im fatherless even though I have a father but he wasn't there. Having a lousy father is kind of like you being fatherless. Like really what are they there for if he not doing anything to benefit you but just being mean and hurtful toward you. Being fatherless is better because you wouldn't have some man there treating you wrong and being hurtful to you. Its a shame knowing that you have 4 kids out there but you can never pick up the phone and call to see how your kids doing. Thinking about it really makes me mad because my birthday just passed and he couldn't even call to tell me Happy Birthday. Why have kids if you not going to be there for them. Even though my father isn't there for me I still love him but I rather be fatherless....

I think if i had a dad that did nothing for me i wouldnt want him around because odds are you and him arent going to be talking 5 years down the line anyway, so why try and make it work out if you already know what the outcome is.

In my opinion, I believe it is better to be fatherless then to have a lousy father. I wouldnt know how it feel to have a lousy father but I have friends that there fathers are always drunk and never do anything to help them. They sometimes tell me they wish there dad wasn't around. Now if my dad was like that I would think the same because at least by not having a father you wouldnt know how it feels to be dissapointed by a father.

People can say whatever they want, and throw out their opinions, but they will not truly know until they have been through the experience. I believe it is better to be fatherless than to have a lousy father. When you have a lousy father than you are hurt by him. You can not be hurt by something that is not there. You may wish you had a father, but you will be hurt more if you have one that is lousy and hurtful and doesn't care. It will make your life a lot harder. And, usually if you don't have a father than a man in your life will step and up and sort of play the fatherly figure.