Well, I think that if your wife isn't the love of your life, then you should'nt be with her and hurt her any further by seeing someone else.

What's the point in getting married then if you can't stick by the vows though? Sure, people fall out of love, and I get it, why bother staying with the person if they make you feel like a loser? But still, a vow is a vow. If someone feels like they'll be inclined to want to cut of commitment ties someday, they should just avoid getting married in the first place. It just pretty much starts to put marriage up in the 'joke' category when people divorce for another person so often.

And I may be a newlywed, but I'm actually the type that never wanted to get married because I realize at some point, you'll want to move on from the person for something...saner and happier. And I'm well aware I'm going to go through a lot of unhappiness by being married, but I also believe once you truly love someone, you don't really "fall out of love." Someone leaving their spouse for someone else actually made a conscious to subconscious decision of getting involved with another person when they should not have been. In fact, it's unbelievable disrespectful to the marriage, the spouse, the children (if any), and it's selfish.

But really, for people to decide to leave their spouse for someone else as much as people have been doing, perhaps the concept of marriage should be rewritten so that everything I say becomes invalid and leaves more rationality for their ridiculous behavior.

Your bias isn't religion, it's that you're a newly wed.

You have just fallen in love with someone, and committed to them. Luckily with the idea that you'll be with him for the rest of your life. Which is great, that's how too go.

But some people do the same thing as you, then fall out of love, and back in love again... with someone else.

You can't judge others for how they feel.

People can do whatever they want, and it's none of my business. I thought it was dumb when everyone cared about Clinton, I thought it was dumb with Edwards, I think it's dumb with this rash of Conservative Bible Bashers, even the gay one.

I would love for one of these guys to hold a press conference where all they say is "It's none of your business, no questions, peace out." Then leave.

For me, if I had 4 young kids, I'd stay with my wife. If I had 4 old kids, or no kids, then I'd think about it. But I'm not him, I don't know his feelings, his home situation, etc,

I mean, it's perfectly possible his wife is a complete bore who won't even suck him off on his b-day and only has sex in the dark once a month with the lights off. You can't expect any man to put up with that.

But we don't know. And more, we shouldn't know or care.

This is true. It's a simple truth of human nature that people change, and there are two people involved in a marriage (directly; children are indirectly involved as well, but that's a separate issue).

After 5 years or more, it is entirely possible that you will have changed sufficiently that your interests in a partner no longer coincide with those at the time of your marriage, and your spouse may also have changed so as to no longer be the person you were interested in at that time. If you're lucky, these changes will cancel each-other out (the person your spouse became is the person you're interested in now), but there's no reason to assume that they will, and certainly nothing wrong with admitting that it's happened.

You can't judge others for how they feel.

Sure you can. You probably shouldn't, but there's nothing that stops you from doing so.

I'm not sure why everyone in the US is obsessed with everyone else's romantic life. Do what makes you happy. Life is short; why be with somebody that you no longer want to be with?

Sure! Love is what life all about! I would leave my wife if I found a sexier girl