Of course they should. If you are getting married then you should understand that a great deal of that contract depends on solidarity. Forget sexism. Men are not using marriage as a tool to subvert women. People get married and establish a family, not sign a bunch of agreements to help the wife become more independent. It makes no sense for them not to take the name. Perhaps, an exception might be for female celebrities who are already established, but then, if they are already established, what difference does it make if they change their name?

Understanding the history and flaws of our country is important. Being apologetic for what our predecessors have done is silly and futile. As long as we are the most clearly innovative and most principle-based country, what reason do we have to not be proud? Btw, we live in a democratic republic. Not a democracy.

Assuming God exists, and that He is benevolent, it would logically follow that he does not actively send people to Hell. A benevolent God would not impose anything on anyone, therefore, the question is flawed.