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Amanda Todd Bullied to death - Who is responsible for her death?

Amanda Todd from Canada took her own life this week.  She did so only after a multi-year struggle with blackmail, nude photos, anxiety, depression, bullying, and essentially becoming an outcast from society.

 

Who cause her eventual death?  Some might say she was the cause for flashing herself on the internet, but I don't think that is where the blame lies.  I believe that the blame lies with the nude photo blackmailer or her friends who ended up bullying her.

 

Here is her sad video testament to the struggles she endured.

 

Who do you think is to blame?  Should someone else pay the ultimate price in addition to Amanda?

The blackmailer did it

Side Score: 36
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Her friends did it

Side Score: 67
5 points

I think the blackmailer should be brought to justice. Someone who would take advantage of a teenager and ruin her reputation by not just saving but distributing semi-nude pictures of her is horrific.

Maybe we need to rethink capital punishment?!?

Side: The blackmailer did it
2 points

Is rethinking capital punishment for blackmailing an serious assessment?

Side: Her friends did it
PresChaffy(172) Disputed
2 points

"Is rethinking capital punishment for blackmailing a serious assessment?"

Side: The blackmailer did it
1 point

Ruined her reputation? No, she did that herself, you don't get nude on camera with people, and if you do, then you take that risk.

Why should we rethink capital punishment over this, if I committed suicide because someone wrote a nasty comment about a song I wrote should we extend capital punishment to those who write nasty comments?

Side: Her friends did it
1 point

There is a difference between embaressing photos floating around the internet and somebody intenually sending them out to everyone you know (twice) in an effort to threaten you to pose for more.

Side: The blackmailer did it
3 points

The most obvious person to focus blame on is the extortionist; the person who was blackmailing this poor girl. I keep chickens and when one of my hens gets a slight wound, the others, instead of comforting her, attack. We haven't really evolved that much - all of her friends are to blame as well. They are all chickens. Round all of them up; send them to the nearest KC for rendering.

Side: The blackmailer did it

This video saddens me, she seemed like a really nice girl who was just looking for a friend.

Amanda Todd Youtube Channel

(Video posted by Amanda October 3rd, 2012)

It's shocking to know that she just posted a video of herself singing a song just 9 days ago, and that now she's no longer alive.

I believe the blackmailer is the one most responsible for this, although not quite the one responsible ultimately for her death.

Side: The blackmailer did it
2 points

The girl was pretty much sexually harassed, and considering she was a minor the blackmailer should be brought to justice for distribution of child pornography (since that is his actual crime.)

I will not say, however, that he should be charged with anything more. Her suicide was her choice, and it was brought upon by lots of bullying over this whole anti-sex fascination that young people have (thanks to the older people who push it unto them.)

Her death is tragic, but no one should be considered "responsible" for her death. Society is to blame, and that's all we've got so far.

Side: The blackmailer did it
2 points

One of the most saddest stories ive read in a long time..I agree with most peoples oppinions on here, however i do think the story has been well blown out of proportion i actually do think theres more to the story then whats been said, and hopefully it will eventually come out. Having said that i just don't understand how the police wasn't called,i definately don't think her parents did enough to prevent her from killing herself, come on if my kid tried killing herself the first 2 times and some dirty scumbag was releasing nude photos of her especially at the age of 12 wouldn't you go straight to police? i don't understand how it managed to get this far to the point of someone so young taking their own life, everyone makes mistakes ive made mistakes, why should someone be punished for it? absaloutely disgusting.

Side: The blackmailer did it
wardogninja(1789) Clarified
1 point

It kinda feels like what happened during "Kony2012". Just a bunch of kids looking for a cause to fight for just so they can consider themselves heroes. Where were these "heroes" when Amanda was alone. She moved to three different schools, and not one student there recognized she needed help.

Side: The blackmailer did it
1 point

What a dick. Yeah, hopefully they can find some way to charge the blackmailer.

Edit: didn't see that part where she was seven. Now he's even more of a dick.

Damn, what were the parent up to? Didn't they notice something wrong? I mean, there's things you can do about that type of situation.

Side: The blackmailer did it
1 point

Edit: didn't see that part where she was seven. Now he's even more of a dick.

She's 15, not 7.

Side: The blackmailer did it
1 point

Yeah, horrible at kids ages, what grade they're in and all that for some reason. Thanks for the clarification. See other side ----->

Side: The blackmailer did it
1 point

I have some sympathy for this girl, and I genuinely believe this is a tragedy. However, I can't really blame either party. I chose this side at random. Here is my reason why:

This life is going to throw at your face things much, much harder than what this girl went through. The characters in her story could've easily ended up being her co-workers, or even her boss. She wouldn't even have to bother with offing herself, starvation and lack of money would do that for her.

This world is a cruel, bleak place and anything you experience in high school is the easy part. So you can either toughen up, or you can take the easy way out early and save your future self the trouble.

That being said, I would like to see both the blackmailer and her friends brought to justice. I don't want to see them dead or even imprisoned. I want to see them suffer the same isolation Amanda suffered. Just because this world sucks doesn't mean we should let assholes like them get away with making it suck more.

Side: The blackmailer did it
1 point

that poor girl... She made a mistake she didn't deserve all that :( that black mailer is one of the people I'm going to find hard to forgive (Since my religion says to forgive everyone). Those friends weren't very good either they never supported her they just left her and bullied her. This just shows exactly how bad bullying's gotten. ;_;

Side: The blackmailer did it

I believe it was the blackmailer since the act of not being able to escape a horrible faith tend to push a person to end its life. Whereas her friends are mere vessels of deceit but are still subject to change and quite possibly escape. Whereas the blackmailer not only chased her but also inflicted traumatizing damage to her self esteem and her reputation with her peers. What a cruel faith. Measures must be done to prevent this to happen.

Side: The blackmailer did it
1 point

the blackmailer did it AND I DON'T KNOW WHAT IS A BLACKMAILER OR SOMETHIN'!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Side: The blackmailer did it
1 point

UH............................ AND I DON'T KNOW WHO IS AMANDA TOAD OR TOOD OR SOMETHIN'!!!! I'M JUST 10YEARS OLD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Side: The blackmailer did it
1 point

I just saw the vidio. uh.......... it says he, so it should NOT BE HER FRIEND!!!(uh... does she have a boyfriend???)

Side: The blackmailer did it

I actually posted a Facebook status about this only an hour ago and was immediately met with butthurt people calling me a "c*nt". I now question why I have over 700 friends on my profile when I dislike most of them... Anyway, here is my status, please excuse the grammatical errors:

"Oh look, more people who become concerned about a matter like Kony and turn a tragedy into something personal for about a week. None of you care about Amanda Todd; you won't even remember this in three months so stop pretending to be humanitarians. Kids in Africa are starving and have AIDS and I see countless memes trolling the shit out of the situation and people sit back and take it as nothing, but when people see a rich little white girl get called a "slut" and kill herself it's fucking hands across Australia and anyone who makes a joke in its direction is the Devil incarnate. Furthermore, this shit happens everyday, so get the fuck over yourselves and realize that this is what people like to call "life" and stop acting like this is a one off scenario.

So please, before telling people like me with a morbid/dark sense of humor to "grow up", realize that we're only doing it because we love taking the piss and getting a reaction out of morons acting the hero over something we know to be utterly blown out of proportion, and then take a look at yourself and see how pathetically hypocritical and arrogant you are and what a total retard you must be to attempt to be some internet king and stand up for something that was, is, and always will be unpreventable by any human that will ever exist."

Now more closely related to the debate, here is my stance: nobody is responsible for her death but Amanda.

In most cases, especially this one, suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

I have been in exactly the same situation as her, to an extent of course (I don't have breasts obviously), and you know what I did? I moved the fuck on. I got help. I acted.

My childhood was miserable and awful for about eight straight years, but did I kill myself? No.

Now I know that other people have a different mindset and think differently, and I am fully aware Amanda "tried" to get help with her video, but it's still the principle of the matter. In extension, come on, why would you think a YouTube video would help? Teen girls looking for attention post them everyday, why would this one be taken seriously out of all the others?

Why not ball the police? Embarrasing, yes, but a whole lot more reasonable, not to mention rational, than killing yourself.

Are the people that bullied her and the weird black mail guy to blame for her death? No. They didn't kill her, she killed herself on her own accord.

There is no denying, however, that both those parties are wankers of the lowest form.

Even if you disagree with me, I think we can all agree that this was tragic and wish it didn't happen.

Side: Her friends did it
2 points

I can only upvote this once :(

But I couldn't agree more.

Side: Her friends did it
2 points

This deserves not just an infinite amount of upvotes, but to be paraded as the new slogan of child protection agencies.

Well, it's a bit long for a slogan. How about we shorten it to "Kids; get the fuck over yourselves" ;)

Side: Her friends did it
2 points

What are you really making a point of?

Obviously terrible events happen day in and day out all over the world and some of them are preventable and some aren't. Mankind is prone to human error and mistakes which in turn result in suicides, murders, rapes, ect.

As much as I agree with most of your post I wonder what your point ultimately is with your posting? Who are you targeting? Or are you generalizing?

Amanda should have called the police.

Amanda should not have committed suicide if she wanted to live, obviously she chose not to live.

I agree Amanda is ultimately responsible for her own life and she took herself out of the equation of life.

Again, we agree on this. However I do not understand the core focus on the point you're trying to make out of your post?

Side: Her friends did it

Time to get rid of a sizable chunk of those 700 "friends". People who value emotion over reason, not the kind of people I want as friends.

Side: Her friends did it

I went to up-vote you but my phone isn't letting me which is pretty annoying.

Anyway, yeah I agree, I'm somewhat baffled as to why I have most of them on there to begin with, or more why I let them be there. Oh well, time to do some cleaning.

Side: Her friends did it
addltd(5142) Disputed
1 point

Ok, I can't believe I am taking a side different from Saurbaby! Here is the way I see it. Yes, you are right. Ultimately it was her fault. But, would you feel differently if it was you, your mom, sister, best friend, girl friend? It doesn't happen everyday, but it does happen. Why don't we try and stop it instead of turning a blind eye?

I am not sure why you feel so strongly this way unless something like this has happened to you...?

Please share.

Side: The blackmailer did it

Basically my take on the whole situation is that it's pretty much been blown completely out of proportion by a large chunk of social networking users, as well as 4chan... However I must say the latter is much less "PC".

Reading back over my argument now I realize how, to put it bluntly, brutal it is. But that probably has something to do with the fact that I wrote it at like 4am. Nevertheless, nestled deep within the vulgarities my stance is as it is in black and white.

As for why my stance is so strong: When I was in school I knew two girls that were bullied for "sexting" and ultimately killed themselves because people called them sluts and made fun of them. Not to sound crude or anything, but they both partook in a threesome several times that year, so honestly, what did they expect people would say about two fifteen year olds banging one guy at the same time? They, like Amanda, put in little to no effort to try and get help, and they like Amanda only got people caring about them after they died ( On a second note I may add that there were certainly no global internet "crusaders" showing their "support" for the girls ). In fact the whole situation was almost identical to the Amanda one.

At the same time I knew/know a rather overweight kid who was teased and ridiculed, beaten up and abused because he was not only fat and a homosexual, but an open Satanist as well. Myself and one other person were all friends because we were all in the same boat. I wasn't beaten up and such for being gay or fat, I'm neither of those things, I was bullied because I was "dumb" enough to stand up for the poor guy. The same goes for the other friend.

All three of us went through absolute hell, and I'll be darned if anyone says the two girls that chose to act like sluts had it worse off.

But did we kill ourselves? Hell no.

We all reached out for help, and unfortunately the other two went to live in America so I don't know about them, but I moved into College and became one of the most well-respected and liked people there. I know that sounds really egotistical, but it's true.

So I'm sorry, but when I see people rallying up like this over something that is not only a common occurance that for some reason has been isolated, but also HIGHLY preventable, I can't help but cringe.

If it were my daughter, sure, I'd be torn apart. But she isn't, and for better or worse I have taught myself to always put rationality before emotion.

I typed this on a phone so sorry for the errors and such, and I apologise for the length. I hope I answered your question Andy.

Side: The blackmailer did it
Lynaldea(1231) Clarified
1 point
Side: The blackmailer did it
1 point

I agree, because you can always get help from someone, even if at that age bullying can really drive you overboard. It's not a question of logic, though. It's pure psychology. If you systematically destroy a person's stregnths and ideals- all their hopes: they will kill themselves. It is murder, just as a computer virus kills a computer. It's this horrible mix of fear and bleak despair that drives people over the edge that can only be combatted with a secret stregnth that no-one can destroy.

Side: The blackmailer did it
4 points

I'm sorry. But no. I don't think it's either's fault. Ultimately, it was HER choice. And yes, she had a shitty situation. But you'd think if the internet screwed her over so much she'd STOP getting online!!!

She could have easily protected herself in so many ways that she choose not to. She didn't get the police's help when the guy blackmailed her, TWICE. She fell for the guy telling her he liked her when she already fell for a guy saying the same things for sex already. She obviously didn't talk to anyone who could help protect her.

It's ultimately her fault. And her parents too for that matter. If I was her parent I would NOT have internet at the house that she had access to. She should have stopped being able to get on Facebook completely.

Yes, the whole situation is terrible. And the people who bullied her and blackmailed her are scum as well, but she didn't handle the situation well at all. Nor did her parents or any other trusted adult that she came in contact with that knew about the situation. And people obviously knew.

I seriously believe everyone gets bullied at some point in their life. It's how they handle it that changes things.

I got sexually harassed in middle school, I didn't just sit back and feel bad about it like it was my fault, though I did feel really bad about it. But I went and told my teachers, and principal. Those guys never touched me again. Though I'm not happy with how the teachers handled it really, at least it stopped.

Amanda Todd could have helped herself. She could have reached out. She didn't. I understand the situation was shitty, but it was her choice.

EDIT: Oh, and by the ways, I don't even believe all of it. I'd love to hear the REAL story from some teenage girl looking for attention. I'm sorry for her, and it's sad, but seriously people...

Side: Her friends did it

Excellent response, it is truly tragic. Not only did Amanda Todd give up on herself, but her ability to confront the problem by herself or look for help from whoever.

Not sure what your thoughts are on blackmailing are, but legalizing blackmail would actually make people think twice about their actions particularly if they are criminal.

I seriously believe everyone gets bullied at some point in their life.

True, it is the natural circle of life.

Side: Her friends did it
2 points

Excellent response, it is truly tragic. Not only did Amanda Todd give up on herself, but her ability to confront the problem by herself or look for help from whoever.

Thank you. And it's true. Maybe people will actually learn from this and reach out, or get a hint.

Not sure what your thoughts are on blackmailing are, but legalizing blackmail would actually make people think twice about their actions particularly if they are criminal.

Honestly I've never really thought about it. But you're right, it may make people think twice before doing something. Though I think Amanda Todd flashing goes along another issue. The issue about anything involving sex in this society is taboo. I see no problem with her body. And if she didn't to begin with then she wouldn't have cared that it went around, and things probably wouldn't have escalated.

Side: Her friends did it

I think you should have the seven-up votes I got... just sayin'.

Side: Her friends did it
1 point

No way, I kind of just went on a rant it feels like. lol I'm not use to coming up with such long arguments. I usually like to keep it short. But your upvotes were well deserved.

Side: Her friends did it

Neither, this society is always blaming others for the actions or inactions of others, so the ultimate responsibility of her death is Amanda Todd, she choose to take her own life.

If it is true that she flashed herself over the internet, she is also responsible for the situation she put herself as well, so she took the easy way out, death.

Side: Her friends did it

I agree that Amanda chose to take her own life, and that the person ultimately responsible for her death would be her. But I also believe that the people who were bullying her, whether it was her friends, or the person who blackmailed her, they deserve some kind of punishment. Not that they should be charged with her death. They harassed her to the point of feeling worthless.

Side: Her friends did it
2 points

Why should the blackmailer be punished? Amanda Todd acted irresponsibly by exposing herself, and she was unwilling to accept the trade that the blackmailer was offering for the silence. Blackmail is simply a trade where someone acted criminally or irresponsibly.

"If blackmail itself were legalized, it would undoubtedly be an even more effective deterrent. Legalization would undoubtedly result in an increase in blackmail, with attendant depredations upon the criminal class." Mises

Side: The blackmailer did it
iamdavidh(4856) Disputed
0 points

Wtf. She's a little girl. She was being blackmailed. She obviously had mental problems to start with. You can't expect a little girl to have your capacity of thought and perspective.

The blackmailer should absolutely be held responsible. Who the hell blackmails a little girl?

Fuck that miserable piece of shit. Throw him in a hole somewhere until he dies.

Side: The blackmailer did it
2 points

Good THING that iamdavidh read the whole story before spatting out some outrageous comments.

Side: Her friends did it
1 point

I'm not sure if you're saying she was a little girl because you believe she was 7, or because she's actually 15. She's still young, but not quite a little girl.

Side: The blackmailer did it

Of legal culpability

When an event occurs which is odious to human sensibilities, it is, I have observed, a natural response for those who are disquieted by the matter, to contrive to lay culpability at the door of one party or another. In this, men rely more frequently upon the direction of those same sensibilities which were offended, than on their faculty of reason.

While this course may be of consolation to the bereaved, or a salve to the hearts of those in uproar, no candid reviewer can consider it to be a reliable or judicious means of discerning the guilty party. It is, rather, the obligation of those who have the power to mete justice and dispense punitive measures, to weigh the matter with an even hand, absent the corrupting influences of emotion.

The death of this person was, in my understanding, declared a suicide. As such, it is a voluntary act of self slaughter and regardless of the influences which impelled Miss Todd to this end, no court can justly declare anyone but Miss Todd herself to be culpable.

This is not to say, however, that no legal charges can be brought against those who are guilty of hounding Miss Todd to her death. there are many legal precedents in which those who had committed analogous offences were sentenced to imprisonment, pecuniary confiscations and other mild penances. [1] [2]

Of moral culpability

It is inevitable that indecency and licentiousness, shall commit offences against innocence and gentleness. This we may accept as a natural peril of mankind. Besides the protection of the law, on which I have written above, our principle defence against persons such as he, who is described as "The Blackmailer", is the goodwill and support of our peers.

When such protection is wanting, or when those who should provide it make themselves accessory to the offence, as in this case, then that original offence is not so execrable as the apathy of those who are obliged to defend against it.

Thus, the fault lies as surely with those who Miss Todd had thought her friends, as with the mysterious instigator of these trespasses (being, the dissemination of compromising likenesses).

Conclusion

We submit that, as the law would have it the greater offence lies with the one who disseminated the photographs in question.

Morally, it is our opinion that the most heinous culpability lies with the peers who, in the dereliction of their natural duty, abandoned Miss Todd to the sinister machinations of a licentious man, and who ultimately drove her to the miserable end which is now the subject of our discussion.

Side: Her friends did it
2 points

People are capable of both genuine good and torturous evil.

The stalker was the original instigator by sending her pictures out to the schools, family, and friends and for following her, precisely fucking with her life.

The friends carried and prolonged that evil that the stalker placed upon Amanda Todd and her life.

Amandas friends could have been there for her instead of calling her names and beating on her; they could have comforted her against the evil acts of the stalker, they did not.

Where was her mother? Comfort from mothers are probably the most pure form of comfort, from womb to arms and body.

Amanda Todd took her own life, she is responsible for her life; her friends were responsible for poorly choosing to prolong the actions of the stalker, the stalker is at fault for originally fucking with her life.

This is horrible and that stalker and friends will be put to justice, in this life or the next.

This from the film "The Boondock Saints":

"And I am reminded, on this holy day, of the sad story of Kitty Genovese. As you all may remember, a long time ago, almost thirty years ago, this poor soul cried out for help time and time again, but no person answered her calls. Though many saw, no one so much as called the police. They all just watched as Kitty was being stabbed to death in broad daylight. They watched as her assailant walked away. Now, we must all fear evil men. But there is another kind of evil which we must fear most, and that is the indifference of good men."

Side: Her friends did it
2 points

Really She Did it. It was suicide. I've been bullied pretty badly and I feel like shes nothing as bad as what I went through. She showed her Tits on the internet, and got bullied for it. Not very smart, and I don't care about the case. If a picture of me naked got out, I wouldn't kill myself. I'd say I made a mistake and move on. You can't help you're past but you can change you're future.

Side: Her friends did it
1 point

Its Amanda'a fault that she got into this herself. She is the one who caused all of this if because she flashed her boobs at a guy if she didn't do that then her life would have been fine. She should have think before she acts, if I was a girl I wouldn't do it at all. Its her fault not the her friends or the black-mailers fault its her fault.

Side: Her friends did it
Saurbaby(5579) Disputed
1 point

That's so not the point. EVERYONE makes mistakes Srom. Yes, she made a poor decision, but so have you, myself, and everyone else you've come in contact with. People did take advantage of her situation, but as you said, it was her fault too. But not because she made a mistake, because how she reacted to the others discovering her mistake.

Side: The blackmailer did it
Srom(12205) Disputed
3 points

Yeah everyone does make mistakes but I guess she took it the wrong way she reacted but I do feel sorry for her what happened to her I mean she shouldn't deserve to die. I guess I shouldn't be so harsh on her decision she made. I don't think suicide is every the answer to anything in any instance.

Side: Her friends did it
Melanin(84) Disputed
1 point

How is it her fault that someone took a picture of her and blackmailed her with it? So whenever someone has something to blackmail you with, it's your fault because they were able to get their hands on the information? NO. They choose to do it. Sure, if Amanda hadn't flashed her breasts on TinyChat, there would be nothing to blackmail with, but if I send it to people, that is MY doing, and I will be punished legally for it. Maybe you should tell the lawmakers to punish Amanda and not people who try to hurt others by sending it to people. That'll go far. You know it won't stand up, though, because you know you make no sense. You are just someone who dislikes sexual behavior. If she had made a mistake in showing them something else not sexual related, like something in her room that let people track her down, you'd be saying it's the tracker's fault that she ended up hurt like any other rational human being. Take your immature hate of the human body elsewhere.

Side: The blackmailer did it
1 point

It was a bit of both . I think if the guy would have never put the photo out there and randomly came back and blackmailed her to do more then nothing would have happened . She made the right choice ignoring it . but i feel as though it is more the "friends." They were the ones who took the situation made it a million times worse and than it was . Why would someone ever do that to this poor girl ? Why would people beat her up and not get in trouble ... thats my problem if i were there i would have been furious and made EVERY SINGLE one of them say they were sorry and mean it . This poor girl Amanda Todd if i would have known her before this , and thats one thing that gets me mad too people cared more after she was dead than before . I fully support her . And i hope she rests in peace . </3 Although i never knew you I Love You . She put up with so much and not pressing charges so she could move on . This girl is amazing and only wanted someone a friend anything , anyone. I hope ,honestly hope there is some good in those peoples hearts so they can feel her pain driving some one to killing them selves is WRONG... some one deserves in trouble for something !

Side: Her friends did it

she ultimately did it, but her choice was heavily influenced by the actions of those around her

Side: Her friends did it
1 point

If by "friends" you mean people in schools, I believe the people who were motivated by the blackmailer to abandon and bully this girl or hurt her in other ways are ultimately more responsible. The blackmailer did send the pictures and was generally the scariest person in it, but he isn't completely responsible for what people did to her in response to this.

I think it's awful that someone is saying no one should be commenting or care about bullying because there are kids in Africa who are the subject of memes. Have you ever heard of "death trolling"? This is when people make jokes about things RIGHT ON THE FAMILY'S PAGE. People also make jokes about suicides elsewhere, so the supporting point that people shouldn't care about this because people make jokes out of kids in Africa is null. The thing is, children in Africa have been starving, which makes this an invalid comparison. Are people supposed to comment on children in Africa EVERYDAY? It took one moment for Amanda Todd to die. You would have SOMETHING if people commented on bullying and suicide in general (which happens everyday, like children starving in Africa) every day and ignored everything else, but they don't. Comparing a NEW, FRESH IMPACT EVENT to something that is an ONGOING EVENT will get you nowhere.

I am tired of people trying to belittle the pain of others by using starving kids in Africa. These people think more about using starving kids in Africa as a tool to make everything else seem like nothing more than anything else. How many of these people did something for the children, or think about them everyday? If I were using them, and I helped them or thought about them more than the people I'm criticizing, I would DEFINITELY mention it! Bully victims, don't let people make you feel worse by saying "at least you aren't a starving child in Africa. Why should we care about you?" They don't get psychological pain, or the pain of having every day of your life be a living Hell. They don't understand psychological conditions like anxiety disorders, panic attacks, etc, which DOES wreak havoc on your body as well! All they can grasp are primal, tangible issues, like the need for food or drink, because they are simple.

Side: Her friends did it
1 point

In many ways I agree with what has been said already to the effect of neither the blackmailer nor the friends being responsible. At the same time, I think it is an oversimplification to observe to say that all of the responsibility lies with Amanda Todd. While one can say it was a choice for her to commit suicide, it is also true that in most cases suicide is a consequence of depression which does distort ones perception of reality. That many people struggle with depression and succeed does not mean that those who lose that battle "chose" to lose it. Depression affects everyone somewhat differently and to varying degrees. More importantly, it can be very difficult for anyone (let alone someone who is relatively young) to get the care they need. We do not respond well to mental health issues and support is very meager at best.

I would also like to contest the point that anti-bullying is an endeavor that should be dropped. Just because bullying exists and is often a so-called fact of life does not mean that we have to accept it without producing any response. That seems like a cop-out that fails to address the very real, positive effects that anti-bullying efforts can accomplish. I think that this is especially true when the bullying is targeting a person or people based upon their identity.

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