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Are people the ages 15 and 19 okay to date?
I met my boyfriend when I was 14 and he was 18, we fell for each other. Started dating when I was 15 and he had just turned 19. Now I'm 17 and he is 21 and we're still dating.
We still have people complaing to us that it is wrong and that we shouldn't be dating. So I'm leaving it up to you to decide. XD
So long as you're happy, fuck everyone else. People like to piss on your bonfire, they like to put you down for doing the things that make you happy, because they haven't the balls to be themselves. Some 15 year old girls are more mature than some thirty year old hags that I know. Every case is different and the level of maturity should play a big part.
im in a situation similar to this im 18 and hes 21; and you know what love knows no bounds no one will care in a few years when youre both in your 20's.
As you grow older the difference between your age and those who are acceptable to date expands.
When I was 19 I preferred to not hit on anyone younger then 17, although if they were mature 16 was fine by me.
There are vast differences between 15 and 19 which should be considered and Usually, this is pushing the limits.
However, although it is pushing the limits; I wouldn't say it is beyond them.
if you would of been 14 and him 19 I would say there would of very likely been a issue, although the severity of that issue would disappear as you guys grew older
The power structure which can result between a older teen and a younger teen, especially if their relationship is romantic, is something to watch out for. Most men will tell you a younger women is easier to get then a older one, and its not just because of the fruits age bestows upon people which makes them more attractive to youth but because younger women are easier to play or manipulate, perhaps because they have yet to become jaded or perhaps because their expectations are lower or because their ways of coping is less developed and so its more social etc, whatever the reason there is an imbalance of power which can easily turn destructive, especially when there are certain passions involved.
I think a 15 and a 19 year old should be able to date because they are in the same age range and tecnically they are both teens since the legal age of becoming an adult in New York is 21 years old. Whats the use of stopping them when they are still going to do it anyway and in most cases, girls date older guys around that age group.
I'm twenty nine, my wife is twenty five, I met her when I was 20, some people thought that that was too young, but she was mature for her age, now we're happily married with two great kids. While I try not to agree with trolls Dan is fairly spot on.
15 is a great age to start dating in my opinion, because they are getting mature and can handle a lot of things, but they just have to be careful with who they date and what they do.. You never know what they can get up to. That's my say.
as long as you don't get down and dirty it's fine. I mean when you 20 and he's 24 nobody would care. Honestly if you are a reponsable person and you know what you are doing, then why not.
Yes, as long as they don't like have sex or anything. I think its ok for their age to date. But they both have to be responcible.! Dur.?? Its like common sense. Haah.! :D
True love does not have an age. Don't consider me a pedophile because i am not but a six or ten year gap does not mean a thing when it comes to true love. For example, a twelve year old and a twenty year old. You might say it is wrong because sex blows off in your mind. But what if true love is involved. Then questions arise to if the girl at that age can really love and if the older man at that age is only interested in sex. When i mean true love, i don't mean sex. Sex is not love and there is no such thing as sexual love in my perspective. If i have a child, i will be cautious of who he/she dates and at what age. But if true love is involved, why fight it? But it is hard to know if the other person is not interested in sex. I believe in all possibilities and i do believe a 12 year old and a 20 year old can have a full love relationship. Does that mean i won't be cautious with my own child? No. If pure fun and love is involved and not sex, im all for it.
I'm on the fence about that because I have a daughter and don't know if I am okay with her dating at 15 never mind with a 19 year old. I understand that there are great relationships that have started at that age but I'm not convinced that is for everyone.
I guess if I trust my child I would see how it works
The legal age limit to have sex varies, the definition of pedophilia does not.
15 and 19 does not count as pedophilia, it can however account to statutory rape, which is a grey area in terms of legality and execution as law.
If you are twenty one and you go to a nightclub and meet a fifteen year old, that looks much older, take her home and have sex with her, then you are guilty of a crime, (pedophilia by your standards) how were you supposed to know that she was under age, she was at a nightclub drinking.
Have a go at researching a point before you make it. What about 16 and 19? Is that OK by you and your warped definition of pedophilia, girls mature and enter puberty younger than boys, so an age gap is not such a bad thing. If a person is sexually mature they are not Pre-pubescent and are therefore no interest to pedophiles.
Yep. The guy did something wrong. You can't blame him, can't expect him to know, but his still committed the act. Doesn't make him a paedo.
However going out with a girl, knowing fully well what her age is and knowing that you want to get her cute little knickers off is a completely different thing.
16 and 19 is not so bad. That is passable. But 17 should be the minimum age.
However going out with a girl, knowing fully well what her age is and knowing that you want to get her cute little knickers off is a completely different thing.
What you are doing is implying intent, intent that you have no way of knowing was there. The girl in question has stated that the relationship was not sexual, it would seem like they love each other, and love is something that can't exist in a black and white perspective such as yours. Sure sexual desire is present in teens, but to state that four years, and it may be a good bit less depending on when their birthdays lie is too big a gap is utterly ridiculous, what do think will change between now and this time next year for this girl?
16 and 19 is not so bad. That is passable. But 17 should be the minimum age.
One year is all the difference. 17 should be the minimum age for what? sex? Given that sex wasn't part of the equation then this argument is moot. You have to be more understanding in life, some people slip outside of what is known to be "moral", I see no problem with this relationship.
4 years is a huge gap actually. When you're 15 years old that's just under 1/4 of your life. Teens in America - how could that not be sexual. Cmon son use your head. I bet you're a paedophile, that's why you're hating on people who can control themselves from a nice little girl in her school uniform, short skirt, thigh high socks, pigtails, tights shirt and seductive cleavage. ;) Pervert.
17-19 is fine. 16-19 passable under extreme conditions. 15-19 is jumping over the line. Only paedophiles argue this point.
When you're 15 years old that's just under 1/4 of your life.
And if you are twenty, with a thirty year old that is one third of your life.
Teens in America - how could that not be sexual
Not living in America, I wouldn't know. But this is something that obviously occupies some of your thoughts.
Cmon son use your head.
I am, and you most definetly are not, your definitions of what a pedophile are are grossly misinformed and your knowledge of relationships is obviouly quite low, otherwise you'd be able to actually see what is going on here.
I bet you're a paedophile,
Really, have you ever had sex, with a women I mean, sucking your best friends cock in the school toilets does not count. I'm happily married, are you?
that's why you're hating on people who can control themselves from a nice little girl in her school uniform, short skirt, thigh high socks, pigtails, tights shirt and seductive cleavage. ;) Pervert.
This is actually quite ammusing for several reasons, you label me a pedophile for defending someone that is not a child's right to a loving relationship, you then call me a pervert while typing this perverted spew, it is also quite obvious from your words that you are the sort of person that indeed gets off on looking at young teenagers and has to restrain himself when around attractive young women, the guy in questionin this debate did restrain himself as is evident in the story told by the moderator.
17-19 is fine. 16-19 passable under extreme conditions. 15-19 is jumping over the line. Only paedophiles argue this point.
It isn't pedophilia. Just to calrify then, if he was eighteen and she was fifteen, would that be ok? If sixteen to nineteen is ok.
Four years is hardly anytime at all. And it didn't start at all sexual.
It wasn't illegal at all because we weren't having sex, or doing anything for that matter, until much later into the relationship.
What's the difference between an older couple and us? The only reason you think it's wrong is because the media portrays all teens as sex-crazed immature people. I'll admit that's the case for a few, but the rest of us shouldn't be looked down on for a few teens acts.
4 years is hardly any time? It is when you're 15! Maybe not when you're 50..
K so you didn't have sex straight away. I don't think you're a bad person, you're just a naive little girl. But the 19 year old guy should've checked himself. He's weak. Going out with a 15yr old. It's perverted.
It's still not when you're fifteen. Or I didn't think.
I'm not naive, I knew what I was getting into. I spoke to him very directly before about what he wanted. He proved that he was looking for an actual serious relationship and that's what come out of it.
Isn't every person perverted? It's completely natural to want sex. A lot.
And he is, in my eyes, the opposite of weak. He had his choice of going out with someone closer to his age whom he could have had sex with right away.
Instead he waited until not only it was legal but also until I was ready. That takes self-control.
Pedophila is not wrong because pedophilia is the attraction towards children. It is not the actions against them. However, someone did tell me a book where pedophila meant also meant action. The google dictionary states that pedophilia is just attraction. So i am not sure. But i am going to continue this comment with the belief that pedophilia is the attraction towards children. How is it wrong to be attracted to someone. I think it is should be only a concern, but not anything severe like actually harming a children. child molestation and pedophilia is different things.
That's maybe because lots of people, unlike you, have a more accurate understanding on what pedophilia is, and greater understanding of reality. 15 years old is age enough to know what you're doing, and its not a child anymore.
Go check what paedophilia is. Hint: it involves PRE-PUBESCENT CHILDREN. Something a 15 year old is certainly not, at all.
I would have to say that it is not okay. At 14 you are not mature enough to be in an adult relationship. Especially not with someone that is the age of a legal adult. Also why would it be okay to date when the guy could get charged with statutory rape? I also do not think that a 14 year old girl and a 19 year old guy would have anything in common besides the obvious. What would be the reason for a 19 year old boy to want to be with someone so young? It seems to me like something is way off here and not right. And by the way if its "true love" or anything of the matter then the boy can wait until she is of legal age, if he wont then it wasn't all it was cracked up to be was it?
Maybe, but she was 15, therefore, the relationship was inappropriate.
By your definitions it is, you aren't aware of the particular circumstances involved, so have no place to label it appropriate or not.
I hope for your sake when you meet the man you've been searching for all your life that he is exactly the same age as you and there can be no tut-tuting from the supposed moral majority.
I hope for your sake when you meet the man you've been searching for all your life that he is exactly the same age as you and there can be no tut-tuting from the supposed moral majority.
I'm searching for a woman not man. Secondly, I'm 17 so I'm almost an adult.
So what you're saying is that, for example, a 10 year old can be an adult?
Is this what you call deductive reasoning? Of course a ten year old can not be an adult, but in saying that, there are probably some that are more mature than some seventeen year olds. Ten year olds are generally prepubescent and are completely children, a lot of seventeen year olds (not all), are nowhere near what it is to be an adult.
Is this what you call deductive reasoning? Of course a ten year old can not be an adult, but in saying that, there are probably some that are more mature than some seventeen year olds. Ten year olds are generally prepubescent and are completely children, a lot of seventeen year olds (not all), are nowhere near what it is to be an adult.
Than what do you consider as "adult"? I'm not trying to insult you or something, just want to have a discussion.
I've been using the word adult in the colloquial sense, and by it I mean someone that has reached maturity(not strictly sexual), although this is close to the actual definition there are a lot of "adults" that are petulant whiny children, still in search of a teat on which to suckle.
That's just stupid what you're saying. How can you know it's innapropriate? Who are you to say it's innapropriate? Do you know the feelings they have for each other?
If a relashionship is happening I think one doesn't need to be very inteligent to understand that perhaps they do like each other, in some IRRELEVANT way.
I do have a friend that went to the extreme of starting dating her boyfriend when she was 13 and he was already 22. Well, he lost his friends over this, but he hardly felt sorry. She married him and made their relationship known to people as soon as she was 18 (majority in my country).
Today she's past 35 years old and she's still married to him. Was that an innapropriate relashionship? Is it still? I don't think so.
As long as the older person is not deceiving the younger one, and as long as the youger person isn't going in an illusion of some sort (they usualy do to some extent), I think it's perfectly ok.
And in my opinion, most laws are just stupid and incoherent. The one that prohibits this is one such law. And trials don't take these things in consideration, even if the younger person swears there's love.
I know I was in love with a much older lady when I was 14. That love existed in me for many years after and I still feel something when I see her. I had no illusions. Only the sadness of not being able to.