Are your parents hypocrites?
Are your parents hypocrites? And I mean more than just a simple "you can't drink alcohol" and then they go and drink basis. I mean on an extremely sensitive or emotional basis.
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Yes yes yes a million times yes!
Here are a few examples:
Exhibit A: My dad has his ear pierced, but I couldn't get one, and when I went out and got one anyways he got super pissed!
Exhibit B: My parents tell me to never hang around drunks, drug addicts, or anyone else who is a bad influence and yet they force be to be around my sister who is a drug addict, drunk, and does many other things that they would consider "inappropriate" if any of my friends did!
Exhibit C: I get my ass whooped if I bring home a "C" and yet my dad failed out of UCSD and took 6 years to get a 4 year degree at SDSU!
My parents piss me off so much because they are such hypocrites! And their excuse? "I don't want you to make the same mistakes I did." Well that's just fine and dandy, but that doesn't apply to 2/3 of the things they do that makes them hypocrites!
A. Should have gotten your nose and lip pierced, that woulda really shown 'em.
B. I actually agree with that one, and they can't exactly not let you hang out with your sis so that's that.
C. You're way too smart to get a C in anything. Not sure that merits an ass whoopin, but there ya go.
Parents are always hypocrites, it's part of the job.
B. My sister is 22 years old, has 2 kids, is married to a dumbass who won't get a decent job, and is on wellfare. All different things that I disagree with but my parents seem to have no problem with. But if my friends do anything that isn't prep-like my parents don't approve.
C. I'm smart but lazy as hell. :P And thanks. XD
Oh, my little love...I've been thinking about this all last night and feel remiss in the answer I gave you on the other side, although it is true. All of us have been through this and I mean ALL OF US to some degree. Let me explain those things you find so unfair if I can.
1. There is nothing whatsoever wrong with having your ear pierced, however, your dad is much older than you and is already established in his job or career. His boss or bosses probably do not take offense at that earring but in some places you cannot even get a decent job if you wear one! He's looking out for your best interests on this and is smart enough to know you may regret this later on...not that this is anything like body piercing per se. That's a whole different story. You defied him by doing it anyway thereby insulting him and showing him his words mean nothing because you don't understand why!
2. Your poor sister has gotten herself into a very bad situation and cannot seem to find her way out of it. But she's 22 and now, of age. Your parents can suggest things to her but no longer have that control. They look at her and look at you...what do you think THEY think? NO WAY IS MY SON GOING TO END UP THIS WAY! Yes, they've made mistakes and it's almost always with the first born or last! Hence the I don't want you to make the same mistakes I did. It's not a cop out, it's very real to them. You are a very special boy when it comes to brain power and knowing that, they want you to have the very best. I don't blame them.
3. You probably get your ass whooped because they know you, of all people, can do better...and you should at this time in your schooling. Your Dad knows all to well about failure. He does not want that for you and you don't want that for yourself. This isn't about...well you did it too! They are your parents and are trying to guide YOU and not themselves. If that makes them hypocrites then so be it. Don't you dare follow in their footsteps but one day, when you're older, you'll understand the difference between hypocrisy and guidance.
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Well I do agree with the second one and somehow the third one.
Here I got a story of my own about hypocrite parents.
My mom died from cancer 11 months ago, and dad decided to marry a woman he was cheating my mom with since before she got cancer (they got secretly married days after mom died).
She has two children, a boy, and a girl. They are not even children anymore, the boy is 19, and the girl 23. They both used to live with their father (who divorced from the mother the same day my mom died), and their father was fairly strict with them. They had to keep the house clean, and they had to be at home at 12:00 pm. Thats all. Now, those spoiled assholes decided that they didn't want to follow those two simple commands, and they came to live with us. They bring their stuff and put it where ever they want, eat our food, raise the bills, and hang out as much as they want. They do not cooperate in any of the chores.
They are treated like the GODS of the house. And we (the original 4 brothers) have been forgotten by my father and that rotten bitch he now has as a wife. We now pay roughly $200 in the light bill every month, and who gets called for it? The original brothers of course. "It doesnt matter if they come here and use the computer, watch tv with all the lights on, and use the telephone. They are not raising the light bill, it is you."
Farewell daddy dear, for I will leave the fucking nest as soon as I turn 18.
dude i will say this the best way i can, but your dad and that bitch excuse for a wife make me sick, you and your brothers deserve much more than this, and so did your mother. I'm sorry about her... so many people in this world are just so stupid, I hope you and your brothers are either ok now and if not i hope so soon
A: Parents want their children to learn from their mistakes, not make them again. Also, parents often worry when they see their kids following the same path. Maybe the earring was just that sign.
B: Unfortunately, when it comes to family, all bets are off. They cannot tell you not to hang out with your sister! C'mon!
C: So what your saying is, because he failed in school, you should be allowed to fail as well? He wants you to succeed on the first try unlike himself!
Conclusion, your parents are not hypocrites, they just want you to end up further ahead then them.
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Yes, my parents are hypocritical.
My father tells me that I should be honest, but he's very proud of the fact that he lies and gets away with it. He loves to tell the story of how he got his job by lying about graduating from high school. He says that people should try and get along and be nice to each other, but he scares and yells at people. He corrects people on how to do things, but he will not accept criticism.
My mother tells me that I should believe in myself, but she doesn't believe in herself. She tells me that I shouldn't date anyone older than I am, yet she is engaged to a dying man significantly older than herself (and most likely for those reasons). She says that she would do anything for me, but in reality she is unreliable and almost completely absent.
It's extremely depressing to discover hypocrisy, especially in the people who are supposed to be your care-givers, role models and teachers. Sadly most parents are hypocritical.
I prefer to err on the side of compassion toward my parents. "Hypocrisy" is a term that I refuse to impute of my parents. "Inconsistent" is the term I may choose to describe the words and deeds of my parents. And perhaps my ability of discernment and judgment of the words and deeds of my parents are the consequences of my parents attempt to teach me of how to be unlike and better than themselves.
I think that being honest is being compassionate. Whether or not your ability to evaluate words and actions stems from the parenting you've received, that does not make the label "hypocritical" any more or less true of your parents. We can all understand that walking what you talk is difficult, and we are all susceptible to being hypocritical ourselves, but the only way to rectify it is to recognize it first.
my dad says "we need to put a timer on your laptop, because its not right if your on it all the time from when you wake up until you go to be, its no different than playing those video games" SSSOOOO annoying because he stays on his laptop ALL the time AND watches T.V -_- its the worst.
It's been a long day, and I am very tired, but I wanted to weigh in on this. I'm looking for a support group or something, actually, but stumbled upon this site courtesy of Google. I've read some of the arguments here, and I seem to be a minority: not only am I not a teenager, but I am 50 years old. My egg and sperm donors (I cannot call them "parents") never believed a word I said, starting when I was extremely young. Most of it centered around my health. I was accused of lying, being a hypochondriac, malingering, being an attention-seeker, then a drug-seeker, then of course a drug addict! My "mother", who became an RN when I was about 10, was just convinced that I was NOT sick or in pain. Ever. And because she was a "nurse", everyone believed her. (And hey, I was a KID! ALWAYS a "kid" compared to her, naturally.) I was accused of horrid manipulations and excesses and incompetence. I was called names. I was always viewed as a "compulsive liar". At the age of 35, after going through all kinds of hellz, I finally found my answer; I was born with the congenital defects known as Arnold-Chiari malformation and syringomyelia -- fairly rare neurological brain and spine diseases. (They explain EVERY symptom I was ever accused of faking.) I had two brain/spinal surgeries for them. My mother NEVER apologized for not believing me, for lying about me, or for verbally abusing me, and neither did anyone else.
My father and I had managed to be fairly close for a while when I was a young adult, but my mother effectively killed that off. She also ruined a close friendship I thought I had with my kid sister. I am now supposed to be "cured", according to my mother, although no claims of "cures" were ever made regarding the surgeries. There IS no cure. There simply isn't. After my first brain surgery, I was sent home with dried blood and tape adhesive still in my hair (sorry for the imagery), and called my mother to ask her to come over to my home and help me wash it out. She refused, stating that it was "too far" (it is about 15 miles), and begging off because she was going to the church to help feed the homeless. The following day, perhaps? No. Again -- too far away. The muk eventually came out of my hair, no thanks to her. I am effectively non-existent to my "parents" -- my mother the RN and ordained Methodist minister, and my father the public school teacher who is a lay minister while studying to be an ordained Methodist minister. They feed the homeless, they preach giving and loving and charity and being good to "the least of these"... Me? I am on disability, living with a friend (or I'd be homeless myself), and barely making ends meet. I have one pair of pants that fit me. One. Maybe five shirts. And my pajamas (which I am usually in anyway) are wearing out and falling apart. Do my parents help me? Not a chance. Instead, my mother has cried "abuse" to my father (she claims I verbally abuse her, which is absurd; when she doesn't know why something happens, she imagines why, and it's usually the worst-case scenario... then she believes it, and then she spreads it like wildfire), and because of that, my father has written me off completely. He never asked me about it. He never talked to me. He never really knew me. Neither did my mother. But of course they are right, and I am the devil. But -- I got on Facebook using a game-name of mine, and read my mother's comments this week. She has posted on a sweepstakes page, stating why she needs to win, and says that she would give me a cut because "my disabled daughter has medical needs that medicare [sic] doesn't cover". Oh REALLY? I was told I was "cut off"! By THEM!
Family therapy? This is way too long already for me to get into this in length, but let me assure you that the subject was brought up repeatedly. I tried. Over and over and over again -- I tried. When it seemed they might meet me halfway... Let's just say that it didn't turn out as one would imagine from such esteemed parental units.
Oh yes, these pillars of the community are so worthy of hero-worship (which my mother craves, and has ever since I can remember). If people knew the truth, would they be looked up to in the same way? I like to think not... But oh yes, my parents ARE hypocrites. Major ones.
I feel your pain my G,other people look to my mom like a saint but in reality shes just a hypocritical bitch.Im 15 now when I was younger and I was sick my mom barely ever believed me it as usually up to my grandmother(who lived with us at the time)or my dad(who I barely saw cause my mom didn't like him)
My mother and father are absolute hypocrites.
1) my mother can be so sweet but she can also be just so rude and mean. She'll tell me that i need to respect and be accepting of others (which i do) and to control my mouth (which i do) but its perfectly fine for her to go and be an absolute B---- to others for the meanest reasons. First off, we're african american. My mom can be so racist to others expecially those from poorer countries or immigrants. Unlike her and sometimes the rest of my family i actually like the cultural differences. I dont think she realizes how cruel she is but she does it and MY FATHER does the same thing. For example, recently they both said how, if people just stayed in their own countries America would be better and have less diseases and other problems. She also tends to disrespect us, her family in ways that make me so upset. Like at times when she insults me or things i do or say. For instance, she always says that i'm lazy, i never work hard , I never do anything but play on my laptop (most of my schoolwork is digital but she doesn't believe me) or READ (WOW how terrible i read for FUN) but everyday im busting my a-- off doing hw, going to high school and taking ap classes, getting a 3.9 GPA, working a job, getting tutoring, going to a college class, and still managing to help her around the house. She tends to treat me, my sister, and brother like crap then acts like we're her princesses and prince.
2)My father can also be rude and hypocritical. He often does what my mother tells him to do but he is always telling me never to let anyone boss me around. He also never wants to me to curse but somehow in every sentence he says there's at least one bad word. He's a lot like my mother also in that he wants me to respect others but somehow he shows a lack respect for people daily.
My parents are both hypocrites. I love them but to me all their showing me is what not to teach my kids and how not to act.
My parents are like the mother of all hypocrites. First of all they tell me to clean my room, and that I can't watch television because,my room isn't clean but I walk into their room and it looks a hot mess. I think parents are hypocrites because they think they are adults now and they can do whatever they want to do. Also my parents say that I don't do anything but stare at my phone and watch TV but I do that because on a regular I am studying for tests, monitoring my grades, trying to find extra curricular activities and focusing on my school work and in between all of that I need to have a little time to my self and not being obsessed with school. But my parents just don't get it. Like my parents,I do admit that they work very hard but they are always taking breaks from there work.
Without a doubt. Especially and I mean ESPECIALLY on the subject of doing work around the house. My mother will complain about the house being a mess ( she is now unemployed and for a good reason not for discussion ) and when I arrive at the house ( after school or tennis or before I go into work ) and I have to clean the house up while she sits around and messes the house up. She will ruin a nice and neat counter that I just finished cleaning, track in the house on the freshly clean floors, and what I HATE the most is when she lets the dog outside right after her dumb bath before she is even dry!
My father loves his computer and during the weekend you better believe that he is on that computer doing who the hell knows what. He works 3rd shift every week day and he takes the weekends off NO PROBLEM there it is when it is the weekend ( before or after I go to work ) and he will have been on the computer for a couple hours and when I am on it for about 1 hour and a half he gets antsy and tells me to find something else to do!
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My dad was a very big hypocrite he always used to say to me that porn is very bad and we should not look at it ever no matter what age we are but i caught him on a number of occasions watching it. But my mum is very good when she says something like don't look at porn she would never do it herself she is very good like that.
My mother is slowly becoming more and more of a "Christian" by the month, and quite frankly she's become the last person I would want to grow up to be. Although what I will say first does not concern her with being hypocritical, it will show how it leads up to my life with her now. During middle school, I had told her I was having a hard time...and she yelled at me saying "DO YOU KNOW KIDS IN AFRICA ARE SUFFERING RIGHT NOW? CHEER UP NOW!" Of course, this only life more miserable for me (I knew this already, as she told me many times before, and I was grateful for everything I was given), and she pretty much ignored my pleas and left me to fend for myself in depression, causing me to begin my rise to independence. She forced me through a middle-school christian church,saying it would "be good for me" to go. Now, it wasn't horrible, but most of the kids were not too nice, and I felt left out. I begged her to stop after a group of them made fun of me, and she finally agreed, but of course not without complaining like a bitch and trying to get me to stay in. But no, I wouldn't have it anymore, I stood my ground and she finally listened to me. Now, I was out of it, and could actually have better focus on my homework than having to go to church during the weekdays. Now this is where she turns hypocritical...by the time highschool starts she gives me the "christian" sex talk (no sex before marriage, etc, etc, blah blah) she at first tells me "Oh don't worry if you think girls are hot, its normal" (and i have since late middle school, but I'm not a bad kid, I never disrespect women, and I always try to act polite around them, yes, even my...mom) but later on in the year, she starts freaking out for some reason (I haven't even had a girlfriend yet) and is trying to tell me now that "You can't look at anything sexy! It will corrupt you and ruin your life! No porn! No sexual video games (but for some reason super-violent video games are okay? wow...what a world we live in)! WHY DO YOU HAVE A GIRL'S NUMBER???!?" She would say (the girl was for help during algebra class). Well, of course this all pissed me off because for 1: She would watched movies and shows with sex scenes and sex jokes when my LITTLE BROTHER WAS WATCHING, AT THE FAMILY DINING TABLE (he's a preteen). And she continues her rampage, trying to look "christian" infront of me while seemingly going off on her own when I'm not looking, or at least when she thinks I'm not (My brother also told me he was watching Superbad with Mom while I was in the other room, even if it was only for about thirty minuets, it still proves her hypocrisy). Heck, she wont even let me buy some t-shirts from stores now just because they look so-called "Demonic" (Hot topic...or any other store that isn't f--king quicksilver.) There's more things she's done, but I've already stated enough for now. So I've taken my life into my own hands, ignored her regulations. However I obey my father's, for he is a much more respectable man who actually treats me like I'm a 16 year old who can make my own damn decisions. She says I can't watch something? I immediately go look for a way to watch it somewhere else, just to get back at her for ignoring me when I needed her the most. Am I bad? Do I do drugs? Have sex with random people? Worship satan? Try to punch or kill people? The answer to all of those is no, I never have, and never will. I am a perfectly sane young man (but of course that doesn't mean I don't enjoy sexy things, or thrilling action), while my mother is slowly warped into a world of her own, I can only watch as she becomes worse and worse, lost in delusional thoughts the propagandic christian media is filling her with. Yes. Parents can be hypocrites at times.
Right. as a kid, my parents bought me up in a free spirited home. lots of dancing, love, expression. but at the same time, my dad was abusive towards my mum and would always blame her. as i got older, he started being abusive towards me too, physically and more so mentally. then my parents converted to christianity. by day my dad was sweet, but night he was a drunken, abusive mess. so many times he kicked me out yet when the police came after him he would say that i ran away, and i really think he believes that. he complains that my mum doesn't love him or appreciate his work, but not for one second does he stop to think about how he has treated her and perhaps she is scared to show any emotion because you see, if you try and even lightly talk with him, he will shoot you down, try to prove that you are wrong - even if you agree with what he said! okay, my main uncomfortable situation is that i don't mind that he is a "christian" and he preaches about being "faith based" and NOT religious.. and that totally makes sense to me. but, he also tells me to be open minded and not to judge. and i asked him "but can you really be? " because he can't consider homosexuality, abortions, etc ergo; you can't be open minded. he only wants me to be open minded to the existence of God, nothing else. and i do believe in god, but not in the sense of christianity.. but rather as something that we are all part of. and he knows this, but calls me a witch and threatens to disown me. i don't know what to do.
Main hypocrisy out of their mouth: "You can do whatever you want with the money you earn. As long as you toiled for it and put in the effort, I can't tell you how to spend it."
I then proceed to make a small investment into something that they do not agree with (for the sake of argument, let's assume I bought a video game for my brother). I am then met with "as long as you live under my roof and under my rules you do what I tell to do with your money! He should be focusing on his studies and not games!" etc.
Hypocrisy? Yes, considering that they advocate one thing and then throw it out the window when it no longer is convenient for them.
My dad is such a hypocrite.
1) When I ask him if I can go on the computer, he says sure. Then, behind my back, he tells mom "Dammit, stop letting him on the computer!"
2) He tells me to spend less money when I spend $10 a week while he spends like $200 on lotto.
3) He consistently tells me to never smoke when I grow up and he secretly smokes all day. LOL.
4) He says to watch TV less while he watches TV whenever it's possible, and I don't even watch a lot of TV. 1-2 occasional shows, that's it.
5) He tells mom to not cheat on him (my mom doesn't) while he goes and cheats on mom for so many years.
6) He tells people that being 2-faced is horrible and he's a pure 2-face.
7) He tells people not to be a dick when he is one.
I love my mom - she only does what's best for us. My dad is such a pussy.
my parents are big time hypocrites
when i don't pick up their calls cause i set it on vibrate or silent they get all pissed and when i get home they yell at me like shit and when i call them they don't pick up i get pissed at them and they yell at me for being pissed at them then i tell them that they are hypocrites cause when they call i don't pick they get pissed so when they don't pick up I'll also get pissed and their reply was so...
Yes, I believe parents can be hypocrites! For an example, Me and my mom are extremely close. I mean, we talk about everything and I tell her everything. She's a friend and a mother at the same time. She tells me that I shouldn't have sex until i'm married because you want to be TRULY IN LOVE when you do this (which I agree) and how I shouldn't drink, smoke, etc. So, the other day I went into her room to get my clothes and her phone dropped on the floor.. I picked it up and had seen all these nasty text messages from this guy she met online. They have been talking "as friends" she says and like, when I ask her about this she acts so secretive. She's always sneaking out at night around 2 to go see him and stuff. She's always lying about him! I don't understand why she would do this because she sure does talk to me a lot and gives me lectures about not having sex and stuff. I mean, i'm sorry to say this but, that is such a slutty thing to do. First of all, she directly told me "he was a great person to talk to" and i'm pretty sure you dont have SEX! with your best friend. And no, it does not just happen because from what I was reading they had clearly planned this out. Its just disgusting and I don't think I'll ever trust my mom again. I have lost all respect for her.. I once did look up to her. But now, no. That's over.. and its really sad :(
OK so my argument is:
My brother is or should be, though all he ever talks about is "Japanese class, Japanese class" (he has no real plans) and yet hes failed English, (I have the same class in high school) Math, (Again, same class) Social Studies, Human relations, (don't see how he failed that one) and he barely passed foreign diplomatics. I have straight As minus a B in CEO and a C in Wood shop. They yell at me for the wood shop grade. I have a 4.2 from the college levels and he has a .6. IN COLLEGE.
Exhibit 2: My brother thinks that he will first: Get into the air force marching band without owning an instrument and without having practiced said instrument in over two years. Then he has it in his mind he will get sent to Japan and get to take weekends off and go visit whatever place he wants. That is the only reason hes taking Japanese. He says all the other classes are irrelevant. I say that I will open a grilled sandwich shop, which i have the cart for, and run it on the weekends and days when I'm not at Law School. I'm a junior and i don't know exactly which school i want. They say that I should have planned ahead.
Exhibit 3:My brother got engaged at the age of 19 after having sex with a girl that he'd known for TEN DAYS. I get a girlfriend and they start yelling at me asking me how many times Ive had sex but every date we've been on they went on as well. They saw us kiss the first time and they ground me a month. They didn't say a thing to my brother.
Exhibit 4:I ask them to pay off my class ring since i didn't do marching band and my sister did for three years. The class ring costs 300 dollars. They agreed to pay off half. For the total 3 years of marching band my sister cost them 1300 dollars. She got her ring paid in full because she didn't have a job. I do.
Exhibit 5:My grandma gave my brother a car to be passed down to me when I became his age. He was 16 when he got the car. I'm 17. My sister is 18. She was also supposed to get it. I say to him that "Hey, you have had that car for 4 years now, and Id really like to have it. Would you mind since you already own a motorcycle, which you said would be the push factor of you giving me the car. May i please have the car?" He flips out at me. My parents revoke my 2 dollar allowance and say i wont be getting any presents because I'm being greedy.
Yes, my mother is a HUGE hypocrite. here's why.
Fact 1: my mom expects everyone in the house (which is me, my older brother and my step dad) to clean up after themselves. now one day i was going to make some food and my mom told me "clean up after yourself" so i did as so. now just last night she got up to make herself and ice cream cone and after she was done she left all the stuff and went to bed. i saw it and went to get her to put her stuff away and her response to why she didn't clean "i'm tired, i work all day and i pay the bills"
Fact 2: ok so as you might be aware when women are on their period they are bitchy for no reason.sometimes it comes out of no where and we sometimes realize our faults later (or atleast i do). so occasionally i will get bitchy and yell but i do apologize after i have a chance to cool down. now yet again my mom tells me there is no reason for me to act that way when no one has done anything to me. now last time my mom was at that point i went to ask her a question and she yelled at me "what the fuck do you want ?" she has yet to apologize for that
Fact 3: my mom doesn't now how to manage her money all too well. over the summer she bought a new couch for the family room that no one goes in ever. after she bought it she tells us "we need to conserve money and manage it better." two days later she is on her computer ordering a love seat to match the couch. i asked her "why are you getting this when we need to save money" her response "i want the set to go with it" i ask her "do we need this really? no one is going to sit in it" she replies "i don't care i want it, it'll make the room look nice." to this day only 1 person has sat in that love seat.
so thats pretty much it as for as that goes.
My parents are extreme hypocrites. Before I start, I feel I should say that I'm 18 years old, go to college, and I'm currently looking for a job. I've never drank, smoked, or had sex. I'm not dating people right now and the people I hang around with are wonderful and responsible. I've always been a good student, and was always busy with after school activities and clubs during high school. I graduated with high honors and was 16th in my class, all while battling depression, anxiety, a trying home life, and being an extra parent when it was necessary.
My dad tells my siblings and I to be smart, but he'll drive drunk for hours on end with his buddies. He complains that I'm lazy and don't contribute anything to the family, when he's the one about to get fired from his job for misconduct and wastes all the gas that I need to get to my classes (Yes, I put gas in the car, but I don't have an unlimited supply of money). He thinks he can do no wrong and everyone else is a complete idiot, but he can't remember anything for more than ten minutes because his brain is so muddled from years of alcoholism. He thinks himself perfect and proceeds to point out the flaws in others each and everyday, while he has his own problems that he should deal with before he complains about others.
My mom is always chastising me for being home too late or for being irresponsible, when my dad gets home later than I do on a normal night and I usually have to get a ride home from other people. Like my dad, she complains that I don't contribute and that I'm lazy, but she does nothing around the house. She tells me not to lie, but she's the queen of breaking promises. She is always making snide remarks when I hang out with guys like I'm easy, when she's the one that had sex with my dad on the first date, got knocked up, and then responded to his booty call while and after she was pregnant. She gives me advice when it's not asked for on things she knows nothing about, but when I need actual help, she complains that she knows nothing about what I'm asking her.
I could go on and on, but I think I've made my point perfectly clear...
If i could say the most descriptive word for my mom, it would be hypocrite. All my life my mom tells me to fight my own battles and stand up for myself, but the only fking time I ever have to is to her!! She gets pissed off at the most retarded of things, never will admit she screwed up and blames ME (WTF?) and tells me and my siblings to take responsibility for what we do, while telling me to never raise a hand against my brother she used to beat me as a child (making it hard to stand up for myself in the first place, because every time I spoke out against her I would get smacked every time), she tells me that how I'm retarded and makes it look like I can't be trusted and on top of that I have to set an example for my 4 siblings, how? She had sex and got pregnant with me her senior year in high school and dropped out and already was going to fail anyway (and she thinks she can tell me I'm retarded?), she never admits when she's wrong or will say sorry even if she fking knows she was wrong, she says I never take care of my stuff but I've taken care of the SAME PHONE FOR 4 YEARS!!! She has broken 3 phones in 2 months!!! She tells me I'm not allowed to say what I want (basically I can't express my feelings without getting bhed at) and she's not even a US citizen yet!!! She says how we have to express ourselves, and guess what, MY BROTHER ALMOST GOT EXPELLED BECAUSE HE WAS NEVER ABLE TO LEARN HOW TO EXPRESS HIS FEELINGS WITHOUT ANGER AND BECAME A BULLY TO A MENTALLY DISABLED KID, HE FUCKING THREATENED TO KILL HIM WITH HIS DAD'S (not the same dad as mine) GUN IF HE TOLD ANYONE ABOUT IT!!! MY MOM USED TO THREATEN TO SMACK US (ALMOST LIKE HE SAID IT) IF WE GOT C'S ON OUR REPORT CARDS!!! (YOU'RE ONE TO TALK ABOUT FAILURE MOM!) I can't believe that some of it has actually rubbed off on me! I almost smacked my brother for proving to me i was wrong about something! (I'm glad i was able to stop myself and at least apologize and admit he was right) Growing up, I had no father.... he walked out of my life before i was born, and my mom and my first step-dad were the worst role models i could ever have!! I just wish that my second step-dad (the one who is really a father to me) was my real dad, because he admits when he's wrong, he'd never dare raise a hand towards me or my siblings, he not only graduated high school, he went to college and had his own business, the first time he ever had sex was with my mom after they got married 7 years ago, he is trying to quit his smoking habits, he actually will sit there and let me say what's on my mind and respond with a way to help, he never gets mad at me and always tells me how proud of me he is, he loves me and my brother as his eldest sons (even though we had different dads) and he tells me and my brother about how much potential we have and whenever we have bad grades he tells me "Come on Bruno, I know you know this stuff, the teachers always talk about how you're great on the tests, but you don't turn in the homework. You can do it Bruno, you just gotta try." He taught me how to do my best and how to stand up for myself and how to think of all possibilities. I wish he actually was my father, so that i wouldn't have to look up to a complete hypocrite half of my life.
My parents are very hypocritical.
I have a brother that is around 1.5 years younger than me, and he is the most annoying thing in the entire world. Every time he annoys me either physically or verbally, my parents find it perfectly acceptable for he is younger than me and they claim it is a fundamental job of an older brother to put up with the nuisance from his younger siblings. And yet, when I tell him to leave me alone or when I push him back, I get freaking tattled on and guess what? My parents punish/ground me while saying that I have psychological problems and stuff. (I assure you I don't I have a 4.0 gpa and never get in trouble at school) They say I am abusing my brother where all I'm asking is for him to stop troubling me with his absurd interest in obstructing my life in any way possible. If anything, I am the abuse victim. However, when my brother does anything to me, they claim it's "cute" and "funny", though the things he does to me is often times disgusting or painful. This double standard my parents hold for this household is fucking unbearable.
Yes, parents can be VERY hypocritical. Sometimes for good reasons, but my mom comes up with the most stupid reasons or she just nags me.
1. I'm fourteen and I can't have a boyfriend, I reminded her that she had a boyfriend when she was fourteen, but she just told me to shut up and drop it.
2. I can't dip dye my hair because it'll damage it and she doesn't like it. Excuse me, you can dye your hair because it's your body and you're an adult? We'll, it's my body and it's my choice. Just because you don't like it doesn't mean I can't do it.
3. She yells at me, yet when I yell back it's disrespectful? No honey, I respect those who respect me.
4. I can't tell her personal problems because she just tells my family and they all judge me, yet she doesn't want me talking about her.
I don't want to sound like a bitchy teenager, I live my mom and I'm grateful for her providing and taking care of me, but she's hypocritical.
My mom should be nominated for hypocrite of the century,
1.SHE DIDNT LET ME WATCH A TV SHOW(which btw was pg13)TILL I WAS 14 ALL BECAUSE SHE DIDNT LIKE IT.
2.SHE TELLS ME NOT TO SMOKE OR DO DRUGS(which I don't)YET EVERYDAY SHE GOES OUTSIDE AND SMOKES MORE THAN 2 FULL BOXES IN ONE NIGHT(LIKE WTF?)
3.SHE CANT MANAGE HER MONEY PROPERLY FOR EXAMPLE ALMOST EVERYDAY THAT SHES OUT OF CIGARRETS OR WINE SHE TAKES ME TO THE SHOPS WITH HER AND SHE BUYS THEM TILL SHES PRETTY MUCH BROKE.
4.(Kind of obvious one )SHE tells ME to clean my room yet HERS looks like complete shit.
5.If i dont do something that she hasnt told me to do (at any point in time) she yells at me saying im LAZY or need to take more responsibility.Then when i look at her confused she gets even more pissed and grounds me FOR FUCKING NOTHING.
6.SHES A CHEAPASS, When she gets paid every month she asks me if there are any clothes that are getting too small for me etc.If i tell her that i need new shoes for example she'll lose her shit and complain to me "WHY THE HELL DO U NEED NEW SHOES"(LIKE WTF?)
7.(i have an xbox one s)If i ever ask her to buy me a game she'll lose her shit saying "WHY MUST I BUY YOU A GAME WHEN YOU CANT EVEN GET GOOD MARKS AT SCHOOL(keep in mind that im 15 and i do get good marks and do my homework she got way worse marks than me for a fact I knw cause i asked my grandma)She just doesnt pay enough attention to notice.
8.If i say no to her if she wants to borrow something (that she's too cheap to buy herself) she'll get salty and take away my stuff.
9.She doesnt SHUT THE FUCK UP she continuously nag me for something or do something.
10.Shes a dick to me and my dad if we "do something wrong".
11.If im talking to my friends about something that has nothing to do with her (say messaging or on a call)she'll get nosy and ask numerous questions.
12.If i do a chore properly and it looks good to me and my dad, she will immediatley go against it if its not up to HER standards.
13.I she doesnt like something or someone Im not allowed to like it.
13.She tries to mske me feel guilty if i ask her for something saying "THERE A CHIDREN WHO DONT HAVE AN XBOX OR CLOTHES"and i just dont say anything cause then she'll bitch about that to.
14.She tells me that I should stand up to bullies (and I did)but when i stand up to her or give her my opinion about something she complains like a little bitch.
15.She yells at me saying I don't respect her yet she doesn't even respect me or my dad.(my parents are divorced)
16.If someone corrects her she becomes bitchy and snaps back ant said person or me.
17.Shes annoying as fuck.
18.Since its just us living together she blames me for stealing or doing something wrong even though she just lost it or did something wrong.
19.Shes a narcissist
20.Shes ridiculously controlling for example, she wont leave me alone to do my own thing and when I say I don't need her help she'll go instant 0-100 bitch mode and complain.
21.If shes yelling at me for something and I don't react the ways SHE wants me to for example if my facial expression isn't scared or confused she just gets even angrier.And Im left with this tired look on my face.
22.She CHOOSES to be irrelevant at times when im not even near her eg, I could be in my room studying and she would just barg in complaining about something or someone.
23.(this one really pisses me off) If I do something wrong that I know of for a change (and otherwise)SHE WILL TALK SHIT ABOUT ME TO HER FRIENDS ON THE PHONE OR IN PERSON WHILE IM THERE OR CAN HEAR HER.
Ive tried my best to love my mom but she makes it so difficult that its LEGITAMENTLY
IMPOSSIBLE.Some people just don't deserve the title parent or guardian the best word to describe those people would be HYPOCRITE.
You guys are not alone. Guardians can be hypocrites too. I am right now living with a guardian right now who takes offense at every criticism. This morning I overheard her saying that she actually does not care what other people feels! HOW DARE SHE?! I lived with her for 2 months. I tried explaining to her about the consequences of forcing someone to follow rules but she persistently refuses to listen. She always takes a criticism for disrespect. She does EVERYTHING she can to prevent herself from admitting it. It is like the word 'unbearable' has no meaning to her! I am autistic, and I cannot stand verbal attacks. Strictness can be emotionally dangerous to people with disorders, but persistently refuses to listen to that too! Is her beliefs extremely fragile?! Her hypocrisy is traumatizing enough to make anyone do illegal things such as violence, suicide, or distortion. I seriously cannot stand it anymore!
I am 42, not a teenager. My mom raised me to be tolerant of other races and sexual orientations, love everyone, not judge and beleive everyone is innicent till proven guilty. Good acting... she is one of the biggest racist I know and judges people based on their religion. I hate life, people and I wish humans would be killed off. We don't deserve to live. I will never trust anyone again.
All people are hypocrites on some level, provided you subscribe to a loose enough definition of hypocrisy.
My mother cursed abortion but succumbed herself to undergo one; my father cursed the religious while himself being proudly a follower of religion. Those are the two most immediate examples that come to mind, but doubtless any individual, if investigated with sufficient depth, is a hypocrite.
My parents bang on all the time about how young people today (I'm 56) have no values but they think I'm stupid for declaring all my earnings. They tell me I'm too fat but they find it embarassing that I have a physically active job. They have no religion but think I have no morals.They go on about "family" but have no contact with any of them except me and my brother even though there are hordes of cousins. They go on about how they won't be here one day but appear not to have learned a damn thing in all their combined 168 years on earth. And they talked down to their own parents when they were alive.
My parents are always nagging my brothers to study but they always tell me to rest when I even try to study, scolding me for not being developed holistically. For example, when my brothers are studying in the living room, no one is allowed to do anything to distract them. Watch television, listen to music etc. But when I study in the living room, and my brothers want to watch television, I am told to go into my room to study since the house does not belong to me. Furthermore, they show no consideration at all when I am trying to study (My mom will ask my brother to practice his cello or my dad will watch TV at a triple-wall-penetrating volume) and its so frustrating. They scold me for having no life and for studying so much, just telling me to do my best yet they always show me their disappointment if I get anything lower than the top few in my class (which is already one of the top 3 classes in an elite school)
Oh! And I forgot to mention that when I decide to stay outside of my dysfunctional home to study, they scold me for neglecting my family to study despite using me as their trophy child and gloating to all their doctor and lawyer pals about my friends.
My parents are hypocritical too in doing things they tell us children not to do (Eg. Not allowing us to do anything during devotions but listen yet my father is always clearing emails blatantly with his iPad and my brother sleeps), but I feel they are most hypocritical in terms of different rules applying to different children. Shouldn't there be a yardstick for what is wrong or right? Perhaps though its more about favoritism than anything else.
my mother gets mad at me sometime for no reason at all like for example she told me a long time ago to check her bank accounts and i told her i did not feel right about this and she said it is ok and so i did but i have since been checking it for her and she gets mad and says you have no buisness checking it and she is going to change her password here is the problem if she changes it she will not remember it and she will tell her husband or my sister what it is because she will not tell me if she remembers and her bank accounts locks up and she blames me and she has done it her self before i am so freaking tired of her doing this and when i get mad i cuss and she tells me to quit cussing like she has never heard my sister or aunts or uncle or nephew cuss before and so i am so sick and tired of her telling me what to do it's my mouth i will say what i will say
My father told me to clean my room as he didn't like some wrappers on the floor.
I go downstairs to find Mountain Dew cans and bottles on tables, shelves, and everywhere else. As well as some of those cigarette pack wrapper things (I don't smoke; I don't know what it's called)
yes! times infinity yes! they're always talking nicely to my older sister and younger sister, but always snapping and yelling at me. They always bringing up their work for me and the say I didn't do anything for them. It's like I didn't have life and all I have to do when I was born is to serve them and their life and making them happy, I just want a happy life like the others. They also likes to always blame me. They always blame me for something I didn't do, and when they do anything and/or something wrong, and I gently tell them of their mistakes, they always told me that they didn't do anything wrong and instead blame me and saying I should look into myself, instropective myself, look into the mirrors and something nonsense like that. They are a very horrible parents but in societies and works they often considered by anyone else as "great" person. They just didn't know what my parents actually look like and just look into the outside. I hate other people, other parents that also like my parents. I hate my parents.
I make decisions based on what I know is best for me and people around me. I learned that from my parents. They taught me things instead of just telling me what I can't do. So are my parents hypocrites?, no.
Parents who only limit what kids can do without teaching them anything are hypocrites because they are not perfect and did stuff when they were young. But I'm sure most of them have good intentions. Or maybe they don't everyone is different.
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Lord NO! If there ever was a couple that weren't hypocrites in any way, it was my parents. I'm just like my mom insofar that I tell it the way I see it but she had a softer touch than I do. My dad wasn't around from the age of 15 on, since they finally divorced and that was a very good thing for all of us.
I do know parents that are hypocrites and go by the do as I say, not as I do method and I think it's awful. Mom taught us by example and that is truly the best way. We had our problems as a family but that, fortunately, was not one of them.
It's really difficult when you're growing up to watch your parents do things that you are not allowed to do...but they must parent you and there are many things a kid shouldn't be doing that are OK for a parent to do. If you think about it objectively you would surely agree but it does depend on the method they use and that, someday, you will use to rear your own children. And if you can acquire the wherewithal to take the best and leave the rest, your kids might even be well adjusted!
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No, my dad is openly Socialist (what i call him at least) and my mom admits she cares more about which politician will do more for her than the entire country.
Although, my dad voted McCain... mainly because of foreign policy.
my mom voted Obama.
Now, drug use may be different. My mom agrees with me more that pot should be legalized, and she didn't really do that much in her time.
My dad, on the other hand doesn't like to admit that he did, but my mom told me quite a lot about drug use back in the day. and he's against legalizing pot. so he may be a hypocrite there. I never touched the stuff and probably never will (cause i sing) and i still want it to be legalized. but like i said, he's a commie and doesn't believe in individualism.
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In times they could be. Implementing all those stupid rules that they also tend to break themselves. As my parents goes, they come to trust me enough for most of the decisions I make. They let me hang out with my buddies and do all those crazy things people my age did. As long as I am not exceeding the limit and hit my boundary. It's also good that you have a constant communication with your mom and dad so they they have an idea about the stupid things going on with you life. Whenever we get a chance to be complete during dinner, we always make it a point where we catch up with what's the latest with every member, whether its a plain new pierced ear and latest project in school.
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No my parents were pretty fair. Granted I didn't give them much reason to not be. And I'm trying to be fair with my kids, too. So far our worst transgression against them is denying them Diet Coke even though we're drinking it ourselves. If that's the best they've got to talk to the therapist about someday then I'm feeling good about how we're treating them.
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