Jesus Christ! Do you have anything going for you? What are you good at? What kind of person do you want to be?

Ok. You have absolutely no confidence in yourself. I am not saying it in a mean way. Here's the revelation. You have posted 4+ debates on how you can get women, and have repeatedly said all of the negatives about yourself and can't seem to find the positives. You are obviously at a low point in your life and possibly need to see someone about your pessimism. IF you want a way to find women without meeting them publicly, just use dating websites. They are an easy way to get familiar with someone before you meet. If you have good chemistry with them online, you are likely to have chemistry with them in public. I don't know what else to say besides this:

You need to take action in what you want. You constantly ask people on a debating website about how you can get a girl to like you, and yet, when it seems like great advice is showing up on each post, you just create another perspective debate over what you should do. Seriously, take action. You cannot find a girl by asking others. Yes, maybe you have failed a few times at meeting a girl, but if you fail many times, you need to find a different way to find one. Women only like guys without personality, success, and looks if they want to do community service and help them achieve one of those things. You, however, are doubting that you have any of them.

If you don't have a great personality, fine. That can always be changed. It is by psychologists that, if one pretends to be someone for a long enough time, they will eventually develop that persona as their own. This can be very bad advice though, because you do not want to use this to exploit women.

If you do not have success, it's not too late. You believe it is, and therefore, you make it impossible to achieve. If you don't have confidence in yourself and work hard, you will never achieve success.

When it comes to looks, you believe that you are average or below. The funny thing is, when a man has a lack of confidence in their looks, they usually turn out to be because they believe it to be true. Even if that man is generally a nice-looking guy, he can believe and cause his appearance to look bad through facial expression, dress, attitude, etcetera. Have confidence in your looks. Try to find features that you like about yourself. Soon enough, you will create a happier, more confident person, which is actually very attractive to women.

Okay, you need to work on yourself before you even think about getting a woman.

You clearly don't have your life together, and you have no confidence whatsoever. Stop worrying about finding someone and work on making yourself happy before you even think about trying to make someone else happy.

Seriously, you are first, and you need to work on the confidence before a woman will even look at you.

We live in a unforgiving world. If you want something in this world you have to go out and make it happen, all the perspectives, and opinions in the world can't substitute action.

You can't rely on anyone else for anything, you are the only person that can fufill your own desires and aspirations.

"Oh Yes

there are worse things than

being alone

but it often takes decades

to realize this

and most often

when you do

it's too late

and there's nothing worse

than

too late"

-Charles Bukowski

Its sounds like your major flaw is confidence. Good news! That can be worked on. Just do some things to help you feel better about yourself, by either getting in shape, or by updating your wardrobe. Then once you feel a little better about your own appearance, that will give you a small boost to your ego. It may not last, but it will be there for a short time.

Now on to the next step. Building true confidence. All you have to do is talk to people. Simple as that. The more you put yourself out there, the better you will be in social situations. With your new found social skills will come true confidence. Oh and don't expect this to be easy. It can take years to build social skills and confidence when you have none to start with. You will have ups and downs. More downs than ups when you first start.