Do you hold onto anger towards others who have offended you? How's your stress level?
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The next time you have that argument with your spouse. You know the one I'm talking about. The one you've had year after year after year since your glorious wedding day. The next time your spouse does that same annoying thing, how about trying something new! It takes two to argue correct? So how about taking the high ground, and ignoring this annoying habit that has set off a thousand arguments before. How about letting it go, and keeping your mouth shut? Yes Yes Yes, I know, IT IS THEIR FAULT, and they should not keep doing it. Guess what will happen when you re frame from getting angry this time? NO ARGUMENT! There will be no argument, but guess what will also happen? Your spouse will see a change in you. You have broken the cycle! When your spouse sees a change in you, they will take notice, I GUARANTEE! It will lead to a change in them as well. You will notice how those annoying things will start happening less often. It takes one person to make the first move, regardless who is at fault. Take the high ground and make the first move. Your spouse will see the change, and make an effort as well. It takes two to argue and you have broken the cycle. It matters not who was right or wrong, because it is you who will benefit, regardless. You can always be right, or you can be happy :) |