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I like being pursued I want to do the pursuing
Debate Score:7
Total Votes:7
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 I like being pursued (5)
 I want to do the pursuing (2)

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For The Ladies: Do You Want Men to Chase You or the other way?

For the ladies.  Just wondering, do you actually like it when guys initiate or pursue/approach/chase you? Or do you prefer to do it yourself after a guy you are interested in.  In other words, do you prefer them coming to you or do you like to be the one to go to them?

I like being pursued

Side Score: 5

I want to do the pursuing

Side Score: 2
1 point

I ask because I'm a little confused with myself. Though I am a male, I've always preferred the girls to initiate and come after me instead of doing the traditional thing where men are supposedly the chasers/hunters/pursuers.

I think it has to do with my insecurities and low-confidence which is why I preferred that even if there was a girl I was interested in, I'd wait for her to show interest in me first before I make a move.

Of course, that has change a bit more now as I don't mind chasing after someone I really like, but for most of my life, I've actually preferred being approached instead of me doing the risk-taking job of initiating.

Side: I like being pursued

I'm not a girl, but I think the answer is obvious: it depends. Some girls like to pursue, some like to be pursued.

Side: I like being pursued
1 point

I'm not a lady, but every living person likes being wanted. The times they don't depend on who, what, where, when, why, and to what extent.

Side: I like being pursued
1 point

Heterosexual (or bisexual) females are definitely ABLE TO pursue and can FEEL attraction to people but it is the feeling of the other adoring them (and only them) over all other females that ultimately leads to their blissful feminine form of love.

Side: I like being pursued
1 point

Yes, I would definitely agree that no matter male or female, everyone loves the feeling of being wanted.

Side: I like being pursued
1 point

I'm a fairly attractive young woman, and I am constantly slapped in the face with guys trying to pursue me when I thought we were platonic. Not only is it tiresome to have to turn down a guy who I have zero interest in, but it's also not attractive to me at all when a guy seems desperate to be with me. I'd much rather a guy make his attraction to me evident, but then make me work to show you why you want to be with me. Which, I'm awesome, so it shouldn't take too long either ;)

Side: I want to do the pursuing
1 point

Yes, this is also why I ask the question because I don't think I'm going out on a limb to say that men initiate or attempt to make contact/connection more than the other way. But as a female, while it must feel nice to be pursued or wanted to receive a lot of attention, it also must be annoying and tiresome turning down most of the advances by men you do not like, find attractive, or have any desire to be with. So it seems this is a catch 22. People like to be pursued and wanted, and yet when u do it, people get annoyed because they don't want to be with you.

This also leads me into another debate about PUSH vs PULL. Rather than to "push" your way into someone's life by pursuing, initiating, pressing, advancing, etc., one could "pull" others towards themselves by doing things or making themselves admirable, attractive, desirable etc.

hmmmmm difficult dilemma

Side: I want to do the pursuing