How many ACTUAL genders are there??
I found a site that listed 326, not one of which is boy,girl,man, woman, male, or female.
They did have:
Angeligender– A gender found only among angels, that is hard to describe to non-angels. For godkin and angelkin only.
Arithmagender– A numerical gender. it can range from any number/s, positive, negative, decimals, fractions, etc.
If I were Pi, I would be non-terminating, non-repeating. Not only would I be well-rounded, but I would never die, and I would always be original!
Frankly, I am pretty sure the only appropriate one is i (imaginary number.)
Colorgender– A gender associated with one or more colors and the feelings, hues, emotions, and/or objects associated with that color. Can be categorized by the specific color(s), such as pinkgender, violetgender, etc.
Digigender– A digital gender. It can range from any digital thing or file; virus, mp3, .txt, etc., often for techkin.
Eldrigender– A gender which is dark, nebulous, and ultimately unknowable.
Glassgender– A gender that is very sensitive and fragile.
And on, and on, and on.
Gender is about the social aspects of a person's sexual identity. So, how they view and behave in society in terms of their sexuality. But since society is fluid, defining genders is arbitrary business. Depending on who you ask, there are any number of genders. The point is that these are wishy-washy concepts and shouldn't be taken too seriously.
What's more illuminating and frankly more relevant is biological sex and the behaviours it tends to manifest.
There are two overwhelmingly common chromosomal sexes (not counting those people with chromosomal anomalies: a very small percentage of the human race) -- male and female, XY and XX. Depending on the hormonal balance of each individual, they will express certain character traits which will tend to define them as either masculine or feminine in gender. But again, since the terms "masculine" and "feminine" are dependent upon the normative social structures at any given point in time -- which are liable to great change across time periods -- the gender definitions are quite wooly, wishy-washy.
For instance: is a man who wears a skirt, feminine for doing so? Nowadays most people would probably say yes. Yet, in Roman times it was the norm for very masculine Roman soldiers.
The point is, what is unchanging and fixed in all of this is that there are two overwhelmingly common chromosomal sexes and nearly everybody on the planet fits neatly into these in terms of genitalia, hormone level, and character. We know that high testosterone precludes aggressive or risky behaviour -- hence men tend to be more dominant and forward than women. We know that estrogen precludes mothering behaviour and higher emotional awareness -- women tend more to be caring and nurturing.
There are outliers to these but by and large everybody conforms to this to sufficient degree to be considered either simply male or female. Some people have defective hormone production, some have complete resistance to certain hormones which means they are born looking like women (vagina, breasts etc) but having male
XY chromosomes. But these are rare exceptions.
However, what is quite alarming about the current gender ideologies of ultra-liberal thinking is that they seek to impose scientifically invalid ideas upon the majority of the population. I don't think anyone would disagree that someone with a genuine medical condition such as dysphoria brought about by hormone resistance or imbalance ought to be able to decide their own sex and have according surgery, but what alarms me is that the normative binary sex-gender coordination is being attacked as something "oppressive" when in fact it is simply a result of the common biology shared by the vast majority of the human population.
In summary, there are two overwhelmingly common sexes and those two sexes and their respective biological components tend to produce behaviours which would place most of the human race into either the male gender role or the female gender role. The minority that do not fit into this binary system are very rare outliers to what are normative structures.
And hermaphrodites have no genders.
I think you are conflating sex and gender. Hermaphrodites have both sexes, and generally elect to present themselves as either masculine or feminine, often so that other people (who have not seen the goodies) have no clue that are not normal men/women.