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Yes, of cource. Definetely no
Debate Score:49
Arguments:41
Total Votes:55
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Is early marriage harmful for a woman?

Nowadays there are a lot of girls who want to marry at the age of 15-20, but they do not think about the consequences that early marriage brings to them.

Yes, of cource.

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Definetely no

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2 points

Young woman without having any experience, should take such a great responsibility and create new family. Its hard for her to adapt to new way of life because, so to speak, several days ago she was just a child. She doesn't have any idea what she will have to do after getting married to her beloved one. She wont expect that her life will be full of housework which she isn't ready to accept morally. She might suffer from lack of free time and just get tired easily. She will become emotionally unstable and this might become a reason of real quarrel between husband and wife. As a result of that, we can only expect the last step of their relationship problems - divorce.

Side: Yes, of cource.
101kakashi(381) Disputed
2 points

that is a good point you are stating indeed! early marriage might cause that but then again.. what if she is completely aware of that and ready to step in the adulthood world? but also what if she fails in that since she is young and things are not what she expected?!

Side: in between
2 points

I want to support Aikasun! In addition to these, lack of time and having baby in the nearest future would lead to problems with her education. It would be obvious that she must delay her education to some time in order to look after her husband and her little baby. Also, despite the fact that kazakh people were used to have early marriage before, the first problem was girls' health. Her young body and organism isn't ready for that kind of changes. Sometimes early pregnancy leads to deaths, diseases in their baby, and we must think about our future generation. If we want to have healthy generation, early marriages must be prohibited!

Side: Yes, of cource.
unownmew(160) Disputed
1 point

I disagree. Marriage by and large is a "formative institution," it is impossible to be fully prepared for it before you enter, and one should not even try. The act of becoming married, and then experiencing it in all it's joy and pain is what develops the woman (and man) into the responsible parent they ought to be. Of course a woman is going to be unprepared for marriage, it doesn't matter what age she is, be it 12 or 29.

The rest of your argument is entirely unsubstantiated speculation, upon which a reasonable argument can never rest. She "might suffer?" she "will become emotionally unstable?" But what about those who don't? I don't know about you, but my mother has had quite a lot of free time, excepting during the childbearing and childrearing stages of myself and my 3 siblings lives, yet she still cooks, and cleans, while my father works to provide for us.

And if a single quarrel is enough to get divorced over, neither party of the marriage has any sense of duty or responsibility, and it is equally the mans fault here as well as the woman's, not just the woman's, and this lack of duty and commitment is the real underlying problem there, not the age of the girl when she married.

Side: Definetely no
2 points

I am not a strong opponent of the early marriage as well as not a supporter. I think every person should make his own choice and nobody can blame him for it. But i can suppose some harmful consequences from woman's early marriage. Firstly, it is the possibility of the early maternity, while at the age of 15-20 young woman's organism can be unprepared for it. So it can be a cause of child's death or disease. On the other hand the maternity itself can be a cause of a marriage. From my point of view, it is not good, because such marriages are often unwanted and in future spouses will be able to regret and suffer. One more point is that young woman maybe will be able to stop her education. Whereas nowadays for any person education is important step of his life.

Side: in between
1 point

Even if there are some benefits of early marriage, in my point of view early marriage is very harmful for a woman. Firstly, there are a lot of problems with the education. Because of the childbirth you have to leave school or the university. And this will influence on your future. When you do not have a good quality education, you cannot find a good job, you cannot properly take care of your family. There are no opportunity to show who you actually are. Secondary, there are a lot of studies indicate us that "the child of a woman, who is physically grown and developed enough as a personality, develope more quickly than the child of a young woman.

Side: Yes, of cource.
1 point

Also i wanted to add that many early marriages associated with no woman’s position within the household, especially, when there is a big age difference between the spouses. When the female get married at an early age she automatically becomes husband’s marionette.

Side: Yes, of cource.
1 point

The brain is not fully developed until age 21, and marriage is a very big decision that the vast majority of young people are simply not ready for, young people tend to not consider the long term affects of their decisions. In the United States, children under age 18, cannot enter into legal contracts (including marriage) without parents consent. I'm not certain how the laws in Kazakhstan are, but some similar safeguard would be beneficial.

Side: Yes, of cource.
1 point

BECAUSE WE NEED LOVE JDSJASDASDHASDHASFASDHASFD AJHSDHSDAHSHDAHASDJHSJD

Side: Yes, of cource.

I do understand that the work may be stressful for the woman. I say it is dependable on the woman herself. I say if a woman wants to find out if she is ready, she and her partner must at least try one year living together. And when i mean living together, i mean compromising with each other and handling each other's differences. And if the woman wants to have a child, i say let the woman tie a twenty five pound weight across her belly for a few months and care for a fake child that acts like a real child.

The word that sums up what im saying is "test." I have no problems with it and i think it is a good idea.

It is very dependable. How she was raised? If she had lots of responsibilities?

Side: Yes, of cource.
1 point

I absolutely agree with you)) Of cource early marriage is harmful for a woman, but if she understood that she is ready by living together it will be great. Even thought early marriage is not approciated in our society, some women ready to take such responsibility. There are can be some exceptions)))

Side: Yes, of cource.

If a woman is ready to handle such a responsibility, then im fine with it. I see nothing wrong with it.

I guess society is being protective and i understand it and appreciate it. I say that if a woman in her early adult years want a child, let her. It is unfair for someone to stop too. But i do understand that there is a reason why society is being protective. That early mothers are mostly uncapable of handling a child. i could be wrong but that is how the media portrays it.

Side: Yes, of cource.
1 point

every woman dreams about great love of life, but nowadays it changed so success and independence are on the first place. now they work hard to make a good career and have big salary. But all their efforts will be noiseless, all hopes for own life and career will be destroyed, because after the marriage woman is not only wife, she is also a future mother, and children is a big responsibility. they require your whole attention and time.

Side: Yes, of cource.
1 point

It will affect on her well-being. As for me I know a lot examples of divorces afer early marriages.

From my point of view marriage represents half of our life. Girls should think twice or even thrice, because marriage is not a game.

Being teenagers, they fell in love and then can go to reckless actions and make prompt decisions. Their frivolous husband will go away, find a new girl and she will be alone with child, no education and life full of complaining.

Side: Yes, of cource.
1 point

Personally, i do not understand early marriage. Especially at the age 16 or 17, they are babies and they become mothers. They didn`t see life, didn`t live for themselves, didn`t earn money and didn`t do something useful for life. Also sometimes it depends on parents, how they behaved their child. The age when women should get married from 20, she understand everything, pros and cons of future life.

Side: Yes, of cource.
1 point

I think that even you love somebody so much that you are ready to get married with him, you still shouldn't hurry. If it is a real love, it will waite and not go away from you, if not, you will avoid making one of the biggest mistakes in your life. Young couples are much more likely to divorce, and consequently in most cases a girl, who just didn't manage to get a decent education, stays with her little child without support

Side: Yes, of cource.

OF COURSE. many people say that marriage is harmful for everyone but EARLY marriage i just think it is ridiculous. The woman may not know if she even truly likes that man but she will end up getting pregnant in 1 year. these woman need to be allowed to live life or at least complete their studies.

Side: Yes, of cource.
1 point

definitely they will have bad consequences but they have good ones too because,not all women mess around and not all have problems when giving birth its the decision of the person at the same time it might affect the persons health but a lot of people are happy with that

Side: Yes, of cource.
1 point

definitely they will have bad consequences but they have good ones too because,not all women mess around and not all have problems when giving birth its the decision of the person at the same time it might affect the persons health but a lot of people are happy with that

Side: Yes, of cource.
-1 points

To my mind, early marriages have extremely harmful and bad consequences in women's lives in the future. First of all, the women, who have marriage at the early age, usually are not willing to have a family and have independent life, so it will be very difficult for them to cope with inevitable priblems of adult life. Finally , the early marriage is the result of parents' bad upbringing.

Side: Yes, of cource.
Vika(48) Disputed
1 point

maybe you ask women, and after it you can speak.

better than women, nobody can judge by this question

Side: Definetely no
2 points

mm at this point i have to say it may be helpful to set her in a right direction when it comes to the sins she might do in her life since by marrying she will be to her husband only and find settlement. but on the other hand she would be wasting her entire youth and not be able to experience life in her way..but then again experiencing life might lead her to make wrong decisions thus putting her in the sin direction..

Side: in between
1 point

I also think that it is agreat chance for a woman to make the first step in adulthood. As you know in our country "Kazakhstan", women get used to live with their parents until they get married and man used to live with parents even if he got married. We call it tradition. But living with the parents we can't become more independent. I mean in this case early marriage will be appropriate, because it is the great chance to leave your home and start your own life. You will be responsible for your new family. You will grown up, because when you have your own family your concerns are changing)) It helps you to think more about serious things in this world.

Side: Definetely no
gufa(27) Disputed
1 point

but, Zhuldiz, don't you think that these are very considerable changes in one's life? how can you be sure that these changes will have success result? may be this hasty decision spoil two lives and destroy dreams of 2 people?????

Side: Yes, of cource.
saprophetic(390) Disputed
1 point

Well, here in "New Zealand" there's a quite well known joke about women getting married because their relationship is failing. The joke being, well, it doesn't solve anything and now you'll lose half your stuff if you quit. The same goes for marriage suddenly making a girl more responsible and serious as you suggest. Just doesn't happen outside the cinema, at least, not with the positive outcomes you'd expect.

Side: Yes, of cource.
SergeiDaniel(41) Disputed
1 point

But how can young women think about serious thinhs in the world and be responisble for a new family? They are just girls , they do not have enough experience and knowledge ,how to be a mother, a wife and a housekeeper. This wish to leave home and begin a new independent life is just a childish aspiration to be like an adult . Again , this is parents' faults and mistakes in style of upringing .

Side: Yes, of cource.
unownmew(160) Disputed
1 point

No woman, or man, can ever be fully prepared, either in knowledge or experience, or responsibility, for a marriage, no matter their age. Marriage is a formative institution, where each party learns and grows together to become the responsible people they want to become. You're not supposed to know everything going into it, if you did, it would only be cause for strife and disagreement within the marriage, because each party has a different "set idea" as to what marriage is supposed to be like, and how their partner should behave.

Side: Definetely no
1 point

Yes it is harmful because when you get married at a early age the women would probably want to have to have a kid at a early age and when you have a kid at a early age the baby would probably die since the girl is too young to have a baby. Also young womens orangisms might not be ready for a child. Also if the baby is alive and it she gave birth to it she would have to stay home to watch the baby and then she can't go back to school to get a education. If a young women does get married I would have kids when you are out of school.

Side: Definetely no
Jayembayeva(29) Disputed
1 point

I disagree with u at the point that " have a kid at a early age and when you have a kid at a early age the baby would probably die since the girl is too young to have a baby. Also young womens orangisms might not be ready for a child. " i should say that the Reproductive system start to work at 11-15 it depends on organism and hormones. one more evidence that the organism is ready for the giving birth is the beginning of a menstrual cycle without this fact the pregnancy is impossible.

Side: Yes, of cource.
aigerim92(18) Disputed
1 point

Yes, it is known that physically a girl is ready to have a child at the age of 15-18. But how do you think she would treat her pregnancy? A girl in such young age usually isn't so responsible to think a lot about health of her future child, because she is just a child too.

Side: Yes, of cource.
1 point

I also think that early marriage is not harmful for a woman. Everyone has his rights. We cannot judge people who want to create a family at an early age. It is their choice. Of cource there are a lot of disadvantages of early marriage, but can you just imagine what it will be like to take care of your child and your lovely husband? It is an unbelievable pleasure.

Side: Definetely no
Zhuldiz(11) Disputed
1 point

Of cource it is a great pleasure to take care of your family, but don't you think that a woman can feel this happiness not only at an early age? It will be better to get married when you get an education and when you will be developed enough as a personality.

Side: Yes, of cource.
1 point

No, early marriage is not harmful to a woman, but it can mess her life up. Back in days not so past, our average life span was extremely short. If you didn't have kids by your early twenties at the latest, you would likely not live roses them in their twenties. Now, with life spans significantly longer the woman might have to endure a relationship for decades longer than the past. So, I repeat No it is not harmful, but certainly could be a bad idea!

Side: Definetely no
Zhuldiz(11) Disputed
1 point

But, there are many other disadvantages. Many early marriages associated with no woman’s position within the household, especially, when there is a big age difference between the spouses. When the female get married at an early age she automatically becomes husband’s marionette.

Side: Yes, of cource.
1 point

I would have to agree with your assessment. Most women who marry very young (more so in the past) give up their person to the family.

Side: Yes, of cource.
1 point

Ok. I think all of you are right. In some cases we can spoilt our life without early marriage. It depends on personal. I am aganist marrige, generally. If you live, you can live with him or if you have cooled, you can break off with him. it is so simple and it helps you from different red tapes.

But i want to say that if girl decides to marry, it does not influence of her future.

smart person stays smart always and everywhere.

Side: Definetely no
1 point

Moreover I want to say that in most cases love is disappointment and the only way is to understand it at the beginning

Side: Definetely no
1 point

In addition to this if smb decide to do it, he should do it without uncessary thoughts.

Side: Definetely no