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Debate Score:94
Arguments:93
Total Votes:104
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Is fornication morally wrong?

Should people be able to have sex before marriag?

Save sex till marriage

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Can have sex before marriage

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2 points

It doesn't surprise me that the other side is winning this debate. This is the problem with morally relativistic, post-Christian culture. Morals don't change. They can't. If it was ever wrong, then it still is. And it certain has been since the dawn of man. That doesn't mean that people don't do it. It just means that when they do, they are being immoral. Nobody wants to admit to immorality anymore, so they have bent, or even done away with morality, as is it was some man invented thing that can simply be discarded.

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2 points

I greatly support this comment. If God says its wrong then it's wrong. Society doesn't change morality, only God can but I highly doubt that. That's why I believe society has ruined humanity because it teaches us (or at least tries to) what they think are good morals which there bad. I mean back a few years ago, the Germans thought it was morally right to kill all the Jews and now they know it's wrong. But what if they got that train of thought again maybe it's killing all white people. Just because they think it's right does that mean it's right to the world? No! Back in the day, fornication was a huge deal and was morally wrong but now people in our society Mia edit look like it's right but does it mean it's actually right? No! Nobody can change morals, only God can and his word is always true and his word says that fornication is wrong because fornication is not really love. Sex is supposed to be with a married couple, not to teenagers or even kids in like there 30s, 40s, etc. only when your married is it right. And with fornication, the two people are most likely using condoms which that's immoral but that's a whole different subject. Bottom line is that it's Gods word that is true and fornication is wrong and if your atheist then cool! That doesn't change the fact that you can't change right and wrong.

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Mahollinder(900) Clarified
2 points

The story of Judah and Tamar strongly suggests that your view of sex and marriage is out of sync with god's.

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Jace(5222) Disputed
1 point

Argumentum ad hitlerum meet Godwin's Law.

There are as many iterations of morality as there have ever been people with moral belief. Your moral beliefs in particular may have more in common than not with some group of Christians, but ultimately your morality is your own no matter how much you credit your god with having created it. Furthermore, you have no evidence whatsoever that either your god or your interpretation of his morality is more valid than any other person's theistic or moral beliefs. To suggest not only that objective morality exists as a singular phenomenon, but that it is truly known only by you and those who share your beliefs is quite egotistical. This is the problem with the moral argument: it is a self-righteous assumption that fundamentally cannot be proven.

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Jace(5222) Disputed
1 point

Pre-Christian culture held different morals from Christian culture. Even contemporary Christian culture is at odds with itself over its own morality. Given how prevalent Christianity still is, I doubt we even live in a post-Christian culture but when we do the morals will be different and variable just as they were before and are now. Morality has never been static or agreed upon and to suggest otherwise flies in the face of clear, empirical evidence to the contrary. There is no evidence whatsoever that the Christian God exists, let alone that any particular Christian sect has the right of it regarding their god's purported morals.

Amoralists and anti-moralists actually remain quite in the minority, so it is rather remarkable how threatened some Christians are by our views on morality. Our perspectives are hardly mainstream or influential in social politics at this point, and there is little chance that they will be anytime soon. On average, people still need their morality too much to let it go. And for the record, my amorality is in no way an excuse to act however I like without repercussion; accountability is just as necessary and possible in a post-moral society as a moral one, and arguably more efficient and legitimate.

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FromWithin(8241) Disputed
1 point

Total hogwash! Accountability is non existant in this bigoted progressive anti God separatist culture. Remember how the Left fought so loudly against separatists when it came to race, but when it comes to Christianity, they are the biggest bigoted closeminded intolernt people on this planet. They re ll for seaparating any mention of our Christian heritage in public.

Without faith in God, a nation wil bankrupt itself from the no fault if it feels good culture.

Now do what you always do and tell me how man can be moral without faith in God, while we kill our unborn by the millions each year. Yeh, man is about as moral as Hitler without our Christian heritage.

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1 point

Well said, and of course it is no surprise perverts fight hard to justify themselves. They love their sin more than life and don't care if it takes them to Hell.

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1 point

Well said, and of course it is no surprise perverts fight hard to justify themselves. They love their sin more than life and don't care if it takes them to Hell.

I believe sexual perversion is the clincher of why many people reject Jesus Christ. They know that if they follow Him, they will be called to a life of purity in body and mind and they find it easier to give in to temptations for immediate gratification rather than believing in and waiting for better things.

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2 points

Having sex before marriage is still a problematic practice in most cultures, because it still involves the potential for unwanted pregnancy. Hence the moral prohibition within most cultures remains. To the extent this potential diminishes, the so called moral prohibition will diminish.

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It is a natural act. It is neither moral, nor immoral; it just is.

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Saintnow(3684) Disputed
1 point

So if you do it with a dog, it's just a natural act? If you do it with a child, it's just a natural act? If you do it with your brother and/or sister or parents or grandma and grampa in a big orgy, it's just a natural act and there is never nothing wrong with it as long as everybody involved consents?

Have you ever heard of the word, "pervert"? Guess what it means.

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1 point

Too funny! You are being ridiculous. You sound very angry, I think you need to go get laid. LOL

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It is up to the individual and what the individual believes.

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Saintnow(3684) Disputed
1 point

so if your ten year old son says it's ok for a sodomite to teach the ways of sodomy to the boy, it's ok? where do you draw the line and how do you justify that line?

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1 point

It's not unethical anymore thanks to the invention of condoms: condoms = sex without sex. No more unwanted pregnancies with the existence of contraceptives.

Eventually church people will figure this out.

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2 points

but this seems to assume that having a child before a public declaration of partnership is morally wrong

do you think that having the consequences of a unplanned/unconventional child is what makes pre-marital sex immoral?

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14giraffes(87) Clarified
1 point

having unwanted children in any community has a negative impact. whether or not parents are married is not a big deal so long as they have the ability to take care of the child. 1 in 5 children lives in poverty in the united states. globally it's much worse.

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Saintnow(3684) Disputed
1 point

sex without sex? are you sure you really exist? How do you know that you really are there?

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Saintnow(3684) Disputed
1 point

This is some of the dumbest stuff in the world today. Dirty sex is still dirty sex with or without contraceptives. If you want to be perverted with your sexuality, that's your choice. I hope your contraceptives keep you from getting AIDS, but no matter how much contraceptive you use there is always a risk of AIDS and other STD's. All sex outside of marriage is wrong. Mutual consent and condoms don't make it right. It's just plain common sense...save it for marriage, keep it clean, protect your body and encourage others to do the same. Perverts spread STD's in the human race. If there were no sex-perverts, no STD's would spread.

No perverts allowed around my family.

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2 points

"My beliefs are common sense, and everyone who disagrees is dirty and perverted".

Right, because that's a mature way to behave.

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Nomoturtle(857) Disputed
1 point

All sex outside of marriage is wrong.

that's brilliant, but why?

but no matter how much contraceptive you use there is always a risk of AIDS and other STD's

the same is true after marriage

If there were no sex-perverts, no STD's would spread.

right... you sure about that?

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icxc_nika(62) Disputed
1 point

Bruh ok well us Catholics/Christians (not church people you idiot) have our morals in check. That's the amazing thing about religion because of our Lord, we already have good morals and we always you have them. Morals were created by God and his word is true. Society can't creat morals. Like back then having sex before marriage was such a bad thing to society and religion and now society thinks it's perfectly fine but religion, Christian religion anyway, is right because we follow the morals created by God. God made sex for the INTENTION for the women to get pregnant. If you don't want a baby then WHY IN THE WORLD WOULD YOU HAVE SEX IN THE FIRST PLACE!!! Seriously WHAT THE LOGIC?!? There's no logic in that. You say that the invention of condoms makes fornication unethical because now the girl can't get pregnant. Well did you know there's still a chance of the girl getting pregnant? OH MY GOSH! That's a true statement. Plus, like I said, sex was made for the couple to have a baby. A married couple. Using a condom is unnatural.

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1 point

Bruh ok well us Catholics/Christians (not church people you idiot) have our morals in check.

Some do, some don't. Christians have no monopoly on being moral.

That's the amazing thing about religion because of our Lord, we already have good morals and we always you have them.

But Christianity doesn't even hold that to be true. Christianity and the Bible both say that even if one is Christian, they still can (and almost always do) still sin.

Morals were created by God and his word is true. Society can't creat morals.

Depends on your concept of morality.

Like back then having sex before marriage was such a bad thing to society

For most of humanity's existence, sex before marriage was the norm, considering marriage didn't exist.

God made sex for the INTENTION for the women to get pregnant. If you don't want a baby then WHY IN THE WORLD WOULD YOU HAVE SEX IN THE FIRST PLACE!!! Seriously WHAT THE LOGIC?!? There's no logic in that.

Humanity is one of two known species that has sex for pleasure. There's plenty of logic in having sex for pleasure, I assure you :P

You say that the invention of condoms makes fornication unethical because now the girl can't get pregnant. Well did you know there's still a chance of the girl getting pregnant? OH MY GOSH! That's a true statement. Plus, like I said, sex was made for the couple to have a baby. A married couple. Using a condom is unnatural.

Many things are unnatural. Religion is unnatural, computers are unnatural, etc. Unnatural does not necessarily mean bad.

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14giraffes(87) Disputed
1 point

...you idiot...

are you the intellectually judgmental type?

Bruh ok well us Catholics/Christians (not church people you idiot)

language is tricky because different words mean different things to different people. "church people" and "christians" art not exactly identical. i'm talking specifically about the herd'd crowd that wholeheartedly believes everything they learn'd at mothers knee. these are the outcomes of indoctrination, which is in fact child abuse. if parents teach their children to believe something since infancy then those children will grow up deeply condition'd by that belief.

well us Catholics. . . have our morals in check.

people living in the city generally haven't conquer'd morality. you've to go up into the mountains 'r join a monastery to get that level of spirituality going, for the simple reason that there are too many distractions involved in city life. unless you're a augur i am skeptical. as for catholicism, i read augustine, g. k. chesterton and hans kung, but that's about as familiar as i am with that tradition.

God made sex for the INTENTION for the women to get pregnant. If you don't want a baby then WHY IN THE WORLD WOULD YOU HAVE SEX IN THE FIRST PLACE!!! Seriously WHAT THE LOGIC?!?

most of human portance is just self-center'd meaningless pleasure seeking. sexuality is consistent with the way nature works. sure lust may be out of control, because the animal instincts art too strong- overpowering.

You say that the invention of condoms makes fornication unethical because now the girl can't get pregnant. Well did you know there's still a chance of the girl getting pregnant? OH MY GOSH! That's a true statement.

2% chance of pregnancy…. 98% has a massive impact. and don't forget other forms of contraceptives like birth control. morality is contextual. situations will determine 'r not a given action as immoral.

….sex was made for the couple to have a baby. A married couple. Using a condom is unnatural.

would you discourage the lay-to of condoms in aids-ridden africa? (contextual)

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FromWithin(8241) Disputed
1 point

You sum up why our nation is falling into the gutter. You are actually stupid enough to think most teens are responsible enough to use birth control. All your sex ed. band aide did was excuse teens having sex and they could care less about using condoms because condoms effect the sex. We had far fewer teen pregnancies before sex ed. ever started!

Eventually after our welfare roles are so swollen supporting unwed mothers, that the middle class can no longer pay to support them. IT WILL ALL COLLAPSE.

Is that how you would raise your chidren? Tell them that it is ok to have sex as long as you use birth control? Even if they did use birth control every time, it does not guarantee they do not get pregnant. Are teens repsonible and mature enough to be havng children? How can they pay for their children? After so many years of sex ed., why are our social programs exploding with unwed mothers? How are they getting pregnant?

This amoral progressive movement is abslutely destroying this nation. We are 18 trillion in debt and soon the interest payments on that debt will equal all of our military spending each year. PROGRESSIVISM is a complete failure.

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Cartman(18192) Disputed
1 point

tter. You are actually stupid enough to think most teens are responsible enough to use birth control

You really hate facts don't you.

We had far fewer teen pregnancies before sex ed. ever started!

This is not true. We have less teen pregnancy than we used to have. Stop lying.

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1 point

Nope .

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1 point

What is Morally Wrong

The commonly held, so called moral, belief among most cultures prohibiting sex before bonding, is based on the association between sexual contacts and pregnancy. Pregnancy is most often associated with several years of dependency on the part of the offspring. The responsibly to successfully care for offspring is most often seen as falling upon the two mating individuals. In cases where a stable bond exists to support this responsibly, sex is viewed as acceptable.

The underlying cause to the prohibition is pregnancy. Though we have devised ways to remove the risk of pregnancy after sexual contact, two problems remain.

1.) The pregnancy avoidance measures sometimes fail or are not employed.

2.) The deeply ingrained prohibition remains even though pregnancy is avoided.

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Fornication is considered wrong relative to these opinions.

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Saintnow(3684) Disputed
1 point

It's based on preservation of what is good. Your attitude is encouraging the spread of disease, and you are guilty by association for every case of AIDS and other STD's because you are supporting sexual perversion to corrupt what is good. If your son or daughter catches AIDS when a condom bursts, blame yourself and your own teachings.

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2 points

The only thing proven to decrease the spread of STI's is increased availability of contraceptives and improved sexual education.

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Jace(5222) Clarified
1 point

I think that pregnancy was one factor, but certainly not the sole or even primary factor. The restriction has always been more strictly imposed upon women than men, if for no other reason than that women could become pregnant and their virginity checked. Discouraging sex before marriage became a way to regulate the sexuality of the "second sex" which was commonly viewed as inferior and less capable of making good choices for themselves (i.e. the male as the protector of female sexuality and other decision making). Legitimacy also used to be far more important in society than it is cultures like ours today, with sex before marriage associated with promiscuity that could create challenges of legitimacy for offspring (particularly if the sex occurred shortly before marriage). It is also likely that religious institutions had a vested interested in regulating the family unit to make it a more manageable means of dispersing the faith.

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Saintnow(3684) Disputed
1 point

Let me try to explain this to you, since you are doing a pretty good job of denying reality. Getting pregnant or not getting pregnant is not the issue, raising children is not the issue.

You have a body. You are stuck with it forever, if it is cured of disease in heaven or it remains diseased in Hell. It's yours.

A woman has a body, hers the same as yours is yours. When a man gives his body to a woman, they are united as one flesh. If you break that bond, it's an insult to your own body as well as to hers. Marriage is the merging of two into one. It is the only right usage of your body sexually. It's simple to understand. People just love the pleasures of sin so they get it every which way they can...some with animals, some with children, and some will get it with your daughter or wife or son or brother if they can.

Because you are twisted in promoting sin, you deserve any STD's on you or in your family for you to be grieved by it. I deserve it too, because I was like you before I got saved. Fornication is considered wrong because it is wrong. It is not wrong relative to opinions, it is wrong because it is wrong.

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Saintnow(3684) Disputed
1 point

So if you feel like having sex with a dog, your sister, or your mother or brother, or a child in the neighborhood, and they feel the same way, and you make sure pregnancy will not occur, it's good as long as you feel no ingrained prohibition?

Don't you see how your argument supports perverts in all walks and degrees, even if you are not one of the perverts you are supporting by your words? By your words, you must be a pervert who endorses sex outside of marriage for yourself or for others, and by your words there is nowhere to draw the line, and any laws in the area are naturally invalid by your logic.

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1 point

Morality does not objectively exist, therefore fornication before marriage is not morally wrong.

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icxc_nika(62) Disputed
1 point

I wonder if you actually know what morality actually means. Morality is the subject that separates right from wrong. Yes, you can't measure morality but you can put a label on what's right and wrong. Do me a favor and read your whole comment. It's so dumb! If you say morality doesn't objectively exist therefore fornication isn't moraly wrong then how is anything wrong or right?! Answer that for me. You are right on the part where it doesn't objectively exist like I said but everything is either moraly right or wrong. If you go by what you said saying morality doesn't objectively exist therefore for inaction before marriage is not moraly wrong then how can you say it's morally ok?! You can't! Sex was made for the spouses, not for to people not married. It's called traditional marriage.

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1 point

I wonder if you actually know what morality actually means. Morality is the subject that separates right from wrong. Yes, you can't measure morality but you can put a label on what's right and wrong. Do me a favor and read your whole comment. It's so dumb!

That is incredibly rude. Jace doesn't believe in an objective sense of right and wrong, and I have to agree with him on it. If there is no objective right or wrong, there isn't any basis for objective morality.

If you say morality doesn't objectively exist therefore fornication isn't moraly wrong then how is anything wrong or right?!

Subjective morals would determine what is wrong or right for each individual. Oh, and fornication has been the norm for most of humanity's existence.

You are right on the part where it doesn't objectively exist like I said but everything is either moraly right or wrong.

You just said morality doesn't objectively exist, then you claimed that it does objectively exist.

If you go by what you said saying morality doesn't objectively exist therefore for inaction before marriage is not moraly wrong then how can you say it's morally ok?! You can't!

He can't because he doesn't believe anything is objectively morally okay.

Sex was made for the spouses, not for to people not married. It's called traditional marriage.

Sex predates marriage, and there is no singular form of traditional marriage.

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Jace(5222) Disputed
1 point

Morality is a system whereby subjective conceptions of right and wrong are projected onto objective reality. This does not preclude people labeling things as right and wrong, but it does mean that the labels lack objective significance. Objective reality is inherently amoral and this is unaltered by people applying their morality to it in order to understand and navigate their lives.

You are engaged in a fallacy of circular reasoning, arguing that morality must exist because it simply must exist. You assume that things must be right and wrong, but that is an assumption I reject in its entirety. Morality is strictly a matter of perception, with nothing being actually right or wrong. I do not believe that fornication is either immoral or moral because I do not believe in morality.

Regarding sex: it was not "made", it predates all forms of marriage, and there is no such thing as "traditional" marriage anyways.

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Saintnow(3684) Disputed
1 point

How can you be sure morality does not exist when you are not even sure you exist?

By your logic, nothing is wrong, murder, theft, rape, nothing. I think you are dangerous, another anarchist who is a good candidate to attempt or commit mass murder. I also think you have already committed most or all of these things to some degree, with only you and God knowing the full extent of what you have done.

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Jace(5222) Disputed
2 points

No one can be absolutely certain about anything. All I can know is what I perceive, and perceptually there is no evidence at all for morality. Pretty simple, really.

You are correct that by my logic nothing is wrong. That does not mean all things are equally preferable, and I actually am not an anarchist nor do I have any desire to commit mass murder. Not because there is anything fundamentally wrong with either, but quite simply because they are not in line with my interests which are roughly as pro-social as the next person's. My philosophy is dangerous only to those who need the threat of god or some external force to make them "good"; really, that makes me the more well adjusted person since I can be pro-social without such a threat.

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Saintnow(3684) Disputed
1 point

Why do I think you were sexually abused as a child and did it to others the same as it was done to you? Are you the guy who said he was raped when he was a child?

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Jace(5222) Disputed
2 points

No idea, except that you are probably a prejudicial idiot without an actual argument.

I was never sexually abused and have never sexually abused anyone else. I was not the guy on the forum who said he was raped as a child. Not that any of that is relevant to my points anyway.

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0 points

Fornication is a reference to promiscuity, not sex for a serious relationship.

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Jace(5222) Disputed
1 point

Fornication has nothing to do with promiscuity unless you define it that way independent of its actual meaning, which is begging the question.

You are also assuming that promiscuity and having sex for reasons other than a serious relationship are morally wrong, without ever explaining why.

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Sitar(3680) Disputed
0 points

You have the right to your opinion. I know my Bible because I am a Christian.

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