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Yes. Sex is just sex No. It's a ticking time bomb
Debate Score:26
Arguments:13
Total Votes:25
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 Yes. Sex is just sex (7)
 
 No. It's a ticking time bomb (6)

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Is it possible to sustain a "Friends With Benefits" friendship?

Yes, Rules of success, No, why not?

Yes. Sex is just sex

Side Score: 10
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No. It's a ticking time bomb

Side Score: 16
3 points
It's all about keeping boundries and finding the right person. A girl that has dreams of settling down and a white wedding won't work, but someone that is more modern and independent will. Watch out for the cuddling, because the human body translates pheromes and closeness right after sex to intimacy, and that'll lead to attachment and hurt feelings.
Side: Yes. Sex is just sex
1 point

It is a situation you need to find the right person and everything will be great the sex as well as the friendship. But you also must maintain your part of the relationship.

Side: Yes. Sex is just sex
1 point

You don't have to love everyone you have sex with to treat them well. Some relationships just naturally evolve into sex to meet mutual needs.

Side: Yes. Sex is just sex
1 point

I would strongly believe yes, need to make sure its mutual

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Side: Yes. Sex is just sex
1 point

A friends with benifits relationship works perfectly if you have the correct mindset. You are friends, good friends, great friends.... and you are insanely attracted to each other but for some reason a relationship with not work. Whether it be because you are already attached to someone, age, or whatever. You should not miss out on the amazing physical relationship you can share just because a relationship is not possible. I have an AMAZING FWB who is like my best friend, and he has the hottest body I have ever seen and the hook ups we have are intensly hot. But he is 13 years younger than me so a full relationship will not work. This is perfect for us and there is no jealously because we both want the other to end up happy; so for us, this is perfect. It can work if you both think alike.

Side: Yes. Sex is just sex
5 points
I, just like all guys, want with all my heart to believe in this fantasy, but it is not Sustainable. Sustainable is at the base of this debate, I want to be clear about that. We have all had our "arrangements", but what happens is that someone (normally the girl, sorry ladies, "it's science) will always start caring more than the other one, and once that happens, you're toast! Also, please don't confuse "friends with benefits" with booty calls, as they are different. Booty calls are people that you don't really hang out with, but you meet up for sex. I think these are sustainable until one of you finds a bigger, better deal. "Friends with Benefits" are defined as people that you hang out with on a regular basis, and then you add sex onto the end of hanging out.
Side: No. It's a ticking time bomb
6 points
As a girl who considers herself to be fairly rational and on the less-crazy end of the female spectrum (estrogen is a curse), even I realize there is no way for a friends-with-benefits "relationship" to truly last, at least HEALTHILY. Women are far too jealous. No matter how well they disguise it, eventually they'll reach a tipping point and believe me, it won't be pretty.
Side: No. It's a ticking time bomb
1 point
Agreed, this has been tried time and time again by many different people and it never seems to work out. While it can be either, it's typically the girl who ends up feeling some sort of emotional connection to the guy and jealousy rears it's ugly head. The best you can hope for is a one night stand where you never talk to the girl again.
Side: No. It's a ticking time bomb
2 points
Ok, I agree that these relationships are not possible to sustain and I do realize that many times it is the woman that lets her jealousy get the better of her. It is not always the woman though. In these type of relationships one person always has the "upper hand". Obviously, whoever cares less about the relationship at a particular point in time is the one with the "upper hand". The other person, male or female, will have a tough time remaining friends and will secretly want more than a friendship.
Side: No. It's a ticking time bomb
0 points
Very well put. There is always someone who cares less and traditionally it seems to be the female.
Side: No. It's a ticking time bomb
2 points
Sustaining a "Friends With Benefits" relationship is like
trying to eat soup with a fork, without the right tools it is doomed from the start. The only way something like that can work is if you've dated the person, and then down the road attempt to keep friends and benefits relationship. Jerry and Elaine on Seinfeld had that going for a while after they had dated. It can work, but not forever.
Side: No. It's a ticking time bomb
Heath22(144) Disputed
2 points
Check your Seinfeld history buddy, in the end of that episode, they ended up as a couple again... Bad example! I like the eating soup with a fork analogy however.
Side: Yes. Sex is just sex