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yes, it is no it doesn't
Debate Score:27
Arguments:20
Total Votes:31
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Is marriage important?

Is marriage important, or it senseless?  

yes, it is

Side Score: 13
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no it doesn't

Side Score: 14
3 points

Psychologically, for a person like me, it's important. I'm someone who underwent emotional abuse when I was younger, so I'm a man who is very insecure and very clingy.

Because of this, the kind of commitment that marriage signifies gives me significant emotional closure.

Perhaps you could say that's unfair of me, but apparently my wife doesn't mind. And trust me, I already stress a lot over how much of an awful person I might be.

Side: Yes, it is
2 points

Finally, a personal, honest, no-bullshit support of marriage. Thank you.

Side: Yes, it is

You're welcome?

I didn't know getting this sort of answer was difficult.

Side: Yes, it is
1 point

I think it's depends from person and his or her views. Some people just love and it's enough, and other need to be sure that their partner will not escape)))

Side: Yes, it is
1 point

yes, it's a legal contract between two people to a common purpose. totally voluntary of course.

Side: Yes, it is
1 point

I think it really is important. The bonding between two humans has always been very special and should be very concrete. To be in a relationship is fine, but getting married truly symbolizes two becoming one in the sense of a married couple.

Marriage should always be important because it really makes a relationship final. By getting married, you are saying that no matter what, you will stay with the person you are unified with. This deep implication has been undermined by divorce, but it still contains a lot of true.

Side: Yes, it is
Annie88(4) Disputed
2 points

Marriage makes a relationship FINAL? Dude seriously???

So let me get this straight....you are telling me that even though I am in a committed relationship (of 5 years) that I have to make it final??? What if it is final?? Because it is, hes it for me....marriage or not (and I wont be getting married). Its a very concrete relationship. I understand what you are saying...well actually I hope its not what I think you're saying ("you can be together for so long without marriage, but the relationship is never going to be final".) Why does a relationship have to be final???? Thats not what a relationship is to me at all.

Its two people who love eachother unconditionally, immensely, tell eachother secrets, learn from mistakes, and are just best friends. That to me is a relationship (and if Im correct thats pretty much a marriage without the legal system involved and without the money trapment).

Seriously please help me understand.

Side: No it doesn't
oxana(20) Disputed
1 point

If you really want to be with person, you will not leave him no matter what, and marriage doesn't guarantee anything. I agree that it is a way to say to another person about your love and your feelings, if it is all, so people could be together without marriage and live happy

Side: No it doesn't
1 point

really it doesn't make you any happier or less most people just do it for the title and a title really is nothing if your truly in love.

Side: Importance is subjective
2 points

All it is is marking someone in my opinion. Sure, we've got a few legal benefits depending on where you live, but the church or government doesn't need to help you prove your love. You should be able to be in a committed relationship without the consequence of divorce hanging over your head possibly making you stay.

Side: No it doesn't
oxana(20) Disputed
1 point

so the why lots of people get marriage??? is it a stereotype or tribute to traditions?

Side: Yes, it is
101kakashi(381) Disputed
1 point

im sorry for the rude interruption but when u said :"so the why lots of people get marriage??" ddn't u mean :" so then why allot of people get married???" im sry bt i couldn't help but correct it.... :D

Side: No it doesn't
Saurbaby(5581) Disputed
1 point

I'm pretty sure a lot of it is tradition. And now, in our society, it's even an entertainment. A lot of people have huge public weddings and it's just for publicity or attention.

Side: No it doesn't
1 point

We have the same debate in class at our University. And after that I've made some conclusions.

First of all...today we live in modern society and it is absolutely normal to love and be with someone without " piece of paper". If two people really love each other, why must they marry?

The second, marriage is the traditional way to show your love. Why people should declare their love? It is a stereotype. ( as an example: Jolie-Pitt family. They live for a long time happily without marriage)

and many another arguments like; divorces, division of personal assets.

However, I am as a girl want to have a husband,children...Family.

Controversially, huh.

Side: No it doesn't

No. Why should you make the possible breakup even harder if it happens?

Side: No it doesn't
1 point

Important in what way?

It was very important when people had to get married or else be shunned by society. But people don't have to get married now, so I think it's importance is now only a symbolic and/or emotional one. There are legal perks as well, which may be the only reason worth getting married, especially if children are involved.

Side: Importance is subjective
1 point

Different people have different priorities, so it will be important to some and not-so-much to others. Is it objectively important? Only from the understanding that many people in society view it as such, and may treat you differently if you, say, have a baby out of wedlock. But I'd say that this is only important if you allow it to be. One might argue the legal or financial benefits, but those benefits may not be important to you. Perhaps important religiously? Only if you are a part of said religion.

In the meantime:

Do you need marriage for love? No

To be monogamous (if that is important to you)? No

To do what you do well? Possibly if you are a wedding planner. And it does seem to help politicians get votes. But otherwise no.

To live? No

To reproduce? No

To feel better about yourself? Maybe, but people should, IMHO, be able to feel good about themselves regardless of their relationship status.

Basically, it seems to me that marriage is as important as you let it be, which indicates that it has little to no objective importance.

Side: No it doesn't