Is there any point in dating as a teenager?
I've been wondering this for a while now, as where does dating at a younger age get you? Barely anyone stays together til they marry, and most others just break up for stupid reasons/get together for stupid reasons.
Yes, it's worth it!
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I met my boyfriend at fourteen and four years later I'm still dating him. Even if we didn't last I still learned a lot from our relationship. I know how to treat someone in this kind of relationship and I know what's expected. Teenagers get experience from dating for future husbands/wives. I'm not talking about sexual experience mind you, I'm talking about how you treat someone in a relationship that's not family or a friend. Though you can gain some sexual experience too ;) Side: Yes, it's worth it!
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Personally,I think if you date as a teenager, you can get a better understanding of your "preferences" so to speak. And who knows, even though you may not get a relationship, you have gotten the experience you need to better understand how a functional relationship works. Side: Yes, it's worth it!
I never did much dating as a teen, and things kind of worked out fine for me, I just wish I had gotten more experience in the dating world before going off to college. But anyway, I find it necessary because it's good to learn on what to expect from lovers and such. Luckily, having sex ended up being alright for me... maybe cause I got all my pointers from porn or something. But still, I'm awkward as Hell around girls that I like... wish I had that dating experience 8l Side: Yes, it's worth it!
I think it is worth it. I went to a Catholic grade school, so when I hit high school it was a big shocker! But, without dating during my teen years, I would have never understood the good, bad, right, wrong and everything in between. Certainly it is not meant to be a perfect experience, but it is better to get your heart broken at 16 and understand how it feels and how to deal with it vs. having it happen when you think you have met the right one. Side: Yes, it's worth it!
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Relationships may not last at that age but i think teenagers should experience it. After teenage years come the years when important relationships are made that might be forming your future and if you are clueless at that age then it may cause a problem Side: Yes, it's worth it!
Of course its worth it! Dating then sets you up for the rest of your life, and you have to start sometime right? If you don't start then you'll be plunged into the prime time of your life for finding somebody and won't have a clue how it works! It's better to get all the ups and downs out the way leading to a steady relationship later on, if you don't have the experience, you'll spend your time learning and have inconsistent relationships when you could have done that in your teens. Side: Yes, it's worth it!
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Athough teenagers are often immature and foolish, if they didnt date young, how would they be able to shape their relationships? They would have little idea on whats acceptable, ideas would be based on the media, and thats not exactly going to be a good role model is it? In the past people got married at about 16, and the relationships worked out. Relationships are deemed more successful at an older age now. But it doesn't mean that they are. relationships at an older age are just as likely to go wrong as those at an younger age. Theres cheating as kids, and affairs as adults. It still happens. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesnt. Side: Yes, it's worth it!
Yes, it is good for experience, and you can learn. Trial an error, handle it now before you get married and have to handle it then. you could pull the what if you have under aged sex, or it will make you give into peer pressure. That is the person's fault not the dating itself. So yes there is a point, it may be abused, or misused, but used correctly it is a huge point. It will also help define that person on where he/she stands. Side: Yes for Trial and Error
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Just imagine every childhood romance story you've ever heard and think about that. Then try really hard to emulate that. Most of the time, it doesn't end in happily ever after. But, it is almost always positive an outcome. Because either 1. You learn from the experience so that you do better in the next. Or 2. You actually succeed, as love is honest-to-goodness quite simple, and you can tell yourself from then on that you had a childhood romance, evidenced by your spouse. Side: Yes, it's worth it!
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yeah its worth it some teens just don't care if their dating or not but like me i really care if my girlfriend break up with me like most people say that when your a teen u will have your first break up but if u don't u will take it hard when ur older trust me Side: Yes, it's worth it!
Probably worth it. Because love of all ages is subject to. My wife is 7 years younger than me. This did not become an obstacle to the beginning of our relationship. We found each other on this site here https://topasianbrides.com/ . We are very grateful to him and advise him to all our friends who, for some reason, are also lonely, but really want to find a mate. Perhaps it will be useful to someone) Side: Yes, it's worth it!
Dating at a younger age can indeed be challenging, and many relationships may not last until marriage. The key is to focus on personal growth and learning from each experience, regardless of the outcome. As for modern dating, apps and websites offer a convenient way to connect with potential partners. Creating a thoughtful and genuine profile is crucial to attracting like-minded individuals. Consider trying sophia dates, a dating site where I found my girlfriend. It emphasizes compatibility, providing a platform to meet people with shared interests and values. Remember, the journey of dating is about discovering oneself and building meaningful connections rather than just the destination of marriage. Side: Yes, it's worth it!
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Of course I mean, where would we be without Justin Bieber's love songs? And all the emotional stories we see across the Internet about how one gets hurt from another (despite them being 13). Who doesn't love some teenage pregnancies and unwanted STDs. - where would the world be without them. And don't forget about the kids who claim they know everything about love! Who go around head over heels, annoying everybody they meet. Surely life wouldn't be worth living without these things. I am merely being the devils advocate but one should note that it is not all benefits for a teenager to date. Not least socially and culturally, but it also leads to many heartbreaks, suicides etc., as well as taking away from time to study and think deeply about life and other such things that are important. Most people say that it is good for experience and whatnot but it doesn't mean that you'll never have it! You could get that experience as an adult which, I must say, would be a lot more enthralling than getting it as a hormonal wreck. Most teenagers do not give much emotional thought to relationships and are often overridden by their hormones and sexual desires and so surely it would be better to have people date when they are in a much better position to do so. Also, could you imagine how much easier and more effective teenage society would be if they didn't date? Nerds wouldn't be segregated from the cool kids because the cool kids wouldn't be flaunting their girlfriends. They could come together and just hang out. People would try to show off for the attention of the opposite sex, girls would (probably) have less fights. Now of course this is all speculative but there certainly are some good points to not dating. It could also be argued that kids would be BETTER in general as when you are not wasting time dating you are doing other things (be it video gaming or studying). Now I am not anti-dating, but I am just pointing out that IF it could be abolished (and teenagers were fine with it) we could have a much more passionate, mature and effective society. Side: Yes but it may not be justifiable
Not ALL teenage relationships are the ridiculous immature ones. I knew several committed long-term relationships in high school, mine being one of them. It all depends on the person. And my grades were excellent even with a boyfriend all four years of high school, and I was a total nerd. It's not just the "cool kids" dating, it's everyone. I do understand most of your points, MOST teenagers are slightly less mature than the relationships that come to mind for me, but it wouldn't be fair to totally abolish dating and possibly take away the chance for people to meet who they'll be with for the rest of their life. Which, in my opinion, is way more important than striving for that A in class that no one will give a fuck about in ten years. Side: Yes, it's worth it!
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How old are you, sir? Of course I mean, where would we be without Justin Bieber's love songs? Similar logic could suggest that Croker's Edition of Boswell's Life of Johnson, an absolutely dreadful revision of one of the best biographies ever to have been written, renders the life of Dr. Johnson without meaning. But as the great man himself would say, 'You don't see your way through the question sir!'. And all the emotional stories we see across the Internet about how one gets hurt from another (despite them being 13). We find the frequent cases of divorce among adults to be equally tedious. Who doesn't love some teenage pregnancies and unwanted STDs. Pregnancy is easily avoided and can be equally ruinous to the economic prospects of adults. An STD is not desirable at any age and so is not relevant to the debate. Aside from which it may be prudent to distinguish teenage dating from teenage copulation. And don't forget about the kids who claim they know everything about love! It is our opinion that if one be honestly, truly in love, that one's love can admit no discourse to one's years. it also leads to many heartbreaks, suicides etc. If you can be sure of nothing else, sir, be sure that life will find ample reason to thwart and depress even he who contrives to avoid all possible avenues of frustration. To hide from life is a foolish and pointless defence against a power that is inexorable. as well as taking away from time to study We have observed that none advocate absolute dedication to one's studies so much as those who are utterly ignorant of the true worth and quality of a life. A smart man need not be at his books from matins 'till vespers. It is required only of the dim to work their fingers to the quick in the pursuit of knowledge that is both elementary and obvious. and think deeply about life If a boy be so untried and unschooled that he might not know love, sir, how deeply or meaningfully can he ponder the greater questions of human existence? Most people say that it is good for experience and whatnot but it doesn't mean that you'll never have it! You could get that experience as an adult which, I must say, would be a lot more enthralling than getting it as a hormonal wreck. As one would not admit into a project an architect who has never erected the meanest dwelling, so too would no woman of any quality admit into her favours a man so pusillanimous, so craven, as to have entirely avoided her gender during his formative years. Most teenagers do not give much emotional thought to relationships and are often overridden by their hormones and sexual desires We acknowledge this to be at least partly true, but alas cannot see the relevance. it would be better to have people date when they are in a much better position to do so. That depends entirely upon the arbitrarily deliberated benefits that one seeks to derive from a relationship. Also, could you imagine how much easier and more effective teenage society would be if they didn't date? Do you mean, sir, if teenage society were composed of persons who were not teenagers? Nerds wouldn't be segregated from the cool kids because the cool kids wouldn't be flaunting their girlfriends. These nerds as you put it are segregated because their minds are defective and their bodies are weak. It is a naturally evolved instinct to distance them. It is important, sir, when gauging a society or individual, to take note of what they are before deciding how they ought to behave. One would not expect a bird to compose Eine Kleine Nachtmusik, any more than one would expect Mozart to build a nest of twigs and litter. So let us consider; what is a teenager? Why, 'tis a person aged 'twixt 13 and 19 whose sexual functions, long dormant, are beginning to awaken, and who is gradually becoming a physical adult. Therefore, one would surely expect them to express and consummate sexual desires, as one would expect them to try to mimic the behaviour of adults. To suggest that they should or could behave otherwise is to suggest that they should cease to be teenagers. They could come together and just hang out. Do all adults partake of each other's company? Is sexuality the only obstacle to complete social integration? It could also be argued that kids would be BETTER in general as when you are not wasting time dating you are doing other things That, sir, depends entirely upon the notion that dating as a teenager is a 'waste of time', a premise that you have thus far, to our reckoning, failed to logically demonstrate. Now I am not anti-dating, but I am just pointing out that IF it could be abolished (and teenagers were fine with it) we could have a much more passionate How can a society be made more passionate by entirely suppressing the chiefest passion of the newer generations? mature How can a generation be made more mature by denying it the experiences that causes it to mature? effective society. Effective at what? Side: Yes, it's worth it!
I am 16 (and you?) and oh my, please do not tell me you took the first part of that seriously. sigh "We find the frequent cases of divorce among adults to be equally tedious" Yes, but they are adults and have gone through divorce - are you seriously comparing the actions of divorce to a simple teenage breakup? "Pregnancy is easily avoided and can be equally ruinous to the economic prospects of adults. An STD is not desirable at any age and so is not relevant to the debate. Aside from which it may be prudent to distinguish teenage dating from teenage copulation." First of, I do not understand why you keep comparing to adults as if it gives you a high ground; this topic is about teenagers. And teenagers are less likely to understand the use of condoms etc. and STDs and are more likely to be unprotected due to their naivety. "It is our opinion that if one be honestly, truly in love, that one's love can admit no discourse to one's years." Yes of course, IF they are honestly, truly in love. But teenagers are less likely to understand what that means as they are constantly bombarded with propaganda telling them what 'love' means - haven't you ever been a teenager? "If you can be sure of nothing else, sir, be sure that life will find ample reason to thwart and depress even he who contrives to avoid all possible avenues of frustration. To hide from life is a foolish and pointless defense against a power that is inexorable." By taking away a cause you give life less 'reason to thwart and depress'. "We have observed that none advocate absolute dedication to one's studies so much as those who are utterly ignorant of the true worth and quality of a life. A smart man need not be at his books from matins 'till vespers. It is required only of the dim to work their fingers to the quick in the pursuit of knowledge that is both elementary and obvious." Did I say that teenagers should be studying all the time? I think you are trying to read too much into the statement. I merely suggested that without dating a teenager would have more time to study. "If a boy be so untried and unschooled that he might not know love, sir, how deeply or meaningfully can he ponder the greater questions of human existence?" I think it is deeply unfair to suggest that mere teenage dating is the absolute grounding for love. You say that without it, one may not find love but that is extremely ignorant. "As one would not admit into a project an architect who has never erected the meanest dwelling, so too would no woman of any quality admit into her favors a man so pusillanimous, so craven, as to have entirely avoided her gender during his formative years." Again, ignorant. How can you say with absolute certainty that a woman of 'any quality' would not date a man who has never dated before? Also, could you please enlighten me as to how not dating means that a man lacks courage? We are discussing whether or not a teenager should date, not whether he should hide from dating. "We acknowledge this to be at least partly true, but alas cannot see the relevance." The relevance is that teenagers can be, so to say, stupid and naive going into a relationship and can really screw things up as they are lead by false promises and desires. If a teenager conceives this idea of a 'relationship' during a period at which he focuses heavily on sexual desires and the ragtag nature of pick and choose, when it comes to adulthood their view on true love would be contorted. "Do you mean, sir, if teenage society were composed of persons who were not teenagers?" No. I do not mean that. I mean that if teenagers were able to get their heads out of the sexual desires that flaunt them and away from constantly lusting over the opposite sex and worrying about who their next relationship would be, they would be able to function more effectively. "These nerds as you put it are segregated because their minds are defective and their bodies are weak. It is a naturally evolved instinct to distance them." Wow. Just wow. Again, pure ignorance. Are you actually suggesting thats nerds are segregated because of 'defective' minds and that is can be explained due to evolution? First of all, it is extremely offending and wrong to suggest that nerds have weak bodies. You may have simply been indoctrinated by American movies but real life, good sir, is not like that (sorry to burst the bubble). What you will find though is that many nerds have trouble in speaking to the opposite sex due to their reclusive nature (as they are constantly doing what they love i.e. science). If this social barrier was broken and they were not pressurized into seeing a girl as a objection to be conquested, others would not look down on them as much and girls would be but mere friends. "It is important, sir, when gauging a society or individual, to take note of what they are before deciding how they ought to behave. One would not expect a bird to compose Eine Kleine Nachtmusik, any more than one would expect Mozart to build a nest of twigs and litter. So let us consider; what is a teenager? Why, 'tis a person aged 'twixt 13 and 19 whose sexual functions, long dormant, are beginning to awaken, and who is gradually becoming a physical adult. Therefore, one would surely expect them to express and consummate sexual desires, as one would expect them to try to mimic the behavior of adults. To suggest that they should or could behave otherwise is to suggest that they should cease to be teenagers." Your Mozart reference is cute but completely irrelevant. You suggest that a teenager is only a teenager when they try to date? Are you thus suggesting that a teenager who doesn't date is not a teenager? Newton, Gandhi and Tesla would be offended. "Do all adults partake of each other's company? Is sexuality the only obstacle to complete social integration?" It is not the only obstacle, but it can be one. By taking it away it gives them a better chance to become friends. And seriously, what is with all these adult comments? "How can a society be made more passionate by entirely suppressing the chiefest passion of the newer generations?" When you are experiencing something new, it is often magical and a new adventure. Do not get me wrong, a relationship can still be passionate with teenage dating, but if one does not date when they do eventually as adults, it would be new and exciting and you would be discovering new things in a more mature atmosphere and not one which flaunts the 'pickNmix' attitude. "How can a generation be made more mature by denying it the experiences that causes it to mature?" Once again, ignorance. You cannot assume that teenage dating is the sole maturing experience. Sure, it could mature them, but so do so many other things. I am not sure what you are smoking, but I am quite disappointed. The other arguments you made were fantastic in other debates, but this is just ignorant, confusing and you haven't really made any points. Plus, why do you keep referring to yourself as 'we'? Side: No, there's no point!
No I don't think there is a point in dating when you are a teenager because you are way too young and shouldn't be dating at all until you are out of school. Many people in my school had girlfriends and boyfriends and I am the only one in my school who hasn't had 1 girlfriend yet. I don't need to be dating at my age and I think when you are done with school or graduate then you should focus on getting a girlfriend and getting married and stuff like that. Side: No, there's no point!
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No I don't think there is a point in dating when you are a teenager because you are way too young and shouldn't be dating at all until you are out of school. Ermmmm...why? Teenagers are, in most cases, sexually mature enough and mentally capable enough to have a relationship with another person. Many people in my school had girlfriends and boyfriends and I am the only one in my school who hasn't had 1 girlfriend yet. You know, that really is NOT something to be proud of dude. I don't need to be dating at my age and I think when you are done with school or graduate then you should focus on getting a girlfriend and getting married and stuff like that. How are you going to be able to "focus on getting a girlfriend and getting married and stuff like that" if you don't have any experience dating? Teenage dating is a great thing, because just like a part time job or even school by itself, it prepares you for much later in life. You need experience to succeed. I had a number of girlfriends in high school, I think my average was three a year by memory. Did any of these last? Pffft, fuck no. I'd be a liar to say I wanted a serious relationship; like most other guys my age I just wanted to lose my virginity as soon as possible and dating was the fastest way to do that. Even though my main focus was losing my virginity I still gained some valuable life lessons, and have matured from the state of only wanting to date someone to have sex with them. Now I'm mature enough to see that women shouldn't just be used as 'tools', and without dating as a teenager I think that it may have taken a lot longer to reach that stage of maturity. Also don't say teenage dating never works out; just ask my friend Saurbaby08. Side: Yes, it's worth it!
The reason why I don't date at an early age because my parents don't allow me to have a girlfriend. Also they said that should should be focusing on school and not focusing on getting into a relationship with someone. My parents when they were teenagers they never dated at that early age. You know,that really is NOT something to be proud of dude. It doesn't really matter if most of the people in my school has a girlfriend. I am totally fine without one. I am not jealous. Plus your suppose to go to school to learn not to make girlfriends and start a relationship. How am you going to focus on getting a girlfriend and getting married and stuff like that when you don't have any experience in dating. I have some girls that are my friends and know me a lot and I could ask them out on a date and maybe they would say yes. But most importantly I have to get a girl who is a Christian and who believes in the same thing I do. Side: No, there's no point!
Thank you for replying to him, I was going to, but after reading your dispute I have nothing else to add. Oh, except there is a faster way to lose your virginity than dating ;) lol Ah, and the fact that he doesn't have a girlfriend may not be a choice, and he is biased because of this. ^_^ That's all. Side: Yes, it's worth it!
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There's little to none, as long as I'm thinking the point of dating is to find Mr.right or Mrs.right at least that's what I thought. some people do find their loved ones that early and to me that's a beautiful thing but most of the time that's not how it is. and really it's more like a waste of yourself to be dating so young. Side: No, there's no point!
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Well, if there was a neutral option I'd probably pick that, though I lean to no because a lot of teenagers rush into relationships without any idea what love is, post Facebook statuses with quotes by poets and/or emos about love, then break up two weeks later, give a week or two and the cycle repeat. Plus, not many teenagers remain together, granted there is the odd exception, but generally teenagers (such as myself) should leave romantic/sexual relationships alone until we're more mature to understand fully what love is. Side: No, there's no point!
It's good for them to get an idea of how they should give in a relationship though. And if none of them dated then those few that find serious relationships would miss that chance. Though I do find the two week relationships on repeat really annoying. Side: Yes, it's worth it!
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a lot of teenagers rush into relationships without any idea what love is, post Facebook statuses with quotes by poets and/or emos about love, then break up two weeks later, give a week or two and the cycle repeat. I think that this is exactly the reason why I see a point in dating as a teen. Dating allows teens to mature into adults and know how to treat people of the opposite gender. Side: Yes, it's worth it!
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