My Girlfriend's "best friend" is a BITCH!
I've been dating my girlfriend for two months on the 19. I'm really happy, most of the time. But the day after we started going out, her "best friend" cusses me out as soon as my girlfriend left school saying I was a son-of-a-bitch and telling me to go die and burn in hell and that the only reason that my girlfriend was going out with me was because she had such a low opinion of herself she felt like I was the best she could do.
Now let me give you a little history on this girl: she is "bisexual" and before I even considered going out with my girlfriend she was always like "oh, i totally want to see her boobs so badly" and just always said stuff like that while my girlfriend wasn't around (of course we weren't going out at this time). So naturally I feel uncomfortable when this girl is around me and my girlfriend because she is not a good person, she is a back-stabbing bitch that does nothing but spread rumors about me and complain about my favorite teacher.
So now, 2 months later, my girlfriend starts yelling at me saying that I'm so mean to her "best friend" and that I should be nicer to her and be friends with her. Now I'm sitting there dumbfounded thinking "What the hell?!" I told her that there was no way in hell I would ever be friendly with this chick and that it was kind of random for her to bring up. She told me that her "best friend" was complaining about me being a total ass to her! (This is impossible because I don't even acknowledger her existance so I can't be mean to what I don't accept is there) So now my girlfriend thinks that I'm the bad guy here even though I tried to explain to her that since this chick never appologized sincerely for what she said to me that there was no way I would ever accept her on a friendly basis.
So like I said, my girlfriend thinks that I'M the bad guy and has called me immature many times and even cried because I refuse to be friendly with someone like this chick. This is a totally unfair position that my girlfriend is putting me through. She refuses to believe that I shouldn't have to be friends with this chick until she appologizes to me AND she wants ME to appologize to this chick for being mean to her!
How can I get my girlfriend to realize my position and stop nagging me and trying to make me feel like crap?!
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Tell your girlfriend that you don't appreciate the way her girlfriend treats you. Tell her that it doesn't matter if her girlfriend is kidding or not, you don't like it and you want it to stop. Tell her she has to chose between you and her girlfriend. Tell her also that her girlfriend is treating you like this because she wants to sleep with her and she's jealous of you. I don't get the impression that you and your girlfriend ever had a solid foundation from the start. Nothing to build on. It looks like you're headed into a break up. 0
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Yeah, I actually agree with mohallinder (and par to the course, if he sees me agreeing with him on any debate he is on, he will soon start opposing me and leaving me completely confused as to why) but taking that chance, you're on a one way trip to being dumped anyway. Dude, I know you probably don't believe me, but I see this playing out like groundhog day, I read it like a tarrot card, it's like looking in a crystal ball. She is letting her friend be a bitch to you in front of her because some part of her does not respect you she is going to dump your ass. I'm not saying slap-a-ho, but you have two choices when an overbearing dyke is trying to steal your girl and she's letting her. 1. Lay down the law, draw a line in the sand, and tell her it needs to stop or you're gone, and she will either be like "screw it later" - in which case you were going to get dumped very soon anyway, or she'll be like "okay, she's gone" in which case you would have been dumped as soon as she figured out she had no respect for you but now you're in the driver seat so to speak. 2. Live with it and slowly watch as your manhood drains away and you are left scarred for life and one of those whimpering dudes who can't even grab a beer with your friends on the weekend because your balls are being stored in a jar on her nightstand and she only plays with them on Birthdays now anyway and you know she's screwing that buff guy from the gym but hey, what are you going to do since now that your balls are permanantly stored on her nightstand you can't seem to even muster the necessary testosterone to get it up anyway? Yeah, that about sums it up. Side: be a man
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I wholly agree with pineapple. This kind of thing really isn't important. You should focus on schoolwork, and make sure that you do well enough to live a long and successful life. This is going to go away so fast that it'll make your head swim, believe me. Side: Don't worry about it
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Oh, believe you me, heads can SWIM man. When I was 14, I went out and partied one night until 1 AM and came back to my house totally zonked. My dad showed me that not only can a head swim, but can do many other unpleasant things as well, if you get my drift Side: Don't worry about it
See, the thing is that she is a total bitch to me in front of my girlfriend, but my girlfriend always defends her saying "She's just messing around" even though this chick always says "I'm not messing around" after she yells at me for no reason. I am just ready to burst into either a blind fury or tears if this continues on. And my pride (which is really the only thing I have left after dating my girlfriend) won't let me be kind to someone who told me that I can go die and burn in hell and refuses to appologize with the thought that she did nothing wrong and that I'm at fault for dating my girlfriend! Side: not possible
Protip: If you really like the girl your with, be considerate of her friends and her friend's opinions. Friends are important, best friends are of the upmost importance. Brotip: In 5 years no one that you know, including yourself, your girlfriend and this dick of a person, will care about any of this. Keep this in mind, because it's true for everyone, no matter how special you are, and how special she is to you, highschool relationships are not == to normal healthy relationships. COUNT ON IT'S FAILURE, because it is imminent, and use it to your advantage. If something like this comes up, dust it off your shoulder it is not of great importance. Also, don't stress and whatever you do, don't cry about it. Throwing a fit will put the dick in control, and you're a man, don't cry unless someone close to you dies. Remember that you're better than this, men carry the weight of the world... get used to it. Side: be a man
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You're like a reverse cuckold-cuckold. I don't even know what that means. Man up. Dump your ho. It's high school. There's like five other girls ready to suck your dick and make you happy... who "don't like other girls", and "always hated your girlfriend anyway". All this drama can be completely avoided. You're putting ten extra years on you just by being in this relationship. Serious note: your girlfriend is at a stage in life where her romantic stability is heavily dependent on her relationship with her best friend. That means, no matter what you do, there's going to be tension in your relationship as long as there's tension between you and your girl's best friend. You know this. You can either put up with it or move the fuck on. I would choose the latter. You're not dating her best friend. You're dating her. And if she can't somehow reconcile the fact that you have no obligation to treat her friend in any particular way, bounce. Side: try to be nice
What everyone else pretty much already said. However, this crap happens all the time. The real trauma is your g/f's best friend manipulating her and her relationship with you. But maybe you should let her learn it all the hard way. She'll realize her friend is douche eventually. You don't her friend anything though. If my boyfriend told me to befriend his friend that I already don't like, and have good reasons not to like, I'll avoid the guy consistently. And if my boyfriend wanted to dump me for it, then whatever. Either way, you guys will probably break up eventually; you can always speed up the process and get it over with. Side: be a man
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Dude you're in deep shit. If youre with someone you would have to befreind their freinds, if your girlfreinds "BF" is spreading lies and she hates you , then that means she has a crush on you're girlfreind. Also since you said shes bisexual, and wants to see you're girlfreinds boobs so badly, obviously she wants her.Probably shes not worth youre time, besides their better girls out there(with much kinder freinds). Side: Don't worry about it
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