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Yes, it's their decision HELL NO! They should wait.
Debate Score:111
Arguments:66
Total Votes:129
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 Yes, it's their decision (34)
 
 HELL NO! They should wait. (31)

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Premarital Sex (Should minors be able to have premarital sex?)

Should teens be able to have sex with anyone they want and who they want? Should they be able to?

Yes, it's their decision

Side Score: 61
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HELL NO! They should wait.

Side Score: 50
4 points

Yeah, just be responsible about it. Pleasure is good. lllllllllllllllllllllll

Side: Yes, it's their decision
3 points

as long as theyre protected and think they love the person it should be their choice. But they sure as hell shouldnt be trying to have kids.

Side: Yes, it's their decision
2 points

I agree, there is no way that u can expect a teenager to go through high school without trying things. Sure i don't think its right to just have lots of sex with people you don't really know, or just to have fuck buddies. But as long as they are wearing protection and ready to except the consequences that come with it.

Side: Yes, it's their decision
kamranw(232) Disputed
0 points

there is no way that u can expect a teenager to go through high school without trying things

Why not? There are tons of teenagers who do exactly that! This mentality is the reason more and more teens are active at younger ages!

Side: HELL NO! They should wait.
3 points

who is going to stop them? is someone going to get a job as the sex police?

Side: Yes, it's their decision
kamranw(232) Disputed
1 point

In theory, nobody will stop them unless they find out. So that is why it must be a group effort between the authorities, parents, and school etc.

Side: HELL NO! They should wait.
3 points

yes they need to be able to experience things on their on as a parent you cannot shelter a child from the realty of the real world you can only prepare them with information and the negative aspects of sex. But u can not run your child's life how will he/she ever learn to manage their own life's when you as a parent are running it for them. New experiences and trying new things are what make you who you are. the only people who can answer this question are the minors who are put in this situation we can not control

THEIR lives as long as these minors are ready to accept every consequence and benefit from sex then it is entirely up to them

Side: Yes, it's their decision
3 points

I think that if they want to they should just as long as they use pertection..........

Side: Yes, it's their decision
3 points

Hey, if it's their choice, go right ahead!

Anything from their is their fault and their responsibility. If it upsets the parent, too bad for them-- shoulda thought of that when they were being raised.

Side: Yes, it's their decision
3 points

Minors don't "owe" you their sexual lives. It's just egotistical to try and force celibacy on minors to make yourself feel better.

It's not your life, stop imposing on it =/

Side: Yes, it's their decision
3 points

I'm seventeen and my boyfriend is twenty-one. If you were to say minors shouldn't have sex where does that leave couples like us? Because he is no longer a teen it's okay, but since I am... Well, you see.

I think as long as the couple shows the maturity level and has the correct protection that there is no problem. As a majority I'd have to go with no. But I have to say yes seeing as I am one, and see nothing wrong with it.

Side: Yes, it's their decision

It should be up to the individual if they want to have sex or not, not that of someone else. Obviously if they are way too young to even fully understand what sex is then they shouldn't be doing it, but that doesn't mean they should wait until marriage. If they want to wait to do it with their wife/husband then that is their choice, but nobody should be told to wait until marriage. Anyways, in my opinion sex is way to good to wait until marriage to do ;)

Side: Yes, it's their decision
3 points

Of course! They are human beings too, but some people think they (we) are objects, and don't have the right to consent and/or have opinions. A sure sign of this is when that person says "You're/they/he/she is too young." To those people, I say, Fuck off.

Side: Yes, it's their decision
2 points

Yup, it's their decision. People shouldn't force their super idealized and romanticized visions of a simple physical activity onto anyone they can (teens, because they're "young", that's an excuse.). Sex is what YOU make of it. What's dumb is saying they should go get married. Haha. Fucking religinuts.

Side: Yes, it's their decision
1 point

First, I have a problem with the subtext-defined definition of sex written into the question, and I also have a problem that the author choose to create a specific, technical and arbitrary legal exception to minor sexuality written into the language of the question (that those who are married--something gay couples cannot do--are excluded from this question and presumably have the right to have sex without state intervention).

Second, not all the harms of sex exist to all populations equally. Do minors having gay sex experience the same risks with HIV or pregnancy or date-rape? Are lesbian minors in committed relationships as psychologically well-adjusted as their gay male or straight counterparts? Does the population of straight people who were taught abstinence as a strategy experience the same risks in sexual activity as the population of straight people who were NOT taught abstinence education and instead were taught about contraception and protection? The answer to all of the above questions should be a resounding "NO" based on empirical research data. Populations differ in risks, sometimes dramatically so, and an umbrella plan that treats all kinds of sex the same, all sexually active minors the same, and all sexualities the same, neglects the diverse portrait painted by empirical researchers in the field of sexuality.

Those who cannot flesh out what they mean by "sex" and "minors" just aren't trustworthy to me; they appear to me as those who aren't interested in seriously investigating the diversities and complexities of sex, and are satisfied with gross generalizations that blur critical differences between populations.

Side: Yes, it's their decision
dacey(1040) Disputed
2 points

"Those who cannot flesh out what they mean by "sex" and "minors" just aren't trustworthy to me; they appear to me as those who aren't interested in seriously investigating the diversities and complexities of sex, and are satisfied with gross generalizations that blur critical differences between populations." ...IT WAS A 16 YEAR OLD GIRL WHO CREATED THIS DEBATE. IF YOU READ FURTHER INTO THIS DEBATE, BEYOND YOUR OWN OPPINION,THEN YOU WILL SEE THAT YOU ARE THE ONE OFF TOPIC.PERHAPS THE "GROSS GENERALIZATION" WAS THE DEBATE CREATORS PARENTS INFLUENCE ,.....JESS SAYS SHE IS A 16 YEAR OLD GIRL..IF NOT, THEN THIS DEBATE IS THE WORKS OF A VERY UNTRUSTWORTHY PERSON INDEED! But if what she is saying is true, then this remark is just ignorant... However,i completely agree with this remark.."an umbrella plan that treats all kinds of sex the same, all sexually active minors the same, and all sexualities the same, neglects the diverse portrait painted by empirical researchers in the field of sexuality"

Side: no but lets get real
1 point

By all means, yes. Only retrograd conservatives and religious magoos think otherwise.

Of course, parents should educate their kids in a way that they could have at least an idea of what they're getting into. But sex WILL be a part of their teen age, whether parents want it or not.

And it's only healthy for them. Both physically and mentally healthy. Sex and relationships are part of what makes a boy become a man and a girl become a woman. It's part of our nature and it's part of our growth experiences that makes us feel whole.

Side: Yes, it's their decision
2 points

HELL NO! They should wait until their eighteen. That's just sick.WHy would they do it young.?

Side: HELL NO! They should wait.
Skaruts(195) Disputed
1 point

I don't think I know anyone who didn't have sex before he/she was 18. What planet do you come from?

Side: Yes, it's their decision
getup(1) Disputed
0 points

I do. I am. I am 17 and I have a boyfriend for a long time. I decided not to have sex until I get married because I do believe that virginity is something which is precious and must only be given to your spouse on the day of your marriage. Based on my research, (since I produced a research paper about premarital sex and its effect to marriage) premarital sex (admit it or not. idc) leaves a negative effect on people especially on our mentality. (you may not admit it) Plus, your premarital sexual activities will somehow create a damage on your future married life. (you may not know it for now) but it does lead to divorce sometimes. I chose not to have sex not because the Bible told me to do so or my parents told me to do so but because I respect myself enough not to have sex until I wear my wedding ring. And my boyfriend respects my decision too.

Side: HELL NO! They should wait.
Euori(24) Disputed
1 point

Are you trolling? What happens when they're 18? Does it magically become unsick? Sex is what you make it. I don't see it as any sicker than them doing some other physical activity, for pleasure or for pain. Stay out of other people's "private parts." God, some humans are so immature. The body is taboo, certain activities are taboo...

Side: Yes, it's their decision
2 points

NO!Because sex is wrong to teenagers, it is a sin in the eyes of God. If you want that to happen then tell your parents that you want to get married and your free to do it anyplace,anytime and anywhere you want it.....

Side: HELL NO! They should wait.
Euori(24) Disputed
2 points

No, it's not, you idiot. In "God's" time, its people had sex and got married very young. Where in the bible does it say "teenagers shouldn't have sex."? It doesn't. It has a problem with ANYONE having sex before they're married, whether they're 12 or 80. Whether they're in love or just really lusty.

Side: Yes, it's their decision

Teens/minors can safeguard against all kinds of problems (like sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancies) if they just wait until they are married and decide that they want children.

Side: HELL NO! They should wait.
JessHall01(56) Disputed
2 points

Well that is true BUT it is the teens decision whether they want to have the sex, i mean hell if they want to do that and get pregnant it's their fault.

Side: Yes, it's their decision
1 point

Kids should be able to choose. I want them to stay safe but hell i want them to be able to have and do more than i ever got to do. Im a junior in high school and i think it's total bulls* that my parents are the way they are, im moving out in a couple months to be with my fiancee and personally my parents can go (somewhere i dont wanna mention) for all i care. Parents that try to run their childs like and control what they do are just starting up a huge argument.

Side: HELL NO! They should wait.
kamranw(232) Disputed
0 points

This is just stupid. Your parents brought you in to this world and have much more life experience. Maybe you should try hearing them out sometime. I know it helped me.

Kids are kids. We have a responsibility to protect them. Sometimes even from themselves.

Side: HELL NO! They should wait.
JessHall01(56) Disputed
2 points

my parents do not deserve it, they treat me like sh and that's unecessary. NO parents should even romotely lay their hands on a child. EVER.

Side: Yes, it's their decision
dacey(1040) Disputed
1 point

WHO are you to assume jesss' parents are so loving or caring as yours or anyone elses.If she is seriuosly subjected to this (RAPE)by her parents you have basically told her to put up with her abuse!...Some parents ARE indeed negligent of the ability to appropriatly guide their children on Anything.Would you tell the same advise to josef Fritzls' kids? What, for all his "life" experiences would they learn?

Side: no but lets get real
1 point

That goes along with it, i mean my parents let me get raped, the let me get raped twice, and well ive been sexually active for about 3 years. And they just now told me i was allowed to do what ever the hell i want because they never cared about me, i was a mistake, but i still think teens should be able to choose, fuk what the parents say!!!

Side: HELL NO! They should wait.
kamranw(232) Disputed
1 point

This is just your personal anger. You have no logical reason as to why teens should be allowed. It is this exact mentality that is ruining the world today. No respect for anyone.

Side: HELL NO! They should wait.
JessHall01(56) Disputed
2 points

well my personal anger is also in some other peoples opinions. MY parents are assholes. They beat me and no punishment for them. Alot of people where im from agree with me...it's insane that parents should rule the childs life. END OF STORY!

Side: Yes, it's their decision
1 point

Premarital Sex (Should minors be able to have premarital sex?)I personally dont feel that MINORS(under the age of 17) should be having sex.However,they are.For this reason sex education is a must.When you have a minor the age of 17 with a adult of 19,i feel that this does not fall into this same line of questioning: Should teens be able to have sex with anyone they want and who they want? Should they be able to?,In this case,yes. However if it is a case of a 17 yo/29yo,then i say there is a lot of questions a parent has the right to address.BTW..Promiscuity, is one of the many side effects of child abuse.Which is a damn good reason, why people should think twice before calling someone a slut.

Side: no but lets get real
0 points

No they should wait. They are not at the maturity to make such decisions which lead to STDs and teen pregnancies. Which lead to children dropping out of school, the welfare system struggling and a child without a responsible parent.

Side: HELL NO! They should wait.
JessHall01(56) Disputed
1 point

If you try to run a childs life you are just leading them into destruction. Yeah it may cause them to do things. My parents treat me like shit. And blamed me when i got raped last year, shows you how parents can fk a childs life up, i havent been able to see my grandparents cuz they thought i did it willingly. So im all for what the teens are gonna do because you cannot change what the children are doing.

Side: Yes, it's their decision
kamranw(232) Disputed
2 points

Just because you do not feel you can stop them, does not mean you should condone the behavior. You can't stop murderers either. Does that mean we should just let it go?

This is the biggest problem when it comes to sexual education in the modern world today. We just figure we can't stop them anyway, so we do not even try. Making something acceptable in society, simply encourages such behavior further.

Side: HELL NO! They should wait.
1 point

Well finally i agree with something you say ! lol, i agree teens should wait!

Side: HELL NO! They should wait.
YosefLevi(15) Disputed
1 point

Since a very strong majority of sex probably is heterosexual sex, I don't fault a focus on it. I think it is rationally justified. But apart from this debate, I wonder if you, personally, have difficulty conceiving of other kinds of sex.

There is protected sex and gay sex as well, you know? And this is something you shouldn't take my word for, but should go out and confirm or deny yourself with research, but: the population of those who undergo abstinence-only strategy programs in school are less likely to use a condom in their first sexual encounter than the population of students who learn about condoms and protection in school. That fact kind of debunks your idea about waiting-till-marriage (something that gay people cannot do, and also something you don't mention at all) as a strategy to fight STD's and teen pregnancies.

Fight the HARMS of sex, not sex itself. Also, what are the benefits of non-reproductive sex? That is something difficult to value. It's very easy to talk in terms of $ dollars the cost of unwanted teen pregnancies and STD's, but it is not at all easy to compare it to the metaphysical benefits of non-reproductive sex. From an evolutionary standpoint, it is very difficult to understand why such forms of sex have evolved to persist not only in human populations but in other animals as well (bonobo lesbianism and overall primate homosexuality is well-mentioned in sex research literature), but it is an interesting question, don't you think so? What are the benefits of non-reproductive sex? How do we value it when the "rewards" are seemingly intangible and difficult to evolutionarily explain? Heterosexual couples are probably the most guilty for non-reproductive sex! Man, the challenges of experiencing pleasure without having to pay for a baby...

Side: Yes, it's their decision
kamranw(232) Disputed
1 point

First off, I did not ever promote abstinence only education in schools nor did I mention anything about gay sex for or against. Secondly, I fail to see the relevance of your argument about non-reproductive sex as we are talking about premarital sex whether protected or not.

Also you say *(something that gay people cannot do, and also something you don't mention at all) as a strategy to fight STD's and teen pregnancies.)

The debate is about minors engaging in premarital sex, not pre marital sex in general so even for gays, I am against it for minors.

Side: HELL NO! They should wait.