Reasons to Remain Abstinant
What reasons do you feel are the best reasons to not have sex before you are married?
there are none except one simply cannot get laid,
or one has no genitals.
STD's - condoms solve that
Jealousy - a result of culture and people's own insecurities, get over it
Religion - ignoring that every male in the old testament had multiple whores plus a wife and jesus hung out with a hooker, there is no hebrew word for abstinence, it only says that marriage is a "cure" for "sexual immorality"... which of course could mean anything,
of course the party-time protestants and old school catholics took it to mean no sex before marriage, and translated it as such.
But if it were such a big deal, it seems the original authors would have made it more clear.
plus in the bible a dude lived inside a whale, and some dude saved every animal on earth with one wooden arc, but that hasn't stopped anyone from taking the thing seriously before.
Side: no good reason
By remaining Abstinent you can avoid many Sexually Transmitted Diseases. If you are a girl you can also cut down becoming pregnant before you are ready. If you are a guy you won't have to worry about having to pay child support until your kids are eighteen.
Side: pregnancy STDs and child support
Well, as cliche as it is, there really a special aka nice aka romantic feeling to having sex with one person... for preferably the rest of your life. You don't have to wonder what the sex was like with the other people the person was with, then there's no lame jealousy or envy or insecurities about it. And they won't compare you to people of the past.
My source, is my husband. Even though I had several bedmates from 18-24, I've been his only one. As well as his first kiss, first... physical stuff... because he grew up in a Christian lifestyle and couldn't succeed with those Christian girls, (at least, that's what I believe... hehe). But anyhow, it feels great that I'm his one and only as far as all that stuff goes, and I feel kind've lame that he's not my 'only,' but he's fine with it. (As long as he's getting laid, I'm sure he doesn't really care about my past, hehe).
Other than that, having it with one person for life, especially if you are both virgins, really does reduce the risk of STDs and shit humongously.
Side: Think of Your Wife
Because sex before marriage is a sin. If you have different beliefs that is fine. I'm not going to force anything on anyone, so don't come after me with an anti bible argument. please, spare me.
I will say that it is very possible not to get pregnant if you don't want to. So If I was an atheist [which, I am not] I would have no problem.
But I believe that there is a god and that it is a sin to have sex before marriage. But thats me.
OK, let me ask you something.
Let's say you meet this girl and you like everything about her. She likes you too. After a while you two get married. On the first night you two have sex. But it turns out that you don't have any chemistry. You try it again the night after, and you seem to like it better, but she still doesn't like it. You keep doing it for a few weeks, and although you seem to like it, she now seems to really hate it. So she turns around and says "I can't have sex with you anymore because it feels like I'm being raped". She even feels uncomfortable being naked in your presence. So no more sex for you. The next thing is she sleeps in another room. This creates distance between you and you are no longer close to each other. Gradually masturbation just isn't enough, you want to be physically close to someone, but you don't want to cheat. It all becomes too frustrating. But your religion does not believe in divorce, so you have to stay with her. And she has to stay with you. Both of your dreams about marriage have collapsed. You now are in a sexless marriage for the rest of your life.
Now you tell me, would God want that for you? Especially when a "fun session" between you and her would have prevented all this from happening.
Side: no good reason
"But it turns out that you don't have any chemistry."
If everything els added up then why wouldn't that? I don't think that is realistic.
I know a lot, I mean a lot of people that abstained until marriage and their marriage is great.
Of course God doesn't want that for me, or anyone.
I'm opposed to your ...story... for a single reason. Complaining that there's no "chemistry" in the sex and wanting to give up is as immature as it gets for a sexual relationship. I'm sure it's pretty common, but most women actually do not like sex the first couple times they have it. The very first time is extremely uncomfortable for the very reason it's new territory being investigated. (I'm sure there are a small portion of women that will claim the first time was great, but I'm talking about the majority, which also applies to the majority of people today). Second, as ANY women (mature women, anyway) will claim, good sex for us depends on not only our ability to tell the man or teach the man what works for us, but to have a man willing to take the information selflessly and satisfy us. Our bodies are not as simple as 2 minutes of stroking. Finally, a good sex life really depends on both people having a mature viewpoint. Also, the sex life shouldNOT determine the marriage, at all. If you already forgot, most couple's sex lives dwindle after time anyway; it's no excuse to whine and want someone else to satisfy them. All they have to do is talk to each other about it and put time aside to make it happen.
Alas, I don't think God really gives a shit if you're not being satisfied "sexually." Because I think God's whole viewpoint of sex is for reproduction, not satisfaction.
Side: Think of Your Wife
If you had sex with someone who was not the person you married beforehand, don't you think that your wife/husband would feel somewhat unsettled? I think that the best reason to remain abstinant is because it will make it so much better once you are married and your wife/husband might feel strange if she/he was not your first.
Side: Think of Your Wife
What!? No sex before marriage????
Do you have any idea how large a part sex plays in a marriage?
When you date someone you wanna find out if you click in terms of smaller issues, like music and films and holidays. And yet, you will only share those hobbies for a tiny fraction of your life together. And it wouldn't be a big deal if you disagreed because you can still go watch a film with a friend instead. But sex is serious stuff! This is the only person you are gonna be getting your sex from. What's wrong with finding out if you click in the bedroom as well?
You can say anything you want about love, but if the sex is shit then it all goes pear shaped. So why would you not want to see if you have the right chemistry on that respect? What if it turns out crap? What if you hate it so much that you feel raped every time the other person touches you. Then you are stuck cause you are married.
You wouldn't buy a car without a test drive would you? A new car might be less likely to have problems but that doesn't mean that you will enjoy riding it!
Side: no good reason
None. (should be read NONE PERIOD!)
Sex, to procreate and for pleasure, is a natural phenomenon. The need for it is also ingrained into our DNA, the main reason is to propagate the species.
Recent technology such as condoms, spermicide, diaphragms, birth control, IUD's, contraceptive rings, hormone shots, vasectomies, tubal ligation, and many others have been put into use to prevent propagation. This is new for our species because now, more than ever, we are able to engage in sexual activities for enjoyment without the fear, or less at least, of propagation. Let me point out that we are rare, compared to most other organisms, by the fact that we partake in sexual activities for pleasure.
Some arguments for remaining Abstinent are the prevention of STI's (used to be called STD's), the guarantee of virginity at marriage, and the prevention of pregnancy.
Here are some reasons why you shouldn't remain abstinent. Having sex and engaging in sexual activities is said to have many psychological benefits. (eg. relief of stress) Some say it even contributes to longevity. The desire to be with someone else, during marriage, will be more likely deterred if you've had multiple partners in the past. "been there, done that" mentality. Having sex can help you keep in good physical conditions. Most importantly, if you wait until after marriage you may not be sexually compatible with your mate. I need not explain more.
Here are some reasons you should remain abstinent. A guarantee of virginity can be a very powerful thing. Gives you more of a focus on other items that might be more relevant than propagation. An obvious one is prevention of STI's. (which most use as a scare tactic to keep you abstinent) Another obvious reason is to avoid pregnancy. (this is the most extreme, non surgical, methods to avoid pregnancy)
Abstinence is a voluntary choice. In more of modern history, it's become a religious choice. It is up to the individual to decide why or why not to abstain from sex. As some will say, "Whatever floats your boat". It's your choice and it's your life.
My take on it is that sex is good and healthy, to abstain from it would be to deny my own human nature.
Side: almighty spell check