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Sex before marriage No sex before marriage
Debate Score:38
Arguments:45
Total Votes:41
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Sex before marriage

I get why religious people wait till marriage, what I don't get is why nonreligious people seem to think you absolutely need to be ''pure'' when married.  What is the big deal?

Sex before marriage

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No sex before marriage

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I see no problem with sex before marriage as long as they are adults and use birth control.

Side: Sex before marriage
shoutoutloud(4227) Clarified
2 points

Why do they need to use birth control ?

Side: Sex before marriage
2 points

For me personally, I would not want to have a baby without a partner to raise it with. I understand if the birth control fails. I just prefer not to.

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Atrag(5550) Disputed
1 point

LOL !

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Troy8(2431) Disputed
1 point

Are you joking?

Side: No sex before marriage
2 points

Is there another kind of sex? 😉

Side: Sex before marriage

Marriage is just a human concept. There is no difference between an unmarried couple and a married couple having intercourse and a married one only that a married couple have some writing on paper and wedding photos. It is purely a human construct so is pretty much meaningless.

Side: Sex before marriage
1 point

I'm not religious so I have no hang ups about a casual one night stand.

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HumannamuH(209) Disputed
1 point

That is not the reason for many people not caring about having a one night stand - and religious doesn't exactly mean you hold that value either.

Side: No sex before marriage
DrawFour(2662) Disputed
1 point

My position holds the default status, as in I care not about why sex before marriage could be wrong, thus your 'dispute' holds no water, so to speak. It's baseless. Since you would be saying that because my reason is the reason when no where do I state this as fact, I in fact declare it as opinion before anything by saying "well I'm not..."

Side: Sex before marriage
1 point

I was not aware that it was popular for non religious people to hold out for marriage. What year do you think this is? 1914?

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HumannamuH(209) Disputed
1 point

Wow. I can't believe you actually just said that.

Saddest thing is, you're probably right.

Side: No sex before marriage
1 point

Fuck marriage, I'd end up cheating anyway.

Fuck all that lovey dovey shit, it just seems like a chore to me.

Just gimme my fix, then lets move on with it.

No strings attached and none of that bullshit.

I wanna fuck. It's just as simple as that

Just come on ask. We don't even need to chat.

Side: Sex before marriage

You don't buy shoes without putting them on first ;)

Side: Sex before marriage

Having sex before or after marriage DOESN'T MATTER. If you happen to have sex with someone and that ''someone'' walks away from you in disgust because you were ''too easy to respect'' then wow! guess what? that person is the one who truly doesn't deserve respect at all due to her/his lack of capability to reason. And then we have people who wait until marriage and GUESS WUT! their family turns out to be dysfunctional, sex has nothing to do with how well things are gonna flow in a relationship.

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HumannamuH(209) Disputed
1 point

To take an objective perspective, you shouldn't really vent your own experiences or project them onto others.

Sex has nothing to do with how well things are going to flow...

I beg to differ, research shows the hormones stimulated by intercourse are beneficial to the mind and relationship; they sometimes call it the 'spark'.

Secondly, I am not saying I have anything against people who do opt for sex beforehand. That is their choice and theirs alone.

However an interesting question and not non-germane would be is sex just overrated?

Side: No sex before marriage
1 point

Sure.

Even better if it's sex with someone you're going to marry. Really seals the deal.

Side: Sex before marriage
1 point

To answer this question, first we need to ask, what is the difference between having sex before marriage and having no sex before marriage?

Side: Sex before marriage
1 point

In today's society, especially amongst young couples, having sexual intercourse before marriage is perfectly normal and I don't think there is anything wrong with that. The most important thing is consent. If a couple in a committed and serious relationship are both willing to have sex with each other, who has the right to stop them? Why wait until marriage? Some couples do not want to get married so early while some others probably don't ever want to marry.

Side: Sex before marriage
1 point

One should remain abstinent until marriage that way you can have your child(s) (or not) with no worry that your partner will leave you or that he/she were just trying to have sex with you. Staying a virgin until marriage also helps to keep clear of HIV/AIDS.

Side: No sex before marriage
1 point

With STD testing and monogamy, that is no longer true. .

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Cartman(18192) Disputed
1 point

God_ said it, so it must be true. ;)

Side: No sex before marriage
1 point

I agree. Nobody should tell you and your partner when it is right to have sex. They can mind their own business or find another relationship to control. If you and your partner believe it is okay to have sex before you're married, then that should be socially accepted. If you and your partner believe it is not, then that should be socially accepted as well. Nobody should tell you when to have sex. It sounds silly but it's true.

Side: Sex before marriage
1 point

I agree, what is the rush to have sex beforehand?

If you're ready to be married one can logically assume that they love eachother and that they wouldn't risk it. However, it is their choice.

Side: No sex before marriage
LidiaBenitez(15) Disputed
1 point

lol but my mom remained virgin until marriage and look how our family is now, destroyed 'cause my dad happened to be such a bastard.

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HumannamuH(209) Clarified
1 point

I'm sorry to hear that. But you are only quoting a unique/ unfortunate case to you.

It is probably safer though to marry someone after you know them enough. After marriage is important for family and getting to know your partner more - but think about this: if you don't even know everything about yourself, or what you're capable of despite having been with yourself since the second you were born, what chance do you have if you get married/ have intercourse when you don't know that much about your partner?

It's really a question of whether you can trust someone enough, then either way sex after/ before marriage is wouldn't even be important.

Side: Sex before marriage
1 point

I agree. But you don't need God to tell you that for it to be true.....

Side: No sex before marriage

Religion aside, because I personally feel that two people who have never been with anyone else have a better chance of staying together. From personal reasons I wish I had waited. With that said it is a personal choice, some do to religion and people like me, because the factor of always thinking that he is comparing me to some one from the past and vise versa.. Sex alone causes so many doubts that I personally wish I had waited.. I did however take a guys virginity and after 18 years he still has not married and emails me every once in awhile. To guys a first can be there love and it can be just sex. With women it's "complicated" my first time was horrible.

Side: No sex before marriage