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Umm..Yeah No..I Guess Not
Debate Score:27
Arguments:21
Total Votes:27
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Should Age Matter in a Relationship ?

Umm..Yeah

Side Score: 14
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No..I Guess Not

Side Score: 13
3 points

After a point, age gap cannot be ignored.

1 year: Irrelevant.

2 years: Still irrelevant.

5 years: Noticeable.

10 years: Acceptable.

20 years: Questionable.

30+ years: Arguable.

Sometimes it doesn't matter, sometimes intentions are not scewed, but trust and understanding can only be stretched so thin before you have to make assumptions to protect the younger party from possible harm.

Side: Umm..Yeah

If there is like a 30 year age gap then...yes..... If it's like 10 or less then... it really doesn't matter...

Side: Umm..Yeah

Well, if you see it like this then it does matter.

If you have a gap of whatever age then it could matter because of their age their choices would be different and affect the relationship..

Side: Umm..Yeah
1 point

to me what croatianchic said really makes sense to me so yes i agree

Side: Umm..Yeah
1 point

This debate is not specific enough. Are those on the other side proposing that if a 12 year old is really really really really in love with a 25 year old it's a-okay to have a romantic relationship?

Side: Umm..Yeah

Age has little meaning in a relationship, but an 90 year old woman isn't a real good match for a 25 year old and vice versa.

Side: Umm..Yeah

What if my grampie was dating a 20 yeal old lady he would be 95 now...

Side: Umm..Yeah

If it's like, a 6 year old girl and an 80 year old man, then it becomes a problem.

Side: Umm..Yeah
2 points

Love knows no age my friend! Love knows no age :P My mums friend and her boyfriend have a 20-30 year age gap :P

Side: No..I Guess Not
1 point

I agree . If someone is like 16 , and they are truly in love with a 40 year old , and the guy ISNT creepy , then I am sure its okay ! We were not put on this earth to love people within 2 years difference of us ! We can love ANYONE !

Side: No..I Guess Not
iamdavidh(4856) Disputed
1 point

A 16-year-old's brain has nearly a decade of developement left. They hardly know who they are yet and are incapable of making this sort of decision which is why it is illegal for a 40-year-old, for instance, to take advantage of a child at this delicate and emotionally tumultuous stage of development.

Also to consider is the 40-year-old's perspective. Say it is a particularlly dull 40-year-old who truly thinks they are romantically in love and not just lust with this child, they should still be adult enough to understand how unhealthy for the child acting on this feeling would be. It is predetory behavior even if both truly do have this feeling in this moment.

Unfortunately the 40-year-old in the vast majority of these cases is not truly in love. In most cases it is the result of a need to control their partner and a combination of low self-esteem and social awkwardness which makes them incapable of pursuing adults, so they are forced to prey on kids with whom they can feel superior and on whom they can excert the control they need in order to feel accepted within a relationship.

We were not put on this earth to love people within 2 years difference of us ! We can love ANYONE !

Ignoring we were not put on this earth for any particular reason at all that I can discern,

Sure, no one should be held to a two year, even a ten year standard, as an adult. However they should be held to, and hold themselves to, a standard that does not put one or the other in a situation where they are (in your example's situation unbeknownst to them) being taken advantage of.

Side: Umm..Yeah
2 points

No way because you don't have to be of certain age to know how you feel just because on may be over that age others think is too old should not matter whether or not the 2 individuals are in love. if someone cares for someone they should be allowed to be with whom ever they want, age has ended so many relationships that could have lasted a life time. :(

Side: No..I Guess Not

Of course not! love binds not by rules or boundaries, (or age) but by emotions and what you feel. You can like someone way older than you no matter if they are married or in a relationship already. I don't think one can always control their emotions.

Side: No..I Guess Not
1 point

Not really.

People are worried about 9 year olds with 40 year old prophets of Islam, but really... is it such an epidemic that we strike down those who engage in strange acts?

The very fact that they're strange should be enough to realize that it isn't something we have to worry about.

Some people eat pig brain. Very strange, to some... disgusting, but w/e, it's their life.

Some parents let their kids drink alcohol... are we going to strike these people down as well?

Is it the way we look at sexuality that makes us think that an adult making love with a child is sickening? Even if it hurts you morally, it can not hurt anyone legally.

Oh yeah, I went there.

Side: No..I Guess Not
1 point

Well, so long as the people in the relationship can both make decisions of their own accord I see no problem with it! Obviously a 9 year old and an 18 year old is inappropriate because the 9 year old can not make full on decisions of her/his own! But Love knows no age considering back many years ago a 12 year old girl would typically get married to an 18 year old. So, nah no matter on age... within a restriction

Side: No..I Guess Not
1 point

Well, so long as the people in the relationship can both make decisions of their own accord I see no problem with it! Obviously a 9 year old and an 18 year old is inappropriate because the 9 year old can not make full on decisions of her/his own! But Love knows no age considering back many years ago a 12 year old girl would typically get married to an 18 year old. So, nah no matter on age... within a restriction

Side: No..I Guess Not
1 point

no, of course not...I don't think so...in love, it doesn't matter what's your age..!!you don't be in a relationship with a person by looking at his age, you know. You see a person should be in a relationship with someone with whom they are having a chemistry. Their heart skips a beat whenever the other person is the one with whom you share the company with...Don't look at his/her age...its very much wrong..

Side: No..I Guess Not
1 point

If people believe in stereotypes ... that noise ... he will not think about what others think ... Personally, I believe that love does not choose! Today, you laugh at the young man who meets a 50 year old woman, and tomorrow perhaps she ...))) ... will become a laughing stock!

Side: No..I Guess Not

It counts if each person in the relationship is acceptable of the age difference.

Side: No..I Guess Not