Should I Tell My Family that I'm an Athiest?
Ok, here's the issue. SI posted this question here because I figured, there's a lot of sensible people here.
So, I'm scared that i will get disowned or my family will choose their faith over me like a lot pf parents do . And it's not like i can really straight up and tell them that i'm an apathiest, because here's the issue. I'm black, and you all know that black people are strong believers in Jesus Christ and their Lord. I don't believe in God, and i don't think that anyone will relate to me about that. My family is known for saying mean and hurtful things about anyone that doesn't believe in God or anything like that. Another thing that comtributes to this problem is that I live in the South, so you know about 99.99999999998% of people here are strong believers in God and don't really understand what it means to be athiest. I'm afraid that they will be like, "She's got the devil in her" or something like that. Even though athiests don't believe in any kind of diety. I want your honest opinion about whether i should tell my family that I'm an athiest.
Also, I'm 15, so should there be like a certain time in my life that i should tell them, like when i move out or something so they can't do anything to me or so i can't stay around for all of the hurtful and negative things that they will say?
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and you all know that black people are strong believers in Jesus Christ and their Lord. Maybe a stereotype or a generalization because I'm black and most of my associates are as well. We are all atheists(mostly atheist myself), my parents were never really too lord centered, they just believed in a god, that they felt no need to worship or bring up in conversation. As for your issue, I feel it is in this case best you just keep it to yourself. I mean don't deny your true nature. If you don't believe, don't believe don't let others try to make you. But there's no reason you should go to your parents, call them before you in the living room and make a public declaration of your lack of faith. As is the case with most faithful people, they can't imagine not having faith or people not having it. And as also the case in the world, religion almost always spurs controversy. In a family it's best to be silent on these matters. --------------------------------------- I reiterate silent in general, maybe go to their practices with them, I mean they are still your family that could just be family bonding, but don't feel the need to lie to anyone who asks. I also sincerely doubt your family would just up and leave you for being an atheist. The worst that happens to me by theists is that they feel pity for me with their surety that I'm going to hell. It doesn't bother me though. lol. 1
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I hate to say it, but I would wait until you are independent and out on your own. I've heard far too many stories of atheists being disowned by their families. You have to weigh the benefits of telling them with the possible negative consequences. I think in this scenario the consequences probably outweigh the benefits. It sucks that you have to hide your feelings from your own family, but I think telling them will just end up in a lot of drama and stress. 1
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