Should Kids Have A Curfew
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Of course they should. Only children think they shouldn't. What can kids possibly do after 9:00pm on a school night that isn't illegal or something their parents would totally detest? Not a thing is the answer. They need to be home when their parents say And if they won't listen to their parents, then let the cops bring you kicking and screaming. Your a child, you have no say in the matters, your opinions on life issues and child rearing are petty and insignificant and narcissistic viewpoints. Stick to figuring out the next level of Donkey Kong, and I'll make sure you don't get murdered by gang members, or pregnant by the time your 13.
Let's see, what did I do Sunday night after 9:00. I sat in my friend's living room, eating spaghetti and watching "Space Jam." I'm sure my mother would detest that.
I've had an 11:00 curfew on school nights since I was a freshman and no curfew on the weekends. I've also never been pregnant or murdered. Interesting!
And you're saying this as if that's the only way a child could spend his time not at home after 9:00pm. In case you've forgotten, but not giving a child a curfew has resulted in children getting kidnapped and some don't ever get to see their families again. "Had I known is always at last." Just think about it, you not giving your child a curfew and he/she ends up missing for more than 5 years. How would you feel? Wouldn't you regret not giving him/her a curfew?
"your a child, you have no say in matters, your opinions on life issues and child rearing are pretty insignificant and narcissistic viewpoints"-That won't be the case in a few year don't you think? Weren't you a child at one point? Look at you saying Other children's opinions don't matter. I bet you'd feel some type of way if someone told you that when you were a kid and suppose your idea was actually good, what a shame. I hate how people stereotype say your preventing a kid from getting murderer or pregnant by giving them a curfew??? Last time i checked that's not the main reason for those causes.
I think kids should have curfew because they have to listen to there parents and if there parents tell them they need to go to bed they need to do it or else they will get punished. Also kids have to listen to there parents until they are 18. Once the kids that are 18 the parent's child is no longer responsible.
I myself am a big boy, a sexual predator, a kidnapper, and a police officer. I feel that it is NOT safe for your children to be out after 9;00. I will kidnap your children and lock them in my shed until you apologize and keep your kids on a leash. Y'all better give my answer 10 points or I WILL rape your children. -officer big daddy
some parents would not like their children taken away from them. it is also pointless to be out side after dark because you cant really see anything and drunk drivers could run your children over and you could lose them forever and that would be sooooooooooooooo tradgic
It's a free world! Why should kids have to be indoors at a certain time? It's up to our parents to decide if we can stay out late or not. This would be stereotyping as not all youths are evil and up to no good. What about people with good intentions who just want to enjoy an evening stroll? It wouldn't be fair!
listen, im 18, reasonably inteligent, hard working and enjoy going out.
im not going to lie all parents have this issue, it is only natural for them to worry, however you cannot run their lives forever and they have to learn for themselves about what they do.
the thing is me and my mum have a near perfect system, if i go out i give her as much notice as possible (unfortunately a lot of my friends do only wait till the last minute but i do my best) then i tell her what were doing and where were going. she knows if im going out drinking and where im going. and ill ask her if its ok if i go. and shes reasonable, aka unless she has a reason to say no then she will let me out. ill then text her when i get there to let her no i got there fine (meaning she knows exactly where i am at any given time) ill then text her at some point before 10:30 to let her know im ok with a rough idea of when im coming home. i then text her again whn im on my way home (shes usually asleep bythis point but i still like to let her know) finally when i get home, i leave her a note in the kitchen t let her know i got back ok.
the good thing about this isshe knows at al times where i am and if she wants me home she can text me and ill get back A.S.A.P.
the other good thing about it is that its based on trust and responsibility. i mean my parents have always tried to make me indipendant, this means that i get myself up the morning after and sort myself out. this means if i do this on a schoolnight and dont get up in the morning then its my fault and she would then say that i cant go out again. fair enough
ive never been a fan of curfews because, well like you say im the child, but to be honest all that does is mean that they come home at a certain time. other than this you dont know where they are or what their doing. im assming that by putting in a curfew you hope to blind them to the world of drik, drugs and rock and roll. but be honest can you say you didnt drink by the time you were 15?
the entire relationship between me and my mum is baised on trust. i let her know where im going and what im doing and in return she lets me go out and have a good time. now if i abused this by lying or i doing drugs or anything unacceptable, then she could turn around and say no i dont want you going out anymore and im giving you a curfew, and in that instance its fair enough but unless you know you cannot trust them then i would say give this way a go and if it doesnt work, dont use it.
but i mean me and my mum have always had a fair relationship i mean if i went out drinking when i was 16/17, she would usually be the one who bought my beer, (again good because she can moniter how much i drink) but ultimately we hae a system we find works,
she lets me go out, in return i get up at 7:00 and dont complain the next morning.
the only thing i would say is dont let them go out on a school night, because if you have to change the system that WILL cause arguements and i have had rows with my mum in the past (who hasnt) because shes said i cant go out on school nights, but to be honest i love her for it and she was completely right to do so.
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I don't think teens need a curfew because not all are bad and do stupid crap at night to get themselves in trouble. Even if teens have a curfew there will be lots of stress between the guardian and the teen. So having a curfew is a bad idea especially if you don't want stress. And you can talk to your teens about what they think is a reasonable time to be expected back at home. So in conclusion I don't think curfews are necessary.
It's a horrible restriction, regardless, if the reason were sound. Such as Environments that aren't safe for the wellbeing or education of children.
I still see that's it's a negative action and would create negative effects
Think of this, If you smack or possibly beat a child when he is wrong. They will grow up and smack and beat there child when they are wrong (base argument)
Instead of positively reinforcing reliability you are negatively enforcing it
It just seems to me, a bandaid solution.
Beating and Curfew have nothing in common. You have no concept of what negative and positive reinforcement actually is do you? Read BF Skinner for insight into what this actually means, since your context is so far off. Making the point that,"even if the reason were sound," you should still not impose the rule is ridiculous. You simply state there would be negative effects, but list none of these effects. Let me give you a few negative side effects of letting kids stay out late. Kids who stay out late are more likely to join gangs. (where else are they going, certainly not to the clubs to hang out with adults). They are more likely to engage in teen sex. (got nothing else to do). They are more likely to fail out of school. (didn't study, had to stay out late). There you go, some actual reasons. Better luck next time kid, your argument is weaker than a house of cards.
I was merely saying that positive reinforcement is superior to negative. I was tired when i wrote that and i must say i thought at the time, the issue of effects of parenting and or imposing laws on kids with positive admonishment vs negative scolding was a little clearer... I see that it wasn't by far and for this i apologise.
so let me start again.
the biggest number of juvenile offenders are born to dysfunctional families they live in poverty or suffer from a variety of social problems, including poor physical and mental health and also familial abuse and discouragement. So when minors act out extralegal behavior they are seen as victims of improper care, it's seen as a sign that the state should step in and take control of youths before they engage in worse crimes.
This problem of gangs, failing from school and teen sex, as you put it, is alot broader then slapping a curfew (bandaid) on this situation (i'll stop here and say teen sex is a different issue, and not really something a curfew would ever stop.) A curfew won't stop criminal behaviour from Kids who've grown up in deprived conditions. Truth be told Curfews have no discernible effect on youth crime, infact most studies show cities with the stricter curfews have the highest rate of youth crime. It's a status violation that, in effect generates dissociation between youths and government
im pretty busy today but i hope u reply DrOppotimus, I would like to continue this
But please refrain from 'kid' or other derogatory remarks. Spirit of argument and all that jazz mate
id like to give you an insite to my life, im eighteen hard working, never been involved in gangs, im still a virgin and when i did my gcse's a passed all of them and got A's and A*s in more than half of them. since then ie been doing a national diploma in which im working at the grade distinction, distinction, distinction (which is the best you can get) ive never had any affiliation with serious crime and i dont have a criminal record.
ive been going out since i was 16, and yes i do drink and yes i do go get drunk with my friends. however i havent let my grades faulter, neither have i done anything seriously irrisponsible. as long as this remains the case i see no reason to have a curfew