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Debate Score:177
Arguments:114
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Should sexual relationship before marriage be supported or not?

 My issue is that Sexual relationship before marriage should be discouraged! Personally, I discourage this idea and support that sexual relationship should start and be experienced only after the marriage. I wish everyone had one goal and principle - PURE INTENTION AND PURE LOVE! Let’s see how many people have the same opinion and how many  oppose me? Thank you very much for your active paricipation and interesting, unique opinion in advance, i hope it will be a very interesting topic to discuss Tongue Out  peace )))

 

No, it should not be supported

Side Score: 87
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Yes, it should be supported

Side Score: 90
3 points

I think that sex before marriage is bad for you. for example, according to my culture's mentality, the main reason for bad side of sexual relationship is people's belief about the first sexual experience and it's effects on marriage. specifically, if you have first sexual experience with your wife/husband, he or she will not be unfaithful to you.

Side: No, it should not be supported
2 points

Yes SaniyaB, I agree with you not just because of your mentality but because of the real risk! please read the article to have more information. :) http://www.jpands.org/vol13no3/malhotra.pdf

Side: No, it should not be supported

I believe that sex before marriage is bad since it gives doubt to couples. For an example, the woman had sex with 50 men before getting married. Well that seems kind of unfair for the man. I believe that giving one`s virginity after marriage is the best gift that couples can give to each other. As a Catholic I believe that the body should be treated as a holy sanctuary not a mall in which anyone can enter and get out so easily. If people have sex all they want then the only difference they have with prostitutes is that they have sex without pay. Another is that there would be an increase in the number of abortions since there would be an increase of teen-aged mothers and Fathers would go all Usain Bolt on them after having sex.

On a Scientific note. I believe that sex before marriage could cause the spread of diseases since they would have sex with anyone and they themselves would suffer for it for the sake of a few minutes of pleasure. Discipline is important in maintaining a harmonious relationship. Seal your future first before succumbing yourself to pleasure. Safety first!

Side: No, it should not be supported
2 points

dEAR eZEKIEL_ROMA, please take a time to read this article and have more information. Because there is a very huge possibility for the wolrd to have more and more problems .. Let's have healthier and purer life!!! http://www.jpands.org/vol13no3/malhotra.pdf

Side: No, it should not be supported
wardogninja(1789) Clarified
2 points

You say that a women having sex before marriage is unfair to the man, but do you consider the opposite to be true as well?

I am not arguing with you, i just want to clarify.

Side: No, it should not be supported
ezekiel_roma(526) Clarified
2 points

It is obvious that man should remain a virgin until marriage because that is one of the best gifts a spouse can give one another besides an offspring. It also builds trust in the marriage since they haven`t slept with anyone else.

In a health lifestyle perspective, it is also practical since it is safer due to the less contact with external disease intake from sexual intercourse from multiple partners.

Side: No, it should not be supported

I think it should be discouraged, too many people rush relationships before they are ready for the consequences.

however that does not mean the couples whose choose to engage in sexual activities should be punished, it is a choice that should be made between the couple alone

Side: No, it should not be supported
2 points

I absolutly agree with you!!! please check this article out, it is based on academic researches and I think it is very educative and useful especially for our generation. we want better generation. say stop to HIV AIDS ABORTION STI !! http://www.jpands.org/vol13no3/malhotra.pdf

Side: No, it should not be supported
wardogninja(1789) Clarified
2 points

I would love to look at the article, but there have been times in the past where the link turned out to be a virus.

Side: No, it should not be supported
2 points

First marriage - then sex. According to American scientists just such a sequence is the key to a lasting marriage.

Those who took the time to engage in sexual contact, waiting patiently for the wedding night, are more satisfied with their relationships

As a result of research conducted by the Institute of Family Life (School of Family Life) in Utah, found that couples who delay intimacy until the wedding night, it is much better to get along with each other compared to those couples who have begun a relationship with sex. Here are the figures lead scientists

Stable relationship - higher by 22%

Overall satisfaction with the relationship - 20%

And even the quality of sexual life increased by 15%

This result, they explain the fact that a relationship in which there is room sex before marriage is based, rather, not on trust, loyalty and affection, and the physical attraction to each other. "Relationships - it's more than sex. I think the point is that couples who are not in a hurry to intimacy, learn to talk to each other - says project leader Professor Dean Busby, - no matter how much these people are religious. Waiting helps in building better communication within a relationship for a long time and it improves stability. "

Do you think that the rights of a professor? Do I have to play Russian roulette, ignoring the possibility of sexual incompatibility and similarities / differences in temperament to please a strong family or from such statements close to the medieval customs show bloody sheet on the morning after the wedding?

Side: No, it should not be supported
2 points

Great points!! for more interesting information please check this article out: http://www.jpands.org/vol13no3/malhotra.pdf We want better future without HIV AID STI ABORTION..... :)

Side: No, it should not be supported
2 points

I'm glad that there are people that are on the same page as I am. And I'm a dude. =_=!!

Side: No, it should not be supported
2 points

If you walk that far before marriage, why marry someone? You might as well have kids without getting married either. True that marriage is not insurance against separation, neither having kids, but that's the best we got. Hell, might as well copy Brave New World. That would have been great wouldn't it? We are humans, and society is acting closer to animals each day. Human minds should be more profound that just letting entropy get to it.

Side: No, it should not be supported
0 points

very clear point! i support you! please check this out for more information! http://www.jpands.org/vol13no3/malhotra.pdf everyone should choose healthier and reasonable choices! )))

Side: No, it should not be supported
1 point

Anyways guys.... thanks for taking part... I created this debate for my project though... your opinion helped me alot, same things for the people who were against :) by the way, it is not my first language indeed. and sorry for being impolite... it was fun though ;)

Side: No, it should not be supported
1 point

I believe that sexual relationship before marriage should not be. In my culture this is unacceptable. First sexual relationship have to be with someone with whom you want to live whole your life. If you want to have sexual relationship before marriage I think that it should be your fiance.

Side: No, it should not be supported
1 point

What would happens if you get pregnant? What will happens if your boyfriend are not marring you after the sexual relationship. People might believe that you are selling yourself (whores) because you loses your virginity to someone before marring.

Side: No, it should not be supported

Sex is evil.

People shouldn't have sex because it's evil and wrong, and if you have sex before marriage the little troll living in the woman's vagina will bite off your penis. On top of this, having sex before marriage will cause the Devil to anally rape you in your sleep until you cut off your balls.

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You're a fucking idiot.

Side: No, it should not be supported
FreeWill(120) Clarified
1 point

Errr...more power to you for making an ironic statement, but you seem to be on the wrong side.

As is mine, and I can't seem to change it.

Side: No, it should not be supported
1 point
Side: No, it should not be supported
1 point

http://www.jpands.org/vol13no3/malhotra.pdf please take a time to read this article to have more information for your future!!

Side: No, it should not be supported
1 point

you think i am idiot? I will see how YOU will be like when your doughter will have 10 times abortion before marriage and get HIV and Your son will go to prison harrasing a 5 year old doughter of your granddoughter just because you have such a poor imagination and very little brain! asswhole! check this out instead of calling others idiot. this is discussion... not a place to argue! http://www.jpands.org/vol13no3/malhotra.pdf !!!

Side: No, it should not be supported
3 points

The likelyness of that happenning is about as high as you passing a spelling test.

Side: Yes, it should be supported
2 points

Your spelling makes my brain hurt.

"I will see how YOU will be like when your doughter will have 10 times abortion before marriage and get HIV and Your son will go to prison harrasing a 5 year old doughter of your granddoughter just because you have such a poor imagination and very little brain!"

What?! That doesn't even make sense! Especially that part about your son going to prison for harassing a 5 year old. Where does this "logic" come from? This is a debate, not a "hey, let's make up some random-ass scenario to make ourselves seem smarter" shit fest. Make sense, damn you!

And after reading that, yes, I do think you are an idiot. Learn to spell.

Side: Yes, it should be supported
7 points

Would you buy a car without a test drive? I think not.

Side: Yes, it should be supported
lolzors93(3225) Disputed
5 points

The problem with this very statement is that it argues that men and women are objects of use.

Side: No, it should not be supported
2 points

Wrong .

Side: Yes, it should be supported
2 points

In my opinion you are too generalizing. it depends on person! please check this out! have better understanding http://www.jpands.org/vol13no3/malhotra.pdf

Side: No, it should not be supported
Gozel(33) Disputed
1 point

In my opinion you are too generalizing. it depends on person! please check this out! have better understanding http://www.jpands.org/vol13no3/malhotra.pdf

Side: Yes, it should be supported
SaniyaB(18) Disputed
5 points

I'm sorry, but people are not cars which you will by after the test drive...

Side: No, it should not be supported
Hellno(17758) Disputed
2 points

I'm sorry but that sentence makes absolutely no sense... please try again.

Side: Yes, it should be supported
Hellno(17758) Disputed
2 points

I'm sorry but that sentence makes absolutely no sense... please try again.

Side: Yes, it should be supported
wardogninja(1789) Clarified
3 points

but would you prefer a new or heavily used car?.................

Side: No, it should not be supported
Gozel(33) Disputed
2 points

would you be crashed by car while having a test-drive?? I think not! http://www.jpands.org/vol13no3/malhotra.pdf

Side: No, it should not be supported
1 point

It's indeed possible to crash a car while test driving it. And once again, your grammar and overall sentence structure is atrocious. Is it really necessary to put that link in EVERY SINGLE POST?!

Side: Yes, it should be supported
Gozel(33) Disputed
1 point

would you be crashed by a car while having a test drive? i think no! http://www.jpands.org/vol13no3/malhotra.pdf

Side: No, it should not be supported
KrittMasta(19) Disputed
1 point

Would you buy a pre mod car buy others? Would you like to buy a new car with 50 - 100 miles on it or 5 miles on it. I got my new car 19 miles on it and I know exactly how it go there. Sex is at the level of you modifying your car. That's all I'm saying.

Side: No, it should not be supported
Gozel(33) Disputed
-2 points
Hellno(17758) Disputed
1 point

Hi Gozel, sex is important in any marriage... many marriages have ended because one or both partners aren't happy in the sack. It's only common sense to get a little freaky at least a few times before sealing the deal.

Side: Yes, it should be supported
3 points

Why should sex be only within the confines of marriage? What would that possibly add to anything? It wouldn't really do anything except stifle adolescent sexuality or, worse, make a lot of marriages where the partners divorce because of sexual complications that they would've known about before if they had had sex before marriage.

Side: Yes, it should be supported
Gozel(33) Disputed
0 points

of course whores would not be interested in it.... but anyways check this out for more information! http://www.jpands.org/vol13no3/malhotra.pdf

Side: No, it should not be supported
FreeWill(120) Disputed
2 points

"The only way to avoid these consequences of the Sexual Revolution is sexual abstinence outside a mutually monogamous lifelong relationship with an unifected partner"

I smacked my forehead so hard there will be a red mark for weeks. Using misinformed or uninformed articles like this will only hurt your case.

Side: Yes, it should be supported
3 points

Of course it should be allowed..........!! No one has the right to restrict the pleasure of sex. Our life, our decision....!! If you look, in no other living creature there is restriction on sex.... they do it when they want. even we should have no restriction. but there is one problem, all animals have sex during their season. during the other times, they never think of sex but enjoy their life. but humans think of sex every now and then and hence forget to enjoy other pleasures of life......... !!

Side: Yes, it should be supported
2 points

Especially, in our century living in democratic countries every man makes their own decision and takes their own states. No one have rights to forbid people’s decisions. Anyway, we should not lose our conscious awareness of our choice.

Side: Yes, it should be supported
kountakine(88) Disputed
1 point

Humans think of sex every time because the society supports it with the mass media conditioning of women with object, we as men are more stimulated by only hand shake. But this gives you not the right to have sex with my sister just because you want it, it should be something that you consume in intimate moments with you beloved wife or husband after your wedding night, that the biggest gift, to explore everything you want without tabou in marriage, but not like a dog to have sex and next day you leave her for another

Side: No, it should not be supported
Gozel(33) Disputed
0 points

no one is saying that it should not be allowed! please do not misstake the word SUPPORT with ALLOW! it is your choice to have sex before marrige or not, but this issue is worldwide and there are bad consequences! check this out http://www.jpands.org/vol13no3/malhotra.pdf

Side: No, it should not be supported
2 points

I think that when having sex it tells you not only about how good they are at it but other things about them! Do they get nervous when they are only trying to figure out what you want? It can tell you a lot of things that can help you get to know a marriage! I think that you should wait until your married to have a child but a sexual intercourse before marriage is perfectly okay so long as both people have consent

Side: Yes, it should be supported
Gozel(33) Disputed
0 points

you can learn about all of them after the marriage... true love is based on trusts and on tastes that you are adicted to and have no chance but be together... http://www.jpands.org/vol13no3/malhotra.pdf

Side: No, it should not be supported
2 points

It should be supported.. Marriage has nothing to do with whether or not people LOVE each other. Marriage exists with and without love. Not that I even think sex before love is wrong, who are you to tell people when they ought to have sex? They can do sex with someone they don't love, just like they can do other activities with someone they don't love. Maybe YOU save sex and other things only for love, that's fine and your business... but others don't have to.

Side: Yes, it should be supported
Gozel(33) Disputed
1 point

yes, if you will have sex with one or two (if not succeed in relationship) through your life and have it because you really love and respect each others feelings. http://www.jpands.org/vol13no3/malhotra.pdf

Side: No, it should not be supported
2 points

There is no cause to surrender our humanity to contracts to declare our feelings. A stolen kiss isn't a crime but a celebration , a warm bed at first light is an invitation to enjoy what follows........

Side: Yes, it should be supported
Gozel(33) Disputed
0 points

romantic words are good when we read books or stories.... but the world is fighting with real risky problems! check this out: http://www.jpands.org/vol13no3/malhotra.pdf

Side: No, it should not be supported

A rule of thumb for me is to always take things in moderation.

I do not believe that sex before marriage is necessarily evil, nor necessarily good. Like many things it's not black or white.

So with dealing with something obviously not black or white, I tend to argue for a simple middle ground. I do NOT support promiscuity (in fact, I am vehemently opposed to it), but I am NOT in support of taking away the freedom of lovers.

When sex is destroying someone's life, or destroying the lives of many people altogether, it's obvious and can be spotted. But taking away the right for two people in love to do whatever romantic things they please with each other is... well, wrong. They aren't harming each other or other people. In fact, they may even be growing closer! And whether or not they are married won't necessarily change that or make it more or less significant.

For there is a difference between sex before marriage and promiscuity. A vast difference. To assume that they are the same, and are both immoral, is a sweeping generalization, and therefore an incorrect, and perhaps even immoral, thing to believe.

Side: Yes, it should be supported
KrittMasta(19) Disputed
1 point

Moderation is subjected to change through time, location, and situation. Moderation in itself is a fake scheme that created by society, which is slowly morally diluted with propaganda to fit the desires of majority. And the majority will have less order / behave than fewer. It is normal according to physics of entropy. I'm not pointing fingers to say people are wrong, I simply think that I do not support. However, define marriage. Does paper or ceremony dictates that? All can all, it's down to monogamist, else we are no more than rabbits and donkeys.

Side: No, it should not be supported
chatturgha(1630) Disputed
0 points

Moderation in itself is a fake scheme that created by society, which is slowly morally diluted with propaganda to fit the desires of majority.

I don't think there was any question over the moral ambiguity of propaganda. Whatever it does to the majority isn't irrelevant, but that isn't to say you let it's effect on society change what you know to be right and wrong.

It's obviously wrong to allow two people the freedom to spread disease and illness and emotional distress among themselves in ignorance. And it is obviously wrong to limit the rights of two consenting adults who seek to specifically not harm others and instead just prosper together.

Therefore, there is a middle, moral ground, in fact and reality, regardless of whatever happens to one corner of society or the other due to cultural manipulations.

I'm not pointing fingers to say people are wrong, I simply think that I do not support.

I think it's plenty acceptable to point fingers at people who are truly ignorant and/or immoral. But just because you have a responsibility to point the finger at one behavior doesn't mean the opposite behavior is any better just because it's opposite.

Again, there is a middle ground. Finding it is key to solving the issue; not taking one extreme side or the other.

Side: Yes, it should be supported
Gozel(33) Disputed
1 point

http://www.jpands.org/vol13no3/malhotra.pdf you understand the MIDDLE GROUND but majority does not! unfortunately....

Side: No, it should not be supported
chatturgha(1630) Disputed
1 point

Which is why it should be supported only in moderation. As I said, I am vehemently against promiscuity. But, I cannot allow that position on my part cause me to hinder the rights of two people to simply love each other without harming anyone in the process, whether it be themselves or anyone else.

Side: Yes, it should be supported

Why does it make a difference if a guy in a dress says some magic words as to whether you can have sex? Having consensual sex harms nobody (well, unless they want to be of course), and therefore cannot be considered immoral.

Side: Yes, it should be supported
Gozel(33) Disputed
1 point
Side: No, it should not be supported
anachronist(889) Disputed
2 points

So what you're saying is that people should only ever have sex with one person, and that person has to only ever have sex with you? And for some reason you're not allowed to start having sex until an arbitrary ritual is performed. Do you think that being married means there is no risk of unwanted pregnancy or STDs?

Side: Yes, it should be supported
1 point

Of course. The idea that sex before marriage is immoral is completely ridiculous. More sex results in better mood and health (most of the time), and the urge to engage in it is natural and not something to feel guilty about. I feel sorry for the people that get indoctrinated to think otherwise.

Side: Yes, it should be supported
Gozel(33) Disputed
1 point
Side: No, it should not be supported
1 point

If you plan to ever have sex with a person you plan to marry, then you ought to do so before you're married as to know your partner if nothing else..

Side: Yes, it should be supported
1 point

Well, i believe that we should have sex before marriage. First of all, because true love does not mean necessarily marriage...How many married people don't love each other like they used to? How many of them never actually did? So it's not just "true love" if you get married...

True love, in my opinion, is more than rings and a dress because you can commit one to another, without the titles, and the big party. Of course, that if you're a religious person this may not apply to you, as you don't see it this way.

Also, the sexual aspect of a relationship must be considered not as a bonus, but as something important to both man and woman, woman and woman, or man and man (whatever the case is).

So we should know one another before we take the big step (being that marriage, living together, etcetera).

Side: Yes, it should be supported
1 point

Anyways guys.... thanks for taking part... I created this debate for my project though... your opinion helped me alot, same things for the people who were FOR :) by the way, English is not my first language, indeed, it is 5th...and sorry for being impolite...but it was fun ;)

good luck :)

Side: Yes, it should be supported
1 point

Why should sex before marriage be bad? Its better if you had your share of experiences before you got married, because you won't lust in your marriage as much. Did you know that after having sex a couple can tell what type of chemistry they have? They wouldn't have otherwise known without it. So go do your research.

Biologically speaking did you know that by nature, humans are not monogamous creatures? Most mammals have social monogamy, meaning they pair up to mate, raise an offspring, but still have affairs. The concept behind it is, by having multiple offspring from different fathers allows the female to increase the genetic variation. This increase improves the chances of the '' fittest of all'' to survive in a long term in harsh environments and improve genes for future generations. I am not making this up, this is natural. So why are you surprised if men/women cheat? It's in their nature!

Monogamy was invented to keep an order on couples, but it is not a natural state of primate species such as monkeys or humans. So i am not surprised when a husband has a sexy smart wife still looks around for affairs. I always thought men would kill to have such wife, why is he cheating? The reason is biology. New studies have shown amazing facts, many examples, i was blown away by it. Of course you cannot always blame it on nature, we are not primates anymore, we are homo sapiens, how foolish of us if we cannot control our own biology. (Apparently not, there is a high rate of cheating among couples). Where is your dignity, honor?

It's interesting that women, lets say have a sexy husband,still need to go out to get attention from other males. Women won't accept this, but it's true. We need to feel accepted not only by our husband, but by other males. We need to feel wanted. How pathetic as it sounds, but true. This is a form of cheating as well! Maybe minor, but those thoughts are there. This was programmed right into our brains.

Humans are controlled so much by their instincts, that they cannot control their urge of not cheating. If they don't cheat they fantasize..that's worse. I say have a balance, whenever you get those thoughts always remain calm, and always imagine how would you feel if your partner betrays you. Right away you snap out.

It all depends how much you can control your urges. If the respect between your partner is so strong, like mine, i would kill myself before cheating. I would feel so guilty, i wouldn't be able to live with myself. Marriage should be build on respect and then love. Whenever i have those thoughts of infidelity, I am aware and I defuse my own biology. My husband knows about this, and we openly talk about it.

And yes, sexual relationship must be supported to see the chemistry/compatibility in the couple. A lot of virgin marriages fail because of lack of chemistry! Chemistry is the igniter, the catalyst for the relationship. Before you marry you have to feel that bond. Without it, your marriage will be miserable.

The most powerful signals in chemistry are operating through unconscious ways, pheromones, hormones ,it all shapes our feelings towards our partner. You have to know how you click in bed!

Ex.If one spouse wants sex a few times a week, and the other spouse rarely wants sex, then even if they both enjoy the same kind of sexual activities, the difference in their frequency desire can lead to lifelong conflicts. You probably won’t want to live the majority of your life wondering: What if? You probably won’t want to live the majority of your life missing out on not having comparative experiences. But if you choose that path, good luck.

How many couples do you know that complain that they are not getting enough? Google it up, it's a very common problem.

Side: Yes, it should be supported
Gozel(33) Disputed
1 point

Hi, I personaly believe that if couples love each other they would have a perfect frequency and joy in sexual relationship... that is why first love then sex! There are so many wonderful feelings besides sex... ! ... and if there is no sincer feelings none of your perfect sexes whould save the relationship.

Side: No, it should not be supported
Gozel(33) Disputed
1 point

imagine, you had sex with a person and you loved it enough so that you got married, then unfortunately he became ill or something, not able to have it.... whould you leave him? what about you had such problem and he leaves you?

Side: No, it should not be supported
KrittMasta(19) Disputed
1 point

Pleasures to self an and others by ignoring the integrity and importance of your own mind, body, reproductive organs, and actions are cause of many problems in the society, including sexual affairs. Encouraging society to go out and explore for more pleasure to find out what we want is feeding more of endless desire to society. Human mind has endless imagination to serve themselves pleasures, and eventually end up in a more violence act.

I can for sure say you're attractive and perhaps great to be with. But taking this lightly will also tells me that relationships are taken lightly relative to what I've seen around the world also.

Side: No, it should not be supported

After all, one has to try on the shoe first to see if it fits.

Side: Yes, it should be supported
0 points

Firstly,i wud confess that i am not that kind. but in my opinion, it should be encouraged. 16% marriages are divorced just because of bad sex life. this has some commonly known bad effects on the couple and their children (if any). and sex before marriage, in my view, could strengthen the relationship.

Side: Yes, it should be supported
Gozel(33) Disputed
1 point
Side: No, it should not be supported
Justahuman(114) Disputed
1 point

Contraception is exceedingly (though obviously not 100% affective) in preventing pregnancy and if using condoms STIs. Now that is assuming people use them correctly. When people don't use contraception accurately that is when there is a large drop in affectivness. People are more likly to use contraception correctly if thy are better educated about it.

Side: Yes, it should be supported
Gozel(33) Disputed
-2 points
Justahuman(114) Disputed
3 points

While it is true that premarital sex can lead to those things, it is most specifically true that unsafe sex leads to them. While I do not think we should encourage teens to have sex all the time, in a society that is more open to talking about sex, especially premarital sex I think those things would go down. If teens are taught to make smart choices they would be more likely to use protection, have sex with people they trust and feel like they could ask for advise. If you say that people should never have premarital sex then you are taking away all that knowledge that young people should have, and those situations you described are more likely to occur.

Side: Yes, it should be supported
Cuaroc(8828) Disputed
1 point

You from DDO or something?

Side: Yes, it should be supported
0 points

I take the view that nowadays it can be. It is norm with our life style. I am religion people, but even I can say that it is not scary. It is my view that it is also sin, but we live in the modern world, and it has become the norm for us.

Side: Yes, it should be supported
Gozel(33) Disputed
1 point

the main problem is not just " it is immoral". where is you critical thinking??? check this out for your information! http://www.jpands.org/vol13no3/malhotra.pdf

Side: No, it should not be supported