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Debate Score:51
Arguments:30
Total Votes:66
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Should you wait until marriage to have sex?

Yes

Side Score: 10
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No

Side Score: 41
3 points

Yes I believe you should wait until you are married to have sex and here are 9 reasons why you should wait. I believe these nine reasons why you should wait.

1. So you know the whole person

2. So you can build and test your trust

3. So there is no guilt or fear later

4. So best sex is not destroyed

5. So your not faced with pregnancies, and abortions

6. So you'll never have an STD

7. So you'll never be compared to past partners

8. So you won't have to fight a bad reputation.

9. So you won't be stealing from someone else's marriage.

Side: Yes
Saurbaby(5579) Disputed
2 points

1. So you know the whole person

You can get married after a week of knowing each other, but by your standards it'd be okay to have sex then?

And you can spend all you life trying to get to know someone, but you'll never completely know them. Ever.

2. So you can build and test your trust

Marriage doesn't prove that you can trust someone.

3. So there is no guilt or fear later

You'll only feel that way if you don't stand by your OWN beliefs. I personally don't think it's wrong to have sex before marriage, so I didn't feel guilty when I did it, and I certainly didn't feel fearful.

4. So best sex is not destroyed

How does having sex, destroy best sex? If anything it gives you practice, which would make for better sex.

5. So your not faced with pregnancies, and abortions

If you're smart, then you most likely won't have to, and you may have to deal with those things when you're married too. Even if you get married does not mean you're wanting children yet.

6. So you'll never have an STD

If you and your partner (Or partners) get tested then you won't get an STD while still getting the pleasure of sex.

7. So you'll never be compared to past partners

That is actually a mildly valid argument, only you will always be compared to someone in some way, if you practice before then there's a better chance of you being better.

8. So you won't have to fight a bad reputation.

Just because you've had sex does not automatically give you a bad reputation. I know a girl who has NEVER had sex, or anything, and still gets called a whore and other things. People can think what they want, a reputation usually isn't true.

9. So you won't be stealing from someone else's marriage.

Stealing would imply that it was taken by force, sex involves two people who give consent, otherwise it's rape.

Side: No
2 points

Yes! This link can give you ten good reasons why you should wait!

Supporting Evidence: Ten reason why to wait. (www.unification.net)
Side: Yes
Saurbaby(5579) Disputed
2 points

Please don't just give me a link without defending your OWN opinion with your own thoughts.

And the ten reasons the link gives me are easy to argue against.

1. It's not that big of a deal. It doesn't have power to destroy anything. It's not like it's an atomic bomb that will destroy everything.

2. That's being a teenager. Even if a teenager doesn't have sex they still tend to rebel. And you can't prove that it's because of the sex.

3. This is mildly sexist. Also I am a women, and I promise, I am not suffering from premarital sex.

4. Virginity isn't that big of a deal. And as long as you give yours to someone who is important to you at the point in time, it shouldn't matter if you spend forever with them. Because you probably won't. Even if you were to get married.

5. That's what condoms are for. And choosing sexual partners who will agree to get tested for you first.

6. Read number five.

7. Um.... that's the same as the last two.

8. This only applies to people who follow that religion. Which means it doesn't apply to a LOT of people.

9. So? I'm an "illegitimate" child. And I've turned out perfectly fine. And you don't need a father to have a father figure.

10. .... If it was a serious relationship it doesn't matter if you had sex or not, a break-up still sucks. You'll get over it eventually regardless of what happened during the relationship.

This link you gave us seems like an immature person wrote it, not trying to be rude, but a middle school student could have written it.

Side: No
Titanic1912(4) Clarified
1 point

here are 3 other reason why to wait:

1.) It could put an end to abortion and unwanted pregnancy. (Birth control and "protection" hardly work anyway.)

2.) You only get one "first time" so why not save it for the honeymoon.

3.) It's selfish not to wait.

Supporting Evidence: Here is a few secular reasons why you should wait. (waitingtillmarriage.org)
Side: Yes
Saurbaby(5579) Disputed
2 points

1.) It could put an end to abortion and unwanted pregnancy. (Birth control and "protection" hardly work anyway.)

You can't believe that EVERYONE would wait until marriage. And what do you mean they "hardly work anyway"? If used correctly then a condom is 99% effective, that sounds like it works great to me. And if you use a condom, and the pill, then you're chances of getting pregnant are almost zero.

2.) You only get one "first time" so why not save it for the honeymoon.

You can still have the special moment without being married. My mom still isn't married to her boyfriend of sixteen years, so they shouldn't be allowed to have sex? Marriage doesn't prove anything. The number of divorces is proof enough.

3.) It's selfish not to wait

Only if you find someone who thinks it is. That's a matter of mind.

Side: No

I shouldn't wait but you all should. ;)

Side: Yes
1 point

<.< What about the people that are involved with you? How are they supposed to wait and help you not wait?

Side: Yes

I don't know how you all are supposed to do it. I'm just happy I'm getting mine ;)

Side: Yes
4 points

No you shouldn't unless you truly want to. The only thing that people should do is make sure they protect themselves both from sexually transmitted diseases and getting pregnant.

Side: No
3 points

No. Hell no.

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Side: No
2 points

No, I would have to check out the goods before I married someone.

Side: No
1 point

Hahahaha! Damn baby! You ain't playin' around! LOL!

Side: No
2 points

No... you don't have to. It's a choice.

I personally don't believe in casual sex. It makes me manic depressive.

But having sex with someone you romantically love before you marry them... like your fiance, or your one-day-to-be-fiance... what's wrong with that? Nothing at all.

Just as long as you aren't a young teenager.

Side: No
1 point

I really disagree with waiting until marriage.

I know people who aren't married that have lasted WAY longer than people who did get married. Marriage is just a stupid tradition and a legal document. It doesn't make anyone more committed, loyal, or happy with that other person.

Side: No
Uspwns101(444) Disputed
1 point

Explain why marriage is stupid please I fail to comprehend the logic. Also how do you know? Are you married? Have you talked to people who are? Do they all claim that marriage does not cement loyalty and faithfulness. Ultimately sex before marriage is wrong.

Side: yes
Saurbaby(5579) Disputed
1 point

Woah, chill out. It's my opinion and I'd be more than glad to explain.

No, I'm not married, nor have I ever been, I'm only eighteen.

Of course I've talked to married couples and divorced couples before coming up with my conclusion.

And I've learned that marriage does not cement any of that. All it does is maybe add an interest with something new for awhile. In the end almost, ALMOST, all marriages end or they start to resent it.

Sex before marriage is NOT wrong. Why, explain to me, would you wait until marriage? I do believe people shouldn't rush into it, they should find someone who they care about and cares about them, but marriage is not a goal that should be made. Especially since the chances of finding a partner with that same goal is rare, and will only cause conflict.

Side: No
1 point

Should I wait until marriage to go hiking? Should I wait until marriage to go to the cinema? Should I wait until marriage to play Starcraft II?

If there's no particular reason for me to deny myself a pleasant and harmless activity just because I'm not married, why should an exception be made for sex?

Side: No

I'm going to make you an ally just because you mentioned Starcraft II.

Side: No
casper3912(1581) Disputed
0 points

It can't be said that sex is generally harmless when:

"...more than half of all Americans get a sexually transmitted disease or infection at some time in their lives."http://www.plannedparenthood.org/ all-access/check-26541.htm

Then there are the potential social/financial impacts, especially if your a man. Child support isn't cheap.

Divorce rates used to be lower, although i'm not sure about infidelity rates and stats would probably

be hard to find. Abortion used to be less common, women less empowered, etc. It used to be good advice.

Now So long as you manage your sexual network properly, use protection and make sure your finances are in order your good. Sadly most people don't do all three.

Side: yes
Peekaboo(704) Disputed
1 point

When I said harmless, I don't mean there's no way you can be hurt by it. I should have been clearer - what I meant was that you're not doing something that intrinsically harms someone, unlike rape or theft or murder. It might harm yourself or someone else (anything might), but that's a matter of circumstance, and is not a fundamental part of the act itself. You can get lost or injure yourself on a hike. You can be caught in a fire when you're in the cinema. You can get addicted to Starcraft II or get shortsighted staring at the screen. You can get an STD or an unwanted pregnancy from sex. But getting lost, or being caught in a fire, or becoming addicted, or getting an STD, are not necessary or even highly likely consequences of these activities, and when you use safe practices the risk of yourself or someone else being harmed is low.

I do see your point that enforcing monogamous sex made some sense back before contraception, divorce, and abortion was widely available and (at least somewhat) acceptable. But it just has no place in the modern developed world when it's so easy to practise safe sex. Tragedies like STDs are better prevented by teaching people about safety, not teaching them to outright reject sex. Safe sex also prevents the thing that monogomous sex completely fails to guard against: unwanted pregnancies with your partner resulting in horribly oversized families that you don't have the time or money to look after.

Side: No
1 point

nope....unless you mean that i wait until after somebody else's marriage...i'd do that

Side: No
1 point

Religously, i feel like i have to say yes. But in my own opinion, if you want to have sex, have it to produce a child. It is hard to resist the idea of having sex for pleasure but i don't think that is against God. If you and your partner want to have sex, just know the consequences: stds and pregnancy.

Side: No
1 point

Not worth the wait.

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Side: No
1 point

Never..............................................................................

Side: No
1 point

It only makes sense to be sure that you are compatible before marriage.

Side: No
1 point

No! You should wait to get married until you've had sex! You got to take that shit out for a test drive first!

Side: No
1 point

Oh crap! I already answered this. LOL

Side: No
2 points

LOL, that was hilarious. X) Proves that you don't look through the debate before adding an argument, you probably repeat people all the time lol

Side: No

Because you have to try on the shoe first to see if it fits. That's using logic.

Side: No