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To be alone to be in a relationships
Debate Score:73
Arguments:43
Total Votes:90
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 To be alone (18)
 
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To be alone or to be in a relationships, what is better?

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To be alone

Side Score: 29
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to be in a relationships

Side Score: 44
3 points

In my point of view, to be alone is better, than to be in a relationships. There are many arguments against it, but all of you forgot one of the main reasons. To be in a relationships, means that you should pay attention to your BF or GF. Because of that you will have less time to yourself and to make the self-actualization, which is very important in our life. I want to add, that not being in a relationships, does not mean that you will be alone. You will still have friend and people who are close to you.

As we know, sometimes people have the inclination to girl or boy, need to kiss and etc. And you also can do it, but without any obligations or engagements, which can cause some problems in daily life!

Side: To be alone
2 points

You spend less money when you are not in the relationships. This will save more money that you can spend for yourself.

Side: To be alone
2 points

In my point of view, to be alone is better than to be in a relationships. There are many arguments against of it, but you forgot one of the most reason for being alone. To be in a relationships, means that you should pay attention to your BF or GF. Because of that you will have less time to yourself and to make the self-actualization, which is very important in our life. I want to add, that not being in a relationships, does not mean that you will be alone. You will still have friend and people who are close to you.

As we know, sometimes people have the inclination to girl or boy, need to kiss and etc. And you can do it, but without any obligations!

Side: To be alone
2 points

To be alone does not mean one is lonely. Some people cannot help but feel lonely if they are not in a relationship, I pity them. Being alone is much better as long as a person is not easily led by societal norms where one feels compelled to bond with another human.

It's a matter of opinion however, not much to debate on, just a sharing of perspectives... last time I checked there was a type of debate like that on this site.

Personally, I have not been in a relationship for many years, before that I was in a four year marriage and I can easily say that I do not wish to be married again, ever. It wasn't that it was completely horrible, it’s just that I realized after being single, that relationships are overrated. Being single and spending time with friends who are in relationships has shown me that there is a lot of undue stress one can avoid if not in a relationship. That, and there’s no obligation to do something you don’t want to do in order to please your partner.

Another good reason why I feel it is better to be single, is that when the opportunity arrives to talk to a pretty girl or handsome guy, you are free to do it without any guilt.

Maybe in the future I will change my mind. If there is a girl that is everything I want in a girl, and nothing I don’t want, it is possible I could get married again. She would have to be perfect though, because I am not willing to settle for the sake of not being alone.

Side: To be alone
2 points

mmm in my opinion i'd rather be alone...i am a person who hates drama and when you are in a relationship you face allot of it..all the doubts and the opposite opinions and the fights and the break ups aaaah too much drama..skip the drama! being alone is better..its not only about the money...;D

Side: To be alone
chatturgha(1631) Disputed
2 points

Find someone who feels the same way about drama as you do then.

Also... money isn't supposed to be an issue that effects how you love someone.

Side: to be in a relationships
101kakashi(381) Disputed
2 points

meh..till now i found no one. to be honest im not really into relationships and the love stuff cz i never really tried any of'em and also yeah i agree with you about the money issue tht is true! :)

Side: To be alone
1 point

From my point of view, to be alone, is better than to be in a relationships. The main thing that is seems to be the strongest one, is to be dependent of your relationships. It mean that when you have a boyfriend of girlfiend, you have to pay a lot of attention for them. It causes the changes in your life. The changes in your studying in bad side, misunderstandings between friends and between parents, and a lot of worries about girlfriend or boyfriend. There are a lot of arguments, but i think that these are the main.

Side: To be alone
1 point

You are better off single, people! You are less likely to get hurt and you enjoy the freedom of flirting without some boyfriend breathing behind your neck as you speak to people of the opposite sex.

Side: To be alone
1 point

Being alone is better IF AND ONLY IF you have cocaine. Otherwise, you should be in a relationship. Cocaine is more pleasurable than any relationship.

Side: To be alone
3 points

It's always best to be in a relationship... After all, misery loves company, LOL

Supporting Evidence: Misery Loves Company (youtu.be)
Side: to be in a relationships
2 points

Yes, I agree with you. Because, if you love someone, we can fell and dream. These feelings help us to survive the most difficult moments of our lives.

Side: to be in a relationships
2 points

of course, it's up to everyone's personalty... some people prefer being along while others cannot live without such feeling as love... but to be in a relationships much more easier, because in times of uncertainty there is a person who you can rely on...

Side: to be in a relationships
2 points

Without a doubt, be with someone much better than being alone! If you have saw the film called Robinson Crusoe , you will understand why being alone is a big test

Side: to be in a relationships
ArizaZh(25) Disputed
2 points

Igor, you said about Robinson Crusoe. Don't you think that exactly because of this he became stronger and able to do something

Side: To be alone
2 points

It is better to be in a relationship because if I would not want to be a loner all my life it would be pretty lonely I would rather get married.

Side: to be in a relationships
2 points

Love makes the world go 'round, baby.

It is only until you solve solitude can you solve other problems.

If you don't believe me, try and have a platonically-intimate conversation with a single person.

Once you establish with them that they have no idea what to do with themselves, go ahead and kiss my ring.

My wedding ring.

Side: to be in a relationships
2 points

I support this idea because, being in relationships is one of the ways to reach the happy life. When you have the person who loves you, you will feel the support from him, you will be always in a good mood. he will motivate you to the better life. It is the best feelings just what we cannot explain=)

Side: to be in a relationships
ArizaZh(25) Disputed
2 points

Come on, guys! You are so positive in your arguments, but you forgot about divorces. The number of divorces are increasing day after day, moreover, after that many people get a big stress, which cause the deaths.

Side: To be alone
chatturgha(1631) Disputed
2 points

The number of divorces are increasing day after day, moreover, after that many people get a big stress, which cause the deaths.

Divorces are caused by people being stupid.

Divorces are almost never sad, also. Two people divorce because there's something they hate about one another that they can't stand. Separating from that person is a happy thing for the two parties emotions.

Lastly, divorces can be solved by one simple tool: childhood betrothal.

You cannot argue that divorce it evidence that being without love is better then having it.

Side: to be in a relationships
Dr_Batman(1019) Disputed
-4 points
2 points

I absolutely agree with you guys. You live just once and i think we should live life happily. Especially for women they have to feel happiness. When you are in relationship, you automatically changed, your behavior, character, whole life become more better. Your close person( boyfriend or girlfriend) always support you, give advices, try to make you happier. People look at the world through different eyes, everything is so colorful. Don`t be alone, there are no any benefits or something good in this way.

Side: to be in a relationships
2 points

i think its better to be in a relationship because its nicer and feels good! i know that you have less time to yourself but isnt it nice to be with someone you really like!?

Side: to be in a relationships
2 points

Longer Life

Married people live longer as well. Single men have mortality rates that are 250% higher than married men. Single women have mortality rates that are 50% higher than married women (Ross et all, 1990). Having a spouse can decrease your risk for dying from cancer as much as knocking ten years off your life. Single people spend longer in the hospital, and have a greater risk of dying after surgery (Goodwin et al, 1987).

Better Mental Health

Married men are half as likely to commit suicide as single men, and one third as likely as divorced men. Widowed men under 45 are nine times more likely to commit suicide as married men (Smith, Mercy, and Conn, 1988). Married people report lower levels of depression and distress, and 40% say they are very happy with their lives, compared to about 25% in single people. Married people were half as likely to say they were unhappy with their lives.

Better Sex

About 40% of married people have sex twice a week, compared to 20-25% of single and cohabitating men and women. Over 40% of married women said their sex life was emotionally and physically satisfying, compared to about 30% of single women. For men, it’s 50% of married men are physically and emotionally contents versus 38% of cohabitating men.

http://www.psychpage.com/family/library/ brwaitgalligher.html

Side: to be in a relationships
2 points

Relationships are much better because you get to learn more about others and also you get to understand what the feeling of love is.

Side: to be in a relationships
2 points

The reason why it is good to be in relationships, because it is enriching and rewarding in a long term basis.

However there are some people that don't really like to be in relationships because they think it drags them down.

In all honesty relationships are not for everyone. Yes, it is risky you get your heart broken and everything. But there is a reason why you should do your homework before you get in a relationship.

The benefits for a relationship are many things and the 3 most important things are

Honesty, trust and companionship.

Like being in a relationship is wayy more rewarding than being alone, because you have someone there for you. Someone who can help you, motivate you and most importantly love you for who you are.

It's so much rewarding if you are with your significant other for years, long - term is better.

The means of happiness improves when you are in love as well.

You share your bond with someone else and you learn a lot when you are in a relationship.

No matter what there are pros and cons to being in a relationship.

Everyone is different and everyone has a different preference.

Just be happy that's the key to life, choose your love wisely.

Side: to be in a relationships
2 points

I vote for variant "to be in relationships". I think love is one of the most important things in our life and personally I can't imagine my life without this. Also I don't think that people can be happy without family. So if you are alone, try to search partner for example via internet. For example on https://ladadate.com/ukrainian-brides site you can find hot ukrainian women for marriage. I think it is great option for start!

Side: to be in a relationships
1 point

I keep the point that, it's better to be in a relationships with somebody. why?

Firstly, because it's pleasant to have a girlfrind.

Secondly, every people sometime fell alone, having relationships can help with it.

To be honest, I don't want to go into details about this because it is private side of us. I just want to know how many people for and against) This theme will allways be actual especially for me)

Side: to be in a relationships
4 points

I totally agree with you. It is very pleasant to have boyfriend or girlfriend. Who except your friends can help or support you in difficult situation? of course, close person who love you. To love and to be loved is very good.

Side: to be in a relationships
Mika(18) Disputed
2 points

That may be true, but it seems to me that relationship shuold be beneficial for both sides either woman or man. I take the view that relationships should consist of the respect, love and support; also provide comfort of being near each other and oppotunity to relate with common friends. In the case of feeling problems or dissatisfaction it will be better to refuse the relations. I absolutly agry with the statments what was said by Omar Khayyam that "Better be hungry than eat whatever food,

And better be alone than with whoever."

Side: To be alone
Draco(53) Disputed
2 points

come on .i dont see any benefit in it but jus a waste of time.and believe many people alone do better than those in a relationship in most fields.

Side: To be alone
-4 points