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I really dislike like it. I mean most girls i see get pregnant were saying that they wanted a baby and they were ready for one. They were "emotionally ready", but they were not ready.
They forget that they are still in school and still have not decided what they really want to do with their life and they are not financially ready either.. They see babies and think "ohh so cute I want one". And they know they can have one so they just go for it. This may not always be the case but i see a definite pattern.
Other times they see some of their peers getting preggo and that convinces them to get one to.
I know sevreal people in my graduating class (or would've have graduated) who had a child at the ages of 14-17, but they commited suicide because they couldn't handle.
I wish some of these teens would realize that they are just not ready for it. if you are 18 that's alright you are practically an adult, but any younger than that please just have protected sex atleast.
What is the difference between 17 and 18? Is there some magical change going at your 18th birthday? I turned 18 three weeks ago, and I don't feel any different.
You get a lot more legal benefits at the age of 18 is why.
Abort the baby? No get a job and start saving so you atleast have some money to put the child in a daycare when he/she is born. If your not lucky enough to have caring parents that will help you raise your child that is.
I have nothing against abortion though. people die all the time nothing new
Well it's a benefit to be able to get your own house.
Certain jobs will only higher 18y/o+. that's another benefit
At least have your source of income before you have your child which is what a lot of teenagers lack when they get pregnant. animalistic desires will get you in a tight spot...
Even if I were 20 I wouldn't move out, so getting a house isn't a benefit to the baby, it's a benefit for me.
At least have your source of income before you have your child which is what a lot of teenagers lack when they get pregnant. animalistic desires will get you in a tight spot...
I get money from the state, lots of it. I have no need. I would get that money if I were over or under 18. I don't need any job, so the job thing is irrelevant for me. The state pays me to be home and take care of my kid for one year after it's birth.
I support choice if the girl is already pregnant, but teen girls should at least try to use contraception. If it fails, then you deal with the situation in a way that is best for you.
Why is pregnancy vs. abortion? I would rather have them not get pregnant.
This debate isn't pregnancy vs. abortion. It is abortion vs. keeping the baby. The debate is about when the girl is already pregnant.
Because children thrive more in a stable two-parent home. Generally, marriage permits this healthy environment.
50% of marriages end up in divorce. Plus, what if two parents live together unmarried .. they have been together for years but just don't want to marry. Don't they make a stable home?
I knew you would say something like that. I never said I was for divorce.
But you said a marriage can provide the child a stable home, which is a ridiculous statement.
I said generally, marriage is the best way to create a stable environment to raise a child in. I never said there weren't exceptions.
That generalization is wrong. Since half of all marriages end up in divorce, it is clear they don't make very good homes for children, or at least not better than anything else.
But you said a marriage can provide the child a stable home, which is a ridiculous statement.
How is it ridiculous? I've made it clear that stable marriages are the best environment in which to raise a child. I'd hardly call that ridiculous.
That generalization is wrong. Since half of all marriages end up in divorce, it is clear they don't make very good homes for children, or at least not better than anything else.
Okay I'll try making my argument again. I am against pregnancy outside of marriage. I am also against divorce. Children are best raised within a stable marriage. Are you inferring that parents are more likely to stay together when they're not married? That would be even more ridiculous than my statement.
I've made it clear that stable marriages are the best environment in which to raise a child
Claiming they are ''the best'' environment is ridiculous. A stable marriage is as good for a child as a stable relationship. Because that is what marriage is - a relationship between two people, only with marriage you have a paper to prove it.
Are you inferring that parents are more likely to stay together when they're not married?
I'm inferring that being married does not provide you any guarantee at all of a stable childhood.
Claiming they are ''the best'' environment is ridiculous. A stable marriage is as good for a child as a stable relationship. Because that is what marriage is - a relationship between two people, only with marriage you have a paper to prove it.
Not so. According to many studies (such as link), children generally do best when raised by their married parents. Again, I'm sure there are cases in which children do just as well when raised by parents who are not married.
I'm inferring that being married does not provide you any guarantee at all of a stable childhood.
I'm saying that being in a marriage gives a child the best chance of a stable childhood, there's never a guarantee.
Not so. According to many studies (such as link), children generally do best when raised by their married parents. Again, I'm sure there are cases in which children do just as well when raised by parents who are not married.
Imagine that the people in those studies (the children with stable married parents)
Imagine if those same parents were together, stable .. the only difference was that they were never legally married. Is anything different?
No - the only thing different are some missing papers.
I'm saying that being in a marriage gives a child the best chance of a stable childhood
And that is the ridiculous statement I was talking about before.
Well we're starting to drift a bit from the topic.
Remember how I started out by saying that for me, pregnancy is best kept in marriage? I don't expect you to agree. But I just feel like if I could not promise to spend my life with a partner, I shouldn't be raising children. Marriage is a commitment. I agree with you that divorce is starting to rip apart the purpose of marriage, and I'm not saying people should be forced to spend their lives together against their wills, but I really feel like people too often get married on a whim that simply can't last.
I don't think people are more likely to stay together if they are not married.
Sure. I don't doubt that. I can't speak for every society, but at least in America marriage is by far the most common way to illustrate this commitment.
I never support abortion though. I'm for keeping the baby.
I don't think you need to ilustrate your commitment. If you can't make a commitment without illustrating it .. then I don't think you really can commit.
I actually recently had a friend have a baby barely out of high school. By no means am.I saying its easy to have and care for a baby, but she seems to enjoy the choice she made.
My opinion is that most, not all, but most teen pregnancies are caused by teen stupidity and not birth control failure. So listen up kids, use some fucking protection, if you don't have any, hit up 3rd base.
Its very sad to me that throughout there 20s their lives will be completely devoted to a child. The world is such a big wonderful place and they just won't get to experience it.
Does the world suddenly disappear when a child comes in the picture?
A lot of things become a heck of a lot more difficult when you have a child. Something become so difficult that they're practically impossible.
And is being devoted to a child so bad?
Well I really love kids so part of me thinks it would be great. However I know I can have that when I'm a older (and I'm 25...). I still have other things I want to achieve.
A lot of things become a heck of a lot more difficult when you have a child. Something become so difficult that they're practically impossible.
From my perspective, your world doesn't disappear. You world changes, and not just for the worse, some things get better - many things get better.
I think feeling sad for the decision of a young woman to keep her baby is stupid, just because she isn't going to experience the exact same things regular people do. She is going to experience so much more than that.
Tell me what experience you are going to experience in your youth that is impossible for me to experience now or after the child is a little older or become an adult.
But to answer to question - For one thing you are not going to experience healthy children. People who wait till they're 35-40+ to have kids make significantly ''worse'' kids, if I can call it that, than younger people. When I say worse kids, I don't mean ugly or anything, don't get it like that. I mean their children's health is significantly worse. Your chance of getting a child with a chronic or genetic disease is significantly higher if the parents are ''old''.
The chance of my baby of having down syndrome is 1:110000. The chance of you having a baby with down syndrome when you're 35+ is 1:980.
Biologically, the best age to have a child is between the ages of 17-24. That is the ''best baby'' age. And that goes for both genders.
It is the society who has made it ''unnatural'' to have a baby at 18.
Tell me what experience you are going to experience in your youth that is impossible for me to experience now or after the child is a little older or become an adult.
Thing I've done? Travelled Europe with my friends, moved to another country living as a member of a foreign family, did a law degree and still had enough time to now pursue a career in medicine and residency afterwards (law+medicine+residency = 14 years).
I'm not denying that a child is more likely to be physically healthier with a younger mum. I'm talking about from the point of view of the mother's quality of life. Some people would suggest that mature mothers make better mothers, but I'm not so interesting in arguing that right now.
did a law degree and still had enough time to now pursue a career in medicine and residency afterwards
I'm about to finish what could be college, but it's another system here in Denmark, and after that I'm hopefully starting nursing school, or what you call it. Either way it is a school where you are being educated how to be a nurse - lol, sorry for my lack of vocabulary in english.
But anyway - I know plenty of people who got a kid at age 17-25, who have a higher education.
I'm talking about from the point of view of the mother's quality of life.
You can't say what life has the most quality or lowest quality. The quality of life depends on how happy you are with it - not how normal it is.
i am 16 pregnant and happy ive seen the world lived in it been a part of it but would much rather have family i was born into a life where my mother and multiple boy friends abused me n very many ways i did drugs fought the law at time was never arested though and have been through foster care not because of my moms age but because of the person she was a few years ago i met a boy who had lived life as i had and grown up too early he was my best friend 11 mnths ago we became engaged and four months ago i got pregnant and honestly us finnaly having a family is the best blessing we culd ever ask for our child gives us hope courage and importance and we are in every way willing to raise and protect it with everything thing we have yes i am a teen but i believe the outcome of teen pregnancy is not because of age but due to who a person or parent is